He Shaves His Legs

[linda allen]

My wife and I were out at a place where we know a lot of people and a man passed by and said "hello" so we had a short conversation and went our seperate ways. He was wearing shorts.

After we parted, my wife said to me "I think he shaves his legs."

Now I'm not one to stalk or stare, but later, I saw him and I could see leg hair so he either had very light hair or perhaps he shaved from his knees down.

My point - We often read posts that people won't notice these things, but the truth is, they will, at least some of them, some of the time.

Of course, if you don't care, that's fine. If you do, take heed.

[sweetgal]

Thank you for posting that. Every time I see someone on this site say "people don't notice..." or something like that I think about how wrong they are. People do notice little things like that - especially women.

[Rebecca W.]

Hi Linda,
I shave now because I like the feeling and my legs look better without the hair. There will always be comments, too hairy, too skinny, too long, ect. So just do what you like and people will always talk about something, no matter what you do. It is nice to be noticed in some way, isn't it? I even wear nude pantyhose when I go for walks wearing my shorts and my neighbors have never said anything to me about it. Talk is just that,talk. Anything beyond talk could be troublesome and we all have to be careful.

[kimdl93]

When we say, people don't notice, perhaps its more accurate to say that People don't comment. I don't know what people notice or don't notice unless they feel compelled to say something. I do think its true that most people could care less what a stranger does with his or her leg hair.

[bridget thronton]

I am ok with people noticing as long as they are polite and respectful

[Aubri]

I am ok with people noticing as long as they are polite and respectful
Exactly.

I've had a couple of female co workers ask about mine, to which I reply "would you like to see my winter coat?" I keep mine trimmed down short, but sometimes it just disappears.

[Wildaboutheels]

Your wife does not notice. She in all likliehood LOOKS for it. Big Difference. Looks... like 99% of the folks here LOOK to bust other men CDing. What would you expect from someone married to a CDer?

What is Joe Doe public going to do IF they notice? Report people to the leg hair police?

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?181882-I-guess-a-lot-of-you-WoS-s-are-getting-GIDDY...&highlight=

[Eryn]

Assuming someone notices, what are the chances they will connect it with CDing? Ordinary folks just don't think that way! If they do bother to give it any thought they will imagine a number of other justifications before they think of CDing, assuming that CDing is in their consciousness at all!

[I Am Paula]

I go to the same coffee shop every morning to meet with my girls and share some gossip. Over the course of the summer I saw thousands of men in shorts pop in for a cuppa joe.
About 1 in 5 had shaved legs. 1 in 3 wore 2 earrings. 1 in 20 wore 1 earring. Granted, most of these men were running or biking, and very fit, so the shaved legs/fitness thing comes into play. I don't think the same numbers would apply to truck drivers. This is also a very affluent area, so I think the men might spend more time and money on appearance. If you read a mens fashion magazine (now there's an oxymoron), or watch a chick flick, you'll notice young males are generally clean shaven down to the toes ( with the rather odd exception of armpit hair). - Just my casual observations-Celeste

[Beverley Sims]

I will just have to live with hairless legs, I could live even better with a hairless face. :)

[Glenda2]

I'm one of those people who has very little body hair. It's been great as far as Cding goes, less work in upkeep. The outside of my legs are naturally almost hairless, it's only the inside where they touch that grows sparse hair. Think it must be genetic as I also have a full head of long hair in my later years, even if it's rather grey. Must have picked up some of Moms programing while I was still a zygote. ;-)

Some people are naturally less hairy. Face is another matter, I'm kept busy clearing the stubble.

Glenda

[windycissy]

Once my boss called me aside after a meeting and asked if I was in chemo! I assured him that no, I bike and swim a lot and then I confided in him, "Nothing says 'old guy' like gray chest hair..."

[Nicole Erin]

My point - We often read posts that people won't notice these things, but the truth is, they will, at least some of them, some of the time. Of course, if you don't care, that's fine. If you do, take heed.

People BETTER notice my legs, they are hot as hell. Tanned, shapely, MMMM, I am gonna have to send myself a naughty PM telling myself what i would do with my legs. I mean they are hawt!

[LadyPilot]

If I am looking I would notice but no judgement from me nor my wife. I like mine shaved so y'all feel free to look and if judgement is passed so be it.

