Re; transition

[morgan51]

When and where does the derision stop I'm at my wits end with people treating me badly. My family has been the worst. Seems the closer I am to someone the worse I get treated by them. For the most part my recovery group has been great not so much with relatives. I'm not talking about stares and comments from strangers I'm speaking of close relationships . My skin is certainly thickening! Seems every day there is something new that is negative to deal with.

[melissaK]

Sigh. Sorry Morgan. I'm not far enough out to have any idea when it ends. The "Full Time Tranny" thread isn't especially encouraging.

I was setting my expectations at "never" so I can be relieved when someone isn't derisive, but my therapist pointed out that if I keep doing that, I undermine my own belief in my right to be myself and to be happy. And she's right.

So, hold onto yourself through the rough times. How's that Sarah McLachlan song lyric refrain go - "Hold on, hold on to yourself, for this is going to hurt like hell . . ." Don't loose yourself sweetie.

[Laurie Ann]

just try to hold onto small victories to help boost your self image

[Traci Elizabeth]

Morgan, my heart goes out to you. As you know we both have similar situations with family. Nevertheless, you have friends on here who do care about you and will always have an understanding ear. Take care my friend and stay warm there in Wyoming. I have been there many times (Wyoming that is).

[Jorja]

Please understand that most of your friends and family think you are nuts. You have totally lost your mind. Rather than just accept that you are different, they think you have ruined your life.

It is up to you to show them that this "thinking" is wrong. Go on with your life. Show them you in fact have not lost your mind. Allow them to see for themselves that by becoming who you needed to be was the right decision for you. Show them you have become a better person. Let them see the smile on your face. Let them see the spring in your step. Let them see your caring nature. Let them see that even without them, you will succeed. This will not happen overnight. One by one you will find them coming back and wanting to know you again. At this point it is your choice. Do you want them in your life or not?

Yes, there will always be a few that will not accept the facts. Those you can do nothing about.That thicker skin will help out here.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Morgan

For some not going to happen, I know what its like, started 19 years ago, , well really it was 65 years ago, i was to little to know just had to live a life to get strong to be able to weather many storms, yet along the way i picked up many real friends or so i thought, really it came down to a few , 55 years ago, for me it was my few friends who stayed with me & even now most are still here, they accepted me then & now .

As i was growing up , i had to be strong in a way i never thought would help me over the last few years its been tough & hard as its been was the best for me if you like a test in fire, make no mistake im far from perfect, worse before , yet i had to go through it.

Friends, new people have become more than just friends so this has opened my eyes in acceptance,
Family can be a hard one, because we are so close & have been for many years they see us as they have accepted us for that time, so to change, no matter how much change does not matter, & more so when understanding is not there, it gets worse,

not related to what we are talking about yet will explain ,

Jos & i had some friends going back 39 years, or so we thought, most have not bothered to keepin touch so they are out of our lives, some others & i struggled in a way of haveing to let go what had happened then , you know what i took many years to get over this to a point of i must let go. , i did & it was very hard, i clung on in the hope of well they are my friends,

I dont carry this any more, it was a part of our / my life, its over , .

So family i have a half brother who wont have any thing to do with me he's 19 years older, so i wont see him again. its over, yes it hurts, & as Jos said we cant change that part of our life,

Can i say this to you dont harden your heart, keep it soft & loveing, as to thick skin age will sort that out you dont need to ....okay....dont take on what you cant handle some times we need to let go, dont dual on it because it takes you down makes you'r life more miserable, & in the end you dont have a life, its consumed with what could have been, or maybe's .

We dont forget , just let it go.

...noeleena...