has this happened to you

[dominique]

Hi there. I've had plenty of chances to dress recently, but can't seem to follow through. At the moment I'm part of a group who are campaigning to keep our local high school open which my youngest goes to. I'm busy doing that I know I could dress while looking up stuff doing emails etc but I feel if I'm dressed I'm doing something other than the task in hand. Everything ends soon so I hope to return.

Has anything like that happened to you and how did you cope with it.


Thanks.

[linda allen]

I think any of us who is not presenting as female full time has times when we cannot dress or have more important things to do. Actually, I sometimes find that dressing gets in the way of doing things I know I should be doing so in that sense, I admire your ability to stick to the task at hand.

It's your choice, dress or not. There's no "coping".

[Karren H]

Oh yeah...... For some reason productivity goes to zero as femininity goes to 100%.....

[EllenJo]

I refer to times like this as "Life gets in the way". I am a husband, father, grandfather and provider first before I am a CD. There are just times when there are more important things going on and I always know that I will have time to indulge again. It would be great if I could dress all of the time and still get everthing done but that is just not how it works for me. It is funny though that when I am under extreme stress, the need to CD is sometimes the strongest. I think the calm that comes with dressing is what I desire at those times. Confusing, I know.

[Cynthia Anne]

I can relate to thst in my younger days!

[MsRenee]

If it involves doing things outside like running to the store or paying a bills. I will prefer to do it after ive dressed . I just fell more envolke. If Im saying it right were Id prefer to do it enfemme.
Renee

[Stephanie47]

I think I'm the opposite. Being an in-home cross dresser my en femme time is self restricted to the home which includes the backyard. I find I am more productive en femme than not. Today after dropping my wife off at work I dressed. I put on a new eBay purchase; a brown and cream Merona dress. Of course, all the undergarments and hosiery and heels, too. I find it motivates me to do domestic chores, if I'm a la June Cleaver. Today I cleaned out the washer and am doing laundry. While the washer is going I'll be baking a banana coffee cake.

Probably the greatest distraction from my routine is perusing this site. Even then I am multi tasking with at least three sites open, one of which is for my wife's job.

Of course, if I have to do a 'manly' chore I forgo the feminine attire. My mind is still back in the 1950's and 1960's when only men crawled through the attic checking on electrical wires.

[Chickhe]

If I'm preoccupied with something the CDing goes on the backburner. Seems like I don't enjoy it as much if I need to get something else done. It would probably be different if I was fully out because I think its a lot of work just to get ready.

[Tracii G]

I tend to plan each day as to what I need to do.If I get up and feel the urge to go full femme I do it and go do what I need to do.
One day last month I had to get my car tags renewed, pay a few bills and go to the grocery.So that is what I did.
It was a first for me in a way I had never gone to the DMV enfemme. I had to stand in a long line but guess what nothing happened!!!!!
Oh wait something did happen, chatted with a nice man and his wife in line thats about it.

[Janelle_C]

Its hard but unless you are out life sometime gets in the way. I'm not out but I'm working on it. Summer was very busy for me so not as much dressing as I would of liked.

[msniki48]

Dominique, as Ellen said sometimes Life gets in the way of you actually living. when i questioned my therapist that i wasn't dressing, and i was concerned, she said..[" When you need her she will be there ]

so don't fret

hugs

[franlee]

For the type of work you referred to I would do it better dressed, first I'd be focused on the work and not my desire to be dressed, and second I would be imulatting my secratary and tring a little harder to be more profesiant. Besides by dressing for the job I be would giving myself a reward for my doing it.

[docrobbysherry]

About the phrase, "Life gets in the way?" NOT if u want to dress badly enuff!

Don't believe me? Come look at the huge mess in my: office, cars, garage, house, yard, storage bldg, files, etc., etc., etc!

[Krista1985]

Oh I can relate,

Sometimes a major project will take precedence and consume so much time, I'll have to chose between dressing and sleeping (usually opting to sleep dressed) but spend all my waking hours in male mode taking care of business. Being dressed up can be distracting and there are times when I need to be focused to accomplish a goal under deadline. When I have to work remotely, I realize I could do so dressed as I please, but have never so much as attempted to CD during these times. I think it's because I want to enjoy my femme side and use it to unwind, not come to associate it with the most dreaded of four letter words: work. I find myself agreeing with Karen H (as I usually do) on her point that as my femininity (in terms of appearance) increases, my productivity decreases.

At the same time, if too much free time goes by, I'll notice that thoughts of dressing are driving me to distraction. It hasn't been a problem lately as I manage to find a little free time almost daily to indulge, even if it's only partial dressing. The whole sha-bang takes too much time and only gets done when I have copious amounts of me-time. So when pressing matters are commanding my full attention, Krista goes onto the back-burner until I have some spare time to devote to her. It's like 'she' is my reward for handling my responsibilities.

[Sharon B.]

I haven't be able to merge my feminine self with my male self, I do enjoy my feminine side and wish I could do it more often. Just don't know if the two can merge at this time or not.

[Leah Lynn]

Now that I'm alone, I do the housework, dishes, laundry, etc. en femme. It just feels right; not that it's "Woman's Work", but I feel more relaxed and carefree. I do some running en femme, but it's a small town and I know a lot of people here.

[Brianna612]

I haven't worked in 25 years. I've always done what I wanted. Handyman work, Buy/fix up/sell houses, remodeling, cabinet and furniture making. Have enjoyed 95% of it and worked en-fem whenever possible. Tool belts and Skirts go well together and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[kimdl93]

I dress and work every day at home. It's just my morning routine to shower, get made up and get dressed. I just happen to wear women's clothes, because that's who I am.

[heatherdress]

Dominique - I admire your efforts to keep your local high school open. Good for you. Don't worry about crossdressing time. Do what you have to do and do it the best you can. Good luck.

[Ame Anderson]

It's your choice, dress or not. There's no "coping".life is about choice, life is short but it takes a long time.

[dominique]

thanks for your replies it just shows the width of opinion and support there is out there.

[Beverley Sims]

I had similar feelings years ago and felt that it was in appropriate to dress on occasions whilst working at home
Probably some deep seated moral upbringing there.

[Traceyjo]

Oten when I have a day to dress, I'll decide to spend time doing necessary tasks usually involving sitting at the computer but I find I am very unproductive. I have to get up frequently, walk around enjoying that lovely sensation of femininity, admiring my image in the mirror, taking photos and even when I get back to the computer I'll be distracted from the work by going onto this site or others relating to CDing. Just have to make the most of every minute I am a girl and why not.

[MsJanessa]

Hi there. I've had plenty of chances to dress recently, but can't seem to follow through. At the moment I'm part of a group who are campaigning to keep our local high school open which my youngest goes to. I'm busy doing that I know I could dress while looking up stuff doing emails etc but I feel if I'm dressed I'm doing something other than the task in hand. Everything ends soon so I hope to return.

Has anything like that happened to you and how did you cope with it.

Thanks.

The advantage a CD has over a transexual, either pre or post op is that the CD gets to go back and forth from femme to butch without to much trouble---we have a foot in each world and can go back from one to the other a lot easier than our TS sisters can---so just keep your focus on keeping the school open--when that chore is done, there will be plenty of time for dressing, makeup wigs etc