Crossdresser but straight

[ginawarp]

Hi all,

I am a crossdresser but I am pretty sure I am straight. I like girls and not guys that's for sure.

I just enjoy looking dressing up like girls. Is that weird?

Gina

[Jennifer_Cross]

Hell, NO!
That's what most of us do here

[pennitkr]

That's the reality for me Gina.
But the perception is VERY different.
I shop at a cute little resale place in my town and the owner is a lovely lady who doesn't judge, one day while trying on a dress and asking her opinion she made a remark the indicated she thought i was gay, and she seemed sorta shocked to find out the exact opposite was true.
You are NOT alone

XO

Penni

[paulinescotlandcd]

If you are weird then that covers me as well. Been dressing for a zillion years and have no interest in men, just love women, but rather oddly drawn to get dressed like one when I can...lol.

[sometimes_miss]

Most crossdressers are straight, about 80% or so. Exactly why we crossdress is subject to a whole lot of different reasons. Don't fret. You're in the majority of us. About 2.5% of all men crossdress on a regular basis, but nearly all of us are 'in the closet' because society doesn't accept males who identify as females in any way. Welcome to the forum. There are plenty like us here. Sadly, there are few if any single women here who accept crossdressers as potential mates.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Gina, to give you an idea of how not unusual that is, there has been organized groups and clubs for heterosexual crossdressers going back to the early 50s. You are certainly not the only one, and heterosexual transvestism is not a new phenomenon, you are one of many out there!

[Cheryl T]

Why should that be weird?? It's a description of most of us I'm sure.
Welcome to the Forum...

[Tara D. Rose]

Your title "CROSSDRESSER BUT STRAIGHT" is an implication that you are of the opinion that crossdressers are gay or bi. You have so much to learn. I know that in time you will see the difference, please don't use the old social stigmatism........................ that "crossdresser" = gay or bi.
It's almost like saying you like Elton John, or Ellen DeGenerus, or the rock group Queen, BUT I'm straight.

[Lacey New]

In Ginas defense, many of us have been and are very much in the closet but wishing to interact with other crossdressers.. Let's face it, we all have the same challenges and joys with shopping, how, when and where we dress, getting caught, etc. And it is wonderful to be part of a sharing community online. However, i explored a number of sites before finding this one - and I'm glad I did - and in some, as soon as you join you get propositioned. I'm not into that and that is certainly not why I am here. So, if announcing orientation right up front puts off some of those unwanted advances, then that's not entirely bad. In the grand scheme of things, whatever one's orientation is fine. Here I'm just looking to be girly.

[Karren H]

What's weird is that your pretty sure? lol I

[Rogina B]

What's weird is that your pretty sure? lol I

Pretty sure she wonders "what is on the dark side?"...Everyone is entitled to their own attractions!

[natalie_cheryl]

i'd say at least a good 60% of the folks on here that i have talk to on here are married counting me and i'm straight so no your not any wierder than the rest of us lol

[linda allen]

I believe most crossdressers are straight. I am. I have never had a sexual or romantic feeling towards another male.

There are some on this forum who identify themselves as "transgendered" and that's fine with me, but some folks insist that any male who crossdresses is transgendered or gay.

[kimdl93]

The majority of cross dressers are heterosexual.

[Jenn A116]

Straight (but not narrow) here too!

I think the perception of the general (non CD) population is that guy that likes to wear women's clothes is gay. Obviously there is a lot wrong with that perception, but still that's what seems to be the thought. In reality, the percentage of CD's that are straight are most likely exactly the same percentage of males that are straight. In other words, if 98% of the total male population is straight, then you can expect 98% of the crossdressing male population to be straight.

That leads to the obvious conclusion that crossdressing and sexual preferences are separate phenomena.

[Vicky_Scot]

Are Crossdressers Gay?

Contrary to what most people think, here are the facts written by a psychologist that studied this subject:

This is the worst of all myths about crossdressers. Most crossdressers

are in fact heterosexual people. In all surveys it has been found that only

about 5 percent of them were gay.

What percentage of the population is gay?

Estimates range from 2% to 10%

So the percentage of people who crossdress that are gay and the percentage of the population who are gay is pretty much the same. So being homosexual seems not to be a factor why people crossdress.

Think this may answer your question.

