SarahMarie42
01-12-2013, 07:51 PM
After long struggling with the validity of my transgender (in the sense which includes the entire spectrum of transgender behavior) inclinations, and battling obsessive/compulsive worry over the subject, I have finally come to a calm acceptance of my cross-dressing and its meaning, and overcome the many issues which had previously plagued me so greatly.
I'd almost forgotten that I'd even established an account on this site/form/network, and, upon stumbling across a reminder, I thought I'd share my progress with you, and reveal what I've learned, though it is presumably obvious to any sane cd/tv/tg, in hopes that it may bring you some peace as well.
I've learned:
1. The acceptance of others, particularly insofar as your "gender-deviant" behaviors are concerned, is unimportant -- all that is important is that you accomplish whatever goals you have set for yourself in regard to those behaviors.
2. If you dislike something about your appearance, whether in your presentation as the opposite gender or as the gender which has been assigned to you socially due to your external biological qualities -- either reevaluate its importance or make some attempt to change it. Weight loss, in particular, is not a difficult goal to accomplish if you do not exaggerate its importance and merely treat it as a journey or process. Accept and take pride in yourself and your efforts as you move toward whatever you may want to accomplish
3. When attempting to achieve a feminine aesthetic, do NOT continually compare yourself to others -- you may make the mistake of assuming that all of your features must land at or approach the "mean/average" of the set of all possible feminine variations. If you accept your presentation as feminine, and behave in whatever manner you feel is proper, the rest shall fall into place for you.
Pretty simple stuff, I know, but it took my "monkey mind" a decent amount of time to fully internalize it.
I'm glad to be back, and I'll probably still float around from time to time.
I'd almost forgotten that I'd even established an account on this site/form/network, and, upon stumbling across a reminder, I thought I'd share my progress with you, and reveal what I've learned, though it is presumably obvious to any sane cd/tv/tg, in hopes that it may bring you some peace as well.
I've learned:
1. The acceptance of others, particularly insofar as your "gender-deviant" behaviors are concerned, is unimportant -- all that is important is that you accomplish whatever goals you have set for yourself in regard to those behaviors.
2. If you dislike something about your appearance, whether in your presentation as the opposite gender or as the gender which has been assigned to you socially due to your external biological qualities -- either reevaluate its importance or make some attempt to change it. Weight loss, in particular, is not a difficult goal to accomplish if you do not exaggerate its importance and merely treat it as a journey or process. Accept and take pride in yourself and your efforts as you move toward whatever you may want to accomplish
3. When attempting to achieve a feminine aesthetic, do NOT continually compare yourself to others -- you may make the mistake of assuming that all of your features must land at or approach the "mean/average" of the set of all possible feminine variations. If you accept your presentation as feminine, and behave in whatever manner you feel is proper, the rest shall fall into place for you.
Pretty simple stuff, I know, but it took my "monkey mind" a decent amount of time to fully internalize it.
I'm glad to be back, and I'll probably still float around from time to time.