Do you think you should have been born female?

[harley47]

I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

[darla_g]

Can't say i wish i was a genetic female. I like who i am and i like to CD. Wouldn't quite be the same any other way.

[whowhatwhen]

Without a doubt, and I had an understanding of that since I was little.
The question then becomes "What are you going to do about it?"

Life certainly would not have been any easier though, more correct perhaps.

[LIKETODRESS2]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female

[GroovyChristy]

Yes, I do. I believe I am female in mind and personality, but unfortunately not body. I want to be treated like a woman. All I can do about it is dress like one and hopefully become presentable. Eventually I may consider transition, but it's not possible right now.

[DebbieL]

I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

The key difference between a cross-dresser and a transsexual is that a cross-dresser only wants to appear female on a part time basis. The transsexual, if granted the magic wish of being able to live full time as a girl would gladly take that offer, even though she knew she could never be a man again.

Personally, as I share in my book, I was about 2 years old when I would make dresses out of vacuum cleaner bags, skirts out of towels, I wanted to be a girl even then. I wanted to be pretty even then. I hated getting haircuts, because I thought all I had to do to be treated like a girl was grow my hair long.

Like many transsexuals, I hung out with girls until I was about 6 years old, when it became a bad thing, and after than, when someone called me a "Sissy" it usually came with severe physical violence. The term "Sticks and Stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me" had obviously never been a Sissy - being called a Sissy told everybody where to throw the stones and who to hit with the sticks - sticks that were usually about 2 inches in diameter - like softball bats, baseball bats - or tree branches of similar size.

I went into "Stealth mode" learning to hide my true identity so well that I eventually began to believe my own lies. However, when I started puberty, I hated turning male so much that I tried to commit suicide - about 200 times. Somehow I survived despite my best efforts. I enjoyed giving other women pleasure, but didn't respond to their initiatives. I couldn't have an orgasm with a woman until I was 21, and even then she had to tie me to a bed and wear an outfit that I wanted to wear. When she found out that I was a dresser, she dropped me like a hot potato. Left a note on my car.

It took 2 years to work up the nerve to try sex again, this time with a tom-boy who liked to dress and act more like a boy than a girl. I had hoped that she was transgendered and would accept me for being transgendered. She pretended to, but after about a year, she realized this wasn't just a "Phase" and lost all desire to have sex with me, and vice versa. We did it 2-3 times a year. In her words it was "So he'll remember what he isn't getting". When we did have sex it usually had a price far higher than I really wanted to pay. Having a baby, a brand new car, a daughter, moving to New York (where transgender rights were protected) to Colorado (where transgender parents could be declared dead to their children and ALL visitation rights revoked - but no reduction in child support). She even tried to rape me twice. Once I got over the panic, I ended up enjoying it, which she hated. She even had an affair, which I didn't try to stop, if it meant keeping her. Finally, she told me she was going to marry her boyfriend. I did make her wait a year - hoping she would change her mind.

After the divorce, I went to gender counseling, and began the process of transition. I was living 128 (168 hours/week - 40 hours at work) in Real Life Experience as a woman. I even found a bisexual woman who shared her lesbian lovers with me. I was ready to start hormones, when my wife showed me a letter from a social worker, addressed to a conservative judge - recommending supervised visitation because my visits were harming the kids. With supervised visitation, the supervisor would have found any excuse - ESPECIALLY hints of cross-dressing - to revoke visitation entirely - without reducing my child support.

The child support left me with no money for electrolysis, therapists, hormones, or surgeries anyway. I stopped the transition - moved away for what I had originally planned to be 6 months, and after I left, my ex-wife outed me to my son, threatened to put him in a foster home (her husband's sister) - and Colorado revoked all civil rights for the GLBT community. I talked to my kids on the phone.

If I had known in 1977, what I know now, I would have tried to get out of Colorado to NY or San Francisco and transitioned then.

Even as recently as 2 years ago, I would have told you I was a cross-dresser - even though I knew differently. However, if - any time between 1990 and today, I had won the lottery, one of the first things on my shopping list would have been the sex change.

[JadeEmber]

For me, no. One gets taken a lot more seriously as a male. I'm not really a physical person in terms of being highly grounded in or valuing physical things, so to be taken more credibly intellectually and artistically is something I wouldn't wish to lose. And one really does get taken less seriously as a woman on average. So, would I have achieved what I have achieved if I started there? Plus, there are other practicalities of life. I can wander around at night and not really feel threatened. People I'm involved with don't think they have a right to "own" me, at least not in the same sense. I can feel safer traveling solo in a foreign country. All things I've just casually observed.

Do you mean, however, what if I could be female and have none of the previous things be the case? Yeah, I would probably switch even if I could never switch back.

However, if no one cared whether one was a CD'er or had a trans medical history, and there were no stigma to that, than that would be okay as well, I think.

