Going out dressed-up, in male mode...

[GondorRachel]

I have recently been going out in full women's wardrobe, but in male mode. It's quite liberating to just wear the nice clothes, and not have to worry about all the makeup and shaving and wig and etc... I still like those things, but want to save them for special occasions or when I want to pass. It's nice to be able to just put clothes on and walk out the door, rather than spending an hour making sure every little thing is just right. Last night, I went to the movies with some friends, and wore women's skinny jeans, a pink blouse, high heeled thigh-high boots, pink stud earrings, and a long blue coat. Walked into the theater, a guy held the door open for me, I thanked him. Went in, bought my ticket, went to concessions, ordered a drink, then met up with my friends. They complimented me on my boots and jacket. All in all, it was a nice evening.

Anybody else try this? Your experiences?

[Geneva Lake]

I love the clothes, the shoes, the whole look. But I'm not fooling anyone. I'm a guy ... but I LOVE the women's look!

[Brenn]

I dress this way all the time. Have not put on makeup or tried to "pass" in over 10 years. Like you, I just like the look and feel of women's clothes. I have never had a negative experience. Most of the time people don't notice and on the occasion they do I might even get a compliment.

[Kelley]

I just don't have the confidence yet do go out without wig and makeup but I think it would be nice to do so. I love playing with makeup but it does take time. One day soon I will pull up my big girl panties and just do it.

[kimdl93]

I did mix some male and female a couple of years ago, but I felt that I presented an incongruous image...not what I wanted. So I went fully en femme.

[Cheryl T]

Not something I would do. I enjoy my femininity and when I go out I want others to see that and see me as such. I could never wear a dress or something and not be in full femme mode...just wouldn't feel right to me.

[Jamie001]

I am a feminine guy and therefore am always in male mode wearing feminine items. My hair is always a fem style, eyebrows are plucked and arched, I wear a women's scent and women's open toe sandals. My toenails are always professionally pedicured and polished in Fire Engine Red or Hot Pink. In other words, I live in a pink fog and everyone knows that I am playing for the girl's team. :)

[LadyPilot]

I live in a pink fog and everyone knows that I am playing for the girl's team. :)

Me too. I like the hair and make-up, but, I am just as comfortable without them. I wear the clothes that I want and in turn I can be who I want. LP

[sissystephanie]

I have been going out dressed enfemme, but looking like the male that I am for over 7 years now. My dear wife died a little over 7 years and she had always done my makeup and fixed my wig so I could really look like Stephanie. When she died, I just decided to keep dressing but I would forget the wig and makeup. Had a few comments, but have never had a problem! Of course, you do have to remember to use the mens restroom! BTW, I have been asked many times where I bought a particular skirt, dress, or top! By both men and women!!

[Rachel Morley]

I often dress in girls' clothes but otherwise present as a huy, what I call my "girly-boy mode" ... but ... I don't do it to the extent you do. I wouldn't wear high heeled thigh-high boots and a pink blouse. I tend to wear things like girls' jeans, tees, and girly hoodies with pink and white tennis shoes. It's not to "in your face girly" but it is feminine for a guy. What you're doing is (IMHO) taking to the next level. If I was younger and prettier I'd probably do that too.

[Lady Catherine]

One of my favorite outfits over the last couple of months has become a black skirt with a concert t-shirt and heels with bare legs. That's it. what mode is that?

[LaraPeterson]

I admire all of you, but I don't have that sort of courage nor desire. When I'm en femme, I'm en femme, not femboy. That's probably a copout, but that's just me. I can't imagine putting on any of my girl stuff and not putting on my hair and makeup.

[vikki2020]

Yes! My last few times out have been in a more "relaxed" style-- no wig, just a bit of lipstick,and powder. My hair is getting longer--shoulder length now--and that seems to be working. I do put on a quick outfit--and I'm out the door. It does increase the opportunities to get out!

[noeleena]

Hi,

Yes because im a woman who's different it wont make much difference what i wear,

Most days ill have my skirt tee top sandles or sneakers or black shoes all low heel. a over jacket with out sleves & head wear or sun hat yes its summer, lippy eyebrow liner, shoulder come backpack bag, earings & neckless, or like my avatra,

I dont try & pass or be other than i am. my body shape is as a normal female. i look at it this way my facial features are male so what, no one cares anyway's, most know im a woman & new people soon accept im a woman,

The other thing is im a member of many groups with a membership of over 1000 people, people have seen myself for long enough now it does not matter,

...noeleena...

[Beverley Sims]

I dress androgynous but not as extreme enough for people to comment.

[Kathy4ever]

I dress like that all the the time (except for the high heels). I much prefer the whole nine yards but do enjoy the skinny jeans or yoga pants and nice cami and hooded sweater as well.

[annecwesley]

I've tried it a couple times - skirt, pantyhose, heels, woman's blouse. I just could not get real comfortable with myself. Sales clerks and others around me just seemed to be trying not to stare or ask or pay notice. I caught one clerk in a restaurant sneaking a picture of me.

I have often gone out in man-in-a-skirt mode: long black denim or plaid (kilt-like) skirt, hiking boots and high socks concealing my nyloned legs, male atire from the neck up. I get a very different response I feel more comfortable with.

[Rachel Lea]

Personally, I would love to feel comfortable putting on a dress with pantyhose or a shirt with tights and then just go on about my business, of course with the appropriate foot wear. But I suspect the pantyhose and/or tights put us over the "edge" where we will be getting comments and looks or stares.

[Angela Campbell]

I really do not want to be "in between". If I want to look like a lady I try to remove as many of the man clues as I can and look like a lady, and when I am a man I want to look as much like a man as my body changes allow me to. Of course shaving all over, trimmed eyebrows and waist training make that more of a challenge.

