new doctor

[Wendy me]

my old country doctor is retireing he is in his 80's now....this year he found out i dress .when i was out and hurt my back catching my dad so he would not fall. i had to see the doctor on my way home and wearing pantys was the last thing i was worryed abought...my old countey doctor was just greate but now i have to get a new one today i have a app. to see the new doctor , and i was thinking should i tell the new doctor abought my cding???

so what do we think is this something we should share with a new doctor???

[BethCD]

Wendy, Funny you should ask......today I had an appt. w/ my Dr. and for the first time I wore panties. I wasn't expecting the "drop your drawers" exam this time, but because of everyones help and support here, I felt comfortable doing it.
In answer to your question, while it may not be necessary to advise dr. about cding, theres also no harm in their knowing. As it has been said here before....they've seen it all.

Beth

[erica12b]

if its a ogbyn yes , but not on the first app.

[Holly]

Funny you should ask... been thinking of doing the same thing myself. My wife and I belong to a large HMO but we both have the same primary care physician. I'll be intrersted to hear how it goes.

[Bonnie D]

I think you should tell your doctor that you cd, for psychological reasons. It's good that he/she knows so that they are aware that you may be under some kind of stress as a result of your cd'ing. Also if you plan on going to your appointments wearing something feminine well then they should know ahead of time that it's a possibility. I don't mean that you have say that what you might be wearing but if you 'dropped your drawers' it wouldn't be a surprise if you were wearing panties.

I finally told my doctor. I've been wanting to tell him for years but everytime I went I just couldn't get it out of my mouth. This year I was determined to and I did. Also, because I'm bisexual I wanted all the extra blood tests to be done to make sure that everything is okay, which I'm sure it is.

Bonnie

[KathrynW]

today i have a app. to see the new doctor , and i was thinking should i tell the new doctor abought my cding??? so what do we think is this something we should share with a new doctor???
WHY would you? How does cd-ing have any effect whatsoever on *anything* medical? Unless you plan on self-prescribing hormones or something.

[Kim E]

Its your call, Wendy. If you do decide, you might want to hold off a bit, until you're more comfortable with the new doc and feel more confident with him. But then again, if you told your old doc and he noted it in your medical record, then the new doc will see it, he might bring it up.

I finally told both my GP's after almost 14 years. Actually, my primary GP asked me because my appearance had changed so much over the past year or so. So, I let the cat out of the bag and am not sorry I did. He also referred me to an female endocrinologist who knew from the beginning. In my case, I thought if they're going to treat me, they should know everything. If I were just a CD, I probably wouldn't have mentioned it, but being TS I did.

Kim

[KatieZ]

my old country doctor is retireing ....this year he found out i dress .



Hmmm.... see the connection here? :eek: :confuse:

:lol2:



j/k
Hugs

[Tiffy]

Wendy, I was pondering the same thing. i have to see my regular doctor (not the one I see for my back) next week for a blood test. And I was thinking of telling him. Only because I still have anger problems that are somewhat rooted in my cd'ing. And I thought maybe he could give me some ideas. I think I am to chicken to do it. But ew shall see. Girl it is your call. If I had you guts I would tell mine I know that for sure.

Kisses, April

[Carole]

Hi Wendy

maybe it's on your notes already so the new Dr will know that you wear feminine undies. Don't forget it is 'Medical in Confidence' and the Dr's are required to take the Hypocratic Oath which means they cannot reveal patient confidentialities to another person. It's down to you hun!

[Wendy me]

back from seeing the new doctor , he refilled all my meds , gave me a quick look over reading the chart he was asking abought my back and all my outher things , i was going to say something and kinda chickened out then he said is that all we need to talk abought ?? i said yes (chicken me) he then said ok made apps for lab works and a follow up app.....maybe next time .....

[ginafaye]

doesnt hurt to go slow ......just do what makes you feel right

[Ms. Laura]

Personally, I wouldn't tell him. Honestly, does he need to know? Maybe if your achilles heel shrinks up from the heels! Likely he doesn't need or want to know unless you have a health problem that relates. I think that stress related problems could be explained any of a million ways other than CD'ing so it's not really necessary to relate that to him. I suppose if you were taking some kind of supplement or hormone that would be different. Just my opinion but good luck, it can be frustrating finding decent doctors out in the stix.

[Helen MC]

I agree with Miss Laura on this. Unless there is some medical condition which impinges on your CD activities or you wish to have gender reassignment then there is no need to tell him. If you are wearing panties and he sees them and makes a comment (which is unlikely) then it is up to you how you respond .

If I go to see a doctor about some physical problem then that is what I want to discuss and wish him to treat me for. My CD activities, as my religion, and my politics are none of his business and not open for discussion.

[Kierci]

Hey Wendy I think you made a smart move waiting till at least the second visit. I usually use the first meeting to get my (medical) history and current medical needs taken care of then to get to know the doctor to see if I am going to be comfortable with him/her before I devulge any nerve racking news.

[BrendaChristine]

If he sees your panties tell him, "My mother always said make sure I have clean underwear. She didn't say it couldn't be hers."

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

I can see the appeal in telling your doctor because I think most of us would like to tell somebody and doctors are a "safe" person to tell -- both because they're bound by confidentiality and because they're more than likely to be non-judgemental.

OTOH, unless it's got some bearing on your health -- for example the angry issues related to CDing that April Marie mentioned -- I'm not sure what other benefit you'd get from telling.

Your call, but you might ask yourself why you're interested in telling him what you expect to get out of doing so.

[Angela Burke]

I don't really see it's any of your new doctors business if it's not affecting yours or other peoples health if you wear panties or not.
I appreciate your concern on the matter but I'm sure a general practitioner has a lot more to worry about than his/her patients underwear!
Just make sure your panties are nice and clean and stop worrying about nothing!

Love Angela XX

[Lotte L]

Wendy,

Would say yes to that question. As said docters have seen it all.

Lotte L

[RachelDenise]

Wendy, if you want to tell your doctor, then tell. It may have some bearing on your health in the long run. But I would wait until you feel like you have developed some sort of relationship with the doctor. I agree with the others that the first visit is too soon. You didn't chicken out, you were just appropriately awaiting the proper moment!:)

[KathrynW]

Wendy, if you want to tell your doctor, then tell. It may have some bearing on your health in the long run.
I'd be interested to know how cd-ing could possibly have some bearing on health in the long run? Please explain...;)
Remember, this is a GP we're talking about here.

[Tina Dixon]

Well if you dress all the time and dont hide it I would go in wearing my best dress, I mean why not, but if you hide it to the public you may just want to wear panties, but I would let the doctor know as much about you as posibal, the info my come in handy some day, you just never know.

[Wendy me]

well ok like my old doctor found out after i hurt my back and went to see him
like i said what i was wearing or not was not even on my mind ..just getting seenand some meds was all i was thinking ...see the only reason i was thinking abought saying anything is if something came up like that then it would not be a issue and if he knew it would be less un comfy for eather of us ....if i have a exam comming up then i wont be doing that shock factor eather them drabs things or none....

[Kierci]

Well you know you GP doctor may not need to know Wendy, but with back problems you chiro might need to know especially if your gonna be wearing heels. I know this was an after thought for me, I am good like that.

[Adele]

I told my doctor because the anxiety I had was causing problems at home.

He was so cool about it and arranged for me to get counselling which was also a real help. The end result is that I told my wife and she is accepting of my dressing.

I don't think you need tell your doctor unless your cding is causing problems like it did for me.

Love Adele xxxxx

[Sam-antha]

Hi there, Wendy me,
I like the message from #8.
You have a problem//// ! Is the info in your notes.. I doubt it, but he did say is there anything..... ?
I personnally would not bother, unless there are any stress type conditions, sleeplessness, headaches, aching tummy muscles, tiredness or persistent can't be bothered things that you might want to ask about sometime.

[Julie]

Wendy, I couldn't answer that for you. I have a doctor who is in his mid 60's but I have questions about his level of acceptance so I won't discuss it with him. I feel the more shocked a person is by this the more likely they are to talk to others about it. This is my private life and I am the only one who has the right to discuss this with others. I know doctors have an oath and all that but one could reason this doesn't fall under medical privacy. After what I experienced from my own family using this against me, I have a hard time trusting anyone with this information.

[Sam-antha]

I wonder if this should be said... after all you should know it... the hippocratic Oath has been quoted in this thread re Doc/patient confidentiality.... but there is the US Patriot Act under which Hospital Records are required to be made available to a government agent if so required. ( Library records as well as telephone taps. ) How about the GPs records then ?
I know this concerns "terrorism", but these days, just what is covered under the investigatory schedules for anything ?

[Sam-antha]

Wendyme , Me again.... been thinking...... your doc has retired and hecould be of the school that wouldconsider a cd as being gay..... his records, if he has written anything in them, may show you as gay. You would not want thenew doctor to think that.... I certainly would not. Therefore I would tell him straight out when you visit him again.

[Trudyjean]

Hi Wendy, A few years ago when I was just "coming out of the closet", I went to see a psycholigist that I saw a few years earlier for depression. I went in too see him to ask if he knew where I might find a support group for men who wear panties or cross dress. He was very supportive and suggested the internet, which worked out well. I also asked him about wearing panties to the doctors office, since the thought bothered me a little. He said don't worry about it, the doctor is there to treat your medical problems, not to critisize what you wear. So ever since, I've worn panties 24-7. I wasn't all that happy with the one doctor, even though he didn't say a word about my panties. I changed doctors to a young woman doctor thinking I'd feel more at ease standing there in my panties. She didn't say any thing either, but seems to accept me as I told her I was a cross dresser. I suppose it all depends on how you feel about it. Most doctors wouldn't care one way or the other I think. Hugs, Trudyjean

[Jillian310]

Telling is not an issue for me. I see my uroligist every 6 months. I keep shaved and wear panties 24 7. You have to pull down for a frontal exam of 'your boys', and a rearward exam for the exciting finger up the butt to examine the prostate. You younger girls are in for a world of these fun opportunities as you age. On a couple ocassions the nurse was in the room, and made very nice compliments about the panties I had on, which were really nice satin hicuts. As for the doc, he doesn't ask and I don't tell. From the nature of that practice, i.e., fingering every butt that walks into his practice, I sort of think he finds my panties and shaved pubes to be a mild diversion. On the other hand, he did volunteer that he is seeing more shaved patients. He said this is turning up in his younger patients.

[Ms. Donna]

Hi Wendy,

I see no reason to either hide or proclaim your choice in knickers. I'm sure that you're not the first - not will you be the last - 'male in panties' s/he sees.

However, if you feel you might be embarassed to be seen by your GP in your undies, then by all means, give them a 'heads-up'. :)

Love & Stuff,
Donna

[Janice Ann]

Now if I lived in larger city-- perhaps yes---- My little towns pop- is about 800--- I trust the Doc-- its the nurses that might run all over town gossiping --- So until I must-- it is tell them what they need to know and leave out the rest--

[JoAnnDallas]

Being a private pilot, we have to have medical every two years. I once had a Gynecologist for a flight doctor. I asked him once why he did flight exams, he said that he got tired of seeing females all the time.

I did get some funny looks from the other patients when the receptionist would come out and tell me the doctor would see me now, since I was there by myself.

[Atomhype]

I can probably answer Sam-antha's query, as I work in intelligence gathering. GP records would only be used, if ever, in extreme cases that involve national security. In fact, same for phone taps. This hoopala about phone taps is all media, the government doesn't have the resources to listen to conversation or track dialled numbers unless they already suspect a target and are gathering evidence. So unless you are under suspicion for something the risks our nation's security you have nothing to worry about.

This thread has been interesting for me. I'm a GG and never considered the doctor issue. Part of me can't help but wonder though, if more people in the medical profession treated CDs then maybe it would help with overall acceptance by helping to determine the extend of CDing socially, and the more common it appears to be the more willing others may be to embrace it, as the country has done (to an extent) with other gender issues.

[Phyliss]

I find myself in the unique position of having my first appointment with a doctor.

I'm 61 at this time, and for a number of reasons haven't seen any doctor since I retired from the military in Dec of 1962. The only exception being somewhere around '91 or'92 I had a gall bladder attack and required treatment for it. ( I wasn't into wearing female clothing then)

Here about 8 or so months ago I noted a wound on my leg that just didn't seem to want to heal. I finally went to the local clinic, being sure to wear nothing that would "stand out" my panties were a plain cotton pair that could be mistaken for mens if I had to completely disrobe. (fortunately I didn't have to). After some checking they determined it was some form of ulcer that needed to be treated by a specialist. Then comes the next question of "Who is your primary care physican?" Uh...I don't have one was my answer. They looked at me like I was from the planet qxir.
My theory is: if it ain't broke don't fix it. I feel fine so I don't need a doc. I've been seeing a Chiropractor, but that's not like a medical doc. Doc Jody my chiropractor is a person who I trust and I talked it over with her. She recommended I go, because that was something she couldn't treat.
So comes the adventure of finding a Dr. Being retired military like I said I had to choose a doc from their list. Took awhile but I found one local who was taking new patients. Turns out, the doc is a lady. Not being sure of this I ended up choosing her only because of location and that they are taking new patients.
I asked a buddy of mine who has lots of experience with the medical field on his own,(but that's another story) he said if I had a choice, to pick a lady Dr. because they're much easier to talk to than a guy. Just to make sure I asked another friend the same question and got the same answer.

Reading the advice in this post I don't expect to blurt out in the first five minutes of our first meeting that I cross dress nor do I plan on wearing my finest panties, stocking and bra set. I figure on a simple pair of cotton panties that look generic.

I guess my question to those who have more experience with medical people is: What can I expect for my first meeting? I don't plan on having any sort of physical done, nor do I plan on having any blood drawn.
I've got a bad case of "needle phobia" even during the service I used to get really scared when that would happen, I had to hide my fears then, because of the possible comments about a military guy being a wuuss when it came to a needle.