I'm okay with what I am in the meantime. I'm not physically dysphoric, which makes it easier. Perhaps in twenty years, technology will have transformed everything :)

[Robyn2006]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female

Goes for me too, every morning… with every breath.

[Ann Louise]

I wish I'd have been born female, as I've long realized I was different from my male peer group, but I don't carry this realization as a burden. My recent "outing" has freed me from a great deal of the guilt and need for secrecy that I used to feel, and my new found freedom to dress (at home only, for now) is leading me to the realization that my femininity is much more than just the clothes I wear.

My dressing is proving to be the key that has unlocked the feminine side of my heart. This forum is a major element in gaining the courage to turn that key. Thank you sisters for pointing the way. Elfin

[Girl]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female


Goes for me too, every morning… with every breath.

I absolutely agree! I wish I'd been born a girl. Every day, every morning and with every breath.

[cassexy]

well, i agree, i love being a female, love to be dressed as a female, i act feminine too. i am a total feminine

[Joanne f]

My first instinct is to say Yes as I think that I could have done all the things in life that I have done and still have been a female, but (always that but):heehee: then you have to think that I would not have my wife and children ( well I am assuming I would not ) so I don't really know what to say.

[JadeEmber]

My first instinct is to say Yes as I think that I could have done all the things in life that I have done and still have been a female, but (always that but):heehee: then you have to think that I would not have my wife and children ( well I am assuming I would not ) so I don't really know what to say.

Actually, this ultimately the real answer for me, not just about the question asked, but everything. We would all be different, and who knows who that different person would be?

[Joanne f]

Actually, this ultimately the real answer for me, not just about the question asked, but everything. We would all be different, and who knows who that different person would be?
Yes the more you think about it the more perplexing it gets as like you have said it would change everything , or you can assume it would , I believe that a female can done most things that a male can do so that would have not been a problem but then you have to think ,would I have wanted to do the same things so it changes every thing again , maybe I just think to much , thought you are meant to get senile in old age ( hey maybe I am that is why I am writing this ):D

[Emma Beth]

My gut response to this thread is hell yeah, without hesitation.

However, as the interesting turn of this thread sinks in; I'm not so sure. I can't help but be reminded of one of my favorite movies as a prime example of how life may be effected by this decision. Watching "Butterfly Effect" with Ashton Kutcher can be very thought provoking when you think about this question.

My biggest thing to add when contemplating something like this would be to ask one simple follow up question. That would be, "Would the grass always be greener on the other side of the fence?"

[AmyGaleRT]

Oh, I can't deny that I've wondered what it would have been like to have really been born as Amy. But wish I had been? I'm not so sure. For one thing, I have enjoyed a great deal of success in my career, doing something that I enjoy and am very good at. How much of my talent for what I do would have been altered by changing that XY to an XX? How much would it have been altered if I'd received the kind of socialization that a girl growing up in the 1970's and 1980's would have gotten? Would I really want to give that up? Would I have been happy doing something else? I've no way to know, and so any thought of wishing I'd been born female is tempered by the age-old caveat, "Be careful what you wish for...you might get it."

- Amy

[Annette Anderson]

Can't say i wish i was a genetic female. I like who i am and i like to CD. Wouldn't quite be the same any other way.

sums it up for me too

[Denise1951]

At first I thought, yes yes yes !!! My mother always wanted a girl. But would I have wanted to grow up as a female in the fifties and sixties. I don't think so. I then realized that I have the best of both worlds. AmyGailRT hit it right on the nose. In my field there were very few opportunities for women (at that time) Now; if I could be reborn here in 2013, I might think differently.

[Kelley]

I am very happy with who I am. I like things a little on the femme side but am mostly male.

[Maria S]

Part of me says yes and part says no. The obvious thing is being born female I would never have met my lovely wife. Also I think CDs appreciate feminine things more that GGs just take for granted.

Maria

[Mistybtm]

Yes I do wish I was born A female. I am finally on HRT but maybe waited to late to start ( 50 ) I have always fantasied what it would be like to be A genetic female. Will I go all the way at my age I doubt it but if i was in my 20D's again definitely would.

[LaraPeterson]

I was. . .just with the wrong plumbing that caused my early life conditioning to be skewed.

[VikkiDave]

Most definitely. My parents told me many times that I should have been born female when I was young.

[Cheryl T]

Yes, I think I should have been...yes, I wish I had been. But I'm not and wasn't so I deal with it and express who I am in various ways.
Unlike my TS sisters I don't feel that I was born in the wrong body, just would have preferred to be been in a different one.

[I Am Paula]

I've known since a very early age that something was seriously wrong. Me being male is proof that God has a sense of humor.-Celeste

[CassandraSmith]

Do you think you should have been born female?

Yes, I'm pretty much convinced of it after a lot of thought. My reasons are based on sound thinking too and not just a feeling.

