Lisa Maren
12-02-2005, 03:33 PM
Hi everyone
I had been struggling with trying to figure out if my femininity is a part of me or just something I'm playing at that is impermanent. I thought about what criteria I use when I say that playing music is part of who I am or loving certain movies is part of who I am. The criteria I came up were that those are things that I love, which make me smile, which I come back to and enjoy again and again, and which touch my soul in wonderful ways. By those criteria my femininity and my crossdressing are definitely a part of me. Yet, that wasn't enough to quell my doubts.
However, now I've figured out something that absolutely smashes any remaining doubt to smithereens! I was thinking about how complicated my femininity seems to be and how I can never quite figure it all out. I realized I'd had similar thoughts about the Bible way back when but eventually realized that the point isn't to figure it out because then the answer would serve only one person. (Perhaps more to the point, everyone would come up with a different answer). Instead it's something to be interpreted. The idea is to look around and see where you find meaning. When you do, that is your soul talking to you (and/or God lol). Anyway, I thought maybe femininity works much the same way. If there was only one definition of it then only girl would truly have any fun being feminine. It must be something to be interpreted according to where you find meaning (rather like an artwork or a piece of music).
Then I had a major Eureka! moment. I realized that I had found a crystal clear answer (at least for me) to the question of whether my femininity and crossdressing are an integral part of me. The answer is a resounding yes! Why? Because I find meaning in it! Surely the best definition of who you are is all about where and in what you find meaning! The purest connection to the soul lies in realizing that you've found meaning in something. Well, I find tremendous meaning in exploring my femininity both internally and externally. Therefore, femininity and crossdressing are unquestionably an integral part of me! As for any lingering doubt all I can say is, "Buh-bye!"
Now, if I could just figure out what gender I am, I would be sitting even more pretty than I am right now in my skirt and pantyhose! :)
Christian
I had been struggling with trying to figure out if my femininity is a part of me or just something I'm playing at that is impermanent. I thought about what criteria I use when I say that playing music is part of who I am or loving certain movies is part of who I am. The criteria I came up were that those are things that I love, which make me smile, which I come back to and enjoy again and again, and which touch my soul in wonderful ways. By those criteria my femininity and my crossdressing are definitely a part of me. Yet, that wasn't enough to quell my doubts.
However, now I've figured out something that absolutely smashes any remaining doubt to smithereens! I was thinking about how complicated my femininity seems to be and how I can never quite figure it all out. I realized I'd had similar thoughts about the Bible way back when but eventually realized that the point isn't to figure it out because then the answer would serve only one person. (Perhaps more to the point, everyone would come up with a different answer). Instead it's something to be interpreted. The idea is to look around and see where you find meaning. When you do, that is your soul talking to you (and/or God lol). Anyway, I thought maybe femininity works much the same way. If there was only one definition of it then only girl would truly have any fun being feminine. It must be something to be interpreted according to where you find meaning (rather like an artwork or a piece of music).
Then I had a major Eureka! moment. I realized that I had found a crystal clear answer (at least for me) to the question of whether my femininity and crossdressing are an integral part of me. The answer is a resounding yes! Why? Because I find meaning in it! Surely the best definition of who you are is all about where and in what you find meaning! The purest connection to the soul lies in realizing that you've found meaning in something. Well, I find tremendous meaning in exploring my femininity both internally and externally. Therefore, femininity and crossdressing are unquestionably an integral part of me! As for any lingering doubt all I can say is, "Buh-bye!"
Now, if I could just figure out what gender I am, I would be sitting even more pretty than I am right now in my skirt and pantyhose! :)
Christian