how your life changed after you confirmed your status as a cross dresser

[cassexy]

my life changed completely. i loved to be in the company of females. i loved to wear female clothes. i was always in the female department of the stores. gradually i started to behave like a female. can i know about your life too, after you confirmed yourself as a cd

[Joanne f]

Yes my life changed from being a happy CD to an unhappy CD because of the way people started to treat me , it actually pushed me backwards instead of forwards crazy as it sounds .

[cassexy]

well joanne, do not lose heart,you can contact us for help we are your freinds, you are a cd as it make you feel feminine and better, go on and enjoy being a cd, contact me for help

Yes my life changed from being a happy CD to an unhappy CD because of the way people started to treat me , it actually pushed me backwards instead of forwards crazy as it sounds .

[Joanne f]

Thank you cassexy , that was 13 years ago now that the big wide world got to know ( blooming heck 13 is an unlucky number) things have settled down but I must admit that I have this mortal fear of stirring things up again for my family that is why I stick to androgeness when out now.

[Naomi Newman]

i started when i was about 14 and have been fought by my family all my life about it, but they cant change what makes me comfortable, since ive joined here its been a release of feelings, i look at women now in a totally different way, i look at there hair and makeup, the way they dress. totally changed for me

[Beverley Sims]

I was in a share house and the three girls with me encouraged me to dress.
They did not know I CD'd before this. My life just exploded, it was absolutely fantastic.
It still is.

[Jenara]

I have confirmed it to myself. I wont know the whole picture until the wife knows the whole picture.

[NathalieX66]

Good question.
Short answer: I'm much more broke from buying clothes, makeup, permanent hair removal (electrolysis & laser).

[Vanessa5]

Well after confirming being CD my anxiety and depression seemed to go away. I have a better outlook and finally accepted being who I am. I just wish my wife would realize these things and at least tolerate my dressing.

[Sarah Doepner]

There are three levels to this for me, so far. First was when I accepted it for myself. There was no more self-deception and it made it much easier to make decisions that actually were the correct choices because they were based on reality, not my fantasy. Second was when I opened up to others and began to get comfortable being part of a community. This made it possible to see that I was not alone and could not only ask advice but eventually was able to offer support to others. That helped a lot in developing my self-worth and confidence. The third step was opening up with my spouse and including her in this world. Once again, the truth has removed a lot of the stress that comes with guilt and deception. I was fortunate that she accepted this part of my life and helped me set some reasonable limits and expectations. The next level will be sharing this more widely, but I'm not there yet.

[Lady Catherine]

Other then a lot less stress, no change at all.

[Eryn]

I'm less stressed, more comfortable with myself, and I've made a number of great friends, both here and FTF.

I'm also a bit disappointed with my improved knowledge which tells me that, outside of a few wonderful people, I'll never be accepted in feminine social situations. I can dress well enough to pass/blend in public, people will treat me civilly in public situations, but I'm just not good enough to get beyond that.

[sometimes_miss]

I knew I wasn't 'normal' when I was seven. Until I was about fourteen, I thought I was really supposed to be a girl. Then, I didn't know what I was, because I didn't seem to fit into any particular category. Still don't.

So I guess you could say it all went haywire at seven; I had a new secret to keep, and stopped trying to fit into social interaction with boys; Yet, I really didn't enjoy playing with girl stuff like dolls and such, had no interest in sewing and clothes, and so girls really didn't want anything to do with me. So I became isolated most of the time. That lasted until I was in my teens and realized that I had to teach myself how to behave like a normal male, and of course I used the media as the best examples of how to do that in our society. As no one has ever seemed to suspect that I am NOT a normal guy, I suppose my acting skills are at the very least, adequate, or maybe it's because I've been doing it so long, I simply became good at it.

[katlee]

Well after confirming being CD my anxiety and depression seemed to go away. I have a better outlook and finally accepted being who I am. I just wish my wife would realize these things and at least tolerate my dressing.

I feel the same way. A lot of my depression has gone away. However, that all comes back when the cashier at Wal-mart starts asking about how you know your GF's bra size...

[Cheryl T]

My status was confirmed when I was about 8. My acceptance of myself came much later and it was at that time that I threw off the shackles of guilt and shame, freed myself of the stress of hiding and happily ventured forth as I had always wished I could.

[AnitaH]

My wife can tell you that in several ways I've become a better spouse, more caring and considerate, more willing to talk about my feelings. It's harder for me to get dressed these days because I find I care much more about what I'm wearing, even in male mode. My wife would say annoyingly so. Taking better care of my skin and loosing many extra pounds. This has all been a side effect of accepting myself. I would like to say that I am more at peace and in some ways I am but in other ways I am more stressed because I have to hide something I now realize is so extremely important to me.

AnitaH

[LaraPeterson]

Hi Cassexy, some of my earliest thoughts in life are about wearing my mother's underwear and the marvelous feeling it brought me. I've been dressing and going out for a long, long time and I still don't know exactly what I am. I crossdress, I have a strong desire to transition, and I've been in a couple of brief relationships with guys. My life situation has not allowed me to "confirm" a status, so I guess I'm just a confused female in a male body with little hope of getting life right. But I'm having fun!

[CassandraSmith]

What does that mean "confirmed yourself as a cd?"

[Stephanie47]

In my teen years my desires to wear my mother's clothing really weighed heavily upon me. There was nothing in the libraries on the subject. As I stated in numerous threads most CD-ers in the 1950's and 1960's really doubted their masculinity. Cross dressing was totally associated with homosexuality. I thought I had to be a homosexual. I was totally confused.

So, when I finally became educated and realized I was "only a cross dresser" my confusion ended. It was nice to know the vast majority of cross dressers are heterosexual. I wish I knew that when I was a hot blooded horny teenager. It would have been a relief.

Now I totally accept myself.


What does that mean "confirmed yourself as a cd?"

[Angela Campbell]

I really can't say because I started around 4 or so and do not remember much before that. My life did change somewhat when I met a group of others like me.