[Jana]

not have to worry about all the makeup and shaving and wig and etc...

Worry????? To me doing makeup and composing the whole fem look is where the fun is! Hence, I only wear women's clothes when en femme.

[linny_aggy]

wow..thats pretty bold..i mean u wudn't u be asking for trouble ??..unless u have that verrry feminine look !!

[michelleky53]

I was out Friday, wearing a red turtleneck, black skirt, tan pantyhose, women's loafers. Shopped at 2 outlet malls, and Riverate Mall in Nashville. No make-up, forms, or wig. Just a scarf to cover my bald head, and some lipstick. No problems, got a lot of looks, and one whistle. SA's were helpful, got comments about how warm the hat i bought would be, and how much the SA liked the hose for herself. I am 6'5" and would never be mistaken for anything other than a guy in a skirt, but I enjoyed the time out in public.

[Brenn]

I was out Friday, wearing a red turtleneck, black skirt, tan pantyhose, women's loafers. Shopped at 2 outlet malls, and Riverate Mall in Nashville. No make-up, forms, or wig. Just a scarf to cover my bald head, and some lipstick. No problems, got a lot of looks, and one whistle. SA's were helpful, got comments about how warm the hat i bought would be, and how much the SA liked the hose for herself. I am 6'5" and would never be mistaken for anything other than a guy in a skirt, but I enjoyed the time out in public.

That is pretty awesome and daring. The most daring I have been is wearing women's shorts, tee, pantyhose and mary jane flats. I wear this combo fairly often and only get an occasional look. It is fun though to be just a bit outside the norm. Once, in a Gap store I was dressed this way and one of the sales girls talked me into trying on several dresses and skirts and modelling them in the store. I ended up only buying a pair of capris.

[LauraFaye]

I often dress a little androgynous and wish I had the nerve to go further. I do wear some women's shoes that can pass for men's bit would wear love to wear so many others. Maybe one day.

[litangel]

This thread is super encouraging for me! I define myself as genderfluid, and recently came all the way out. I wear pretty femme outfits to most social gatherings, and I wear more mixed outfits just around socially. I used to count how many feminine cues I was giving off, and do just enough to look avant garde, but not seem weird. Now dressing as I want I feel free. I never worry about passing, but I do want to look attractive, to wear things that fit together.
Several people in this thread mentioned not wanting to be stared at, or have comments. I went through these feeling when I was deciding to come out. I realized that being different can be good, and not every person who stares is judging us, they may be curious, or looking in admiration.

[Jamie001]

Personally, I would love to feel comfortable putting on a dress with pantyhose or a shirt with tights and then just go on about my business, of course with the appropriate foot wear. But I suspect the pantyhose and/or tights put us over the "edge" where we will be getting comments and looks or stares.

Just like women used to get comments and stares when they first starting wearing pants many years ago. Do we have as much courage as these women had many years ago?

[Jamie001]

wow..thats pretty bold..i mean u wudn't u be asking for trouble ??..unless u have that verrry feminine look !!

Why would you be asking for trouble? Women wear men's clothing all of the time.

[Jamie001]

I often dress a little androgynous and wish I had the nerve to go further. I do wear some women's shoes that can pass for men's bit would wear love to wear so many others. Maybe one day.


Why not just wear the women's shoes that you really want to wear? It doesn't matter that everyone will notice that they are women's shoes. After all, women wear men's shoes all of the time. I have seen women in the men's shoe department shopping for themselves many times.

[DW]

I too have been out dressed femme, but obviously male. Often wear women's workout wear and a small purse while shopping. The world would be a better place if everyone could just relax and be themselves.

[joan47]

I guess I am part femboy, plus cross dresser. I love going out in leggings, tall boots and girls sweater. Of course, I always have my long arylic nails, pierced ears and thin arched eyebrows.. My goal was to start carrying a small purse this year, and now I carry a purse an don't think twice about it.
I use a little make-up too, and also wear jeggings, skinny jeans and bootcuts.

[winny]

I dress this way all the time. Girl jeans, womens sandals or heels, finger and toe nail polish, lipstick... I'm not trying to pass as female, but i just love wearing the clothes. Passing for me is only reserved for special occassions..

[JamieRog]

I am actually more confident going out like that than in full girl mode! My fav way to go (for winter/cool weather, is in some nice figure flattering jeans, flats, and a sweater. And I don't have long hair but I think putting it in something like a fauxhawk is kind of neat. If my eyebrows are newly waxed and I am closely shaved it can lead to people struggling to find the correct pronoun!

[Michaella]

I have done this and have enjoyed it. Recently I spent a day in NYC with a friend, went to a play, out to dinner, browsed in a book store, rode the Staten Island ferry, and I wore a skirt the whole time. It was very comfortable, in every sense, and no one made any remarks.

When in male mode I will usually wear earrings, sometimes a nice blouse as opposed to an ordinary shirt, sometimes high heel boots, nail polish, and so on. It's never been a problem. But not too much at one time. Going out in full femme mode and presenting as a woman allows one to be fully feminine without causing a problem.

Michaella

[jjjjohanne]

I have no interest in being a girl. I just love the clothes. I never try to pass. Normally, when I go out these days, I am wearing a skirt, blouse, pantyhose, ladies' flats or heels. People treat me well. I have been told by one clerk that she preferred that I came in presenting male. I think she did not respect the "pretending" that men who present female are doing. I tried to explain to her that I just like the clothes, but many CDs like being a woman instead. I have posted most of my experiences on this site, so you can see my previous posts.