CDs & SOs: What makes you feel feminine? What arouses you?

[LelaK]

Which feminine "paraphernalia" make you feel most feminine?
- panties, bra, nylons, slip, miniskirt, skirt, blouse, heels, makeup, wig, shaving, scarf, fragrance, purse, necklace, nail polish, other?
Which such "paraphernalia" on an attractive female tend to arouse you?
Does anything feminine sometimes arouse you just by wearing them yourself, like dresses, bras, wigs, etc? (I sometimes seem to arouse myself a little, as if I'm me and her both. Weird.)
Does your significant other like to wear anything feminine, like pretty dresses?
What does she say feels most feminine or sexy to her sense of touch?
Does she say her boobs, curves, hair, clothes, makeup, or anything else make her feel most feminine or sexy to herself?
Do you have any fetishes (not counting CD), like a foot fetish, a fetish for baby clothes, etc? (I kind of have one for little girls' clothes, about 12 year olds', which feels a bit weird.)

Do you remember what it was that first made you feel feminine? For me the first thing I remember was at age 2 or 3, when Mother put a scarf on my head. I loved it. She put scarves on both me and my brother for a while. I saw a few pictures of him and me both wearing them.

When I was 4 I remember her telling me that boys don't become women, which was a disappointment to me. I think memories were starting to come back to me 2 days ago of something from my early years that caused me to suppress my femininity starting about that time. I suspect that Mother must have warned me that big boys don't wear scarves or girly things. I cried the other day when I realized I'd suppressed myself for so long by hiding part of myself, my femininity, from loved ones. I think I need friends who I can be feminine around in person.

I think it wasn't till I was 9 or so when I was in my first 4H play that I got to wear something feminine again, a very pleasant satin-like brides-maid's dress. We had such plays once a year, so I got to wear a dress once each year for about 3 years. That was heavenly.

I've worn panties for a long time, but they don't feel feminine enough to me. I think they would if they were more satiny, so I want to get some like that and maybe a nice slip or neglige. I have this short, fluffy black skirt that feels good when I put my hands on it, but otherwise I don't notice it much, except when I see it. So I'm wanting to get a few items that feel feminine just by wearing them.

Scanty clothes on attractive females tend to arouse me. A lot of the avatars you guys use look rather sexy to me too. Even just a pair of heels or lips (strange). The forum gives me a cozy feeling, but I want to satisfy my sense of touch too now, with sexy-feeling clothes etc. Thank you all for sharing. It's comforting and refreshing being here.

[MsRenee]

Long ago when I first started I use to get aroused just buy sliding on something soft an silky. Now its just a mental state to were I feel happy and bubbly.Its nothing sexual anymore. Just enjoy how I look and feel when Im completety dressed.
Renee

[biggirlsarah]

Personally I don't get aroused when dressed, nor does any particular item of feminine attire arouse me , when I do dress then I feel more comfortable , more able to be me so to speak , but as to feeling more feminine then if I have a really nice outfit , have had my hair done and my nails and the whole ensemble looks nice and well presented then I do feel more feminine , as opposed to just kicking about in a pair of old jeans and a tee shirt .

[ChelseaErtel]

It's funny, in the last four or five years I expected to be aroused but I found I wasn't. Just a limp noodle but being dressed made me feel happy and content for a while. Occasionally Mr. Nasty starts to stir, but I don't want him to and I do wish it would stop. I tuck him away so he doesn't bother me or get in the way too much. I love to be able to cross my legs properly without my naught bits getting in the way.

So, I feel feminine with my makeup and wig on and even more so when I'm fully dressed and my curves are apparent (even though they are enhanced). I don't own anything I could consider "Sexy", I'm too old for that. I'm in the age appropriate stage I guess. Nothing sexual.

[Lady Catherine]

I don't get aroused. It's not sexual to me. It's who I am.

[franlee]

