Shocking question from wife.

[Maria 60]

On Friday I got a day off, thanks to the snow that fell in Ontario and I couldn't believe both kids went out. I got dressed and I was laying on the couch just relaxing, about an hour later my wife also came home. She also wanted to relax and she was going to sit on the other end of the couch, so she lifted my feet and put them on her lap and while we were watching TV she was subconsciously running her hand up and down my legs and at times she would run her fingers under the skirt leaving her thumb above the skirt and lifting it a bit. When her fingers would go under my skirt it almost felt like she was in forbidden territory and for some reason I would keep pushing the skirt down. She then said to me by the reaction under your skirt I see someone's happy and then the shocker came when she said I know your male side wouldn't like this but when your dressed and you look and act so ladylike I wonder at time's if it you would enjoy a man feeling these beautiful long legs, WOW! WHERE DID THAT COME FROM. I then asked her to explain the question and she said, well you really are a different person when your dressed, much calmer and more relaxed and easier to talk to and even admits that she sometimes waits for me to dress to ask me certain questions and says It's really like you are two different people, so she wants to know since these sides are so different doe's the other side want the attention of a man? I answered no but she looked at me and she wasn't convinced.She brought back halloween 1990 when a bunch of us dressed up and we went to different peoples house's and when we were leaving my friends boss house he lifted my skirt and ran his hand up and down my leg and told me I have amazing legs and for hours later I still felt the feeling of his hand on my leg and she believed I enjoyed it because I didn't attempt to pull my skirt down. I feel as if we do have a very open relationship so I said to her, I don't know I never really thought of it maybe because I am so deep in the closet my thoughts are not on walking out the door dressed or really trying to pass as a women or being with a man and all I know is I don't know why I really enjoy being dressed like this but it feels good and if doesn't bother her when I have the chance I would like to dress when I have the chance. She replied it's no bother to her and even enjoys having a husband and girlfriend all in one, she then got up and said she was going to make something for lunch and said she doesn't believe any of that story and still believes I enjoyed it that halloween and I would love to be felt up by a man when I am dressed. I then told her if she has any cute male friends we could try and see what happens, we both laughed and we had lunch and I hope that was the end of that.

[Maria in heels]

Maria..its great that your relationship with your wife is so open and happy. To me, it sounds like she's fishing a little bit, and we could say that maybe she wants you to secretly have a relationship as Maria? OR is she just testing and fishing, to see how you really feel. If she is bringing back something back from 1990, you KNOW that its on her mind, and that she has been wondering all these years about what happened that Halloween night. It seems that, by her responses, she is wondering whether you really liked it, is it something that you want, or is it a fantasy.

I like your answer, and just because you didn't pull your skirt down that night, doesn't mean anything if it were me. I would have probably pushed back up against your friends boss, just to play around, and keep the moment light. Its funny how your wife brought it up, and I'm sure that she is happy that its out in the open now...unless she has asked you before? Maybe your wife wants to bring a 3rd into the relationship? The only person who knows is her....

[flatlander_48]

The thing is, humans like human touch. It is only our conditioning regarding male-female, male-male, female-female situations that makes us comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others.

[Amanda M]

For goodness sake, watch this carefully. Don't push it, let her make the next move as if it never happened.

I suggest you leave it where it is, and if she want's to pursue it, then that's fine.

[Mollyanne]

WOW!!!!! I would venture to say that was an interesting day. Now the question at hand is-------Will this come up again or will she get some cute male friends(if she has any) to make a pass at you????? My thought(s) on this are; you opened up something unintentional and it may happen so how would you react to it??????

Molly

[MissTee]

Interesting for certain. It could be her very round-about way of asking if you are gay or have same sex desires. Heck, most of us get asked that. Once, my wife once directly asked, then followed up with, "I mean, if you are that's OK, as long as you don't act on it." That was about three years ago, and to this day I'm still scratching my head on what she meant.

Anyway, for you it could mean lots of thing or nothing at all. Me, every day I celebrate having a supportive wife -- occasional funky questions and all.

[Shelly117]

I think all CDs have had that question thrown at them. My SO saw me dressed and the first thing that came out her mouth was "you look like you want to get a guy". That shocked the hell out of me lol I guess most GG's think since we dress like them we want to have relationships like they do with men. I understand but for most of us that's just not the case. I love my SO and wouldn't dream of being with a man.

[Chiana]

I then told her if she has any cute male friends we could try and see what happens, we both laughed and we had lunch and I hope that was the end of that.

Are you sure that you want that to be the end?

[Dana L]

You may not have actually liked being felt up by your freinds boss, but the thought of a man finding you attractive will really boost your your CD ego. You may be a different person when your dressed but your probobly still straight. To find out go with your wife to a male strip club. They'll show you some attention and you'll know if you're turned on by men.

[Sharon B.]

I believe like some of the others have said wait and let her make the next move on this. I wouldn't bring it up let her.

[genevie]

I think we say we don't want it, but part of us still does and we are afraid to admit it.

[suchacutie]

It seems that my marital relationship is similar to yours in that I am husband as a guy and Tina is the girlfriend. In the last few years there isn't a topic that we all haven't discussed, and my wife is definitely interested in the differences between my gendered selves. With your last statement, kidding or no, you left the door open for continuing the conversation. I don't think her curiosity has be assuaged, nor her feeling that you haven't quite come to grips with your own feelings on this issue. My suggestion is that you need to sort this out in your head and be ready for the next conversation. It can't be far off!