[GinaM]

I'm in the same boat. I'm anything but gay and have NEVER had a gay thought. I LOVE everything about women and enjoy trying to emulate them.

[NicoleScott]

Take crossdressing out of it for a second. Are you attracted to guys? If not, you're not gay.
Is crossdressing, that you enjoy dressing like a girl, weird? Yes, if you ask the general public. No, if you ask us.

There's a difference between sexual preference and gender identification/presentation. All of us, crossdresser or not, come in all combinations.

[Angela Campbell]

I am pretty straight but I want to be curvy.......

[Cynthia Anne]

My Dad use to tell a story about this man who walked everywhere he went because he was in to much of a hurry to accept a ride from some one passing him by! Now unless that was you then I wound not consider you weird!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Dusty815]

I am also hetero and just love to crossdress, shop for womens clothes and do it all with my wife of over 30 years, so you are not alone.

[Maria_1969]

I have a weird situation on my hands... I am Just like you, I am not into men, I love to wear female things and love to be in touch with my feminine side... The weird part is my SO is trying hard to get me to have sex with a man, its become a very hot thought for her and it does make us hot in fantasy.... Just don't know about that in reality. However, its a fact, most cross dressers are not gay... Maybe we just love women so much we want to be one too - sometimes. :-)

I think its time for me to ask that question here....

[Jenniferathome]

That fits for probably 99% of crossdressers

[Foxglove]

What??? I thought you were supposed to dress like a woman if you liked women. That's the way I heard it anyway. You mean there are some who like women but don't dress like them? Jeez, I guess I can get rid of all my stuff then.

Annabelle

[Lorileah]

Yeah I am pretty sure that maybe almost all, could be probably many or more with a few exceptions possibly are straight, sometimes, I think

[krissy]

No way are you wierd, i have been dressing since i was 8 i still love to dress i love women when i was younger i thought that i had to find out if i was gay but i didnt like men just women i know im not gay .just love to dress as a woman

[Foxglove]

Yeah I am pretty sure that maybe almost all, could be probably many or more with a few exceptions possibly are straight, sometimes, I think

Vote Lorileah for President! Anyone who can waffle like that is perfect for the job.

[whowhatwhen]

Sorry.
The second you put on a pair of heels you instantly become gay, only attracted to burly bears which you then daydream of snuggling with at night.

:P

[ChelseaErtel]

I guess I'd be gay if I transition from male to female; then I would be a lesbian. LOL

But, I'm a man and am attracted to women.

[Joslin]

I am the same as well I love to crossdress to and am attracted to women not men so u are not alone in this crossdressing world

[Beverley Sims]

Don't worry Gina,
I think I am straight too.
There are many shades of grey though. :)

[Lorileah]

Sorry.
The second you put on a pair of heels you instantly become gay, only attracted to burly bears which you then daydream of snuggling with at night.

:P
no one wears heels to bed....so as soon as the heels come off you would be a guy again and be repulsed...until you stepped out o bed and put the heels back on...then you would be gay again....sounds like a great exercise routine

[kellycan27]

Okay.... I am convinced that you're all straight..... are you? :heehee:

[Tracii G]

I'm straight and love women but my personality is more female than male.
I suppose my CDing is a way of letting my inner feelings out as an expression of who I am.
Hard for some to understand but thats how I roll.

[Foxglove]

Okay.... I am convinced that you're all straight..... are you? :heehee:

Like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. That's straight, isn't it?

[suchacutie]

I'm sure you see the idea from all these posts so....

Welcome to normal!!!

:)

[Marleena]

Sorry.
The second you put on a pair of heels you instantly become gay, only attracted to burly bears which you then daydream of snuggling with at night.

:P

Lol. Now that is funny!:D


Okay.... I am convinced that you're all straight..... are you? :heehee:

I don't want to protest too much, so I can't say! :D

[CD_blue]

Getting married here and completely straight. I just like pretty clothes and that has no effect upon what I sexually desire.

[Lorileah]

Okay.... I am convinced that you're all straight..... are you? :heehee:

Yes, sometimes, maybe, define straight.

[carhill2mn]

You fit right in with most of us here!

[whowhatwhen]

no one wears heels to bed....so as soon as the heels come off you would be a guy again and be repulsed...until you stepped out o bed and put the heels back on...then you would be gay again....sounds like a great exercise routine

Lead by Richard Simmons!
Wait...

