sexually stimulating

[Shari]

I just finished reading a thread started by Wife and how her husband became aroused when he donned the fineries. Big suprise there.

When I first started dressing I was too young to know about sex, but as time wore on and I continued and entered puberty, dressing became the means to an end.
Now later in life, the stimulation is still very much there but my sessions no longer always end with an O.

My question is, is there anybody on this forum who was NEVER turned on and/or came to climax as a result of the clothing?

I can't imagine anyone saying otherwise, however, there's always that 10%
Please enlighten me.

[Ressie]

Not me. Arousal has always occurred. That's why dressing is so addicting.

[JUSTME]

Same here, big time...

[Raychel]

When I was just a teen, ALOT of years ago, Sure it was stimulating. But that has mostly past now. and I just like the feeling of womens clothes. Helps me relax and forget the worries of the world.
And really I am not huting anyone. Actually I am probably helping the economy, I do have to buy clothes for 2 people afterall. :heehee:

[BRANDYJ]

Maybe part of what makes dressing so addictive that we continue to dress in hopes we can rekindle that euphoria we experienced when we were just becoming sexual. It's still there with me, but not like when I was around 11 or 12. But than again, seeing nude breasts in National Geographic, or looking at lingerie ads in Sears or Montgomery Wards catelogs don't do the same thing today either.

[ChelseaErtel]

i thought that my dressing was supposed to end in the big "O". But it didn't. There was a little stirring when i had an new outfit, but then donned and nothing. So, in my thirties and after I never tried to get the big "O". I realized it was not part of my dressing.

I figured out this year that I was transsexual and bingo - know I know why! So, even women get a little turned on when that look good - that's normal. I thought that not only was I was weird man but a weird CD, which is true but I'm a normal woman (in mind only right now).

I have had my naughty bits out for years now, they are just tucked away wishing they were gone.

So, I suppose this doesn't count, but it's another alternative.

[MsJanessa]

The answer is yes---sexual stimulation was and continues to be a part of why I dress----that said, I have reached a stage where I can dress and do not feel the need to reach an orgasm---but does being dressed enhance the experience for me---very much so, whether Im alone or with a lover

[Wildaboutheels]

225 views/6 replies. Not very surprising. Being born a male dictates we will "literally" be slaves to our vision. 10's of thousands of years of EVOLUTION tends to do that to a fellow. Any guy who claims they have any control at all over his "equipment" is in all likelihood a few sandwiches shy of a picnic.

Sure, many here started dressing at an early age, long before they ever had any concerns about birds or bees. But, I am guessing MOST young boys at least tried on something female at a young age simply out of curiousity?

I would be very surprised to see anyone come in and claim NEVER. JMO, but I think the sexual association aspect is THE reason so many feel the shame and guilt that is so prevalent here.

SO WHAT if a "good feeling" is part of/associated with dressing? Nothing wrong with wearing something that makes one feel "better or happier" in any way is there?

I am sure people who really enjoy their job or people they work with "feel good" when they put on any required uniform?

[LadyPilot]

Sorry Shari I am not in the 10%. I will not say that the only time there is climax is when I'm dressed because that is far from the truth. There is always arrousal when my wife and I go out dressed and she can't keep her hands off me, yep, one thing will lead to another because of her arrousal.

[Tara D. Rose]

I can't say that we dress or become our female side to become sexually aroused. For some that may be the case. I will speak only for myself as not to say this applies across the board of cross dressers. I started wearing girl clothes by my own choice when I was very young, around 4 and 6 years old. That was long before I ever knew what sex was. It was natural for me to feel this way. I still kept it hidden when I was that young for I at least knew that these were girl things. Then like any other young boy, puberty hit real hard and so the usual self exploration stage of life begins. Then when the dressing in girl clothes continued during the years from 13 to 35, I used to think that it was for sexual arousal. Now that I’m much older and wiser, of course the natural decline of libido takes place, but yet, the desire to dress or become Tara is still here today stronger than ever, regardless of libido. During my teens, of course I was so confused and with so little information about what I was, I had to try so hard to figure it out on my own. I didn't have it figured out nonetheless, but I was still confused.
So I ask myself now, why did I do this as a very young little child before I knew what sex was, and why do I still do this now when I do not get aroused by dressing or becoming Tara? I don’t do this with the hopes of getting turned on, I will always do this from now on. I mean I can get aroused from some things, whether I’m as Tara or not, but it isn't the dressing that gives sexual arousal. Maybe some are in the stage of confusing the dressing that has been done for all of their lives, and when puberty hits, it may seem that it is the dressing that causes arousal, but it may be just the natural full blown testosterone.

But when we dress, it does feel so good inside and so relaxing and brings so much more joy in and of itself than for sexual arousal. I apply my philosophy not only to myself, but to those that have done this since very early childhood.

I look back over my life now and can see very well in hindsight, that as much as I loved and needed to do this, it wasn't for sexual arousal, it wasn't at 5 years old, it's just that I would sometimes incorporate it into my lonely times during puberty, when I thought I was very strange. Some cd's MAY dress in women's clothes only for the purpose of sexual arousal, and maybe many years from now when it no longer does that to them, maybe they will hang the clothes up for good. But for me, I will always become Tara because it feels so right sometimes. Just a few hours or minutes before I take my shower and shave with the intent to become Tara, there are no sexual thoughts going through my mind before hand at all.

[Joanne.England]

It often does for me but not always. Maybe dressing just makes me more relaxed and it just makes me feel sexy inside.

[docrobbysherry]

I didn't start dressing suddenly at age 50+ because it turned me on. I did it because it fed fantasies I had of having breasts and becoming female. In fact, at the time I was seeing a doc because nothing got me aroused back then.

However, after a time I began dressing completely. Once Sherry appeared in my mirror it was like a sexual miracle! That was 15 years ago. While orgasms r unpredictable at my age, arousal is no longer an issue! While I don't get dressed for sexual reasons, it's rare when dressing at home that I don't get turned on by what I'm doing and that image in the mirror!

[Sally24]

I'm sure I'm in the minority here. Background....I've only had sex with my wife and I was 20 before I had an orgasm! (I don't count waking up after "the big event" as my dreams have never had any sexual component). I can't say for sure that I've never had an erection while dressing as a youth but I don't recall that ever happening. The clothes were exciting enough in their own way. Fear of getting caught. Curiosity at how a girl feels. Wondering why I was doing any of it!

Now as far as crossdressing in my head, yes that can be exciting. I have as many stories as fictionmania running thru my head but they have little to do with my real life dressing. Many of the fantasies I would not to come true but they are interesting to run thru like a movie in my head.

It may be unusual but I suspect there are others like me out there somewhere.

[Lady Catherine]

I can honestly say there has never been any sexual arousal from dressing. Guess that makes me the odd one here.

[Eryn]

Young males can be aroused by anything. In fact, they can be aroused by nothing at all. When I was that age I couldn't separate my attraction to women from my attraction to feminine things. To me these attractions were one and the same and I had no idea that CDing was involved at all. I thought that all males had similar feelings.

