Gic #2

[Kittie]

OK! So yesterday I had my second appointment at Charing Cross in London, found out for some reason my blood-work was incomplete so more had to be taken. :thumbsdn:

Had to make a decision whether or not to preserve some of Le Tadpole Soup in case I want biological children later in life. Needless to say this is not such a straightforward choice, though there is little point in closing doors for oneself. If it's not done before HRT, then it has to be done later which involves coming off HRT and that idea can go fnck itself. :straightface:

Out of curiosity, would anyone care to share their decision on the above matter?

Once that's been arranged I should finally be able to get started with my HRT. :thumbsup:

A rather productive day, until my Mother had to be taken to hospital as she fell front first on the train platform on the way home. The train manager kindly upgraded us to first class as he saw what happened, which was great at first (free food and drink), but after setting off her blood pressure dropped and she seemingly lost consciousness in my arms on the train at one point! I was shaking in fear of what she'd done to herself but it was not as serious as it seemed. (She crushed her ribs but there's no serious damage and all they can do is give her painkillers and tell her to rest). :sad:

So in summary, a mixed day all round.

[Aimee20]

I decided against it myself. More for the fact that I'm unsure if I'll have children and if so I am leaning more towards adoption.

[Kittie]

I decided against it myself. More for the fact that I'm unsure if I'll have children and if so I am leaning more towards adoption.

I thought of this, but I don't know what the future holds - whether I may end up being in a relationship with a man or a woman. I don't want children yet, but my mind may change in the future and if it turns out that it would make me and a partner happy then at least the option is there to be taken and interrupting the transitional process to have the option in the future seems unnecessary.

The only other issue I can feel is a little lack of self-acceptance - the knowledge that part of the 'old me' is still hanging about somewhere.

[sandra-leigh]

I decided against, myself. I was already 49, and I realized that if biological children were important to me then I should get out of my current relationship pretty much right then and try to find a woman significantly younger than I who would accept me and who wanted children. Although I didn't think that was totally impossible, it wasn't what I wanted.

Later someone told me that the frozen sperm only stayed viable for a small number of years (5?). That didn't sound right, but I didn't investigate.

I was also later to hear that the freezing service in my city refuses to do TG/TS, as it only does cancer patients. The service in the same country that will do TG/TS is over 1500 miles away.

[melissaK]

Kittie, I read your words. I think you've got this figured out for who you are. Save some, preserve future options. IM(not so)HO, you'll make a good parent.

Hope your Mum's better too.

[Ceri Anne]

Sorry to hear about your mom. I'm assuming by crushed it means broken? Either way, ribs are extreemly painful, and yes, not much you can do. I'm not on HRT, but my thoughts are if its not expensive, it never hurts to have something saved up. I have heard of nightmare situations where the family fought over what to do if someone got in an accident and died. Should we create a grandchild? That sort of thing. So its a good idea to have a directive in place if you do. If you don't, there is always adoption if you decied you want to raise children in the future. I know there are a lot of young kids, even babies who need adoption, it just may be difficult to get the particulars you want. Me, I gave up on adopting 24 year old twins............lol.

[Saffron]

If you're unsure I think the best option is to do it.

I prefer the adoption path, and since it cost a lot of money, I'm not going to store it.

[ChelseaErtel]

If you can, save some of your soup. I would not turn back the clock to transition early because I love my children and couldn't imaging being without them.

[KateConnors]

I backed my sperm two year ago. Without being able to do this, I would have found the decision to go on HRT much more difficult. I already have a soon-to-be 3 year old, and I know I want another child. My wife would have killed me if I hadn't frozen the sperm.

Without knowing what gender any future partner would be, I would strongly advise to save the sperm. If you do happen to end up with a woman, then this gives a big advantage that most women can't match :) While it is a little strange knowing that 2000 miles away I have parts of me frozen in storage, I would think this is small price to pay.

I am speaking from a position of being a parent already, and not everyone will feel the same. My child is the best thing I have ever done.

[silverfurret]

I would save sperm as I want to date women and marry one post op but I have no interest in kids.
The silver lining about not being to change my birth certificete (since I'm in ohio) is that my marriage to woman would be 100% legal and we could about a child together since second parent adobtion is only allowed if the parents are married