Advantages of a CD spouse

[MissTee]

My wife can usually see the positive in most anything. Earlier today when we were talking on the phone (I'm out of town again), she said it's definitely an advantage having a CD spouse.

"Why?" I asked.

"As much as you travel, " she responded, "I could be worried about you being out chasing other women."

"What's your point?" I replied.

"Well, I don't worry about you being out with other women because I know you're in your room dressing like one instead."

I laughed. "Touche, dear."

So, how about you girls or the GG's here. Any thoughts on the advantages you care to share?

[GroovyChristy]

I like to think that one advantage is that we aren't clueless about women's stuff like most men are. Like if a girlfriend or spouse asked us to pick up one of her favorite makeup items or new hosiery or something, we would know what to do. And we could just share our own stuff too. :D

[I Am Paula]

My wife loves that she can ask how she looks, and if I say terrific, she trusts me. If I recommend a change, she'll usually go for it.- Celeste

[GG7irish]

Well I can think of several, if we are out and he checks out a woman I know he is checking out her shoes or outfit and not her :)....But it is awesome he helps me do my nails and can feel my pain when I smudge etc. But is so nice to have my SO totally be empathetic and the best one is he makes sure I look good.

[Alice Torn]

How fortunate you really are, to have a wife like that! All the women i tell, are disgusted with me dressing.

[Beverley Sims]

I understand my wife's mood swings and other daily traumas she faces.
I can listen to her gossip and understand that it is just a way of venting without brushing her aside.
We do have better tolerance of each other and when I say "Yes Dear" she knows I have been listening and mean it.

[May(be)]

It's a secret life that can just stay for us. It's nice to have something personal between two people.

[Rachel Morley]

Advantages? According to my wife, yes. She tells me that she thinks my crossdressing and especially going out in public presenting as female gives me precious insights that go well beyond what a "regular" non-trans male is aware of, and that she would be the first to sing the praises of crossdressing husbands who do really "get" many things about women that other guys can't.

For example, she loves it that I understand why it can take so long for her to get ready for an evening out; why she just doesn't feel pretty some days despite looking more or less the same as always; why a woman might feel vulnerable when walking to the car late at night. etc etc. All of these things (and more) can make me and other crossdressers who educate themselves to be much more sensitive to women's feelings, and much more in tune with women's lives than most spouses typically are. My bi-gendered life does give me valuable insights into what it "might" be like to be female, but obviously it stops well short of what it's actually like to be a real woman.

[Mimi]

We share a special closeness and an ability to communicate nonverbally (for lack of a better word) in situations or or about the people around us. In other words, we often know what the other is thinking when we are out together. It also makes activities like shopping more fun, because we are both finding things we like, and Eryn always encourages me to buy an article of clothing if I like it.

[Cheryl T]

We've become much closer now.
Before I never wanted to go shopping with her as I was afraid I be showing too much interest in femme things and give myself away. Now we shop together all the time, share ideas for outfits, share the outfits, give constructive criticism that we know is for the betterment of the other and in general spend much more time together.
It's gotten funny. We were out looking at new home construction and love to walk through the models and criticize the layouts. One recent outing we were in a house that had a large closet in the master and 2 walkin closets. As we saw them she goes (I was drab at the time)...this one is mine (she took the largest), this could be yours, and this one is Cheryl's. Then she complained that the vanity in the bathroom was too small as it would be occupied with all my makeup so we would need a larger one....

[Tamara Croft]

Gosh there's loads :D The other day I needed some cotton wool to get my makeup off, I didn't have any, she did lol... I can always rely on her to have something I don't :D And then there's always the 'do I look ok wearing this' and I know I'll get a truthful answer :) There's also the disadvantages... like pinching my makeup :eek: because mine is better :devil:

[kimdl93]

My wife would attest to the fact that I'm a much happier person and much more pleasantto be around, it seems, because I'm no longer repressing my feminine side. She also appreciates the fact that I enjoy shopping with her...something I used to pretend not to like!