Now I am in my 50s and my CDing has come to the fore. Being more knowledgeable and mature I now realize that my CDing isn't sexual in nature and I don't get aroused at all by dressing. There are better times for that!

[kymmieLorain]

Well I will admitt that my start in CDing was sexual. But developed into some what normal. While at times it can be sexual, may because dressing make me feel sexy.

Kymmie

[Tracii G]

Now I become my other side and don't have that problem.

[Tara D. Rose]

Heck back when I was 12 through 20, I could just look at garbage truck, or a tree, a '68 Chevelle SS, my next door neighbor, or even a guitar and I would become a porn star in an instant. So the clothes just added to it I guess.

[Beverley Sims]

I cant answer your question either as it has always been a turn on for me and if it wasn't I had some girlfriends that would ensure I was turned into someone that could push their buttons.

[Bootsiegalore]

Not really for me. However it is strange that when I have the occasional perverbial "nocternal-emmission" I am dressed in the dream. I have always thought it odd. Dressing is just something I like to do.

[Harry]

It has always been a TURN ON for me. Attraction to girls, wearing their clothes, shaving and doing whatever they do has always turned me on. Moreover girls noticing me with shaved legs has always turned me on!!

[Jaymees22]

It was very stimulating when I was a teen, now that I'm in my 60's not so much. I still get turned on sometimes dressed, but then when I'm not dressed by imagining myself dressed actually works better for the big O.

[NicoleScott]

Not me. Arousal has always occurred. That's why dressing is so addicting.

A lot of crossdressers here over the years on many threads have stated that their dressing was sexually exciting in the past, but not any more, just a lifestyle.
I'm like Dee, it's always been exciting for me. Any lessening of the frequency and intensity of the excitement is a result of aging, but it's still all about getting pretty and sexy for the mirror (in my eyes).
The thing that puzzles me a bit is that I was attracted to women's things, as I remember, around age 4-5. Presumably before I had any sexual urges, or was it?

[ReineD]

Coincidentally, a friend has just posted something on facebook about the teenage brain. While it was once thought that the brain's architecture was set by age five or six, new research shows that the teen brain is still very much a work in progress, like a giant construction project. Millions of connections are being hooked up and millions more are swept away, thus having the ability to rewire the brain as significant amounts of dopamine floods it.

So, if a male teenager is particularly transfixed with the sexual expression of the female sex, it can significantly change who he becomes in the future.

http://www.enotalone.com/parenting/4334.html

[Laura28]

When i was young it was very sexual to me, now as i have aged not as much, dont get me wrong it still is very xciting, but i dont do it to just get aroused. it is just a part of me and who i am.

[lynnrichards]

I started dressing at about the age of three or four. I would often spend weekends at my grandmother's. She had a large collection of silk underwear, slips, stockings and nightgowns. Every chance I got, I would dress in these clothes and experience a definite thrill in the activity. I would look at myself in a mirror and end each session by rolling around on the bed and with the help of a strategically placed pillow I would reach an orgasm. Of course, at that age, there was no ejaculation and I didn't have a name for it ... but I did certainly achieve orgasm. This behavior was repeated many times, rather compulsively, until about age eight. At about that time, the visits to my grandmother were ended, possibly to discourage me from cross-dressing.

I know these memories are real and I'm surprised that others on this forum admit to starting at this early age, but report that the experience was not sexual for them. In fact, I can't remember anyone saying that cross-dressing at this early age was the least bit sexual. I would like to hear comments from others on this subject, which is why I'm posting now.

To continue with my history, I don't remember dressing again until I reached puberty at about age twelve. I then sought every opportunity to dress in my mother's slips, stockings garter-belts and stockings. By then, I had learned how to masturbate and the occasions that I dressed always ended with release. Later in life, I got married, but still secretly dressed, using my wife's lingerie and items that I bought and hid. Again, the times I dressed were very sexually charged. After six year's of marriage, I told my wife. She was somewhat accepting, but six years later we were divorced.

Since that time, I expanded my cross-dressing by building a complete wardrobe, including wigs and makeup. I also started going out in public. I never remarried and I have lived alone for most of the time since my divorce. As I matured, dressing and going out became more interesting and more fulfilling in many ways. Also, the sexual aspect has diminished ... but it is still there from time to time. Since I live alone, I can dress as often as I like. I am now 71 and don't go out often, but I do dress almost every day at home. I suppose I now regard it as a deeply ingrained habit and very satisfying, if not a compulsion.

Just wondering, if anyone else has a similar history.

[sheilagirl]

It's both Sexual and Psychological for me.

[Ressie]

I started dressing at about the age of three or four. I would often spend weekends at my grandmother's. She had a large collection of silk underwear, slips, stockings and nightgowns. Every chance I got, I would dress in these clothes and experience a definite thrill in the activity. I would look at myself in a mirror and end each session by rolling around on the bed and with the help of a strategically placed pillow I would reach an orgasm. Of course, at that age, there was no ejaculation and I didn't have a name for it ... but I did certainly achieve orgasm. This behavior was repeated many times, rather compulsively, until about age eight. At about that time, the visits to my grandmother were ended, possibly to discourage me from cross-dressing.

I know these memories are real and I'm surprised that others on this forum admit to starting at this early age, but report that the experience was not sexual for them. In fact, I can't remember anyone saying that cross-dressing at this early age was the least bit sexual. I would like to hear comments from others on this subject, which is why I'm posting now.

To continue with my history, I don't remember dressing again until I reached puberty at about age twelve. I then sought every opportunity to dress in my mother's slips, stockings garter-belts and stockings. By then, I had learned how to masturbate and the occasions that I dressed always ended with release. Later in life, I got married, but still secretly dressed, using my wife's lingerie and items that I bought and hid. Again, the times I dressed were very sexually charged. After six year's of marriage, I told my wife. She was somewhat accepting, but six years later we were divorced.

Since that time, I expanded my cross-dressing by building a complete wardrobe, including wigs and makeup. I also started going out in public. I never remarried and I have lived alone for most of the time since my divorce. As I matured, dressing and going out became more interesting and more fulfilling in many ways. Also, the sexual aspect has diminished ... but it is still there from time to time. Since I live alone, I can dress as often as I like. I am now 71 and don't go out often, but I do dress almost every day at home. I suppose I now regard it as a deeply ingrained habit and very satisfying, if not a compulsion.

Just wondering, if anyone else has a similar history.

Lynn, at a young age I came across a pair of doll's panties that fit me and I wore them for days until my mom discovered what I was doing. I loved the silkiness against my private parts, but wouldn't call it sexual arousal. But most of your story has similarities to mine. Since divorcing and living alone my wardrobe keeps increasing. at 59 the sexual arousal isn't as great as it was 20 years ago, but it's still the main reason I dress.

[LaraPeterson]

Lynn, while the details are different, my story is almost identical to yours with one exception. The older I get and the more complete my dressing gets, the more I get aroused. The feel of stockings and silky lingerie along with carefully applied makeup and a generous spritz of cologne give me a powerful feeling, if only in my mind. Many nights, I sleep in pantyhose and a bra just for the feeling. I guess I'm weird.