[rah]

i think i am a girl in a boys body most of my family member also tell me i'm very feminine and i need to change(they don't know i CD). i m very shy(introvert) sometimes i feel paranoid i'm not strong actually very weak find hard to lift weights also. I've mood swings also i usually stay solitary i feel the weight of the world but i think if i was a female life could have been much easier at least i could have expressed my self to others

[Barbara_Jean]

Yes, every day I wish I had been Born a Girl! I grew up in the late 50's and early 60's and I wanted to be a girl. I got caught several times trying on my mothers dresses and she beat me for it. She also threatened me if she ever caught me doing it again. I thought there was something drastically wrong with me and I could not tell anyone how I felt.
I kept this inside me for decades, until I started using the Internet and found this site, as well as a few others to show me that I was not the only one in the whole world that felt this way, AND that people have felt like this for centuries!
It hurt me so much to suppress my feelings and to keep thinking that I am Crazy, something is Mentally Wrong with me. This actually caused my hair to start turning gray when I was in my 30’s! This is a Terrible thing to live with!
Like many people on this forum have said in this thread and many others, "If I were in my 20's and I knew then what I know now, I would transition and have SRS" But for me now, that is not possible, it is too late. My life would not allow it. I wish I could live full time as Barbara, but that is not possible either.
I am lucky in that I am not married, never have been. I have never had any luck with relationships, probably because of the Girl that lives inside of me.
Yes, I wish I had been born Female, every time I look in the mirror and hate what I see. I am very lucky now that I do have an older GG Friend that knows about Barbara and allows me to become her. She helps me with “Girl Lessons”!! Growing up male, we were never taught things like “Knees together, lips apart” and how to walk, sit, and act like a girl should. She has taken me shopping and helped me pick out clothes. I told her about a “TG Prom” that will be held in April, and she said I really need to go to this and meet other people like me. So at least I do have some release now, which does help. Maybe sometime in the near future things will change, but for now I will deal with this as best I can. I wish everyone who feels like I do, the best of luck always!
Barbara Jean

[wilt575]

I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

Yes very very much wish I had been born female, I'm afraid if there was a magic pill that would change me overnight I would overdose. But then I would no longer be a crossdresser, just the true female I'm emulating, which is fine being who I feel I am. That would make life much easier. As for surgery the only thing I have contemplated, or should I say contemplating are breast implants in near future.

[ruthie801]

Yes I know I should have been born a female, I'm the homemaker in many ways. I do all the cooking, housework and domestic work in the house. One day I was cooking my wife was sipping wine when she said to me "you look so happy, to bad you can't dress the part of June Cleaver housewife with a dress and a string of pearls" she was right.

[jennifer24]

Yes, I think I should have been born female! my inner self tells me that, just have to match that up with whats on the outside though.

[Beverley Sims]

Life may have been worse for me if I had been born female.
I am happy with the status quo.

[Diane Edwards]

Yes I know I should have been born a female, I'm the homemaker in many ways. I do all the cooking, housework and domestic work in the house. One day I was cooking my wife was sipping wine when she said to me "you look so happy, to bad you can't dress the part of June Cleaver housewife with a dress and a string of pearls" she was right.

Ruthie, I am much like you. I am the homemaker and always have been. And like some of the others here my mother also thought I was supposed to be born female. And given the choice, I would prefer to have been born female.

[Sharon B.]

Yes, Should have born female it would make things a lot easier, at the very least if a woman wants to dress as a male it is called fashion. A female cans always be a tom-boy and male dresses as a girl and they are called every name in the book that is derogatory.

[Lady Catherine]

Born female? No. I DO wish I could dress the way I wanted without all the negative crap.

[Jane G]

When I was younger, I used to dream every night about waking up as a girl. :daydreaming: After I left the navy, aged 29, I took hormones for a short time. Then I realised that my wife and kids meant more to me than anything else, so in my 30's I finally came to accept my 6ft 4, frame and size 13 feet. :eek:

Now aged 50+ I’m sat here in the closet, happy that I've made the right choices in life. Two kids making a success of their own lives and a loving wife, who finally accepted me as Jane, three years ago, after 28 years of marriage.

Clearly our lives would have been very different if I'd been born a genetic female. We would have been spared a lot of the difficult challenges, we have had to overcome together over the years. But isn't it the challenges that make life worthwhile and bond relationships. :cheers:

[GroovyChristy]

rah
i think i am a girl in a boys body most of my family member also tell me i'm very feminine and i need to change(they don't know i CD). i m very shy(introvert) sometimes i feel paranoid i'm not strong actually very weak find hard to lift weights also. I've mood swings also i usually stay solitary i feel the weight of the world but i think if i was a female life could have been much easier at least i could have expressed my self to others

Rah, we are kindred spirits. By the way you describe yourself, I am just like you. You're not alone, girl.

