Transexualsaurus Wrex my life . . .

[melissaK]

What an awful day in my life. The life I wanted, the life my wife and I built for us is unraveling . . . . the pain from the loss is horrific. I so desperately want there to be another way . . . .

[stefan37]

This issue is the one event I feared and has caused me the greatest anguish in my decision to transition. The shattering of our future plans together and what the future will bring. At this moment we have no plans to separate, but we have been discussing alternate scenarios of either staying in a relationship or separation. I have been honest and truthful about where I eventually may need to be and she has also expressed her fears and what she feels is her limitations. We are still navigating trying to find a way to be together. The sadness I experience at times is paralyzing yet I know in my heart my decision to transition is the right one regardless of where we may end up. Being an optimist I have hope we will successfully resolve our issue.

[kimdl93]

Wishing won't help. Try to make the best you can of your life and if you can't work it out with your wife by yourself, try counseling.

[josee]

So sorry you are having such a hard time.

Remember that it will get better eventually. Even though that won't make today any less painful.

[StephanieC]

I hope you find the wisdom to get you through.

-stephani

[Barbara Ella]

Melissa, so sorry about the pain and loss. Just remember you do not need to find answers and go through this alone. I hope the two of you will not hesitate to get help if it gets too much more burdensome. At 66, married 42 years now, this is my wife's biggest fear over the last year, where it might go. Often the anguish of not knowing can hurt also. Deep breathes and calm thoughts, and my prayers are with you.

Barbara

[chrismy]

so sorry for you hon... i shed the same tears

[morgan51]

My hopes an prayers are with you both I pray there is a good solution for your relationship. I feel your pain too. This has been the very worst facet of transition for us. I still hope for a positive outcome.

[ChelseaErtel]

Melissa:

I am going throught the same thing and my heart, what's left of it, goes out to you. I feel like I don't belong as I am now and won't when I transition. I can't gain all the years of growing up female; they are lost to me. The pain I'm causing my wife and myself is at times unbearable.

If you want to talk, PM me at anytime.

Love,

Chelsea