[sheilagirl]

Lynn, while the details are different, my story is almost identical to yours with one exception. The older I get and the more complete my dressing gets, the more I get aroused. The feel of stockings and silky lingerie along with carefully applied makeup and a generous spritz of cologne give me a powerful feeling, if only in my mind. Many nights, I sleep in pantyhose and a bra just for the feeling. I guess I'm weird.
Me too Lynn. The more complete my dressing gets for me, the better I feel. It's more than arousal, however. It's more a feeling of Completeness for me.
Like I'm "Where I Should Be" It just feels right and comforting.

[bobbimo]

Me too Lynn. The more complete my dressing gets for me, the better I feel. It's more than arousal, however. It's more a feeling of Completeness for me.
Like I'm "Where I Should Be" It just feels right and comforting.

That's it shelia!
I am much more comfortable now, getting dressed with my wife in the same room that I did several months ago. And I can say its much more comforting now to be able have her help in dressing. And when she did my hair. That was over the top. I feel that Bobbi has now reach a new high. I can look in a mirror and much more of a woman looks back at me.
It gets better everyday.
For me its not sexual as its a project that I work on and when I'm done I feel pretty, and feminine. Having the ability to share this with my wife is all the orgasm I need. Well It would be fun to go out shopping. :-)
Bobbi

[BRANDYJ]

When I first started at age 11 or so, I clearly remember that it was sexual and after a release, I could not get the clothes off fast enough! That did not change until I was in my 30's and shared my secret with my then girlfriend. I bet there are many others that could not wait to get the clothes off fast enough too.

[Jessica Louis]

It was when I first started but as time goes on it gets less and less.

Jessica

[Miss Rivers]

i've only been crossdressing for the past year or so and i definitely still get aroused when i dress up. there are times though when i just enjoy wearing my outfits without it turning me on.
my heels are my weak point, i can't help but get stimulated when i'm wearing them.

[Jenniferpl]

Starting around 7 or 8 years old. It was not about being aroused in those days. It was more about curiosity and just feeling right. The arousal came later.

[Marlana]

Dressing has almost always ended with the big O in my case. Sometimes, I just dress to find my inner self and enjoy her. So count me in the 90%.

[Dann12]

Dressing was always a means to a HUGE "O" for me and still regularly is. However after coming out things kind of leveled out. I guess with more freedom to do cd on many levels (I even do it sometimes on stage with my band) it kind of branches out and more simple pleasures in it reveal themselves. Honestly, one of my favorite things to do is go shopping with my girlfriend. She loves when I pick out clothes for her. She loves that we can do that together. There's just a ton of other things that dressing has come to offer me as a pass time beyond the big "O".

[Julogden]

My gender issues go back as far as I can remember, sex had nothing to do with it back when I was a kid, of course. During the years from puberty to early adulthood when testosterone was flowing heavily, sex was sometimes the result but not always. Once I got to the point where I was able to dress regularly and completely, sex again left the equation. So since my mid-20's , sex has had absolutely nothing to do with my dressing. For me, it's about gender identity and feeling comfortable in who I am.

Carol

[cathie pantyhose]

Its still very sexual to me although I dont have anyone to share that experience with at this time. Although my current wife knows I dress and she understands the sexual connection, she doesn't like to play dress up. During my first marriage, I was fortunate to have a ggf on the side who loved it when I dressed and we had fun with toys. I also had a bf on the side who also loved it when I dressed. That's been over 18 years ago now but I stil get aroused when I dress. Years ago while living in Atlanta and being a stay at home dad, I took a lot of sexual self pics and posted them on Flicker. They are probaby still there but now I enjoy dressing for the feeling it gives me over all.

[Sallee]

It looks like for the large majority it is a turn on with an ending. It is for me also although it doesn't allows end that way but often it does. That is ok as long as there is with a consenting adult present.

[kendra_gurl]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

[sometimes_miss]

I can't imagine anyone saying otherwise, however, there's always that 10%
Please enlighten me.
O.K., you asked. Warning, triggers here to anyone who was abused as a child. Scroll down at your own risk.












The connection to the clothes, and sex, was not sexual stimulation to me. It was affection. I was dressed, and became the girlfriend of, a boy about 6 years older than myself. During and after the sexual episodes, he would hold me gently, like a lover might do with his girlfriend. As my family was the 'hard love' type, with only discipline and punishment offered, the only source of affection I had was my abuser. That connected the girl clothes to the affection I needed as a child, and it lasted throughout most of my formative years. While I occasionally do get sexually aroused and climax while dressed, it's not the clothing that does it, it's the fantasy of being with a woman and being treated as her girlfriend, the 'episode' being romantically driven, not sex driven as I usually experience it when I'm with a woman in real life. Women expect passionate, assertive male partners, and that's what I had to learn to give them. But I'd really rather spend most of the time hugging, caressing and cuddling while with them, and while nearly all women DO like that, they want the 'macho' man on occasion too, which is what I have trouble being. The '50 shades of gray' book revealed that most women prefer being the submissive partner most of the time, doggy style being their overwhelming favorite position. Or so I hear. But I digress.
No, the clothes do not turn me on.

For ReineD and anyone else who is curious;
Our brains are anything BUT complete when we're born, they go on developing throughout our lives. But certain things become 'etched in stone' at certain ages. The most well known one is, if you learn a new language before puberty, you won't have an accent. If you learn it after, you will, so something in our brains gets finalized during that period of our lives. I suppose some other things become 'permanent' at certain ages as well, perhaps something regarding our sexual and moral identities, which would explain well, me. I can't be sure; but I've found no other explanation.

[AllyCDTV]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

1. Yes. But by that time I've removed a lot of my feminine stuff already. :D

2. Move on to some other normal guy activity.

[cathie pantyhose]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

I LOVE this question and thank you for posting it.

1 - In the past I would change immedialty after achieving sexual satisfaction. Either alone, with my ggf or with my bf. This would mostly upset my ggf as she wasn't done and wanted to continue. So we'd wait a little bit and like rabbits, go at it again. All the while she would make me do things and she would tease me while dressed. Yep, pretty much a perfect scenario. Too bad she was 20 years my sr and I was in my 30's....

These days, I eventually go at it alone after awhile while dressed fem but I rarely change until I know the kids are coming home. I just love how I look in my heels, hose, dresses and how it feels. My fantasies take over but there are many days I dont and just enjoy being dressed fem.

2 - When I get the urge to dress on the weekends when everyone is home, I'll find a way to take it down a notch by going for the "O" but usually I'll wait to the end of the day when everyone is in bed and go to my man cave and enduldge. I've had the big "O" before running errands but still come back and dress just to dress...

[Frédérique]

My question is, is there anybody on this forum who was NEVER turned on and/or came to climax as a result of the clothing?

