PDA

View Full Version : Starting Transition before Transitioning



Carrie Ines
11-08-2012, 05:52 PM
Hi

A few years ago i decided that i would buckle down with work and aimed to start my transition before my 30th birthday, i had a plan and it was working much to my amazement it was looking as if this was going to pay off and i could retire from active work (apart from running the odd website from home) and would have enough money to do this properly... Then the recession hit, my company started hemoraging money, investment was pulled and i lost everything. This was not going to happen the way i planned, i was devastated, Square bloody 1!!, my GF also left (best thing really tho as was on the cards anyway but poor timing girl)

But enough about that.

Another plan is in the pipeline now and looks as if it will pay off again but what i've noticed is that i may have been true to my promise after all, and wondered if this happened to any of you out there? Whether this is the natural order of things on this matter or not?...

...I've noticed that i have actually started my transition without realising.

My mannerisms are openly coming out in my day to day life without me feeling to control or hide them, friends, relatives, colleagues, anyone really accepts and doesn't really notice anything wrong, where as before if something slipped out then i'd get funny looks or a "you're being a bit weird"

My jeans are tighter, i'm slimmer, better kept, my hair is longer, i even hold myself and walk in a way i dont feel like im putting a show on anymore and the mirror is getting closer to the eyes gazing into it, and i'm talking when im in boy mode, and for all this i'm much happier.

I've always gravitated toward women socially, but over the past couple of years ive noticed a shift, i am so much more accepted, to the point where girls defend me with things like "so what, he's a girl really if you think about it" (I buzzed for days on hearing that one, and from somebody that doesn't know!) and similar things happen or are said on a regular basis, its kinda like because im more natural its acceptable, weird hey

So my question, to you who are further along the path than I am at this present time, is this. Does this happen to all of us who have to follow this path? Do we actually start transition before we actually know it ourselves?

Carrie x

Jorja
11-08-2012, 07:40 PM
Funny how all of that happens when we aren't looking, huh? I can't speak for all but many of us do start to transition before we transition not really realizing it. Just continue to be you and progress as far as you want or need to. Nothing will be said because it is just You after all.

mbmeen12
11-09-2012, 04:12 AM
I've noticed that i have actually started my transition without realizing
. Great thread! I realized February 2011 when I joined this site and started peeling the layers of my mind and body. I figure apx 7 years before I think logistically can become Kara. I will need to retire first to become "all in" to become a woman. Jorja I follow your posts and admire you opinions / posts.

ChelseaErtel
11-09-2012, 04:53 AM
What a timely post.

For me it is the same thing. I am beginning to have to watch my mannerisms in man mode, not woman mode. I know exactly what you are saying. The funny thing is I don't care if someone notices. I'll be full time at work next year (sooner I hope, but I have to be gentle with my wife). For my wife's family I will be very careful, we are having 24 of them here for Thanksgiving and 25 against one is not a good ratio.

So, I have lost 15 pounds (I wasn't really much over weight), I'm better kept, but alas I'm bald so wig makers will be making some money from me (boo hoo).

I was told I was being such a girl recently too, everyone laughed and inside I just beamed.

Wonderful isn't it. I have not been this happy - ever. I'm on top of a mountain spinning my skirts in the breeze singing the "Sound of Music". Oh what a joy. Too bad so many downers come along and will come along, but I don't let them get me down.

Jorja
11-09-2012, 12:47 PM
Jorja I follow your posts and admire you opinions / posts.[/COLOR]
Just don't follow to closely. My brakes don't always work, my rear drags the ground, and that damn GPS lies to me quite often. :)

Marleena
11-09-2012, 01:35 PM
I think we give off vibes unintentionally long before we come to grasp with this. I know I was and didn't allow friendships for fear of discovery by others. I was always watching my mannerisms but my personality was tougher to hide. Lots of people knew I was different but couldn't put their finger on it. Once you accept things the ball starts rolling.

BreenaDion
11-09-2012, 03:44 PM
Good for you Carrie, just relax and your brain will bring you forward. Like after I did after a couple of gender switching, did it on purpose for it was just a coping skill. When you consciously let it flow your true gender will come forward. We all are both Male and Female in the Brain. Your head has the ability to go whatever and as far as it needs for you to be comfortable in either role. When I switched to male 3 months ago to help depress the flash backs I for the first time ever felt the disconnection from gender to body. Weird sensation and I feel for the sisters in this regard.

I started transitioning 9 months before hormone therapy as my witch therapist accused me of using self medicated drugs. Yes when you are ready the unconscious mind will transition without the use of hormones in very subtle ways. This is a very slow process as not to overwhelm you. Mine is still transitioning me even after 3 1/2 yrs. I feel and notice the little things women do without a conscious thought. Mine is more traumatic because of my dissociation into different gender identities. That is the disorder I was describing in my hair thread. If you have to you can man up a little but be assured you will continue transitioning when you relax an go forward.

Breena

Carrie Ines
11-10-2012, 05:26 AM
Funny how all of that happens when we aren't looking, huh? I can't speak for all but many of us do start to transition before we transition not really realizing it. Just continue to be you and progress as far as you want or need to. Nothing will be said because it is just You after all.

Sound advice x

I assume it should be a natural process and not forced, yes we help it along with hormones etc. but the natural element and just going with the flow and seeing what happens ive found is a much more fulfilling way to live

Thankyou all for your thoughts on this xx