What my SO said about Halloween...

[Mikaela]

I was originally going to post this in the CD forum since that seems more of a 'default', but as I thought about it, it really is about my identity as a bigender person and the acceptance of that from my girlfriend.

My girlfriend and I (see my other threads for pics) will be in Walt Disney World next week for a vacation, for her to meet my family, and for my birthday.

On Halloween (and potentially at least one other day), I plan on going as my female self, but on Halloween itself she is adamant that I be in a costume. I was considering NO costume, not that I was treating my femme side as one, but simply because I'm lazy. In the end, I'll probably just be a cute witch or something.

Her words were something to the effect that my female side is part of the real me and she'd hate to relegate that as a costume or mask as justification to be myself out and about. She doesn't see it as a fake/costume and neither should I.

I wouldn't say she was mad, but she was very forthright.

It was very poignant and touching. I just wanted to share because I found that to be a different experience than some of the other Halloween threads.

[Kathi Lake]

Kae, that's very, very awesome. She is, of course, correct.

Enjoy your trip. Can't wait to hear about it!

Kathi

[Tammy V]

Well you could wear a female costume, thus being your female self and in cotume but they would not be one and the same. It is awesome to get that regonition, understanding and acceptance from her though :)

[kimdl93]

I totally agree with your GF. Halloween can be a fun time to,dress up, but if you are true to your identity then ok, orate girl, witch, sookie stack house, but not yourself.

[josee]

You may want to check to see if they will let you into the park in costume. They have a history of turning people away who are dressed as characters.

[Barbara Ella]

What a great revelation, and a great GF. She is right, and you should follow her lead if you truly feel that way also. Get a cute costume that is definitely not you.

Barbara

[Mikaela]

it is Mickeys not so scary Halloween event with special after hours admission.not only are costumes encouraged, even for adults, but there is trick or treating.
You may want to check to see if they will let you into the park in costume. They have a history of turning people away who are dressed as characters.

Oh, and for this, they even don't mind if you dress as a character as long as you dont pose for pics or do autographs or impersonate a cast member.

[Chickhe]

She is correct! You need a costume. It is fun to dress as a female and dress in costume also. The real key to halloween is to not show your 'real' self. The reason I wouldn't is because people will treat you as if you are wearing a costume and your ego can take a beating. ...they will say some things that may not actually be true or they might think you are not in costume and think you are a party pooper. If you dress up on par with your partner then you will experience what two female friends do...when they go out.

[TerryTerri]

Pregnant nun! Great fun costume!

[Jorja]

Pregnant nun! Great fun costume!

Wouldn't the Nun be a Some then? :)