Yes, I am the exception to the “rule.” If I get aroused in any way DUE TO my female clothing, I will immediately take it off, deal with the unfortunate situation, and then resume crossdressing when the smoke clears. Since I approach CD’ing in a tactile, fetishistic manner, trying to achieve a state of calm bliss, any male sexual urges that overtake me are completely unwelcome. Somehow, I can wear things that would drive a sexual practitioner crazy, and still find a quiet space for my “self.” I cannot and will not insult my precious female clothes with the muddied male mindset I’m trying to overcome – in short, I crossdress to suppress sexual urges. It’s hard to explain, but if you knew ME you would understand why...
:whew!:

[Trysha]

I'm not sure why, but I often get very turned on talking to ladies when shopping for clothes, especially the SA's who are giving me advice on what to buy.

[RiverdanceGirl]

For me, the image of myself as a female has always been sexually arousing. The term autogynephilic is very polarising in the community but I would say that it fits me. And of course, as a young person that loved to wear women's clothing in a society that considered such a practice to be very wrong there are things I had to deal with that are not so much an issue today. I would get a few minutes a week where I could steal a moment in my mum's tights. The thrill of the forbidden and risk of getting caught, it all added a sexual element. When I hit puberty there was the added drama. I only had maybe 2 minutes to spend in a pair of nylons. Things happened because of the compression of time. My parents were not open to a son who wanted to be a girl, and society had very strict rules about behaviour. Today I hope things are a little more relaxed for young people.

For the last 25 years I've been buying my own clothes and I can wear them on my own terms. I can feel sensual and sexy as a woman in my clothes over a long period of time. The need to get it all out asap isn't there anymore. I'm still just as sexually aroused by the thought of being female. Coming to terms that I have a very feminine psyche and personality has helped too.

[Kathy4ever]

Thank god that urge has gone away. Hard to tuck when you are stimulated like that. When I do get to get all dolled up I might get excited but in a different way now. Some how I get a deep down arousal or feeling like a real gg gets. I continue to not have a problem staying tucked.

[bimini1]

Alot of people will say it's really not about sex because afterall, when it started I was too young to even know what sex was.
Just because you don't know what something is does not mean that it does not exist already. You may not have known what it was or what to call it but the feeling of arousal was still there.
It's like in history when they tell you man "discovered" this or that, electricity, the atom, the new world or whatever. It was there already.

So yes even though you didn't know about sex.......it was still about sex.

[k lynn]

Starting around 7 or 8 years old. It was not about being aroused in those days. It was more about curiosity and just feeling right. The arousal came later.

Same for me like I have said before since age 4 my mother would find me in the store feeling of bras and panties then at 7 when I seen my sister in her bra curiosity killed the catback then no sexual arousal that came along at about age 12

[Erica Marie]

For me it started when I was about 14. It started as pretty much a sexual thing with panties and such. Then I found how nice a complete female outfit felt. Then it slowly progressed in to complete fashion with a wig and I realized that with a little work I could look like a female. As the years went on there is still a slight sense of arousal but for the most part now I realize it is a part of who I am and my real goal is to break free from my closet and see the worl through the eyes of Mellissa. To be free, to be accepted for who I am.

[Brenda Freeman]

When I was young a teen, and tried on feminine clothes nylons and panties I did it because I liked the look and feel. I did not put them on thinking I would get aroused though it was often a by product. I would get aroused when I saw pictures of women in sexy lingerie, unlike maybe most males, I wanted to wear the clothes more than wanting to have the girl in my fantasy so maybe it was the clothes I longed for! Today much older and less concerned about what society thinks I should be, I love dressing up complete with wig and make up and spending time enjoying my feminine side, I find it the most enjoyable experience ever, not so much a turn on as a wonderful feeling of pure joy, so Happy! Maybe the best turn on of all, better than sex?

[JenniferR771]

Me, too. Very sexual and stimulating in the early years. Not so much in my 60's. I still enjoy crossdresser fiction and fantasies. I get a warm feeling from dressing completely. Sometimes I get stimulation by pretending a loving dominant woman forced me to dress.

[suchacutie]

Ok...so feminine clothing is sensual. So is lipstick and hair on your cheek and the look of well-made-up eyes.

I guess it's possible that one of the great things about Tina is that she gets to experience all of these things, but it's far from the dominant thing and the transformation to Tina never occurs with the idea that a Big O will follow. In fact, Tina never gets enough time to herself and she has a long list of things she loves to do and experience. This Big O business just takes time away from her life's adventure so she just lets her male side handle all that O stuff.

So I guess I belong to that 10%. It never occurred to me to even think about it, frankly.

[Lucy Long Legs]

Yes I have always found dressing arousing but in a completely different way from when I am a guy. When dressed I don't achieve an er*ction nor have any wish to. The big O is much more internal and always accompanies the end of a long spell of dressing.

[Esteafanie]

I could't agree more, seems like we are perpetually chasing the same bliss, the 1st feeling..but with vengeance..LOL

[melanie206]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

First, many times I dress with no O involved but I'm still aroused as part part of the overall bliss. But, other times the O does bring an immediate end to girl time. There's a huge chemical component to arousal and feeling good, increased dopamine etc. An orgasm, as I understand, is followed by chemical crash which can cause temporary depression, guilt feelings and certainly a loss of arousal. I have found by taking a few minutes to completely relax after the orgasm I can regain a normal mood and not feel the need to shed my femininity.

[LaraPeterson]

When I go to ebay and the lead ad is a pair of red pumps because of my previous searches, I get aroused. When I see a good looking GG walking down the street or look at one of the lovely CD's avatars on here, I get aroused. When I put on a pair of panties, or pantyhose, or a bra, or fresh nail polish, I get aroused. Shoot, when I use a nail file, I get aroused. Anything that brings the smallest feminine thought to mind arouses me. As for the big O, that doesn't happen so much and I guess it's a good thing. If I O'ed every time I am aroused, I'd be dehydrated!

[christinac]

I honestly cannot say what really got me started crossdressing. I've always admired women's clothing and fashion and things fem and in many ways felt a woman trapped in a man's body, but I can't really say dressing was or wasn't ever a sexual thing.

[Ressie]

When I go to ebay and the lead ad is a pair of red pumps because of my previous searches, I get aroused. When I see a good looking GG walking down the street or look at one of the lovely CD's avatars on here, I get aroused. When I put on a pair of panties, or pantyhose, or a bra, or fresh nail polish, I get aroused. Shoot, when I use a nail file, I get aroused. Anything that brings the smallest feminine thought to mind arouses me. As for the big O, that doesn't happen so much and I guess it's a good thing. If I O'ed every time I am aroused, I'd be dehydrated!

I can relate to that. That's what makes it impossible to completely stop CDing. Anything can set it off! I went into a woman's apartment a couple years ago and got excited because her pink DD bra was hanging somewhere near the bathroom.

[Vieja]

I am 85 and my libido died a long time ago but I still love to dress up and it feels just great with no sexual overtones

[glynnis]

As soon as I slide on my nylons in the morning I get aroused and always do something about it.

[AngoraGirl]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

1 - I absolutely start taking everything off after the O. Glad to see I am not alone in this.
2 - If I already have an O on a particular day the desire to dress is definitely diminished for me...

