OMG, it's happening.

[terryluvs266]

so, i finally found the nerve to tell my wife about dressing. i was so embarrassed, and so shy about it. she was surprisingly open to it. but it's been months since that talk. and i don't know how to like open up the conversation again.

finally, my wife asks me something random via email..."name something inexpensive that you want." - presumably for valentine's.

i finally had the nerve to reply to her, that it had something to do with my dressing...hehe.

it's 2am, can't sleep. i'm wondering how she's going to reply.

[Beverley Sims]

What a good idea, live together and correspond by email.

[BLUE ORCHID]

What a good idea, live together and correspond by email.

Hi Bev, Haven't you heard, That's the new normal.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Terry Don't forget to let us know what she gets for you.

[mikiSJ]

It get's really bad when your wife/SO is sitting next to you watching tv and each of you has your personal laptop and you get an email from your wife. Sigh!

Terry, glad you got the nerve up to let your wife in on one of our most hidden of secrets. Take it slow and don't overburden your wife with your issues. Both of you can sort it out, slowly.

[insearchofme]

The real question is, what are you going to get her?

[MysticLady]

We'll stay tuned:)

[Wildaboutheels]

Terry, your profile does not give your age, but you look very young. Not any kind of knock but today's younger generation is undoubtedly a lot more likely to communicate with their fingers than their mouth than us "older" folks. Both oral [talking] and sign language [typing/texting] methods have their pluses and minuses. Sign language IS better than NO communication at all. Maybe she is simply uncomfortable in talking about it face to face? You did say it has been months since you talked?

UNLESS you are a mind reader, [like many here profess to be] you can't know for certain how she really feels at this stage. Do you? Based on just the one conversation? Just keep in mind if it is something she is simply not going to ever accept [which is her right btw] with emails... she has written proof of your proclivities should it ever come to divorce. Probably not likely but a possibility none the less.

I see you have been here for two and a half years but your profile does not mention if you have kids. From what I have read here, seems to me, GGs tend to be more likely "accepting" when there are no kids involved.

[missmars]

Every gynephilic mtf crossdresser want it.

[GaleWarning]

Only five posts in 2.5 years as a member on this forum.
Terry, it does not seem to me that you spend too much time on the computer.
At least, not on this forum!!!

[docrobbysherry]

Good communication is the key to a long and successful marriage, Terry. Would u describe the communication between u and your SO as, "good"?

[Stephanie47]

I don't have a cell phone or other electronic device. I don't belong to any social media outlet. I don't twitter, text, sexting or whatever else may be in vogue. My wife and I just communicate orally. Long distance communication involves yelling across the house. As a result my wife and I are the last to know the family gossip. I suspect nobody will know when I pass on because I will not post my demise on social media.

Years ago I asked for a pair of panties. I guess I was trying to get my wife to be my accepting of my cross dressing. When actually went as far as looking at the racks of panties at a Mervyn's. We did buy a pair, but, it was torture for her. That was the last time I asked for anything in the lingerie department. If she ever bought me anything femme she'd knock me out of my heels.

Terry, just tell all these people your wife emailed you from the lingerie section of a department store (GPS?) and not from the bathroom down the hall! :)

[terryluvs266]

Yikes, Beverly my bad. She emailed me when I was at work. I work late hours, and so I replied to her. Not sure what the big deal is.

I posted on here more so over the anticipation of taking that next step with my wife over my dressing, not to be criticized about the way I communicate with my wife. ;)

@insearchofme - i'm getting her a cute flannel set of pajamas that she always wanted, i'm going to give her flowers, and i wrote her a nice letter. she's sick today, so i took the day off and did the dishes, washed laundry, took out the trash, giving her OJ and stuff like that.

It's hard enough even bringing this hidden side of my life to her and was hoping I can use this forum for support.

Long story short. We did communicate in person. and she playfully talks about getting me a wig, or a thong or something.

and then this morning she asked me if I could be her stylist because of my eye for fashion, and mentioned that I got it from my mom who raised me, and she noticed that my ex-girlfriend's fashion sense changed after I got together with her.

It's so funny because it just clicked with her how, when we go shopping together, I help her find things that look cute on her, etc. etc.

@docrobbysherry - yes, my communication is really good with her. and i feel such a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders talking about this part of my identity too! :)

@clayfish - yes - i'm a newbie. in and out of purges. but finally taking a stand and saying, i'm going to be me, for who i am. i'm going to at least share this part of me with someone i have committed the rest of my life too. take it slowly, take it day by day, and see what happens.

Thank you everyone for your support and encouragement.

Love, life, and joy,

Terry

p.s. My wife is going to meet "Terry" soon!

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Tough crowd here. Terry, enjoy yourself and be yourself. Just respect your wife in the process.

[Stevie]

Hope she gets something you really wanted. Hope when she replays its good.

[Andrea Renea]

Keep talking. Communication is the key to all relationships. It has kept my wife and I together for 33 years. Sometimes there's a little screaming at each other going on. lol

[anonymousinmaryland]

Like andrea says, Communication is the key to all relationships. Cute photos. Go slow, have a good time. And Keep posting.

[Maria in heels]

Terry...please make sure to tell us how she replied - what did you ask her for?

[terryluvs266]

Yeah, ever since I told her, she's been a lot cooler about this than I thought. From, "hey can you be my stylist, you have a good eye for something cute." Too things like, "I've always been curious about being with a girl, but like dressing you up like one." she is even saying things like, "wow, you would look cute as a girl, can i dress you up like this...etc."

Sometimes she would say this in the last 6 years of our marriage, but dang, she is saying it a ton more now.

Before she used to always say that i was the sensitive one. or the girl in the relationship. but now? it's like my desire to dress is clicking in her mind.

I'm so grateful, because I feel this huge weight has been lifted, and we get each other way more now.