Are you dressed on facebook?

[jessbcuzz]

I recently started a facebook account for Mileena. It scares the crap out of me thining I maybe outed by "people you may know". All of Mileena's personal information is made up. Basicly anything I answered was how I felt it "should have been". I haven't posted any pictures of myself because I am far from passable, so my page feels incomplete. However I picked a radom picture off the internet to use as my profile picture. How does one make the page "active" with something I can't do all the time? I want it to be about Mileena and not my male side. Since Mileena doesn't get to be out and about, what do I post? I have her friended on my male account. Does anyone have two facebook accounts like this? Being that I am new to the Toledo area, I would love to meet others and have wondered if there is any legetimate groups. Most of the ones I have viewed are porn and crap that I am not interested. Sitting here looking at Mileen's profile, feel gulity because it is not me. I so want to post a natural picture of me, but it is not worth the termoil that will pursue if anyone noticed a resemblance between me and Mileena. I miss the days when facebook wasn't such a part of peoples daily life. When I first started dressing, chat rooms through Yahoo was the big thing.

http://www.facebook.com/mileena.brooks

[Beverley Sims]

This is the only social network I subscribe to.

[Lady Catherine]

I have a Facebook page and will go nowhere near it with my male page. I figure I'll post what I do as Catherine on her page, and what I do as Glen on his.

http://www.facebook.com/#!/catherine.lagere

[LelaK]

I had a Facebook account where I used part of my real name, but an image of a young GF of mine who died a few years ago. Some people I know friended me, and were able to see my GF's photo under my name. But I never communicated with them on Facebook. One or more others who didn't know me thought the photo was me and tried to flirt. I never communicated with them either. I did do a little communicating with others. But one guy I know online posted a stupid dirty poem or something on my page recently and there didn't seem to be any way to delete it. I hate having junk like that associated with me. So, since I couldn't delete the damn thing I deleted the damn account, which was also hard to figure out. I had to do a net search on how to leave Facebook. I never found the damn thing (Facebook) worthwhile; but mostly just a headache, so I'm happy to be rid of it.

Despite all the progress on the internet, I don't think there are yet very good ways to meet people online in a fulfilling way. Like you say, Yahoogroups and Googlegroups used to be pretty good, but they had problems that led to most people abandoning them. I still have several Yahoogroups, but I'm usually the only one who posts anything. So I use them for weekly postings of info I like myself and that I think others may like too.

I tried Second Life for a while about 3 years ago. That was kind of fun, but it took a lot of memory on the computer and slowed it down a lot. And I never really met anyone interesting on there. I had a female avatar and started discussions with a few people and I pretended to be an actual woman. She looked much better than I do. It was somewhat fun to meet people there from all over the world. But you can't have very meaningful relationships that way.

I never talked to other CDs until I joined this forum a few days ago. I've been trying to think of ways to meet CDs locally, but haven't found a good way so far. I may decide to contact LGBT groups, or various college groups, though I'm over 60. Since I'm single I'd also like to meet people for dating, but that may be even harder to pull off. I thought of contacting people on plentyoffish.com and inviting local members to a place where we could all meet each other and get acquainted. I haven't made any actual plans along those lines, but I've been developing ideas. I'm near St. Louis and St. Charles, MO.

[Sharon B.]

I have one in Sharon's name with made up stuff and one in my male name with actual stuff.

[Jason+]

My Facebook page is all about the known (male-ish) me. The closest to a reference on it for those in the family or close circle who don't know is that when then the cartoon avatar craze went through a while ago I picked a Tex Avery cartoon involving Red Hot Riding Hood as my avatar and haven't bothered to change it since. I had a Myspace account that was devoted to the dressed side of me but all it ever managed to attract was spam so it doesn't get much login time these days.

[Aloha Jayne]

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My actual photo on facebook

[JenniferUK]

Have never and will never use Facebook. Far too many problems caused by that site.

Hugs

J

[jaye_cd]

Because of some of the events I go to around town, there are pictures of me on FB. Nobody at these functions knows me by my given name, so fortunately nobody's tagged any of these photo's back to my account.... yet. Almost everyone I know and care about, knows both me's (some have yet to witness it yet, but they know), so I don't really worry about it any more. If there are issues in the future, I will just deal with them as best as possible.

[JamieQ]

Im about ready to start a facebook page for my real self...I already have one for my day to day male self. As for being recognized...I think very unlikely for me, but then again I would not really care if I were.

[Debi]

I set up a facebook page for Debi, but didn't get to filling in any details... One thing that I feel a bit uneasy about is that Facebook keeps sending me emails about 'people who I may know' and these are people on my male page. Obviously, Facebook is looking at my i.p. address or something and knows that the same computer has these two accounts. The thing that worries me (and quite possibly should worry others who don't want to be outed) is ... If I put pics up there and so on ... Will Facebook send messages to my 'guy friends' asking them if they know Debi?

Would love to come out as a T-girl, but it's not an option for me at the moment.

Debi x

[Michelle 51]

I have 2 accounts also.One for my male side and one for Michelle.I had the same problem as Debi and fb posted my daughters pic on Michelles page asking if I knew this person.I removed my profile pic after that and you need to be a friend to access my pics.If your not out don't post your female pic in your profile because fb sends it around.A lot of girls have 2 accounts with no problem but you need to use caution

[Matia]

I just started account for Matia - feel free to add me if you like - http://facebook.com/matia.nim
I have 1000+ people on my regular account including my parents/family and not everyone needs to know, it's also liberating to join groups or become fan of things that would need tiring explanation for people on my normal acc

[linda allen]

Have never and will never use Facebook. Far too many problems caused by that site.


Facebook problems are only what you let them be. I've connected with friends and co-workers from the distant past and we've shared stories and photos. My family shares current information on facebook. It's been great. Reconsider your stance.

As for being "dressed on facebook", well I'm dressed but in male clothes. There is no mention of crossdressing on my facebook page. I live two lives and keep them seperate.

[Jane G]

I don't have a face book account. I don't realy get it if I'm honest.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Im on facebook, & im well known on all the sites ,forums im on nothing any different than here, the pic is of myself my name is who i am, & iv nothing to hide, & what i write here is much the same .

& most of those i know are on the same forums im on , & thats over 5 years.

...noeleena...

[Angela Campbell]

I don't like facebook and will not have anything to do with it. I tried it once and it is like giving up my privacy. No one needs to know what I am doing and the more I see what others do and say on there the less respect I have for the human race.

On the other hand, once upon a time long long ago there was AOL. They had it down much better. You had better privacy, better access to groups and chat and it worked pretty well until dial up became a thing of the past. Once people started using dsl or cable for internet access AOL kind of went the way of the buggy whip. Once it was really nice. Facebook operates like a program...or groups of programs...designed and maintained by teenagers. It works poorly and will cause problems on your computer if used a lot. There is vitually no privacy and the people who moderate it are secretive, biased and have poor judgement. It pretty much disgusts me.

[reb.femme]

Im about ready to start a facebook page for my real self...I already have one for my day to day male self. As for being recognized...I think very unlikely for me, but then again I would not really care if I were.

I too feel, if I get outed, I get outed.

The only warning for those that do care is the problem with face recognition software. Not wishing to be a scaremonger but you may be accidentally outed at some point in the future, without trying. If you are happy with that great, but for many this could be bad news. Just a thought :)

Rebecca

[bridget thronton]

The way to use FB and worlds like SL is to let you fem persona grow and evolve. I have several interesting friends around the globe. We share our joys and sorrows as we would in RL (so of my friends know I am male because we started doing RL projects together but most do not and i enjoy having them as gal pals)

[CamillaCD]

Yes, I am dressed on Facebook. I have only one profile, my male side. The profile picture is of Stein, but most of the other pictures are of Camilla. Only friends can see them though. I post only when something special has happened, which in my case is when Camilla has done something.

I guess I am a bit privileged as everyone knows.

[docrobbysherry]

Sherry has her own Facebook account. She gets new friends practically every day.

Altho some r guys interested in her pics, MOST r CD/TGs. I get interesting PMs from dressers and GGs from all over the planet!

I think if u aren't on Facebook, you're missing a GREAT CHANCE to network with others!

[Marissa V]

made a page yes, use it no..not yet. Still unsure to put a photo of myself on there. We'll see...

[~Joanne~]

Too much criss crossing tracking happening on FB for me to set up another account for myself. I am really not fond of the site over all because it's a bit*h and moan session that thrives on drama and all sorts of other useless things. Some people love it though so to each their own :)

[PretzelGirl]

I have two Facebook pages and get no crossover. The main trick is to use two different web browsers so the data from one isn't seen by the other because of the way the browsers save the history and make it available. What to do on Facebook? Have fun! Post what you want to that is relevant to Mileena. Do you give up privacy? I have only given up what I want to give up. Posting or what you put in your profile is a choice.