[Xandra]

Most definately a yes for me.

[sabrinaedwards]

Initially when I was young, it was all about sexual stimulation. As I have "matured" it's all about looking as feminine as possible. My wife has been out of town these last 3 days and I have been in total dress the entire time. Tonight I have on the LBD, strippy black panent sandals, full make up and a new wig. I have shaved my legs, done my nails and in general just feeling great.

[MssHyde]

Thank god that urge has gone away. Hard to tuck when you are stimulated like that. When I do get to get all dolled up I might get excited but in a different way now. Some how I get a deep down arousal or feeling like a real gg gets. I continue to not have a problem staying tucked.

Ditto, this seems to hit the nail on the head for my feelings too.

[Leah Lynn]

I started at age 4. There was no sexual stimulation at that age. It just felt right. As a teen, raging hormones and lacy undies kickstarted that stimulation. Later it was back to the sensation of just feeling right.

[Slipstream]

At age 52 I'm hoping the arousal doesn't go away any time soon. Nowdays I have no problem lounging around in full dress for hours, which is a good thing, and I don't always have to end with the big "O" but I still want to most of the time. Early in our marriage, my wife worked a later shift than me. Many times she would tell me to be dressed when she got home. I would start dressing an hour before and plenty of times got too turned on and didn't make it until she got home.

[Cam]

225 views/6 replies. Not very surprising. Being born a male dictates we will "literally" be slaves to our vision. 10's of thousands of years of EVOLUTION tends to do that to a fellow. Any guy who claims they have any control at all over his "equipment" is in all likelihood a few sandwiches shy of a picnic.

Sure, many here started dressing at an early age, long before they ever had any concerns about birds or bees. But, I am guessing MOST young boys at least tried on something female at a young age simply out of curiousity?

I would be very surprised to see anyone come in and claim NEVER. JMO, but I think the sexual association aspect is THE reason so many feel the shame and guilt that is so prevalent here.

SO WHAT if a "good feeling" is part of/associated with dressing? Nothing wrong with wearing something that makes one feel "better or happier" in any way is there?

I am sure people who really enjoy their job or people they work with "feel good" when they put on any required uniform?

Maybe that's one of the reasons I don't hide, no shame/sexual association for me. I have liked the way I look in skirts for as long as can remember and am comfortable in them so I don't hide. I also don't try to pass as female which may also be a reason I don't hide. I am a man who likes to wear skirts that's it. If I want arousal I just cuddle with my wife.

[NicoleScott]

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

1. Yes, with a few exceptions.

2. Yes, BUT I really wouldn't want to do that. Nothing excites as much as a good makeup/dressup session, and I'd rather maximize the sexual experience than "get it over with".

[Kendall_CD]

Dressing is a sexual turn-on for me, has been as long as I remember.

[drushin703]

When I first started dressing during puberty (13) it was an immediate sexual turn on that usually resulted in Clx. And nothing has changed over the years
except the clothes have gotten silkier, the fantasies more personal and the clean up a whole lot easier.....lol, dana

[Maria in heels]

I can say that at a young age, I was both aroused and comfortable at the same time. I felt natural when I put on a pair of heels and a dress, and could be aroused, or just stay dressed for hours and be myself. As the years have gone by, I still do get those same two types of feelings, which is a wonderful sensation...

[DanielleT]

So glad I found this thread, something I have really been struggling with. Sometimes, not always, when I dress I get highly aroused. This usually happens when I am wearing a miniskirt and have been out in public. In recent times I have found myself fantasizing about having relations with another male. Anyone else experience these kinds of desires?

[Delila]

When I was younger I got a sexual thrill from dressing. I think it had to do with going against the norm. Now it is less about sex and more about feeling relaxed almost at home when I dress. I'm glad to see that many here feel the same.

[SandraInHose]

Add me as another who is glad he found this thread. There was another forum I belonged a few years ago that had a few militant members who regarded ANY sexual pleasure from dressing as a personal insult to their own transsexualism. So I have become accustomed to downplay that aspect... until this thread.

For me, the sexual desire is what it's all about...slipping into a pair of pantyhose, pulling my skirt on and slipping my feet into a pair of heels...that is the ultimate jumpstart for arousal. Although I've been dressing since I was 13 (38 yrs ago), over the last 10 yrs or so there are those occasional times when dressing doesn't result in any release. Sometimes just feeling comfortably snug in my undergarments is enough, but truthfully, not very often. Much more often than not, it usually ends with a bang.

The difference between then and now is when I was younger (and more confused) I would immediately undress after wanking because I felt I had to 'prove' my masculinity afterward. I'd go lift weights or work on my car or whatever, as long as it fit traditional male criteria. Nowadays, when I do climax, I stay dressed and relaxed until I feel like doing it again Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Gotta remember to save some lovin' for the wife, though!

[Dann12]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?


Killer questions Kendra! Back in the days "in the closet" the girl gear would immediately be removed.All evidence of this whole secret world erased as much as possible. As it had been with many of us, it was such a source of shame. With time and freedom, the other driving forces behind our habits reveal themselves. Sure, in later days, mabye after "the big O" the lingerie may come off. But it doesn't really mean the end of that session of dressing anymore. The other things i enjoy about crossdressing still remain and I don't have to be ashamed of them or engage in some over the top male activity in order to "compensate" for my earlier lack of maleness....for lack of a better term.

[laura.lapinski]

Of course Laurel. Many of us have that fantasy. It's very common.

[outhiking]

Although I enjoy the sexual release aspect of dressing, I do envy women and their calmer libido.

[DanielleT]

Thanks for your kind comment Laura, I haven't had to courage to act on it as of yet, but I know that is something I really want to try. Scary for sure, it might take me awhile.

[danielleinbr]

When I first started dressing years ago, I would get arousal from it. Now when discard the male facade and become my female self I feel more of a peaceful feeling. Still completely exciting but in a different way, not necessarily sexual. Just the utter happiness of being myself.

[LauraFaye]

I started dressing at a very young age. While there was some sexual thrill to it, it was always more about the clothes and being something other than the boy I was born as. Today it's still about getting away from that male persona. Were I young today I think I would pursue grs.

[Lacy PJs]

Like so many others, I have found this thread to be interesting and in some cases, informative. Personally, I do get aroused from dressing but a lot of that depends on what I'm putting on at the time. Frilly, lacy nighties are far more exciting than a one-piece bathing suit or skinny jeans.

But as I read the entries to this thread, it brought to mind something I read a long time ago that I wondered if it was at least, partially applicable here... a military man stationed overseas received from his wife a pair of her panties as a "reminder" of her while he was gone. When he was alone and could, he used those panties to excite himself to climax. But when he came home, he found that he was excited more by her panties than he was by her so he had to "unlearn" his attachment to them.

So my related question is are we sometimes "excited" by the clothes themselves more than we are excited by the act of being a woman? Or, to put it a different way, are there some of us who find that we "need" the clothes for sexual excitement?