[sometimes_miss]

I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

Life isn't easier or harder for either sex; it's just different. Being female brings on a whole set of new problems instead of the ones a man has, not to mention the constant bathroom issue E V E RY S I N G L E T I M E; I tried doing a week of pulling everything off and sitting and it's really, really inconvenient, it would be made worse if I had to constantly adjust all the clothes too, not to mention having to make sure the seat is clean, or just 'hover' as the girls do when they have to go when out at a club, while holding their purse in their teeth because there's no place safe to put it.

As someone who is stuck with always feeling like I'm supposed to be female, sure it would be better to have lived as one, it would have at least removed this crossdressing problem that virtually guarantees I'm never going to have a normal romantic relationship. But at this point in my life, changing my physical sex just to make that part of my life congruent, isn't going to make things any better; there aren't any women interested in MTF transsexuals, either.

[Eryn]

I don't know if I would wish that. I feel somewhat estranged from the male world despite doing a fair job of filling a role in it. I'm just not all that comfortable with the aggressive behaviors that are needed for success in male social situations. I wonder, though, if I would feel equally estranged in the female world if I were a genetic female. In that situation I might be just as deficient in my ability to fit in as I am in male world.

I think that we all subscribe to a fair amount of "grass is greener" syndrome. :)

[Angela Campbell]

I should have been born female, I still want to be female, inside I am female, so.......hmmmmm let me think about it.....the answer is yes.

[Nathalie Antoinette]

Over the years, I thought about this many times and wondered why I was born male. It seems life would have been easier in many ways if I had been born female. Of course, I realise that women have a different set of challenges in life. But, I spent most of my life working hard to be a man. I was 43 and the father of four before I was able to leave my marriage and embrace my sexuality as a gay man. I don't think at this point in my life (58 now), I can see a pathway to transitioning to female. Nor do I think I really want that now. But, I am finally giving myself the freedom to explore my feminine side in a new way with crossdressing. Who knows what this will lead to or what place it will have in my life down the road. But, I'm just going to enjoy it now...live in the present.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Born female? No. I DO wish I could dress the way I wanted without all the negative crap.

I feel the same as Catherine

[Jana]

To answer in one word: yes!

[Kate Simmons]

If I had been F.A.B. I most likely would not be here on the Forum right now. I would have been too busy being a family matriarch because I care deeply for them.:)

[AnitaH]

I would give everything to have been born female. Some might be right about the grass appearing greener on the other side. Nevertheless I would still give everything to have been born female. My accepting wife will make a comment from time to time about some aspect of female life and say something about it's not pleasant. I understand all that, I understand that males still enjoy some dominance in the world and maybe safer, nevertheless still I would give everything to have been born and lived as a woman. Now late in my life as I realize this I'm seeing a gender therapist with the goal of transitioning in the near future and yes it just may cost me everything. I guess this all takes me out of the realm of being a crossdresser though.

AnitaH

[Kari B]

LOL, I was out earlier in the day and my daughter asked me if I ever wished I was a girl. I asked her where the question came from and she said it was a random question that just popped into her head.

Some days I wish I were. Women have the best clothes.

:D

[LisaSue]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female

Me too Liketodress.

[Josie M]

Often think I would have been more "comfortable in my skin" if I were born female...

[NeKoi]

Although I don't contemplate on going for transition, I'd wish I was born female. From young, I guess much of me wanted to be one pretty much even thou it was "well concealed". However, now I'm more or less accustomed to the life I'm dealt with, and trying to get by, making the most of what I can.

But I dun think life would be pretty much different if I was born that way. Because everything would have been like it'd be so natural, growing up as a GG.

[Brittany CD]

Nope, not in the slightest

[NathalieX66]

I don't care what gender I was born in, as long as I can go out and wear a dress.

[Marleena]

Yes Harley I should've been born a female being the way I am now. I just wonder if that had happened would I wish I had rather been born a male?

[Jenniferathome]

Not for a second. I love all my male parts. To me cross dressing is not "becoming" a woman it is expressing a part of my self that is different.

[Kelly Greene]

I came to the conclusion that i should have been a girl in my teens. Now I am 50 and I may be to old for HRT to do anything for me and my wife may not be able to deal with me altering my body. She does accept cding but me with a feminine figure may be too much.

[Ressie]

The thought has occurred to me a few times throughout my life, but I've never come to that conclusion. I think maybe I've already been a female in a previous life, and it's quite likely that I'll be a GG in another carnation. ... we tend to want what we can't have.

[AltairaMorbius]

If given the choice I would rather have been born a girl.

Cheers,
Amy

[rocval2001]

I agree with most here - that I wish I was born a female. I never had felt like I fit in the male world. Feel like I am always on the outside looking in. When I get a chance to wear female
clothing - feels so natural.