[mikiSJ]

I then told her if she has any cute male friends we could try and see what happens, we both laughed and we had lunch and I hope that was the end of that.

I am with Chiana on this one. It seems you saw the light and went after. It is going to be very, very difficult to close the door on this statement.

[Beverley Sims]

I am with Amanda on this one take it slowly and see where it leads.
You need a satisfactory outcome not a bad one.

[missmars]

Wow. It is an amazing story.

[Mikkigurll]

For goodness sake, watch this carefully. Don't push it, let her make the next move as if it never happened.

I suggest you leave it where it is, and if she want's to pursue it, then that's fine. I also suggest keeping your openness open. That's really worth it.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Maria , Sure didn't see that one coming, Is it possible that maybe she wants a three way ??

[busker]

It is like having someone ask you "when did you stop beating your wife?" If you deny it, they say "sure" and if you provide an answer then they know what they wanted to know, true or not.
As long as there are CDs, women will always suspect that they are , if not outwardly homosexual, then closeted/non-practicing and make statements like "no , I never entertained the thought". This is a question that no matter how you answer you can't win. even if you got rid of all your femme stuff, it would still be on her mind, especially since she has brought up something that happened 22 years ago.
Does she herself harbor any same sex tendencies. Is she fishing for a girl's night in bed? I have no idea what your intimate relations are, but the question could go that way, I suppose.

[allesha10]

How wonderful it is that you have such an open wife!!

[Barbara Ella]

Maria, I agree, slow and open, this is interesting. Just one question. If you came home and your wife was on the couch, and you sat down and began rubbing her legs and began moving up under her skirt....just where would that have ended up? You say you had lunch. Just wondering.

Barbara

[Vee]

The setting described was very interesting. I would be more inclined to just play the full role reversal game with my SO. If you should decide to pursue the the other route don't do it close to home.

[Lorileah]

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. She was curious if you had ever thought about it and she asked. I would not read anything more into it. Seems if she anything more in mind since she was already probing, she would have asked.

[Erica Marie]

My first thought was, does your wife have an available sister? What Im saying with that is you are so very lucky to have such an open relationship with your wife. Not only does she accept your dressing she is actively supportive. Take time and see where this goes. Dont push the subject, maybe in a way she wants you to explore or maybe she is shyly asking if you want have some role reversal with her.

[monalisa]

If I had a wife who was rubbing my legs under the skirt I would just tell her she is the only one who gets to play with me and as much as she wants. It doesn't get much better than that. If she pushes it you could tell her to blindfold you and have her and your boss rub your leg and see which feels better. But you better get it right.

[Joann Smith]

Sounds like a setup question to me.....

[Diversity]

Sounds like you left the door open to your wife bringing home a cute male sometime, by your reply to her stating that 'we could try it and see what happens'.
Your relationship with your wife sounds wonderful, but be careful, as she may be wondering how far you would go when you are in your femine mode, and this could be a test she is giving you. Also, perhaps your wife is interested in bringing in a third party for her enjoyment, as much as yours. Interesting times ahead, I'd say. :)
Good luck!
Di

[CassandraSmith]

WOW! WHERE DID THAT COME FROM[?]

Halloween + How hot it feels having the right man (you) run a hand up her skirt + empathy skills + possible role play reversal scene she's got on her mind.

One of the hottest things my GF ever did was, uh, accessorize herself as a man and get a little physical with me. That was a special day!

[AmandaM]

I don't know if it's a setup. Could be. But then again, maybe not. If she brings it up again, ask her how she would feel if you were "bi-curious". Tell her if she doesn't like that, that it was only a curiosity and you won't indulge, just like you wouldn't indulge with another woman.

[Maria 60]

You girls have me thinking now. Now that I think about it there are times when I may go outside in the yard dressed or we may go out to take pics on a quiet country road and she always tells me that I take to many chances and that if it wasn't for her I would have been found out by now, and wonders what I do or how much further I would go if she wasn't there. She thinks I am living a double life and I guess she want to make sure she knows whats going on and be involved in both.

[MissTee]

You girls have me thinking now. Now that I think about it there are times when I may go outside in the yard dressed or we may go out to take pics on a quiet country road and she always tells me that I take to many chances and that if it wasn't for her I would have been found out by now, and wonders what I do or how much further I would go if she wasn't there. She thinks I am living a double life and I guess she want to make sure she knows whats going on and be involved in both.

Hmm. That's a very good point, Maria. :eek:

[kimdl93]

If you put aside, for the moment, the question of gender, I think almost all of us would enjoy having another person's touch. The fact that you enjoy the fantasy doesn't mean that you'll every follow through on it.


Long ago, John Prine wrote the lines

"Dreaming just comes natural,
Like the first breath from a baby,
Like sunshine feeding daisy,
Like the love hidden deep in your heart.""

[Wildaboutheels]

I don't find it a shocking question at all given the way women think. Most don't realize the "power" they possess merely by being female. And the more "attractive" a woman is, [or can make herself with all the clothing, makeup and accessories at her disposal] the more "power" she has. Our Animal Instinct at work plain and simple.

Your SO is likely simply on a fishing expedition. The thing to keep in mind with any female [per Mars/Venus - which I have personally found to be quite accurate] is that most females neither need or require SOLUTIONS when discussing something. For them, the discussion alone, is "solution enough". Once I saw that in writing, women were a lot "easier" to understand/deal with. Men ordinarily both want and NEED solutions.

The trouble is, in your particular case with your SO, is that you have planted a seed... [per your last line] I would suggest not watering it at all, unless SHE brings it up.