Lela, you have asked so many question and openned up a mutitude of trains of thought that I could write until my finger fall off and still have ideas and info that would just keep popping up as an after thought. In effect you are talking about the inter reasons for our sexuality as it relates to who we are in the CD relm. I can answer each and everyone of your individual questions and qualify each, but when I sum them all up it still wouldn't account for the other aspects of my life that effect the out come just as much. I can't and don't want to take my male sexuality out of the equasion, one reason is because I tend to CD in the styles that I admire on my wife or other attractive women and that is from a sexually inspired fantasy. So they wouldn't make me feel feminine but arroused. Now arrousal is much more than sexual, it is also envey, admiration, desire, empathy and the list goes on and on. Even when it is from a distaste for their attire or demeanor it can still stire arousal, kind of the devil made me do it syndrom or an S&M deal. I'll leave it to your own muzing from there.
I suppose the most conclusive answer to your first questions though would be I do have a certain outfit that make me feel more feminine, but not much and it is the white dress I have on in my profile pic. and that is arousing for me that it makes me feel that way. My wife does dress in very fiminine and flattering dresses and other outfits that I adore and envy and she has no problem in letting me know how she is feeling about herself and sexy is deffenatly one term for it! And yes I have a fetish, trying to emulate my wife or diffent women that I find striking and their attire. And the feeling feminine thing isn't that big to me and never was, it was the fun feeling and escape that has endeared me to crossdressing. Ofcouse there have been any perp's too!
And in regard to your last paragraph, I like sexy clothed women but I actully prefer classy and preem styles to the scant. Can't account for taste can we! But that's more sexy, realistic and feminine to me. And more CDer's can look convencing or closer to female in my preference of style. And I think that is what most of us try for.
This is an interesting thread an I can see where it can bring on alot of replys and individual ideas.

[Angela Campbell]

In truth it is the whole package that makes me feel feminine....as for what arouses me? It is not the clothes it is warm soft kisses that last 10 minutes.

[GinaD]

I start to feel feminine from the minute I start my ritual of dressing. From the time I shave my legs to moisturizing to applying my make up, I feel progressively girly. Once I have my outfit on, the excitement of stepping out of the door completes the process of Gina becoming Gina. Gina likes to be noticed and I tend to wear revealing things that get attention.

As for arousal, I sometimes feel that when I catch someone's eye and he (or she) gives me that smile that says "you interest me". When I am out with my friends and have met someone new who compliments how feminine I look, I feel a sense of fulfillment. That happened just tonight. I dressed for a softball game in a simple pair of cut off shorts, a t-thirt, and sneakers. The makeup worked just right and my new wig was fabulous. I just felt sexy and alive and I was introduced to someone new by a friend. I was in a state of arousal all night. I just got home and feel like i had a great girl's night out. The endorphins are still kickin'.

[Beverley Sims]

I have been wearing clothes for too long now for any arousal.
For me it is just dressing to look right.

[Karren H]

Arouse? Maybe I should have been a nun?

[NicoleScott]

It seems that after some period of time, crossdressers lose all of their feelings of sexual arousal, or so it seems from the responses.
I guess I didn't get the memo.

[bobbimo]

For me It happens when the dress is right and the the makeup comes together.
But there are special times, like when i put on the dress in my profile.
I waited weeks for the right weather so that I could take extra time, find the perfect pantyhose and when I slid the dress on, and it fit perfectly, I was in heaven. Then my hair and makeup behaved too.
There is nothing better or more exciting... well maybe being able to go out and enjoy the real world.
Bobbi

[heather1968]

In my younger years it was a very sexual thing for me to Cross dress. I was aroused by it. Not so any more. I feel a sense of comfort and peace when dressed. I feel most feminine when wearing heels and makeup. I use to think that I always had to wear as skirt and hose. Don't get me wrong I still like that feeling partly because it is a departure from what I have to wear in every day life. I can now feel just as feminine in a pair of skinny jeans and boots.

[Megan Briana]

I can't say that any item or items arouse me. But, when i am en femme, even a little, I have noticed that I feel happier, less stressed, more vocal, and more attentive to details. Its when I am not wearing anything more than panties, that I start to feel naked and a little paranoid. I have started to wear my bra more often when out of the house (unstuffed and no forms). So for me it starts with my bra, and then whatever I can manage to put together.

[michele60]

Its all of it and none of it, I love to dress but I love the idea, the thought of being a woman, last night I dreamt I had a virgina, love it. I actually pictured myself looking at it and smiling. What a thought!

[NicoleScott]

Its all of it and none of it, I love to dress but I love the idea, the thought of being a woman, last night I dreamt I had a virgina, love it. I actually pictured myself looking at it and smiling. What a thought!

hence the bumper sticker slogan "Virgina is for lovers"

[Terri6082]

When I was younger, it was about arousal and more of a fetish. Now it's a way to relax and feel like the real me more than the masturbatory aid it once was. If I become aroused when I dress now, it's because I fantasize about actually being a woman and all that would entail.

I absolutely agree about feeling calmer, less stressed and more relaxed when en femme. That's what I mean by feeling like the real me.

[wanagione]

I feel most feminine when i'm taking care of myself and my family. cooking, cleaning, food shopping. I also feel feminine when I shave my body, use lotion. I don;t get aroused when i dress.