Love ya all

Valerie

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Harley, If I had been born a female I would probably be a FtoM Crossdresser .

[Michaella]

I often think I would have preferred to have been born female, but I've never felt, as I have heard some express it, that I was "born in the wrong body," that somehow I really am a woman.

Having said that, of course I have no real idea what living my life to this point as a woman would have been like. Maybe I would not have liked it and I am only thinking of that greener grass over the fence. There's no way of telling. I suspect many of us have unrealistic notions of the life of a female growing up. It can be very difficult and stressfull indeed, according to some women, given the very great pressures put on women by society. I've never been all that happy with being male, but I cannot say if I would have been any happier as a female.

Michaella

[harley47]

thank you for your intensely personal revelation. I am so sorry you have had such a hard life-not just 'in your mind' but with others hurting you so maliciously. It isn't hard to understand why so many fear pursing SRS or declaring being TG--I think most of the stuff we hear about rights for the L,G,B,T community is mostly political--not sincere--or at least the public doesn't accept. good luck with your future. harley

[SarahLynn]

Yes I know I should have been born a female, I'm the homemaker in many ways. I do all the cooking, housework and domestic work in the house. One day I was cooking my wife was sipping wine when she said to me "you look so happy, to bad you can't dress the part of June Cleaver housewife with a dress and a string of pearls" she was right.

Has it occured to you to suggest just such a change, To dress the part when doing the domestic chores. She may be willing to let you "play the part" once in a while. And you in your life, might have greater enjoyment. It's worth a try.

SarahLynn

[Nichola]

I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

Although there are lots of things I like about being male, I think I would have loved to have been born female. Maybe life would be a little easier without the confusion:doh:

[EmilyLynn28]

I definitely wish I was born a female. I would've loved experiencing my missed girl moments of life: cheerleading, dating boys, prom, college as a girl, being a bride, childbirth, and being a mommy.

[wanagione]

every day for the last 54 years

[jennifer24]

Totally think and wish I would have been born female, it matches me all around.

[madelinet1975]

I think about what it would be like to be born female all the time. So yes I would have loved to been born a female.

[Xandra]

I think like a female and have many feminine traits. I'd love to have been born female but am not unhappy in my body.

[AmandaM]

Every day I wish I was a girl. I think I'm probably transsexual, but too chicken to ever do anything about it. I guess that's what Prozac is for.

[Slim_redhead]

there are definitely times when i feel like i want to know what it feels like to think like a girl and have a girl's body. i imagine it would be a wonderful experience and i may not want to return

[cassexy]

well i love to be a female, as i have female traits in me, i love to wear female dressess, i love to be at home and a homemaker and have all female traits

[Foxglove]

Yes Harley I should've been born a female being the way I am now. I just wonder if that had happened would I wish I had rather been born a male?

I know what you're saying, Marleena. I've always said that I'm so screwed up that if I had been born female, I'd probably be a transguy.

But I'd have been willing to take the risk. I should have been born female.

Annabelle

[Veronnie2]

For me it is a one word answer. YES! I feel I am a female, just that I have a part I should not have. I have all the traits and characteristics of a woman. I seriously do not think I would mind having a monthly period, or the risk of getting pregnant, or even having PMS. I can be just as bitchy as a man. veronnie2

[Andria]

I've often thought that since I was around 8 years old or so.

[Jaymees22]

I enjoy being a boy who can enjoy being a girl! I'm so happy and so shallow. But being happy as I am is very important to me...Jaymee

[Charlotte Haynes]

No...I wouldn't want to be female either...I just have a dressing fetish...I'm emotionally cold and anally retentive..I have muscles and I f***ing hate shopping... and wine!

[Sylvermane]

I think I should have been born a woman. I hate everything about myself and being a man. Causes me much pain whenever I see myself in the mirror fresh out of the shower, or wake up and look down... not seeing what I would like to see. I am being treated for my issues but this one will never be solved sadly. As much as I would like to do something about it all I lack the confidence in myself to be an giant amazon woman. I hate attention and that would draw more attention to me, way more than I can handle or want.

[NathalieX66]

Who has some degree of transsexualism? Gender identity disorder? Gender incongruism?

Early computer programmers came up with this computer programming that goes like this: 0001010101010111111010101010010...and so on.

You are either 0 or 1 .......male or female. Binary computer code.

I am non-binary. The 0 vs. 1 thing does not apply to me.

