Frédérique
01-15-2013, 05:35 PM
"Pride is the recognition of the fact that you are your own highest value and, like all of man’s values, it has to be earned." (Ayn Rand)
Man’s values? What if I don’t wish to bother “earning” that pride? :idontknow:
The people that you know and love – are they proud that you’re a crossdresser? I guess not, based on what I read from day to day in this section! You’re an individual, a non-conformist, a pioneer of sorts, an intrepid explorer, a gender-bender, a maverick, and the genuine article, but nobody seems to be proud to be associated with such an interesting person. Why is that?
Of course, as soon as you die (pardon me...pass away), you will be lauded for living your life according to your own precepts, blazing your own trail, defying convention, and being ORIGINAL, but right now you’re a deviant, a pervert, and someone not worth associating with. All this makes me wonder if PRIDE is not all it’s cracked up to be. I assume that if you give up your (MtF) crossdressing someday, and ritualistically burn your femme regalia in the backyard, i.e. purge everything, including your precious girly identity, you may hear someone say, “I’m PROUD of you!” forthwith. Do you actually want to hear this? Does it matter?
I guess people want to be proud of you, for one reason or another, so they try to influence your life now and then, or all the time. I assume that parents want the best for their children (in most cases), and make sure that their offspring get off to a good start, with the desired outcome being a kid they can truly be proud of, and they then can bask in the glow of it all. The emergence of crossdressing, a selfish enterprise to the unenlightened, must come as a shock, since it throws a monkey wrench into much-desired pride. How can someone be proud of a MtF crossdresser in their family? I’m sure it happens, but more often than not there will be a lot of misunderstanding and consternation – much gnashing of teeth and (perhaps) even a few howls of revulsion. Meanwhile, the boy must do what he has to do, appearing selfish in the extreme, and the entire family, an emotional house of cards built on pride, is highly disturbed...
When you’re proud you’re full of pride, and this USED to be a deadly sin. Nowadays, pride is an accepted, good thing, trotted out on all occasions by conformists to feel good about themselves, or superior to lesser beings. Personally, I can’t stand the word. It doesn’t sound right, or it makes the wrong connections in my perverted mind. PROUD sounds like an exclamation of superiority, the exact opposite of humble, and yet people will accept being humble now and then if they can keep their pride as well. If I say to someone, “Pride is a sin,” they will usually reply, “Well, I’m proud of my children!” and we're back to square one. This is an impenetrable barrier based on insecurity, and the MtF crossdresser will have to challenge the very nature of pride in a highly personal way...
Obviously, the crossdresser wants to feel pride from what he (she) does – you can make yourself feel good, while others are patently miserable, and you can either feel proud, like everyone else, or you can crucify pride and feel humbled through your deviant actions. If you look at the big picture, I don’t think pride is worth a plugged nickel, and yet it propels society, maintains barriers between one type of person and another, and it creates many, if not all, of the problems in the world. This is why pride, or being proud, was considered to be a sin way back when, but there’s been a lot of negotiation going on ever since Adam and Eve were expulsed from The Garden of Eden. It used to be that pride indicated an excessive love of self (sound familiar?), or a desire to be more attractive or important than others. The antonym of pride is humility, and the latter is something I actively strive for – wearing the “wrong” clothes certainly helps, since my “man values” shrink away, but as soon as I crossdress I am implored to feel PRIDE, according to the LGBT community...
Recently I read that PRIDE is something gay people have. A cute definition, to be sure. Since I’m a crossdresser, and allegedly TG, I’m expected to be proud about my search for humility! It doesn’t make any sense, which is probably why everyone in my family, as well as everyone in society, will breathe a huge sigh of relief when (if) I turn my back on crossdressing. Something MUST be wrong with me, and nobody will be proud of me unless I “fight back” against my so-called affliction. It ain’t gonna happen, so I guess nobody will ever be proud of me. That’s OK – I’m not at all comfortable with the word PROUD, never have been, and I never will be. It sounds like someone is standing over me, like a bully, and they are either going to raise me up (and subsequently lower me to their level), or they will impose their pride upon me in an obviously physical manner. I’m certainly not proud that I’m a crossdresser, or a societal deviant, but I am happy to be one, and happy to be unlike others. In my way of thinking, I had nothing to do with it (my genetic makeup, I mean), so there’s nothing to be proud of. If pride goeth before a fall, I’d rather fall and not lose anything, capiche?
If I ever met a boy who had an alleged “problem” with MtF crossdressing, I would be tempted to whisper in his ear, “I’m proud of you...” but I wouldn’t. I dislike pride. Better to leave the kid alone, to his own devices, and not interfere in any way. He’ll figure it out. Crossdressing can be a heavy load to bear for some people. Which reminds me - in Dante's Divine Comedy, the pride penitents were forced to walk with stone slabs bearing down on their backs to induce feelings of humility. By contrast, MtF crossdressing creates a transformative sense of lightness, and humility is created as a by-product, just so long as you’re not PROUD about it. I mean, who cares?