So if one shoe falls of do you become bi?
Unless that only counts for flip-flops.

[reb.femme]

Your title "CROSSDRESSER BUT STRAIGHT" is an implication that you are of the opinion that crossdressers are gay or bi. You have so much to learn.

Yep, my thoughts exactly. At least, you now know that you are not alone in the straight and CD spectrum. :heehee:

Rebecca

[NicoleScott]

Like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. That's straight, isn't it?

Annabelle, are you saying you're not gay, but leaning?

[Foxglove]

Annabelle, are you saying you're not gay, but leaning?

Nicole, to be honest, I'm not sure what I'm saying. I don't know why I posted that. All I know is there's something not quite right somewhere.

Actually, I did climb the Leaning Tower of Pisa once. Really weird. It feels like it could fall over at any moment. I often have feelings like that.

Annabelle

[kellycan27]

Like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. That's straight, isn't it?

The leaning tower is straight, all you have to do is to tilt your head a bit to see it.:heehee:

[jackielou]

hello gina i under dress all the time for my pleasure and like jenifer said that is what most of us do if you are gay thats fine also but just because you like the softer side of life doesn't mean you are gay do women who wear flannel shirts and hiking boots mens jeans become gay when they crossdress NO--welcome to the group of great understanding likeminded folks

[Stephanie47]

I guess the perception by most people is cross dressers are gay. When you tell them you are not gay, but, entirely heterosexual. then they really think you're off your rocker. I think cross dressers would get a lot more respect if we were all gay. A gay wearing a dress seems OK to them, even though the vast majority of gays would not be caught dead in a dress. I think there's an expression from a famous robot that says: "Does Not Compute!" Anyway, once upon a time I thought I must be gay because I liked wearing women's clothing. I've learned the truth: I am not the slightest bit gay.

[LilSissyStevie]

I'm attracted to women, that makes me gynephilic. But straight? I hardly think so.:devil:

[JessicaJ805]

Not wierd at all...I am totally straight, love women! Like you I just enjoy how it feels to dress like one. You will soon find that most crossdresser are straight, in fact, the vast majority! And lots of them on this forum are married to women! Welcome!

[Elle1946]

I am also a crossdresser and am straight, sounds fine to me.

[pippinfort]

Ones straightness is tested when in girl mode but for me its feelings for other like minded people. Nothing has tempted me to cross the divide......yet.

[NicoleScott]

Actually, I did climb the Leaning Tower of Pisa once.

It was the Tower of Pisa when I climbed it. After what happened, I knew I'd have to go on a diet.

[isabella]

I am not sexually attracted to men when I am not dressed, but my personality does shift when I am dressed. I still don't desire men, but I enjoy the sexual edge to our interactions (at least I did the handful of times I was out en femme). I am not sure what to make of this, but then I haven't tried particularly hard to analyze or categorize my feelings.

[Michelle Charles]

Welcome the the soroity hun!

Michelle

[Samantha43]

I like girls. I also like the clothing they wear....

[whowhatwhen]

Straight schmaight!
Don't tell me you don't want a buff dude grasping you in his arms and

[patti1569]

What's weird is that your pretty sure?

The way you phrased this jumped out at me too. I was "pretty sure" for most of my life. Then not so sure. Now I know Im not straight, but not gay either. My sexuality is evolving like my dressing. What I'm certain of is that I am attracted to women and transgender gurls like me. Even that may change in time, but who knows. One thing is for sure, none of it is weird, it just is.

[shycheri]

I think I fall into the not gay group ,but as I have been told my not trying a encounter shall we say with a guy I guess I cannot truly rule that out.I had a counselor tell my once that I was afraid I might be at least bi and thats why I refused to even try a get together with a guy . I dont think so I am just not attracted to guys sexually at all.

[flatlander_48]

Hi all,

I am a crossdresser but I am pretty sure I am straight. I like girls and not guys that's for sure.

I just enjoy looking dressing up like girls. Is that weird?

Gina

No, in here you're family...

Anyway, "pretty sure I am straight". I'd say go with that as a working title. If in fact it does turn out not to be true, you'll be the first to know.

