try again:(

[nicole1987]

So my names nick im 25 i have been trying to change for the last 4year:'( but after the second year i was really starting to make progress but then i got a gf who was tg and for the first 6 moths ish thing were great then things started to change with her and then i was pritty much foced to stop what i was doing. now im back to ground zero but with now insecuritys im sure a bit of depression im sure there something else but i cant think of it at the moment. but im hurting and i dont know what to do its to the point now were clothes shopping is impossible cause once or if i find sum i just get really down and just leave i dont know what to do im so lost right now
Thanks nick

[Rianna Humble]

I don't understand why you had to stop because your girlfriend was TG?

It has to hurt a lot being back at the beginning again, but there is an advantage even in hitting rock bottom - the only way left is up.

At the risk of sounding trite, if you are getting depressed about clothes shopping, maybe leave it out for a while and find yourself a good therapist who can help you work out where you are and which way is up. Then when you have started in that direction, get on with some retail therapy because by then it won't be depressing.

[nicole1987]

Yea she forced me to stop because she was worried about loosing me. i was comfy with myself and being able to go into public dressed. now i have i hard time just even buying guy clothes. i dont know what to do anymore everyday is like waking up unhappy going to bed unhappy nothing feels rightvanymore. i puroposely work all to get my mind off life but once work is done my heart feels broken. :'(

[Nicole Erin]

I assume your TS G/F is about your age? I would avoid that cause plenty of younger TS women have problems way beyond gender struggles.
If you are then living as a man right now, your best bet would be to find a Genetic woman about your age for your girlfriend.
A lot of younger TS women pose the same problems as GG's when it comes to their "man" wanting to be a woman. At first they don't mind (even if they knew from day one) but then later trip out about it.

Reason it would be better to date a GG rather than TS is cause younger TS tend to come with a lot of weird drama and other problems that you just don't find with GG's.

[nicole1987]

I dont think theres gonna be much for any relationships in the future

I dont think theres gonna be a relationship in the future

[Traci Elizabeth]

Many trans have stopped and re-started, and more than once. If you have not done so, I would highly recommend you find a therapist to help you through the bumps and set-backs. And even more importantly, to help you discover for yourself who you really are.