As I read through the various threads here and look at most of the photos, I think I see some signs of this. While I have no other first-hand experience with any other CDs personally, in the photos I see here, taken as a hole (there are always exceptions), the attire is probably a little more... "sexy" than what I typically see worn by the average woman on the street. Skirts are shorter, heels are higher, blouses are a little more lacy... in general, one might conclude that CDs push the envelope a little more than the average female. Is this a sign that many of us are in love with the clothes instead of the female persona? I don't know... but sometimes think that may be the case, at least with me.

Lacy PJs

[laura.lapinski]

Like so many others, I have found this thread to be interesting and in some cases, informative. Personally, I do get aroused from dressing but a lot of that depends on what I'm putting on at the time. Frilly, lacy nighties are far more exciting than a one-piece bathing suit or skinny jeans.

But as I read the entries to this thread, it brought to mind something I read a long time ago that I wondered if it was at least, partially applicable here... a military man stationed overseas received from his wife a pair of her panties as a "reminder" of her while he was gone. When he was alone and could, he used those panties to excite himself to climax. But when he came home, he found that he was excited more by her panties than he was by her so he had to "unlearn" his attachment to them.

So my related question is are we sometimes "excited" by the clothes themselves more than we are excited by the act of being a woman? Or, to put it a different way, are there some of us who find that we "need" the clothes for sexual excitement?

As I read through the various threads here and look at most of the photos, I think I see some signs of this. While I have no other first-hand experience with any other CDs personally, in the photos I see here, taken as a hole (there are always exceptions), the attire is probably a little more... "sexy" than what I typically see worn by the average woman on the street. Skirts are shorter, heels are higher, blouses are a little more lacy... in general, one might conclude that CDs push the envelope a little more than the average female. Is this a sign that many of us are in love with the clothes instead of the female persona? I don't know... but sometimes think that may be the case, at least with me.

Lacy PJs

Conditioning is definately been psychologically proven (See Pavlogs (spelling?) Dogs experiemnt). So many reasons people dress, I'd have to write 2 pages to express it all, and don't have time right now.

[glynnis]

I always get sexually aroused when I get dressed.

[Marla]

When I was a kid I wore my Moms lipstick and always got excited. Now that I have my own I still get very excited. I've been with men and I love every second of it.
Hmmm could I be gay? I think yes. It only took me
65 years to figure that out!

[Gretchen_To_Be]

So, Reine...if my first conscious "release" happened to be while wearing my mother's dress, hose and heels--it more or less helped define what would stimulate me for the rest of my life?

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Lacy PJs--I have wondered that myself. It seems like a normal woman is not enough to excite me, which probably sounds sad and even cruel, but I cannot change what I find attractive. I am fortunate that my wife is very feminine, takes very good care of herself and likes to dress on the sexy side of normal--she never looks cheap or ****ty, but looks way hotter than the other moms on the playground. So I am far more aroused by my wife than an "average" woman. But I think you speak the truth; we CDs are probably more excited by the idea of a woman, and especially the visual representation, than the woman herself. It doesn't make me feel good to admit that, but it's the truth in my case. When I see a beautiful woman, especially one that is dressed the way I would like to be, I am aroused--but not initially by thinking about making love to her. The fantasy usually revolved around her switching clothes with me, or buying me the same outfit, and then, looking identical we fool everyone and only she knows my secret. Then we make love. Ridiculous I know, but it's the movie in my head.

[Rosabella]

As a teenager, it was always, always sexually stimulating. Most of the time while I've been married, it was sexually stimulating to wear articles of my wife's during our encounters. More recently since I have bought my own female clothes, it is less sexually stimulating and just more enjoyable to wear my female clothing as often as I get to.

[Jess1982]

I encountered my sister's blue low cut back one piece bathing suit at some point during my pre teen years. For some reason I couldn't resist trying it on. It was an instant turn on. I am now in my 40's and through many ups and downs in crossdressing it still brings me the same sexual excitement that it did that day.

I shave my legs most of the time. The look and feel of smooth shaved legs esp while wearing an elegant and sexy pair of heels is something that still makes me sexually aroused. It's what really makes me continue to do it. I don't wish to become a woman, though I have at times fantasized about it.

In reading most of these forums posts and other cross dressing websites, I get the feeling that I'm in a minority among crossdressers.

[bobbimo]

The problem with getting aroused when your dressed, is that all your stuff is pushed up, taped in and squeezed out of the way.
Its way to hard to undo everything for a quick release.
Then there is the post release down slide, when you wonder what the hell am I doing, take off the clothes and make up only to curse that stupid move several hours later.
Its just crazy.
Bobbi

[Sarah Doepner]

I started on this path before puberty, so there was already something to build on when just about anything that moved or was soft or had a curve or had a connection in any way to girls would excite me. These days it's a welcome diversion but not the goal. I'll dress several times and there is nothing but the enjoyment of wearing the clothing as a way of imagining the female version of me.

[StacyPump]

For me, dressing is almost always a sexual turn on, and almost always results in a release. Not always, but more often than not. I don't think the clothes themselves are the turn-on. It is more about what I see in the mirror, or what I feel, or who I become, or fantasize about becoming, while wearing women's clothes. It's just a turn-on. It's a wonderful, empowering, sexy, special feeling.

I don't NEED the clothes in order to achieve sexual pleasure. I do still very much enjoy "normal" intimacy with my wife. though, similar to Shibumi's experience, when I see an attractive woman, my thoughts do often go directly to fantasies that involve her clothes, with ME wearing them! (For example, we just happened to watch an episode of 'The Price is Right' this morning while enjoying a day off from work. When I see the models on the show, I certainly think they are attractive, but I was not gawking at the showcase, I was gawking at their dresses, and heels, and fingernails...What I would give for a day with that wardrobe!)

Through reading a lot on this forum, and some counseling, I'm slowly learning not to feel bad, or guilty, or weird, about the sexual aspect of my crossdressing pleasure.

[Danni]

For me, as I'm getting dressed there is definately arousal. As I become Danni I see a sexy woman in the mirror, and I feel even sexier.

[Barbara Dugan]

Not necessarily all the time that I dress...but when it does is always a very satisfying experience

[docrobbysherry]

Fortunately for me, when I see an attractive woman, I can often replicate her figure and look. Because I have many faces, they look like very different women in the mirror!

As Danni says below, the finished product is what I find so arousing. It's not just seeing a new, hot, woman in my mirror. Knowing I'm her doesn't hurt at all!

Lacy PJs--I have wondered that myself. It seems like a normal woman is not enough to excite me, which probably sounds sad and even cruel, but I cannot change what I find attractive. I am fortunate that my wife is very feminine, takes very good care of herself and likes to dress on the sexy side of normal--she never looks cheap or ****ty, but looks way hotter than the other moms on the playground. So I am far more aroused by my wife than an "average" woman. But I think you speak the truth; we CDs are probably more excited by the idea of a woman, and especially the visual representation, than the woman herself. It doesn't make me feel good to admit that, but it's the truth in my case. When I see a beautiful woman, especially one that is dressed the way I would like to be, I am aroused--but not initially by thinking about making love to her. The fantasy usually revolved around her switching clothes with me, or buying me the same outfit, and then, looking identical we fool everyone and only she knows my secret. Then we make love. Ridiculous I know, but it's the movie in my head.


For me, as I'm getting dressed there is definately arousal. As I become Danni I see a sexy woman in the mirror, and I feel even sexier.


The problem with getting aroused when your dressed, is that all your stuff is pushed up, taped in and squeezed out of the way.
Its way to hard to undo everything for a quick release.
Then there is the post release down slide, when you wonder what the hell am I doing, take off the clothes and make up only to curse that stupid move several hours later.
Its just crazy.
Bobbi
Yes, Bobbi. For me it ruins both the mood and the fem illusion! Which is why I began having sex with everything in place many years ago. Just as a female would!

If anyone wants details, PM me. I don't wish to offend anyone.

[Annette Anderson]

So glad I found this thread, something I have really been struggling with. Sometimes, not always, when I dress I get highly aroused. This usually happens when I am wearing a miniskirt and have been out in public. In recent times I have found myself fantasizing about having relations with another male. Anyone else experience these kinds of desires?

Yes,you are not alone.this issue is sometimes kept low key on other boards out of fear that a cd's wife or girlfriend will read it and get it in their heads that we are all gay.That is why i left other places.sometimes you need to be honest.

[WendyG]

So glad I found this thread, something I have really been struggling with. Sometimes, not always, when I dress I get highly aroused. This usually happens when I am wearing a miniskirt and have been out in public. In recent times I have found myself fantasizing about having relations with another male. Anyone else experience these kinds of desires?

When I am dressed I frequently think about not only looking and behaving like a woman, but also being treated and responded to as a woman. So when an attractive woman (me) is flattered and pursued by a man (imaginary) who is expecting her to respond as a woman, well...........you can't break the illusion.

On the other hand, in drab life, I have never been attracted to a man, but an attractive woman can still turn my head so fast that I get whiplash.

It took me a long time to get comfortable with it, but I don't worry about it anymore.

[Jessica86]

I found it incredibly arousing when I was a teen. Now...I have actually found it more stimulating! I guess I am weird. I do tend to dress about once a month all out. Those all out days....it really hits me now. I remember once when my wife was next to me in the car, and she began rubbing my thighs while I was in a skirt.....woooowwww! That was just a touch! I couldn't imagine what the whole experience would be. I guess I'm the weird one in the group. If I dress casual...I can definately keep it under control. Skirts, heels, and a very sexy hair style ALWAYS does it. STILL. I would be a liar to say I don't enjoy it.

[SherylB]

A big sexual thrill yes. I still do but I'm just 22. But the more I do it these days, its getting more comforting and sinking into me that it is not purely sexual excitement.

[YorkshireRose]

Yes a huge sexual thrill. Growing up as a teenager I was never into porn, just looking at ladies in pretty dresses and skirts was more than enough for me. Once I started dressing it was a a huge turn on and while it doesn't always end in an O, I still get incredibly horny when fully dressed.

[Joann Smith]

If you done spent hours of your life putting on too much makeup... Clothes that are too small for your fat butt and heels that are too high for you to walk in ..and you don't feeling sexy ..you did it wrong .. Try a other outfit .

90 % of all CDs get sexually aroused when dressed .... the other 10 % just lie about it

[Cindia]

I started wanting to wear my sisters' clothes at a very young age, 4 or 5 years old. I remember wondering why I couldn't wear this sort of one piece jumper/shorts type thing they wore. I'm not sure I ever got to or when I actually put on that first pair of panties. I recall staying home alone sick from school in 3rd grade and spending the entire time trying on and wearing many of their skirts and dresses. I had done it before and knew enough to stuff something in the bra to look like breasts. It wasn't sexual as I didn't figure out masturbating until 5th grade but after that is was and still is arousing every time.


Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

1. Sometimes, but I do stay dressed when I have the time and I really like to stay dressed after I've been with a man. Somehow makes me feel more girly to put my skirt back on afterwards.

2. That works sometimes when I know I can't dress and want to and I also will avoid the big O when I know a dressing opportunity is available later in the day.

[JadeEmber]

It doesn't take much to arouse a male who just broke puberty. If something feels good for whatever reason and has some exterior association, it'll no doubt show up then. However, for some it often precedes that (as mentioned), and I've heard of others for whom it comes far later and is not associated. For many, that reason goes away pretty quickly.

Crossdressers are quite different people, especially if you read the various threads that show up here.

Some people are fetishists, some people are emulating a role to relax, some vastly prefer the comfort or style of women's clothes, some are "travelers" and enjoy visiting the different feelings that arise from doing this, some are opposite gender and relieving the stress of that, and some are amalgams of gender -- I suspect I fall into one of the last three, but at my age, one simply goes along with it. When I was around puberty I wanted to be a girl; however, there are other aspects of my personality that are definitely male, especially at work.

None of these things are harmful, so they're fine. I do suspect that not all of them are transgender. On the other hand, I'm perfectly happy to embrace anyone who wishes to view themselves as such. Really, I find everyone unique to be more interesting than those who adheres to some common model.

[JadeEmber]

Perhaps this should be a thread of its own but I would like to know of those who have responded with a yes it is still sexual these 2 questions.

1. Do you immediately start removing everything feminine after your big O ?

2. Do you think if you had the big O before you started to dress that day would you continue to dress or just move on to some other normal guy activity?

What you're describing is common with a set of people. However:

1. No. _If_ I was wearing women's clothes during at all, it's purely just because I was too lazy to change out. Partially, this is because I don't want an association to be made -- I used to be a bit paranoid about that. Usually, I wouldn't have been wearing anything, but if I was, I'd at most take a shower and then go back to wearing what I was, or if it was late at night, switch to a pajamas or a nightgown. Honestly, though, it used to be that I was careful to stop dressing an hour or more before, but now I just kind of feel like it doesn't matter, though I usually will. I will say that if someone accepts this aspect of my personality _that_ is arousing; if they will interact positively when I'm dressed, that's great, but again, I don't change out unless they ask (which isn't arousing ;) ). Historically, even in puberty, I wanted to keep wearing women's clothes if it happened, and even then, I didn't like that "the event" occurred. Of course, they weren't mine, so I couldn't keep wearing them.

2. Misread this, no, there's no correlation. Regardless of that, I always dress in the evening and night if I can. My original reply was that dressing preceded puberty, since I thought the question was asking if that event cemented it.

One trick about this is dopamines are definitely involved. It _is_ relaxing. Exactly why is complicated, which is why these threads draw so much interest.

I do, for example, see similar tendencies to my own in my nephew who is now around eight or nine (still believes in Santa ;) ). Society is beginning to pressure him (his mom painted his thumbnail with polish since he begged her to, and he was really proud of it, but his dad threatened to take a picture and show it to his friend, which really freaked the kid out). We'll see what happens. I'm not public, and while my dad was an quiet underdresser which is known within the family, it never went beyond that. Unfortunately, never spoke with my dad about it before he passed away. If I hadn't stopped dressing due to social fear, I might have been more open about it and things could have been different. Instead, it kind of surfaced and went below over the years.