[MsRenee]

I can agree wih Kim. She sees much as being much happier, and she also like the fact that when Im dressed Im alot more assertive and not so timid. And if she runs low on makeup she has some one to borrow it from hehe.She always had issues finding other girlfriends to hang out with but like a few others have said . She now gets 2 for the price of 1.
Hugs
Renee

[Lee Andrews]

I think it has brought us closer as a couple. We can talk about anything. She trusts my judgement when it comes to her looking good for an outing. I don't mind going shopping with her, heck half the time when I point something out she says "For you or me? :battingeyelashes:" We have fun with it. She loves the fact that if she runs out of something I usually have it in the office closet, ripe for the taking. No running to the store but it gets replaced at an easier time.
All our friends wonder why we get along so well, we both say talking to each other but in our silent voices we both say, dress your man up in a skirt, works for us! lol Though men will never understand the female mind, I think this gives us a leg up on the rest of the guys that have no desire to get pretty.

[susie evans]

my wife loves to go shopping with susie her wardrobe allways expands and the fact that we ware the same size shoes is a plus also

have fun susie

[Stefanie Miller]

My wife and I are the same size so our clothing choices have doubled. She helps me with advice and on occasion I have been able to help her regarding makeup selection. Whenever we buy each other clothing or jewellery its a win win for both. Happy times.

[docrobbysherry]

One of the girls for the bridge game tonite is sick, "Honey, would Sherry like to play cards with the girls?"

The most attentive and involved husband ever when u go shopping! As long as you're in the ladies clothing/accessories section of the store!

Men normally hate gossip. But, if it's about a girlfriend's makeup or dressing foe pau, your hubby will be all ears!

Nylons and bras hanging all over the bath room? Not only won't he complain, most r probably his!

[MissTee]

All good thoughts! I had forgotten about the makeup thing until someone mentioned it. I have a Sephora train case I travel with and I always keep it refreshed and restocked. I kept noticing that I was buying what felt to be more than I used (pink fog memory lapse??) Then, I discovered that my wife would do her "shopping" in my train case. I suppose that's another advantage. Misty is very structured and never runs out of make-up. My wife? Well . . . . :brolleyes::tongueout:idontknow:

[KatieGG]

I hardly ever have to buy make up
between my clothes and those of his that fit me I always can find something to wear, and mixing our styles together is fun
NEVER a dull moment around here
I can trust his answer to the question "do these shoes look good with my outfit"
his chest is always shaven, which looks hot when he is walking around with no shirt in guy mode
When we go out and hes in guy mode he gets mad at me for taking too long to get ready, but if we go out while he is dressed I can nag him about taking too long lol

[ssmjoanne]

What is it that most people strive for?- intimacy, honesty with at least one person? Just to be yourself? I am married to a woman who has known from the very beginning that I love to crossdress. She not only has accepted it but embraced it. I have to say she enjoys it. No, she encourages it. This is a special bond between us. It is not the only one, but an important one. And I love the fact that she knows I will always love and adore her. I know that most of the women my wife knows are envious of the fact that I am a very devoted husband. She does not share all the reasons (And again, her acceptance of my crossdressing is only one). But she does feel very grateful. And I like the fact that no matter how old she gets, or if she puts on a couple of pounds around the holiday, I am not going anywhere. Lots of women as they get older live in fear- but not mine. And frankly neither do I.

[Renee]

My wife, while not overwhelmingly in favor of my dressing, does take advantage of it on many ocassions. We shop together a lot and she relys on my opinions. I buy a lot of her clothes for her and do help with her accessories even loaning her some of mine sometimes. Today was a time when she used my talents. My wife was going to get home late this afternoon and had to change for a meeting. She called to have me select an outfit for her to wear complete with lingerie shoes and accessories. I had her clothes hanging in the dressing room with lingerie and hose on her vanity stool , accessories, and makeup out on the vanity counter, and helped her get ready so she wasnt late. The change took only 5 min. She was so appreciative and called on her way to the meeting saying that she couldnt have done it with out me. It is wonderful to be able to help my wife out in areas where most husbands dont have a clue.

[SandraInHose]

LOL Even though my wife tolerates me wearing pantyhose (almost) 24/7, she knows that it's highly unlikely I'm seeing someone else. On those rare occasions when there might be a few days or a week when I might not feel like wearing them under my clothes, she has actually asked me with concern in her voice why I'm NOT wearing pantyhose lately. She gets a tad suspicious that I only stopped wearing them because I'm running around on her!

[Nikki50/50]

Girls night out is more intimate on all levels, clothes can sometimes be 'borrowed' back and forth, and the potential in the bedroom goes to new lands that are explored by very few...and only by the daring.