Gave up dressing four years ago

[Fiorano Ferrari]

Hi. I gave up dressing about 4 years ago after going through thinking i was a transexual. having thought it was a closed phase of my life the desire just to dress has returned, since giving up last time i have found myself a wife, how can i assure her it wont go any further this time than just limited dressing???

[Nikki Dee]

Hi. Hun...In truth...you can't. You know how powerful this thing is.!!..just do the best you can and think of her as much as you can.!!
Love Nikki. x

[jayne-T]

You cant assure her cause you dont even know yourself how far you will go

[Julia Cross]

You can only assure once you have come to understand what you are feeling yourself. Have you tired counselling? It takes time to understand it and accept and then and only then can you hope to make a guarantee that you know where it will take you and where it will not.

Julia

[kathy gg]

HI, I noticed this was your first post, so first off welcome to the list. I am an SO of a cd....

Well there are several things you have not told us and that big one being did she know that you once felt like a transexual? And if so what was her reaction, one of disgust or just confusion? DId you make any promises like you NEVER would crossdress again?

I think we need to know more about some particulars before giving any solid advice.

Also, did you really believe in your heart of hearts that when you stopped that really was the end? And if so, what measures did you take to get from thinking you were a transexual to going the other end of the spectrum completely to no dressing or expressing your nature at all?

And lastly, can you assure yourself at this time that you strickly are nothing more than a part time crossdresser? Because frankly if you are unsure or are starting to question who you are at your core, then how can you reassure anyone else that you are being honest?

Look forward to more information




Hi. I gave up dressing about 4 years ago after going through thinking i was a transexual. having thought it was a closed phase of my life the desire just to dress has returned, since giving up last time i have found myself a wife, how can i assure her it wont go any further this time than just limited dressing???

[Fiorano Ferrari]

from the start then. i married my first wife in 1994, she was aware before we were married but it all went wrong when the dressing became more frequent.
i then found some lodgings and told the landlady i was a tv. after 15 months and help and advice from her we got married. that lasted for 18 months when i chose to follow the ts feeling i had. they lasted for about 18 months with numerous visits to charing cross hospital for meetings with specialists in that field. i then felt it was not the right road to go down and stopped hormone therapy and dressing in April 2001. i gave all things related to my feminine life to charity shops and saw how it had destroyed two marriages. i remarried in 2004. my present wife knew about my past within one week of meeting. i said that i had no plans to start dressing again. i have now found myself with very high stress levels and low tolerance and a strong desire to dress. i am now trying to find help with this unfortunate situation

[Rikki]

Fiorano, Does your wife know that you are having feelings to dress again? Can you set down and talk with her about the dressing? I believe that if you was to set down and talk to her about it, seeings she knows about the before dressing, she would be able to help you along. Don't promise anything to her, you already know that you can't stop it, but with her support, you can both enjoy it to the fullest. Good luck hun.


Rikki

[Melissacd63]

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hi im anna louise iv crossdressd all my life it just ceeps getin better by the day iv tried to stop but i cant see eney reson to deprive my fellins ove this wonderfull plesure. it cases 2 much pain an hatred thers a world full ove pepel out ther with pain and sufferin we are the luky ones in the world at lest or crossdressin all we have to wery about not lick 3rd world thay wory about sevivin the next houre the next meel we have got an esy and wonder full time its up to each person to make ther own minds up crossdressin is non harmfull only to them who choss to be ignorent ther only clothes are you scerd of enjoyin a new wonerfull tomorow

Dear Anna Louis,
As English is my second language, reading your text I was wondering why are you writing this almost phonetic kind of English. Just curious not meant as criticism.

Regards,

Melissa

[Kaitlyn Michele]

fiorano

good luck to you!...you are simply showing all the signs of being a crossdresser...you will always have the desire to dress and it will come and go as IT pleases...your stress levels and other activities including sex will impact it as well..

we all go through it...

ihope your relationship works out

[Dayna]

Fiorano,

I note that you are new to this forum; if you are like me (or many of the other ladies here) you will discover that spending time here and sharing your thoughts is going to make you want to dress more than you have in the last four years.

It's like a fine wine--enjoy it, but only you will know when to say 'when'!

[gender_blender]

Hi. I gave up dressing about 4 years ago after going through thinking i was a transexual. having thought it was a closed phase of my life the desire just to dress has returned, since giving up last time i have found myself a wife, how can i assure her it wont go any further this time than just limited dressing???

You have to be transsexual to 'dress'?!?
Damn, I guess I have to run around naked now.
Just do what you feel is right.

Charlie