[MsRenee]

I realy dont use mine that much. There is one pic there of me dressed but they have to become a friend first before they can see it. Too many employers look at there employees there and I try to keep most of my life off the site.
Renee

[jsunic_1978]

I just came out on facebook on my regular jeff account. I have only one picture of jen. JEN NEEDS HER OWN PAGE :) no problems, only positive responses, but most didnt respond. If your privacy setting is FRIENDS ONLY no one can see your account unless you accept them as a friend first. If privacy settings are set PUBLIC than its a bigger risk. Im unemployed now seeking work, as I wonder if I should even be out at all. Im not going for any high profile jobs as im pretty simple minded anyhow.

[Karren H]

I only have one account of Facebook..... ..... Karren the crossdresser...... and basically have no male presence on the internet.... and after posting thousands of photos.... no one has recognized me ..... like I care if they did......

[vikki2020]

yeah, me too! Only on the internet as vikki--guess I know who's boss,lol!

https://www.facebook.com/vikki2020

[KellyJameson]

If you look very different from drab to femme it is unlikely someone will recognize you.

Put a wig on someone who has good makeup skills add some accessories and you completely change their persona

I live femme 24/7 so only show my eyes on my profile if you want to keep it real but not to real.

There are also many interesting people such as artists, musicians, those in science that you can follow along with those you friend.

[Ann Thomas]

So many good comments! I have a facebook page for myself as Ann, and since I live almost 24/7, I also hide my face a bit, by cupping my head in my hands. I also have facebook pages for my old high school, and for my wife and I, and also for my daughter's cat.

I do not friend between any of my accounts. That's a sure way to out yourself, even without a picture.

http://www.facebook.com/ann.carpenter.167

[jsunic_1978]

Im 34 and never had a relationship as i never grew up, LOL latley iv been trying to meet singles that has grown up some Online dating, I have tride. This is off topic a bit. most of us that have had steady relationships, never had to change schools like UNDERWARE. That was my biggest problem. It's a little different in my case. no one judges me as people just may figure, THAT EXPLAINS IT. The point being, did i come out just because I wanted some self relief, of do I really care and want to connect with people and just be my real self? when I first came out, that explained A LOT OF THINGS Im not as TENSE of a person now.

[Sarah Doepner]

I have two Facebook pages and get no crossover. The main trick is to use two different web browsers so the data from one isn't seen by the other because of the way the browsers save the history and make it available. What to do on Facebook? Have fun! Post what you want to that is relevant to Mileena. Do you give up privacy? I have only given up what I want to give up. Posting or what you put in your profile is a choice.

This is exactly the advice I'd give. My Dave Facebook page is accessed through Internet Explorer and Sarah does all her work through Safari. I've not had any problems and spend way too much time sitting in front of the computer now.

[lexyanne]

I have two accounts, one male, one femme.

I have never seen any crossover but I have my femme one pretty private.

I think by having a real pic, or face pic, you come across more true, but who's to say right, anyone can be anybody even on facebook

www.facebook.com/lexyanne.stevens

[Beth Wilde]

I've got 2 Facebook accounts, and they are friends with each other. I am not out to the world but lots of people know about Beth now. You can specifically block people or limit where your info goes in the privacy settings, it takes time to do but it's so nice to have your own FB page.

[Andrea J]

I have her friended on my male account.

I'm not sure that this is a good thing. If you have no links between the two you's, it should be very difficult for to people to make the link. Do you need to have her friended on your male account?

[Phoebe]

Yes I posted my own image although the name I used is a fictitious last name. But if someone who doesn't know about "my other life" and finds me, so be it. Think almost everyone kind of knows anyway.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Yes, I have one for my everyday "me", and one for my Faery Queen, since she is a professional role these days and fans want to know how to stay in touch, get photos , find out when/where I will be appearing ;) Its fun :)

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

I'm out both personally and professionally so my Facebook page, which I use primarily as a way of putting myself out there for comedy, does feature pictures of me dressed, especially when I do it at shows and have photos of me onstage.

[jsunic_1978]

I just posted another picture of me as a girl on FB, no comments yet. JEN IS GETTING HEP OWN PAGE TODAY :) I really want to meet other T girls so bad :)

Jenn just created her own facebook and would like a friend :)

jen just made a facebook acount a while ago, sent a bunch of emails and friend request, no bites yet.