I Am Paula
11-24-2012, 11:49 AM
My long strange gender journey began very early at 5 or 6. I struggled with all the usual gender issues throughout adolescence. This post is about the finished product.
Sixteen years ago I finally accepted that I'm 100% female, that wasn't going to change, so I had to make some changes. At 38, true transition was pretty much out of the running. I had discussed HRT a few times with Doctors, to not much avail, and by this time, pretty pointless. I luckily had a profession that I could pursue as a woman. I began a non surgical/non chemical (implants are still a work in progress, last issue with my wife) transition to Celeste. I had switched back and forth from male to female pretty much all my life, so dressing, and make-up was not really an issue. The bigger issue was just stepping out and living as a female, not living as a male who looks and acts female. I found a huge difference betwween getting up in the morning and 'getting dressed up as a girl' and 'just getting dressed' if you follow. Being very married, interaction with my wife evolved to being a two woman household (not sexually, just dynamically). Almost everybody in my life knew about Celeste, so my new identity didn't come as much of a suprise to most.
One of the first things I noticed was my wardrobe became more real world woman. My pants outnumber dresses, heels are for nights out, skirts are longer, lots of blouses and sweaters. Sneakers, yoga pants, all that stuff that makes CD's go Yuck!
Next, tone down the make-up. Brown lipstick and beige eye shadow.
Grew out the hair- Only Cher and Dolly wear wigs 24/7.
Alot of the changes are counter-intuitive to CDing, but nessasary to blending.
Bottom line- I found fulfillment and acceptance as a woman without full transition. I never felt that I needed someone else's diagnosis to know I was transgendered. Maybe if I had known where I was headed at 18, I would have followed the HRT/surgical route, but I didn't, and can still live happily as a woman just the same. The biggest hurdle was to stop 'acting', and start 'being'.
Anybody else followed a similar path. Is there more you need to accomplish? Do you feel you 'missed the boat' by not having HRT/surgery? Do you feel like you are the woman you were born to be?- Celeste
P.S. Twice in the last year I've had to go completely drab. I can still do it in a pinch, but it's wierd. I can 'fake' drab long enough to see my father in law, or cross a border, by wearing a man's shirt and putting in a pony tail, but even then I get Ma'amed.-Celeste
Sixteen years ago I finally accepted that I'm 100% female, that wasn't going to change, so I had to make some changes. At 38, true transition was pretty much out of the running. I had discussed HRT a few times with Doctors, to not much avail, and by this time, pretty pointless. I luckily had a profession that I could pursue as a woman. I began a non surgical/non chemical (implants are still a work in progress, last issue with my wife) transition to Celeste. I had switched back and forth from male to female pretty much all my life, so dressing, and make-up was not really an issue. The bigger issue was just stepping out and living as a female, not living as a male who looks and acts female. I found a huge difference betwween getting up in the morning and 'getting dressed up as a girl' and 'just getting dressed' if you follow. Being very married, interaction with my wife evolved to being a two woman household (not sexually, just dynamically). Almost everybody in my life knew about Celeste, so my new identity didn't come as much of a suprise to most.
One of the first things I noticed was my wardrobe became more real world woman. My pants outnumber dresses, heels are for nights out, skirts are longer, lots of blouses and sweaters. Sneakers, yoga pants, all that stuff that makes CD's go Yuck!
Next, tone down the make-up. Brown lipstick and beige eye shadow.
Grew out the hair- Only Cher and Dolly wear wigs 24/7.
Alot of the changes are counter-intuitive to CDing, but nessasary to blending.
Bottom line- I found fulfillment and acceptance as a woman without full transition. I never felt that I needed someone else's diagnosis to know I was transgendered. Maybe if I had known where I was headed at 18, I would have followed the HRT/surgical route, but I didn't, and can still live happily as a woman just the same. The biggest hurdle was to stop 'acting', and start 'being'.
Anybody else followed a similar path. Is there more you need to accomplish? Do you feel you 'missed the boat' by not having HRT/surgery? Do you feel like you are the woman you were born to be?- Celeste
P.S. Twice in the last year I've had to go completely drab. I can still do it in a pinch, but it's wierd. I can 'fake' drab long enough to see my father in law, or cross a border, by wearing a man's shirt and putting in a pony tail, but even then I get Ma'amed.-Celeste