[AllieSF]

Good one Cissy! I also believe that a lot of people notice and do not say anything. The problem comes in when it is someone that you know and you do not want them starting to put two and two together with trimmed eyebrows, sometimes shiny and longer nails and that weird interest in women's fashion magazines. When that happens it may be only a matter of time before they add it all up to 4, and come to the almost obvious conclusion that you are into something strange.

[Jamie001]

When that happens it may be only a matter of time before they add it all up to 4, and come to the almost obvious conclusion that you are into something strange.

This should be rephrased to "different" rather than "strange". If we believe that we are strange, how can we expect other folks to accept us?

[minionofTer]

There are so many reasons why a man may shave his legs. From better "aerodynamics" in cycling to the simple joy of the smooth feeling. Does it really matter? I hope in a few years from now people may be talking about the men who chose to go hairy just as much as this topic.

It is threads like this that terrify me of truly being happy. I'd love to be able to go out shaved and in pantyhose but instead I am stuck in the closet.

Sorry I never intended for my first post to be a rant!

[Bree-asaurus]

OMG... so the point is your wife noticed???

How about the point being that your wife noticed and DIDN'T CARE??!?!?!?

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And maybe your wife was a little more prone to noticing these things because her husband is a crossdresser?

[justmetoo]

This should be rephrased to "different" rather than "strange". If we believe that we are strange, how can we expect other folks to accept us?

I agree with you, Jamie. I know some people have to remain in the closet for their own safety and well-being. But I do believe we need to get away from the shame and guilt, and feeling and acting like crossdressing is strange or weird or something that needs to be hidden away for its own sake if we're going to make quicker progress towards acceptance. And I believe acceptance starts with self-acceptance. I see so many threads around here about hiding things, about what kinds of lies to tell people who question, etc. I will admit I'm not out to a lot of people, but I have shed the guilt and shame and learned to embrace who I am and am out to a lot of the key people in my life. I think shedding the guilt and shame also helps when it comes to increasing one's self confidence. People talk about how being confident can go a good ways towards being accepted while out and about. Real confidence can be hard to come by if you think what you're doing is 'wrong" somehow.

[AllieSF]

Ladies, lighten up, it was a fun post. We are more than strange and weird and different, we are us and that is more important. Beautiful us, blessed or cursed with this affliction or whatever you want to call it or describe it. I am happy. When you worry about it you tend not to be happy. So, don't worry, be happy. as someone in the past used to sing.

[Barbara Ella]

Hmmm. I just want to know if you got a green envy look of hurt in your face and demanded to know just why she was looking at "his" legs, and ask her how she would feel if you looked at every guy's legs to.......wait,,, no no no, that is coming out wrong.

Barbara

[Pixiesmate]

I have had my legs shaved for two or three years now, and I will never go back to being hairy - I love the feel of smooth legs. I wear shorts in the summer time, and I KNOW it has been noticed by the neighbors, and maybe the folks at the local stores. Not one of them has made a comment to me about my legs being shaved. I am still invited for the barbeques at the neighbors, and the people in the local stores still smile and make small talk while they take my money. I guess what this all means is that the vast majority of people don't really care what you do as long as 1) You don't embarrass them and 2) You choose to not care what they do.

[Lorileah]

Now I'm not one to stalk or stare, but later, I saw him and I could see leg hair so he either had very light hair or perhaps he shaved from his knees down.

My point - We often read posts that people won't notice these things, but the truth is, they will, at least some of them, some of the time.

Of course, if you don't care, that's fine. If you do, take heed.

Methinks maybe your wife is a little more tuned to that since her hubby dresses?

Maybe he was wearing pink panties and a lace cami too? Maybe he likes to watch sunsets naked in a bathtub? Maybe it doesn't matter.

Consider this, until they invented the safety razor women didn't shave. Why did they after that? The hemlines went up and only older women had leg hair whereas younger maybe less experienced women were smooth. It was not anything more than trying to appear younger...sort of like guys without beards. Thank you Gillette and Schick.

You know I noticed a guy in a Dashiki the other day and I thought...maybe he is African. He wasn't he was from India. Just shows you that what you see isn't what is real. What else do you do for a hobby when you are not looking at men's legs?

[Vickie_CDTV]

Shaving can also cause ingrown hairs, not just tearing the hair out of the follicle.

If it was an older man (over 50-55), the hair below the knees may be thinning due to age (and worsening circulation.)

[Bree-asaurus]

Some people are more susceptible to ingrowns. I've maybe gotten... 3 my entire life from shaving, Magic Powder, epilating, etc.