[LelaK]

Wow, this is a fun thread (like many). I had read probably at least 20 years ago that about 80% of cross-dressers are straight. In recent years I began to wonder if that's true, because all the porn guys in women's clothes and in other media seem to be gay. I worried long ago that I might be gay, but after thinking about it I realized I'm not attracted to penises. I did find more recently though that I find cross-dressers and trans attractive, though I wouldn't have sex with them. I think I'd enjoy hugging and maybe kissing. More recently I saw a video of two hermaphrodites and I found them to be sexually attractive. I don't know if they're really hermaphrodites, but they definitely looked like it in realistic details. So I find that someone having a penis isn't a total turnoff, as long as the person is nonetheless an attractive woman. Attractive masculine women are also attractive to me, but not if they're real muscular. I don't like big muscles on men either.

So, addressing the person who said, "The weird part is my SO is trying hard to get me to have sex with a man, its become a very hot thought for her and it does make us hot in fantasy...." I could probably go for hugging and kissing an attractive, feminine man etc, but not actually having sex, if you can call that sex.

Addressing the person who said, "I guess I'd be gay if I transition from male to female; then I would be a lesbian", I feel the same way. I'd like to make such a transition, but I don't think it will be worth the bother at my age. By the way, I don't think I'd want to have sex with another person who did the same kind of transition. But then, I'll probably die a virgin anyway.

[JohnH]

What??? I thought you were supposed to dress like a woman if you liked women. That's the way I heard it anyway. You mean there are some who like women but don't dress like them? Jeez, I guess I can get rid of all my stuff then.

Annabelle

I will take it a step further. I like women so much that I want my body to be like a woman's (except for having SRS!) so much that I am on M2F HRT to shape my body to be like a woman's,

Added section: I am in no way interested at all with being intimate with men. The idea personally nauseates me.

John

[sissystephanie]

Hi all,

I am a crossdresser but I am pretty sure I am straight. I like girls and not guys that's for sure.

I just enjoy looking dressing up like girls. Is that weird? Gina

I am not just pretty sure that I am straight, I know that I am! I dress enfemme because I like the fit, feel, and look of feminine clothes. I told my late wife of almost 50 years of marriage that if she ever saw me look at a man in a sexy way to just shoot me dead. Because I obviously was already insane!! So, Gina, you are not wierd at all. You just have good taste in clothes!!

[Jilmac]

Not wierd at all, I'm straight but love to dress and look pretty. I've never had any desire to be with a guy sexually whether I'm en femme or in drab.

[MaryAnn40c]

Nope but after sometime I found out that I am Bi....

[Meghan]

Gender and sexuality are separate things.

It's easy to get them mixed up, especially when you start wondering why....

Meghan

[Barbara Ella]

Just going to reiterate. No weirdness here amongst the crew here. i am straight, but find it of no benefit or significance to compare a gay guy who wears women's clothing to a straight guy who wears women's clothing. I find that the psychological reasons to wear women's clothing are most likely similar for each person. I LIKE TO WEAR WOMEN'S CLOTHING. Some of us will go deeper with serious transgender concerns, and some have transsexual considerations. Nothing weird, just an internal necessity that must be filled.

Where we suffer is in the all to general definitions that the public is willing to accept. "gay behavior" Of course everyone knows what that means, right? BS! Unfortunately anything out of the mainstream gets labeled gay behavior just because it is different. Next, by default the gay behavior label must equate to being gay, and therefore you must be attracted to men. The narrowness of the general intellect of our society.

The responses here give you a good idea of who we are, and I have seen no weirdness here, but i must admit I have not been out drinking with anyone on a Saturday night, so my no weirdness must be qualified somewhat....lol

Barbara

[Tracii G]

Well put Barbara pretty much how society views a CD.

[cathie pantyhose]

i admit I'm bi but such is life. ive only been with two men in life and one women dressed fem. I love both experiences equally as they have been very touching moments. when with a man, I loved it but what made it great with the men was I knew them as a person first...a friend with whom I shared what I did with crossdressing. So when we shared the moment, it felt even more amazing. passion is passion. no doubts, no regrets

[Pythos]

Can pull of a very fem look, but yep, I like women. More attracted to them when dressed than when in drab. :P

[AllisontheGoddess]

well then I must be weird as well lol

[crusadergirl]

I'm straight as well i might be crazy but that's normal in this world woo wooo woo

[Ceri Anne]

I am pretty straight but I want to be curvy.......

