I Am Paula
12-17-2012, 04:32 PM
For three years now, since my wife got cancer, we've had daily outings, sometimes her in a wheelchair, or if she's up to it, a shorter stroll with her walker. We go to malls, restaurants, artist colonies, anywhere to get out of the house for a while. I'm en femme for all of them.
I don't pass perfectly. I know it, and so do most of those I meet. I speak and sing with my male voice. I'm always impeccably dressed, made up, hair, etc. I wouldn't think of leaving the house unshaven, or looking anything except MY best. I have mixed drab, or even just worn just a few items of women's wear, but mostly, the whole nine yards.
So, just guessing at numbers here, I have been seen by 25,000 people. I have spoken to, or otherwise interacted (SA's, waitresses, mechanics, coffee shop patrons) with maybe 2000 people. Then I add in 500,000 people who have seen me on stage, dressed, in the last ten years (sometimes at county fairs I've had audiences of 20,000+) That's ALOT of people.
Bad reactions= zero
Long looks= a few
Disapproving looks=a few
Awkward questions (are you gay, why do you dress like that?)= a few
Compliments, positive reactions= hundreds
Torch bearing villiagers=zero
I look back on this, and I'm generally contented with 'regular' peoples actions and reactions. I'm sure demographics have something to do with it. And Canadians are generally polite to a fault, but I'm not seeing a hostility that gets so much forum time. Going out is not for everybody, and it's a choice you have to weigh heavily, but so far humankind has been very good to me. Merry Christmas, and a safe and happy New Year-Celeste
I don't pass perfectly. I know it, and so do most of those I meet. I speak and sing with my male voice. I'm always impeccably dressed, made up, hair, etc. I wouldn't think of leaving the house unshaven, or looking anything except MY best. I have mixed drab, or even just worn just a few items of women's wear, but mostly, the whole nine yards.
So, just guessing at numbers here, I have been seen by 25,000 people. I have spoken to, or otherwise interacted (SA's, waitresses, mechanics, coffee shop patrons) with maybe 2000 people. Then I add in 500,000 people who have seen me on stage, dressed, in the last ten years (sometimes at county fairs I've had audiences of 20,000+) That's ALOT of people.
Bad reactions= zero
Long looks= a few
Disapproving looks=a few
Awkward questions (are you gay, why do you dress like that?)= a few
Compliments, positive reactions= hundreds
Torch bearing villiagers=zero
I look back on this, and I'm generally contented with 'regular' peoples actions and reactions. I'm sure demographics have something to do with it. And Canadians are generally polite to a fault, but I'm not seeing a hostility that gets so much forum time. Going out is not for everybody, and it's a choice you have to weigh heavily, but so far humankind has been very good to me. Merry Christmas, and a safe and happy New Year-Celeste