[genevie]

There are times that I really wish I was female. But there are traits about women I don't like. I don't fit that mold. There are traits I like about being male. But not all. I wish I could live as whatever when I feel like being whatever I feel like at the time. This is confusing and annoying at times. I'm pretty sure I don't want to have sex with men. Even though I can crave having a penis in me. I haven't had that. So what do I know? I could celebrate all things female. But really girly girls who are driven and bound by convention doesn't work and that's annoying. But so are those manly traits that are blind to textures, feelings and sensual experiences. What does all of this mean? When I take the silly on lne tests, I'm a third sex. I'm between. Maybe we are all in the middle. So to answer the question, sometimes but not really. Clear? :)

[sometimes_miss]

there are definitely times when i feel like i want to know what it feels like to think like a girl and have a girl's body. i imagine it would be a wonderful experience and i may not want to return

This was initially my thought as well; I felt that way for much of my life. Then at some point in my 20's I got a little more into the concept and came up with this: It was only the 'grass is greener' syndrome. I had to come up with a more thorough description of what a girl's daily life was like. And even then, I was willing to accept the negative things in order to 'get' to be the girl I thought I was supposed to be. Until.......I realized that I was simply exchanging one set of difficulties for another. A woman's life is definitely different. In brief; wake up earlier EVERY SINGLE DAY because it takes more time to take care of all the details of appearance and hygiene as a girl. You're looking at about an hour earlier a day.....of lost sleep; make up, clothing, etc.. Stepping out of the house, girls have to be aware of the safety factor that men routinely ignore. If you decide to wear a skirt or dress, there is the constant readjustment of them to avoid exposing yourself. Bra straps too need to be adjusted, whereas tshirts for guys need well, nothing, if they're even worn at all. Watch where you put your purse if you want to keep all your belongings, and also not damage anything in it, as well as avoid anyone else accidently doing so. Of course, carrying a purse everywhere when you're carrying anything else becomes a chore too. Love the long beautiful hair? Try to keep it out of your face, mouth and food (as well as during sex, keeping it out of other things as well). Every time you go to the bathroom, you have to check up on make up, hair and how your clothing is situated, whereas a guy just goes in, pees, occasionally washes his hands, and leaves (and yeah, lots of guys don't wash their hands; if you don't have any diseases and are normally clean, you can probably get away with this without any problems). Many women suffer from stress incontinence, or incontinence in general, for those who don't know, that means unintentionally urinating. Happens all the time, but they won't tell you about that, it's one reason lots of women wear panty liners or pads all the time. Lets not forget the problem with getting runs in the stockings by merely rubbing against anything that has ANY tiny rough thing protruding; even the tiniest splinter from what appears to be a finished part of wood furniture can do it. Eating, virtually every woman has to 'diet' constantly. See what the western hemisphere has become by women ignoring this by stress eating at the workplace, obesity has become an epidemic. So you can't eat what you want to. Of course, we cannot forget the one week a month of bleeding and cramps, now, can we. Surely that must be fun, right? Every female I've ever been with for more than a few dates has at some point been in the situation where she didn't have the 'female hygiene product' that she needed at an inopportune time, and either wound up stuffing her panties with tissue or something to go to the store, or sending me out on the errand (more fun, right?). Coming home from work, being expected to be a good cook and make something delicious every single night. For decades on end. Laundry, delicates, whites, light colors, darks. Hand washing certain things, laying them out to dry. Ironing. Washing herself? How many guys clean the tub? How often? Girls have to keep the tub clean, or risk infections you-know-where. So they have to scrub the tub, and everything around it, often. Of course lets not forget shaving every inch of skin below the scalp hairline. I don't know about you, but I can do my face in about a minute while in the shower. I'm sure a woman's body takes longer than that, not to mention the various contortions she has to go through to SEE parts of herself to shave.
Hair. Her hair takes time; the ends of it are about a year old, and of course require different care than what's new and closer to the scalp. So washing and conditioning is a complicated event. Not to mention drying and styling. Which is different, depending on the humidity on different days. How often do you think guys have 'bad hair days'? Not too, really. But happens to girls all the time, and they stress over it.
How about nails? Girl comes home, has dinner, does some chores, sits down and does her hails. Stuff happens; now, does she take care of it and have to do her nails all over again? Yup. Guys just wash our hands and we're done; what, a minute? For a girl, that's two hours of time to get the hands right again, polish takes time to dry hard.
There's more. That was just some of the routine parts of a day.

Edit. Oh yeah. Thinking like a girl. You mean care free and focusing on clothes, dates, fun, right? Lets not forget the hormone influenced mood changes, feelings driving thoughts instead of facts (woman's intuition, right?), difficulty with directions being misinterpreted because men 'see' the world better in 3 D in our heads (women tend to focus on landmarks and direction changes, not on distance or compass). I can't even begin to ponder all of what seems to us as nonsensical rambling discussion about nothing in particular, which all women seem to do constantly.

[GroovyChristy]

Lexi, most of the things you mentioned are variables. I do half of that stuff anyway, and there are plenty of women who don't fit those stereotypes.

[Julie95]

Been born female.........Ho yes!!!



Julie

[Elle1946]

I have always wondered what it would be like to be born female and would we have the same concepts as we do being male!!!