Oh, sometimes I really wish this was facebook and I could like a post! Anyway, I too am married and straight. I have no attraction to men as sexual partners, but completely love everything about women. Another interesting thing, when I'm not in pretty mode, I'm very masculine in my attitude and apperance. The crossdressing give me the oppertunity to express the rest of my personality.

[joannemarie barker]

Okay.... I am convinced that you're all straight..... are you? :heehee:

Lmao Kelly stop playing with minds :D x

[Janet Bern]

Same here.. I find guys repulsive but like to dress as a woman and blend in shopping

[Ressie]

I'm the same. I'm a crossdresser, I'm almost sure I'm not straight and I'm weird. Yes, there's been a bit of confusion throughout my life.

[Jennifer W]

I'm straight. I just happen to have a fem side that I enjoy.

[drushin703]

i'm probably going to be a crossdresser until the day I die but when I pictured, as a child, the fantasy of being a grown man transvestite, that fantasy never included
homosexuality. Now, being all grown up and having to grapple with this hand-to-hand struggle with my sexual identity, I still just can't picture any gay episodes for me.

That being said, I do understand that being dressed as a woman (especially one with 38d breast forms) can most certainly give off mixed messages. But character
analysis is someone elses problem, not mine. I am a straight crossdresser who understands that in this world there exists gay crossdressers. Nothing more......dana

[hotpink4me]

Definitely NOT weird. I did have the same dilemma when I first started dressing like a girl probably 7 years ago. I thought it meant that I was gay or just automatically attracted to the opposite sex, which simply was not the case.

I researched it quite a bit, and found that it was quite normal for cross dressers to be straight. Nothing weird about it at all.

[Jamie Ann]

Hi all,

I am a crossdresser but I am pretty sure I am straight. I like girls and not guys that's for sure.

I just enjoy looking dressing up like girls. Is that weird?

Gina

Pardon me if the following seems a bit dry, but some of the theory and evidence related to the issue of “gender identity and sexual orientation” is fairly easily summarized. A conception of sexual orientation was elucidated by Lee Ellis and M. Ashley Ames in 1987. According to them, “… the neurological dimension of [gender/sexuality] may be thought of as occurring in two stages: the sexual orientation stage and the sex-typical behavior stage. … [M]ost of the neurological organization surrounding the first stage appears to occur during the 3rd and 4th months of [pregnancy], whereas that for the second stage primarily occurs during the 5th and 6th months” (Lee Ellis and M. Ashley Ames. 1987. “Neurohormonal Functioning and Sexual Orientation: A Theory of Homosexuality-Heterosexuality.” Psychological Bulletin. Page 239).

The gist of that statement is that the basis for what will later be manifested as sexual orientation develops in the early-middle part of pregnancy; the basis for what will later be manifested as gender identity develops in the late-middle part. Thus, those two neurologically-rooted aspects of adult personality are not one and the same; their neurological foundations develop at different stages of a pregnancy and are located in different parts of the human brain.

Now if it seems reasonable that sexual orientation and gender identity both have some connection to neuron clusters in the human brain, but that those are separate neuron clusters located in different parts of the brain, then there could be a correlation between sexual orientation and gender identity. They could be correlated, much as eye color and hair color are moderately correlated; but they could be completely uncorrelated, much as shoe size and a tendency toward baldness are uncorrelated. Just because two qualities both have some degree of genetic/neurological/hormonal basis does not tell us whether they are related or independent.

While either possibility is logically possible, the best guess based on the imperfect evidence available is that about 20% of crossdressers have significant same-sex romantic or sexual inclinations; the other 80% are essentially heterosexual. At the same time, about 20% of NON-crossdressers have significant same-sex romantic or sexual inclinations; the other 80% being essentially heterosexual. In short, many crossdressers are gay or bisexual; but crossdressers are not disproportionately gay or bisexual, compared with non-crossdressers. Thus, you cannot accurately predict sexual orientation from gender identity or expression. The two characteristics are a lot like shoe size and a tendency toward baldness — both have some biological roots, but the two are not significantly correlated.

So … your fondness for dressing in feminine attire is quite consistent with being heterosexual. If you are, then you would be among the 80%. That would not make you weird! :)

[Rachel05]

Nope that is not weird, that is definitely me

[Tina B.]

Gina a guy that likes to wear dresses, asking if his sexual choices makes him weird, is funny, most people find wearing a dress much weirder than being either straight of gay.
Yes your weird, we all are if you ask the general public, but here none of us are weird, welcome to the asylum.

[KarenSusan]

I love women so much I want to dress and act like one.

[Vanessa Amber420]

I am strait. I just enjoy the feel of womens clothing on my body and I enjoy dressing in it as well.

[Jamie Ann]

In all surveys it has been found that only about 5 percent of [crossdressers] were gay. What percentage of the population is gay? Estimates range from 2% to 10%. So the percentage of people who crossdress that are gay and the percentage of the population who are gay [are] pretty much the same. So being homosexual seems not to be a factor why people crossdress.



I think that the essence of your conclusion is absolutely correct, but the percentages you state may be skewed a bit. If the survey researcher asks the question, “Do you think of yourself as heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual?” practically all US adults will say that they are heterosexual, a response highly encouraged by Western cultural beliefs about what is acceptable. Only two-to-three percent will admit to being anything other than heterosexual. But if you ask about specific homosexual behaviors, something approaching ten times that percentage will admit that they have occasionally dabbled in such actions. How you ask the question greatly affects the responses you will get. But getting back to your essential conclusion, “… being homosexual seems not to be a factor why people crossdress.” It’s just that the percentages may be 20 and 20 rather than 5 and 5 or 2 and 2, depending on how much latitude for fudging the specific question allows.

[GeminaRenee]

Oh, good... this thread is still alive. Maybe we could just sticky a thread entitled "Tell Us You're Straight Here." I think it would be a rather lively one.

(:

[frax24]

Yea straight here, but i look at it from a bruce wayne/ batman perspective ... Sans the crimefighting. But its a role i like to put on. Gives me a different perspective from the other sex

[ginawarp]

Wow! Thanks girls! You girls are wonderful!
Sorry if I have offended anyone.

Today I went out as a girl!! OMG! Finally after 5 years I went out of the closet! I went walking around my neighbourhood in San Francisco.

At first I was afraid that people will stare at me with strange look. After a while, I realised that they are not staring at me or anything!
Phew!

Then I feel more ambitious and went to a supermarket to do my shopping!
it is insanely fun!

Any crossdresser here in San Francisco?
Maybe we can meet up!

[AmyGaleRT]

Gina honey, you're in San Francisco. There are far weirder things there on a regular basis; one reasonably-passing T-girl wouldn't even register on the meter. :)

I'm perfectly straight, too, and not into guys at all. But I feel like my soul is part-female; even when I'm being my male self, Amy is part of me, and I'm part of her. And right at this moment, I'm just enjoying very much letting Amy be Amy here at home, without fear.

Funny thing the other night...my fiancee was getting into bed, and I was over next to the bed to give her a good-night kiss. She was wearing her old shorts, made from cutting off a pair of sweatpants, and a tank top. I was standing there in my purple dress and ballet slippers. We both thought, "Hmm...role reversal much?" :D

Don't worry and just enjoy yourself!

- Amy

[Chardonnay Merlot]

straight here and I love expressing the full range of me :)

[Aloha Jayne]

.
It's almost like saying you like Elton John, or Ellen DeGenerus, or the rock group Queen, BUT I'm straight.

I sooooooo want to be Elton John and his money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[prene]

Hi all,

I am a crossdresser but I am pretty sure I am straight. I like girls and not guys that's for sure.

I just enjoy looking dressing up like girls. Is that weird?

Gina

I am pretty sure I am the same. LOL

"pretty sure"

[swati.crossy]

me too straight but i ll love to have grl in my bed when i dressed nd v could explore some lesbian fun.

[jking90]

I'm straight too. It confused me when I was younger because male bodies were completely ugly to me, and I thought that CDing meant you had to be at least bisexual.

If I ever see pix of CDers, I don't want to see naked body parts, but the curves or accessories.

[Michelle V]

Welcome to the club, you will find you are not the only one, we are out there but due to the stigma we keep to ourselves, you are in Netherlands right place to find guidance and support.