Humbly yours, Freddy
FYI, I used to live near Boston, MA, and the ubiquitous presence of a certain pro basketball team forever turned me off to the word PRIDE…:doh:
Are you proud of your crossdressing? Do you care if others are proud of you (or not)? :thinking:
Man’s values? What if I don’t wish to bother “earning” that pride? :idontknow:
The people that you know and love – are they proud that you’re a crossdresser? I guess not, based on what I read from day to day in this section! You’re an individual, a non-conformist, a pioneer of sorts, an intrepid explorer, a gender-bender, a maverick, and the genuine article, but nobody seems to be proud to be associated with such an interesting person. Why is that?
Of course, as soon as you die (pardon me...pass away), you will be lauded for living your life according to your own precepts, blazing your own trail, defying convention, and being ORIGINAL, but right now you’re a deviant, a pervert, and someone not worth associating with. All this makes me wonder if PRIDE is not all it’s cracked up to be. I assume that if you give up your (MtF) crossdressing someday, and ritualistically burn your femme regalia in the backyard, i.e. purge everything, including your precious girly identity, you may hear someone say, “I’m PROUD of you!” forthwith. Do you actually want to hear this? Does it matter?
I guess people want to be proud of you, for one reason or another, so they try to influence your life now and then, or all the time. I assume that parents want the best for their children (in most cases), and make sure that their offspring get off to a good start, with the desired outcome being a kid they can truly be proud of, and they then can bask in the glow of it all. The emergence of crossdressing, a selfish enterprise to the unenlightened, must come as a shock, since it throws a monkey wrench into much-desired pride. How can someone be proud of a MtF crossdresser in their family? I’m sure it happens, but more often than not there will be a lot of misunderstanding and consternation – much gnashing of teeth and (perhaps) even a few howls of revulsion. Meanwhile, the boy must do what he has to do, appearing selfish in the extreme, and the entire family, an emotional house of cards built on pride, is highly disturbed...
When you’re proud you’re full of pride, and this USED to be a deadly sin. Nowadays, pride is an accepted, good thing, trotted out on all occasions by conformists to feel good about themselves, or superior to lesser beings. Personally, I can’t stand the word. It doesn’t sound right, or it makes the wrong connections in my perverted mind. PROUD sounds like an exclamation of superiority, the exact opposite of humble, and yet people will accept being humble now and then if they can keep their pride as well. If I say to someone, “Pride is a sin,” they will usually reply, “Well, I’m proud of my children!” and we're back to square one. This is an impenetrable barrier based on insecurity, and the MtF crossdresser will have to challenge the very nature of pride in a highly personal way...
Obviously, the crossdresser wants to feel pride from what he (she) does – you can make yourself feel good, while others are patently miserable, and you can either feel proud, like everyone else, or you can crucify pride and feel humbled through your deviant actions. If you look at the big picture, I don’t think pride is worth a plugged nickel, and yet it propels society, maintains barriers between one type of person and another, and it creates many, if not all, of the problems in the world. This is why pride, or being proud, was considered to be a sin way back when, but there’s been a lot of negotiation going on ever since Adam and Eve were expulsed from The Garden of Eden. It used to be that pride indicated an excessive love of self (sound familiar?), or a desire to be more attractive or important than others. The antonym of pride is humility, and the latter is something I actively strive for – wearing the “wrong” clothes certainly helps, since my “man values” shrink away, but as soon as I crossdress I am implored to feel PRIDE, according to the LGBT community...
Recently I read that PRIDE is something gay people have. A cute definition, to be sure. Since I’m a crossdresser, and allegedly TG, I’m expected to be proud about my search for humility! It doesn’t make any sense, which is probably why everyone in my family, as well as everyone in society, will breathe a huge sigh of relief when (if) I turn my back on crossdressing. Something MUST be wrong with me, and nobody will be proud of me unless I “fight back” against my so-called affliction. It ain’t gonna happen, so I guess nobody will ever be proud of me. That’s OK – I’m not at all comfortable with the word PROUD, never have been, and I never will be. It sounds like someone is standing over me, like a bully, and they are either going to raise me up (and subsequently lower me to their level), or they will impose their pride upon me in an obviously physical manner. I’m certainly not proud that I’m a crossdresser, or a societal deviant, but I am happy to be one, and happy to be unlike others. In my way of thinking, I had nothing to do with it (my genetic makeup, I mean), so there’s nothing to be proud of. If pride goeth before a fall, I’d rather fall and not lose anything, capiche?
If I ever met a boy who had an alleged “problem” with MtF crossdressing, I would be tempted to whisper in his ear, “I’m proud of you...” but I wouldn’t. I dislike pride. Better to leave the kid alone, to his own devices, and not interfere in any way. He’ll figure it out. Crossdressing can be a heavy load to bear for some people. Which reminds me - in Dante's Divine Comedy, the pride penitents were forced to walk with stone slabs bearing down on their backs to induce feelings of humility. By contrast, MtF crossdressing creates a transformative sense of lightness, and humility is created as a by-product, just so long as you’re not PROUD about it. I mean, who cares?
Humbly yours, Freddy
FYI, I used to live near Boston, MA, and the ubiquitous presence of a certain pro basketball team forever turned me off to the word PRIDE…:doh:
Are you proud of your crossdressing? Do you care if others are proud of you (or not)? :thinking: