The life I should have had

[jsunic_1978]

am I maybe trans, should have been a woman all along?? While im Jen, conversations and inneractions with people just seem to go a lot better while im dressed.

[Angela Campbell]

I think I have always known I should have been born a girl. My earliest memories are of wanting to be a girl. I often wonder how different my life would have been had I been a girl all along.

[LaraPeterson]

Same here. . .shoulda, woulda, coulda. . .wish I could have had all the plumbing that goes with the mindset. This dysphoria stuff is a bitch.

[Barbara Ella]

It has been a realization developing over the past 5 or 6 months. I guess spurred on by the ongoing realization that i did not have a lot of time to ponder and i do not have an excessive amount of time to let it get me down as i decide. I now know what I was meant to be and why i never realized it. Unfortunately, I have no social skills whatsoever as a woman, and given the home situation it is unlikely I will be able to pursue that in the near future.

One has to make the best, and be happy with the life you can have right now.

Barbara

[Beverley Sims]

Should a, would a, could a. Like many others here, the story of my life.
Being a procrastinator I didn't, wouldn't, couldn't and lots of other excuses.
These include the weather, time of day, other people and lots of other excuses.
Eventually I ran out of excuses. :)

[noeleena]

Hi,

Female.....Could i have been, would i have been, did i wont or need to. well for myself i was /am. born with some details just not the full compliment , yet really i was just never dressed as one, well two times in front of other people, & strange as that may be i did not see female clothes as a issue, dont know maybe i was not bothered really that much. because i knew what i was, clothes did not change who i was /. am .

As i look back i can see the whys & wherefores, & really im glad i had to wait, till my time came the start was 19 years ago.,other wise, as iv said i dought id be here now, & whats 46 years any way , of waiting,

one point i will make i would not have been ready before . ready for what. to grow in to being a woman, & thats where its different for myself, so being intersex did have some advantages after all.

...noeleena...

[Kate Simmons]

Well, no one can really "teach" us to be a woman. We either are or we aren't, regardless of plumbing. We intrinsically have all of the people and nurturing skills that women have. We just have to not be afraid to utilize them. In the end it's always our choice to be who we want to be.:)

[Karren H]

Yeah.... life sucks.... then you die.. But you can make the best of the cards that are dealt you and still enjoy life..... I do....

[sometimes_miss]

Ahhh, the life I should have had. Hmmmm. More participatory, affectionate, better parents. Better older sibling, not getting beaten almost daily. No ugly birthmarks on my face. No neighbor boy beating me up. No older boy molesting me for years. Woulda shoulda coulda. I'm stuck with what I got. I'll live with it. I really wonder sometimes what would have happened if god did fix me when I was 14, after all, I'm not really female-minded, I just feel like I am.