[Melissa73]

i am a crossdresser and i can finally say i have stepped out of that dark closet of life and it feels good!!!! As for being gay, idk.. never been w/ a man but i can say i have fantasized and i have crushed.. JUst revealed to my crush of 14 yrs, (i worked w/ him 14 yrs ago, and then we both moved away and due to facebook i found him.) Course i sent a message telling how i felt and he never responded..... a bit of a let down but also a relief as i can now have closure and get on w/ life :)
Hugs Michelle

[Richelle423]

I have come to terms with myself... I am a lesbian trapped inside a man's body. I apreciate the softness and femininity of a woman.

[Jana]

Gender and sexual attraction are different things, Gina, and not necessarily interconnected. So, yes, you may be a genetic male, with a transgendered personality and still be attracted to genetic females.

[susangirl]

Gina

I'm the same as you!!!! Love getting dressed up and getting out. I don't what to be a woman but love dressing, acting and looking like one. I enjoy passing and also not passing. Either way it's a high and really turns me on. I love watching and talking to GG's while dressed. I really appreciate a well dressed good looking woman because I know a little bit about what they go though.

[NathalieX66]

Gender and sexual attraction are different things, Gina, and not necessarily interconnected. So, yes, you may be a genetic male, with a transgendered personality and still be attracted to genetic females.

I agree.
That's what kept me confused for so many years. Gender & sexuality is pretty complicated. We are all snowflakes....every single snowflake is different in it's design.

[Jenniferathome]

Most crossdressers are in fact heterosexual people. In all surveys it has been found that only about 5 percent of them were gay. What percentage of the population is gay? Estimates range from 2% to 10%

So the percentage of people who crossdress that are gay and the percentage of the population who are gay is pretty much the same. So being homosexual seems not to be a factor why people.

Vicky, need to correct your math. I agree with your percentages. about 10% of the popularion in general are gay. but if 5% of cross dressers are gay, it is 5% of some smaller percent. So even if 10% of the population is a crossdresser, that means that 5% of that 10% are gay crossdressers or just 1/2% of the population. This makes sense as gay men tend to like gay men, not men looking like women.

[JennyLynn]

I would have to say that i am more attracted to women than men but would consider a very sexy cd. It would have to be sweet and delicate cd

[Deedee Skyblue]

If I ever see pix of CDers, I don't want to see naked body parts, but the curves or accessories.

I joined another CD forum a few months ago. Wasn't a classy place like this one. Within a few hours, I'd received several pictures of male genitalia. I really don't need pictures to know what penises look like, and I'm really not interested. I love looking at the pictures here - there are so many beautiful gals - and I like dressing, and I wish I could look as good. But I am not sexually interested in men.

[sarah1016]

I am mainly interested in woman but i am also attracted to men especially when i feel particularly girly.

[Ressie]

Vicky, need to correct your math. I agree with your percentages. about 10% of the popularion in general are gay. but if 5% of cross dressers are gay, it is 5% of some smaller percent. So even if 10% of the population is a crossdresser, that means that 5% of that 10% are gay crossdressers or just 1/2% of the population. This makes sense as gay men tend to like gay men, not men looking like women.

5% of crossdressers are gay? What percentage are bi? How about female impersonators? Seems a lot of CDs are at least curious of trying out for the other team.

[Gaz]

Really good friend of mine almost got punched by me the other day. His older brother is openly gay, and when someone (neither of us knew) was asking if it was hard growing up with a gay brother, his response was "No, I didn't have any idea he was gay, it's not like he crossdressed or anything to give us a clue."

Anyways, like the OP and many here, I'm a fan of women's clothes, but have no interest in men, and love the ladies. I may even be in the minority on here, since I have no desire to progress beyond just wearing clothes - no wigs, makeup, shaving, or named persona for me. (I think if I ATTEMPTED it, I'd need all the body wax in the world, would have to shave my soul patch, buy a wig since I shave my head, and I'd STILL be "one HELL of an ugly broad!")

[Lvjim]

Not into men at all

But the general population automatically
think a fem male is gay.(stereotyping sucks)

[AmyGaleRT]

I like to think about it this way. If you're a man and you're gay, you're attracted to other men, no? And presumably, you're attracted to other men who are themselves attracted to other men, otherwise that's just an exercise in futility, right? Why, then, would you choose to present as a woman, knowing that your intended target won't be attracted to that image?

I'm not saying that there aren't CDs who present as women to attract men. I'm just saying that the general case of "CD = gay" doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me, despite the generic stereotype. "CD = bi" would make more sense. But the world is full of special cases. :)

- Amy