We had one at work, BAD!

[Billijo49504]

A year ago, we had a transitioning tv at work for a while. They finally transfered him/her out for his own good. He had 1/4 inch wiskers sticking out from his foundation. He used to flash his boobs to the women. And demanded to use the womens restroom. His makeup was as funny as some clowns. I suggested to him to get some lessons from some of the ladies at the cosmetics counters. not interested, Bright orange blush, not good. I wouldn't dare come out to my coworkers. They would put me in his class. In our little work community, he put us back into the stone age. But there are only 2500 people at our plant.

[BrendaChristine]

I met one of those at a friends job one day. Awful. I felt so bad for her. I admired her for going to where she wants to be but it was embarrasing. I almost wanted to out myself just so I could say come with me. Let me give you some pointers.

[Wenda]

I bought some equipment at a national brand store recently and was served by a clerk taller than 6 feet 2 inches. longish hair, mediocre makeup, clothes: unisexual. Not sure if He-She was a guy en femme or a girl with a really unfortunate figure problem. very confusing.

[JoannaDees]

Sounds like this was a person more interested in making a wave then being a woman. More interested in the sex aspect than the feel aspect ... if you know what I mean. You better know what I mean or else ......... (shaking fist in air)!

[Fallen Angel]

I can relate to these stories !! Ive came across a few that i thought looked at them selves from the neck down and forgot the make up end of things.as much info these days on line for make up tips youd think some would use them. xxxx

[DawnRodgers]

Hey, everybody has to follow the beat of their own drimmer. Better they try to be who they think they are than to bury it somewhere deep inside of them. I do agree though, that somebody who is transitioning should be more aware of the image they represent. I am not transitioning and, frankly, think that I can be passable. If they can't do better than they should consider themselves just in too deep. I can't emphasize with those who want to be women and, despite their sincere efforts, just look like a man in women's clothing. If I was to transotion I would want to go all of the way. Surgery, voice training, full wardrobe, hair removal. Being a woman can be a full time job itself.
Dawn

[Deborah_UK]

He had 1/4 inch wiskers sticking out from his foundation.

Unfortunately one of the things on the RLT and transitioning is that you have to live the role before SRS and if you're having electrolysis during the RLT you have to let the hair grow slightly to allow the electrolysis to work



He used to flash his boobs to the women.

not clever :(



And demanded to use the womens restroom.

where else was she supposed to go to the restroom - the gent's?

Although the TS in question could possibly have presented a better image imagine being in her shoes and the life she was going through. Did you come out to her when you suggested things or did she see you as another guy in the workplace?

I think it is so easy to judge people, but walk a mile in their shoes first.

[susandrea]

Transitioning people as a group are no more perfect than anyone else, of course.

There is a rather large percentage of GG's out there that go around with big flabs of naked fat hanging out of tops that are three sizes too small, and occasionally I come across one who has serious whisker issues.

But you do have a point about the over-all picture that is created in the minds of people who are totally unfamiliar with the process. This person you describe may have had very little support all their lives and was in a stage of depression and desperation.

You can't let that make you afraid about yourself. You are a different person, and anyone worth confiding in would see that.

[BrendaChristine]

There is a rather large percentage of GG's out there that go around with big flabs of naked fat hanging out of tops that are three sizes too small, and occasionally I come across one who has serious whisker issues.


LOL on that! However, I was up waay too late last night and saw a program on National geographic about transgenders. One was a 47 year old MTF going to Thailand for surgery. I'm not being a smartass here, I admire her for doing what she needs to make her life complete, but she still looks like a guy in a dress. Her size, her features, just say man. Once she got home here wardrobe choices didn't help. she wore skirts that were way to short and heels that were way too high. The show ended with her walking on the beach in a Bikini. Sometimes I think we all need to think about the woman we want to be and the woman we can realistcally become.

I thought about deleting this,after reading it I kinda felt it made me sound insensitive, but I believe you should never censor your thoughts, only edit them if necessary. I hope no one is offended by this. I have nothing but love and admiration for all of you who have made the step toward becoming what you truly are. I don't know if I would have the courage to if it came to that.

[Billijo49504]

No, actually I didn't completely come out to this person. But I did tell him I understood what he was going thru. Then he told me his story. His wife decided she wanted to be with a lady, so he was changing, to get her back. Please read between the lines. I told him that I respected him for being brave enough to do what he was doing. And I offered to help him get lessons for his makeup. I also pointed out, that flashing his boobs was very tacky, and made it tough for anyone that would do what he was doing, after he was gone. He basicly told me to leave him alone or he would report me to management for harrasment.
What brought this posting about, is I saw him/her at the mall. It wasn't pretty. Anytime anything is said about crossdressers, at work, he is the first thing anybody thinks of. I don't dare come out now.
Oh, and management had a seperate restroom for him to use, and it was close to his work area.
I probably shouldn't have vented here, but I wanted to someday come out to my coworkers, and he screwed it up. Oh well, I'll retire in a couple years.

[christine55]

There were times that I have considered the possibility of transition. I can be somewhat passable after lots of work but when I considered going all the way there were some facts that would not just go away. No matter how much money and or effort went into changing sexes the best possible result would have been an older woman who many people would realize had once been a man. A cute, flirty, happy woman only in my dreams. AFter all the work and money all that would be left would be a less than desirable woman. Probably miserable and wishing for a chance at having the life I had thrown away back. Somehow I feel that God has a better plan than that for me.
Hugs, Christine