[Kristencdct]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female

I feel the same. I wish for it every day.

[jessi]

I am non-binary. The 0 vs. 1 thing does not apply to me.

You are probably familiar with the Turing Test, devised by Alan Turing. It is a famous test of artificial intelligence. If a human can't tell that a dialogue with a computer is with a computer, then can the computer be considered to have a form of human intelligence?

What is less known is that Turing first developed the test as a test of gender. If one believes that a conversation was with a woman, then is the conversation partner in some sense a woman?

[Nikki75]

I do wish I would have been born female.

[julia marie]

One problem with the concept behind this thread is that if you were born female you wouldn't have the male perspective that most of us have regarding what it's like to be female. So, the long hair, the boobs, etc., would be all you know. In fact, if you were born female you might grow up wishing you were a guy! Then you'd be in the same mess. Nope, I don't wish I was born female. However, I do wish I could get closer to understanding what they think, how they feel, how they view the world, etc. I just wish there was a way to get inside their heads for a week, a month, whatever. Maybe there will be some technology that allows that down the road. Imagine how we could all round out our approach to people with that understanding.

[Shelly117]

I think all of us that have tried on a skirt, lingerie or heels have thought about being born a girl. Started dressing when I was really young like pretty much all of us but never thought of changing to be a girl or wish I was one. I guess there is a difference between people that want to transition and those of us that just love the clothes and the experience of being feminine with the opportunity to go back and act like regular men.

[Nikki Rich]

No , because I believe crossdressing is a outward expression of a inward feeling not who I am only part of who I am.

Hugs , Nikki Rich

[PaulaQ]

This is a great thread.
I'm not sure how to answer this. Part of me instantly says 'yes', and 'it's all I've ever wanted.'
The other part of me knows that, in fact, it would take TWO wishes for me to get what is implicit in this thread - being born a normal girl. So in fact, I expect that had I been born a girl, my life would've been much harder, and just because of the issues all women face.

So I think maybe my answer has to be 'no'.

[ArleneRaquel]

I was born a male, but I have since circa 1956 wanted to live my adult life as a female. I'll accept my life as it has devoloped. I live as a woman, but I'm still a male beneath the clothes.

[Lacyfem]

No I don't as I'm happy as a male who can get into his female mode but only wish it were more often. It's always a tough decision to move to the other side permanently I'm sure but somehow I find it quite erotic being a male, yet being a female when I can... It's always confusing isn't it....

[Genny B]

I can remember crying myself to sleep one night in my late 30's because I thought I should of been a women all along. Now at 54 I look back on it and I am very happy with my life. I enjoy being a grandfather and life, but it is so nice to put on a dress in private later and read about others who are brave enough to venture out in public... Maybe it's the anti-depressants?

[CarolynO]

Definitely YES.I would be having much more fun as a woman.I'm almost literally uncomfortable in my own skin.I was never much in sync being male even when I was very young.
My male life never really worked out.
I much prefer feminine privilege over male privilege.Women are sexually superior to men.Every day I wish I could start over as female.

[Amanda Lynn]

The thought definetly has crossed my mind but then I think of what that would entail and I dont think I could handle that time of the month well ;)

[Angela Campbell]

Who has some degree of transsexualism? Gender identity disorder? Gender incongruism?

Early computer programmers came up with this computer programming that goes like this: 0001010101010111111010101010010...and so on.

You are either 0 or 1 .......male or female. Binary computer code.

I am non-binary. The 0 vs. 1 thing does not apply to me.

ahhhhh......no there is more than 1 and 0 if you apply boolean algebra there is also a "not" 1 (which is a 1 with a line over the top, and there is a "not" 0 which is a zero with a line across the top.

A "not" 1 is.... not 1, but also is not 0.....a "not" 0 is not 0 but is also not 1.

so the question is if you are not 1 or 0 can you be a "not" 1 or a "not" 0 ?

[NV Susan]

Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
It's the same for me also....

[June Laine]

No, I enjoy my males side as well as my female side. For me one cannot exist with out the other.

[lucaluca]

a lot of you they should have been born female.
but obviously you were born male.

so my question is: do you think you should have been born female, but now you are male (and identify as one) and you like to crossdress.
or are do you think you are female, born in the wrong body (transsexual)?

[sometimes_miss]

I definitely wish I was born a female. I would've loved experiencing my missed girl moments of life: cheerleading, dating boys, prom, college as a girl, being a bride, childbirth, and being a mommy.

See, this is what I kind of expected; it's the 'idealized' fantasy of what being a female is assumed to be. Reality is way, way different. So, just to make it a little more clear: Not every girl who wants to be one makes the cheer squad. Some don't get asked out on dates, and not every girl gets to go to the prom, or to college. Not every woman gets married, or has children, or is a mother. So, how about that; how many would still choose to be female if you knew all those things weren't going to be part of that life?