[DanielleT]

I think, there is nothing so stimulating as to put on a pretty bra and panty set, nylons, heels and a short little skirt...........then go out in public with it. Every time I have done that, I have crazy, insane "O's" at the end of the night.

[CarolynO]

In my case i always dressed for the " A".The "O" came later after I undressed.That was when I was 25 and younger.These days its neither although once in awhile I do feel slightly turned on by it.

[Ezekiel]

I can honestly say there has never been any sexual arousal from dressing. Guess that makes me the odd one here.

You are not alone. Crossdressing is nothing sexual to me, never been.

[cassexy]

the reason i love to be dressed as a female, is the first i am always sexually aroused, i feel fem and i love the dressess , the colours and the choices we can make and it looks lovely too

[Lovepython]

I had on my step mothers panties, stockings, and pantie girdle. I would have been around 13 years old. The bedspread was a silky nylon material as well. I was just rolling around enjoying the silkiness of everything and before I knew it whooosh. At first I didn't understand what had happened but everything felt fine. I just kind of sat back and said who knew.....:battingeyelashes:

[Ciara09]

I started CDing when I was very young, maybe 5 or 6? What I remember is I didn't just do it out of curiosity, I had already fantasized about crossdressing, and then snuck into my sister's room when no one was around and tried on her dresses. Shortly after, I was desperate to share what I had done with someone so I told one of my sisters about it and I also took some of my sisters clothes and put them in my drawers with my clothes. Then, after a day or so I felt really guilty, put the clothes back and told my sister to never ever tell anyone ever about what I had done.

All I know about this is that it was my first crossdressing experience and it pretty much set the pattern for all of my crossdressing from then on, which was that I would be driven to dress up to experience some kind of exhilaration (which I didn't realize at the time but now know was sexual stimulation), and then I would feel really guilty when it was over, knowing that it was something little boys weren't supposed to do. The thing is I was very happy to be a boy, I didn't want to be a girl at all, but dressing in girls clothes was exhilarating and addictive.

Well pretty much thats the way it went, and as much as the desire to crossdress has come and gone throughout my life I realize it'll always be there as a very strong part of my sexual identity (which as I've said it has absolutely nothing to do with my gender identity).

When I was young I was paranoid about being gay since I associated crossdressing with being gay, up until I was in my late teen or early twenties when I became sexually active with women, and I realized that's what made me happy. But I think the more experience I got with the female body, which I do believe is the most beautiful and erotic thing that has ever existed on this or any other planet, the more my CD fantasies evolved away from being about female clothing and behavior and more about the female body. And now I would say I am best described as autogynephilic, which is maybe why I don't CD anymore because it would never really fulfill my fantasies anyways. But the weird thing is that I really love having sex with a woman as a man, like just a normal heterosexual guy would so I think I have a bit of a split sexuality where I would love to be able to switch back in forth between being male and being with a woman, or being a woman (and doing pretty much anything), just depending on what mood I'm in.

I havent CD'd in about 6 years but I have to admit I would love to try it again sometime, but I don't know if I could ever find the outlet for it... maybe halloween is my best bet. But I'm always afraid, if I look a little too good walking in high heels I'll out myself, lol.

[Lorna]

There have been times when I was really keen to dress and had been looking forward to it for a long time. When the opportunity finally came and I could dress in the way I had been thinking about for days beforehand, I often found that the result was very quick in coming - the big O. However, once that had happened, I would usually get undressed again. What a waste! I disciplined myself to resist the climactic part for much longer, thereby being able to enjoy the clothes for much longer. I also found that, on those rare occasions when I was free to dress for a longer period - all day, perhaps - I could allow the big O to happen but then remain dressed afterwards, allowing me to really enjoy the feel of the clothes as I went about my various tasks, and without feeling the same strong need to "do something about it".

[Candice Mae]

Its not sexual for me, has been for a few years really. Although I can't change in front of a mirror as Candice, although my body is no different then when in male mode. When wearing a wig and make up makes me feel like I'm creeping on myself at times.

[Shadeauxmarie]

I had on my step mothers panties, stockings, and pantie girdle. I would have been around 13 years old. The bedspread was a silky nylon material as well. I was just rolling around enjoying the silkiness of everything and before I knew it whooosh. At first I didn't understand what had happened but everything felt fine. I just kind of sat back and said who knew.....:battingeyelashes:

This happened to me too. I was wearing my mothers stockings. I was laying down on my bed and rubbing. After that, I was hooked. I still love stockings and ALWAYS get tremendously aroused wearing them.

[rodybaby]

Yup samehere was 11 or 12 wearing moms panties:)

[GeminaRenee]

From my earliest days of dressing, there has been a sexual component to it. I recall being very young - as in 3 or 4, maybe, and going in my mom's closet and holding a purse and feeling something that I would not recognize until much, much later as arousal. In my teens, when dressing began in semi-earnest, it was always connected with the O. That trend continued into my twenties, until I met my (now) ex. She supported my dressing, and encouraged it in our bedroom. So in a sense it was still connected with the O, but it liberated me from the idea that it was always going to be something I did on my own.

Also, my ex guided me into the realm of complete dressing, whereas before I was just a pantyhose & lipstick kind of person. Suddenly, there was a lot more effort involved in both preparation and clean up. That brings me to where I'm at now. There is still most always a sexual charge to my dressing these days, but it's gone beyond that as well. The end game is rarely the O. Now that I know that I can be involved with other people while dressed, those are the situations in which I will pursue that end. Alone, it's not as much of a thrill anymore just to go that route, and a bit messy to boot. If I am by myself, I'd usually rather get some good pictures, maybe have a fun new adventure outside my home. I'll save the pursuit of O for times when I am with others, in new & super charged situations.

[Trishpdxcd2]

Very interesting thread. I really didn't start dressing until 6 years ago though I dabbled once or twice while younger. It is very sexual to me though I am not very orgasm driven. I tend to feel submissive and the need to please when I am dressed. I have often thought that as I became somewhat less virile as I aged it feed my need to please and be more submissive sexually which ties into dressing for me. I don't generally have sex when dressed but I do find it very arousing. There is euphoric about seeing Trish in the mirror for me which is like sex even if no sex is involved.

[ReineD]

I don't generally have sex when dressed but I do find it very arousing. There is euphoric about seeing Trish in the mirror for me which is like sex even if no sex is involved.

This is why so many of the CDers don't acknowledge sexual motives for dressing especially in the later years when the outcome isn't to specifically have an orgasm. But as you say, for some (many?) CDers, the euphoria/arousal/general-feeling-of-elevated-well-being is just as strong even when there is no sex (including auto-eroticism) involved.

[Lisa Gerrie]

I'd nominate this for a Sticky thread but in this case it would be poor choice of words.

An interesting read.

[Angie G]

I must say it has happened to me a time or two.:hugs:
Angie

[lona]

O yes I got turned on still do some times