[minalost]

I've never had anyone say anything about my hairless legs, but I have had questions about my long nails. I think the important thing here in how you react if someone does say anything. If you act like you've "been caught" doing something horrible then people are going to asumme the worst. If you have a good responce (be it witty, truthful, or a well thought out missdirection...) and don't act guilty, there should be no problem.

[Duana]

Living where it's warm all the time, everyone knows I shave my legs. I've never had a comment, but I know they notice. I don't try to hide it. All my friends know, my children know, my ex knows. Nobody cares. And like Nicole Erin says, my legs are freaking hot.

[Bree-asaurus]

I've never had anyone say anything about my hairless legs, but I have had questions about my long nails. I think the important thing here in how you react if someone does say anything. If you act like you've "been caught" doing something horrible then people are going to asumme the worst. If you have a good responce (be it witty, truthful, or a well thought out missdirection...) and don't act guilty, there should be no problem.

Yup. If YOU act like you should be ashamed about something, then people are going to assume it's something to shame.

Person: "You shave your legs???"
You: "**** YEAH I shave my legs! It's the bees knees, dawg!!!"
Person: "Respect!"

Or something like that :P

[Acastina]

It's been 16 years for me, and I've only had a couple of comments (here in a largely rural and conservative area) in all that time. As if it's anyone's business but mine. I consider it simply good grooming, and at 64, the crop ain't what it used to be anyway; less all the time actually. One of the Twilight League golf guys idly commented on how tan they were, suggesting that I spent a lot of time on the course, but nothing about being bare. I was apprehensive at first wearing shorts, but we do get triple-digit summer heat here, so there ya go. No big deal.

Besides, hairy legs in nylons are just way too much genderf**k for my tastes.

[LaraPeterson]

I have no hair anywhere, genitals, underarms, legs, arms, back, chest, I mean clean shaven everywhere; on ingrowns, no chafing, and certainly no regrets. During the summer I tan regularly to a golden bronze which makes me very shiny, especially with regular moisturizer use. Men and women alike comment all the time telling how nice my skin looks, especially my legs. I can't be sure, but I don't think they have a clue I'm a CD. If they do, they don't let on and never give me weird looks or snide comments.

I have shaved for so long I cannot imagine going back to a hairy body, not to mention that going hairless produces a lot less body odor. I work out in a gym almost every day and I enjoy not stinking so much.

[joanncd]

I got bad ingrown hairs on my right upper thigh from shaving my legs improperly.
As a result I have not shaved them in a few months. Alas, because I love shaved legs.

[Melissa Cross]

I ride my bike thousands of miles per year and I would say at least 90 percent of serious bike riders shave their legs. One time I was riding with a group and a guy with hairy legs passed us going very fast and someone in our group said "wow, look at that guy and he doesn't even shave his legs." At the gym, I would say at least 75 percent of the guys working out also have shaved legs. My point is just because I have shaved legs, it doesn't mean there is a neon sign over my head saying "he's a Crossdresser".

[Mistress Frillee]

I shaved my legs for my halloween costume. Everyone at work seen them. A few weeks ago, as a fund raiser for charity, everyone at work dressed as the opposite sex. So I had a reason to keep my legs shaved. since then I kept them shaved and am going to year round. I dont care what people say. I enjoy it. I also started wearing clear nail polish on my finger nails. Getting a pedicure and manicure before I go to Mexico.

[cathie pantyhose]

well if people notice than I give them a lot ot talk about with hairless arms and legs. I just dont care any longer. I believe the hair is useless and makes it look dirty sort of. I like a clean smooth look over all regardless what the neighbors say....

[EllieOPKS]

I read an article in GQ magazine several years back that was titled "The Austin Powers Look Is Gone" basically stating that hairy apelike men were "uncool". After reading the article I was in 100% agreement. This was several years before I was really into cross dressing. If I could have my way I'd zap every hair from the ears down.

[Ayame]

The only people that notice are people that constantly have it on their mind. A crossdresser or someone close to a crossdresser will almost always notice when people do something, since its usually on their mind. Most people could care less these days what you do with you body hair and there are countless products in the mens section of stores for removing it.

[Sharon B.]

I keep my body hairless and wear shorts and sleeveless shirts in the summer time, I don't have a problem with what people think or say. That's their problem not mine, I don't criticize what they do.