[arbon]

Should I have been born female - I thought so, I did not like that I was male. I could not understand it.

I could have done without all the confusion and discomfort about my gender that plagued me through most of my life.

But it is what it is. Those were the cards that were dealt. Now in my 40's I have actually done something about it. Today I can live my life as a woman, my body can be altered - I'll never have the same experiences most women have, or be entirely passable, but I can live authentically today.

I am surprised so many here say they should have been, who say they are female inside, but don't do anything about it if they know that to be true about themselves.

[ninapuella]

I was thinking about this today and I have never felt a wish to be a female, because then I wouldnt be a crossdresser anymore. :eek: :thumbsdn:

[ChanDelle]

Absolutely! Have always been more attracted to female interests than male. Maybe next time?

[Emily_Safford]

i was born a woman...just given the wrong equipment to display :( so no, i instead wish to wake up the girl I am each day.

Emi ^.^

[Donna Joanne]

I've always felt like a lesbian trapped in a male body... and still do.

[TGMarla]

The short answer to this is yes, I'd rather have been female from birth. As it is, I was born male, and I'll opt to stay this way, and crossdress as the opportunity allows.

[marelna]

How I wish I was born female.

[Stevie]

Interesting. I have say yes sometimes. Byt that doesn't change who I am.

[noeleena]

Hi.

Did i ever wish i was born female , no & the same apply's to male ,no. because of being different in my early years there was no boy or girl. it was both. allways been the same or in some ways nether for me there is no easy answer,

As a woman there are issues we have that should not be there yet we have to contend with that because of other's attitude's theres allso health issue's we face & its part of our life so i dont belive we have it easyer,

As i look at the male side though dont relate to or with males there are differences what i dont understand is the mind of males, how to think as one is beyound me i have tryed to i just failed because i dont have that mind set a male has, & the mind concepts are very different , the main one for me is carrying & giveing birth to ones own child, not something men say much about ,

...noeleena...

[Stevie]

I couldn't imagine have my life would've been if I was born as a girl.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

I always knew I wanted to be a girl and did something about it made my dream come true by being a full woman now.

[traci_k]

I don't know about should have been. Definitely wish I would have been. For years I went to sleep with the prayer "God please let me wake up as a girl." I'm slightly older than some of the girls, but wondering if it is still possible?
Hugs

[GeminaRenee]

No, not at all. I am comfortable in my male skin, I spend most of my time in that mode, and in all honesty, I'm very happy with my body as a guy. I suppose that I am lucky enough to have some fairly femme features about myself that I can play up when I dress. There are features, like my arms and shoulders, that get in the way a bit. But like I said - whatever negative they present when I dress, they more than make up for when I'm not, which is 98% of my life. I'm happy enough with this arrangement that I refuse to stop working out, or take whatever steps might be necessary to minimize those features, let alone wish that I had been born in a different body. No, thank you.

[DeidraDee63]

Yes,Yes,Yes without a doubt; I have felt this way from about 3 or 4 and it has not lessened in over 60 years. I firmly believe my life would have been better in so many ways even today if I had a chance to throw the magic switch i would in a heartbeat and not look back.

[sabrinaedwards]

I sometimes fantasize about being a female and I certainly love portraying a female. When I have an opportunity I dress full time for days and days. That being said I enjoy the dual gender role.

[Geena75]

No, I am totally good with my masculinity -- BUT -- I would love to be a woman for a couple days.

Jack L Chalker wrote a book "Wolf in the Fold", part of the 4 Lords of the Diamond series. It is set on a planet where, if you sleep in proximity with someone, you swap bodies. The main character wakes up as a woman, then transfers to a man. Then regularly swaps with his mate. That would be really cool.

[DaniG]

Yes, most definitely.

[SarahBJackson]

I never felt like a woman until last year, when my alter ego Sarah burst into my head. I love Sarah! I wish I could flip a switch some Monday and spend a whole week as a woman for a test drive!

[Jamie001]

Yes definitely.

[FelicityMay]

i feel happier while in female form, and just plain enjoy it more than being a guy.
but i am kinda glad that i am a male, so that i can still be intimate and marry a female.
like the sig says, rocking the best of both genders!

[Nitas]

I've always felt like a lesbian trapped in a male body... and still do.
Ditto, never been attracted to men and never wanted to be one either.

[Alison_Mathers]

For me, it's a little different. I know I'm male, but times wish I had the body of a female, but not all the time. I feel bi-gender and am finding a happy medium between the two. Some times I go male, other times all female, but most of the time I do both.

I do wish for a magical way I could become female for a short time, but I guess dressing is the closest I can do.

[Loni]

if i had been born with a female body, life would not have been "easier" but a lot more fun.
could have gone shopping as a girl in my teens and been able to learn more back then. and of course no facial shaving. and maybe still have hair on top.