I am too damn tall!!

[Anne2345]

Standing flatfooted at six foot four bare foot, I am one tall ass chick.

The air I reside in and breathe is rarified indeed.

And I have let this unalterable fact eat me alive before many times in the past.

In fact, throughout my membership here on the forum, I have written and posted more than my fair share of rants and meltdowns complaining about my amazonian-like height.

I mean, I’m six foot four!!! Six foot f’ing four, for crying out loud!!!

And before anyone gets the wrong idea and advises me to calm down, have fun, love myself, and just enjoy life (GAH!!!), this ain’t another rant. This ain’t another meltdown. This ain't another self-hate fest. I am not about to fall apart again over something I have no control over.

Instead, I wish merely to acknowledge that my height is no longer the issue that it once was. In fact, it’s damn close to being a complete non-issue now. To be certain, my previous hang-ups over my height no longer hold me hostage as they once did.

Now, my height simply is what it is, and I really don’t care about it anymore.

Like so many other issues that I wrongfully thought were insurmountable, as I have since learned, height is really no different. After all, height does not change who I am. And my height should not hold any undue and detrimental influence over who I need to be, and who I have to be.

So am I really too tall? No. I’m not.

The truth of the matter is that height does not define me. I define me. I am me, and that me, whoever that may be, is without height. I simply am.

Of course, y’all have told me this repeatedly before in the past, but I didn’t buy into it. Like so many other things, though, I was wrong, and I should’ve listened to y'all. Perhaps one of these days I will learn better, but as dimwitted and stubborn as I can be, I wouldn’t hold your breath . . . . :heehee:

[RADER]

Well I am 1 inch below you; If I wear heals, I feel like I am on stilts.
You would have to put a light on my head so the airplanes don't run into me.
I wish I could get shorter, they say you shrink with time, But by the time I shrink,
I might just be dead. LOL
I have seen some tall GG's, but they are all slender, I am just the opposite.
So That is why I am a Closet person. Nothing dainty about me.
But I still like to get dressed, and my wife even helps me.
Rader

[Barbara Ella]

Yep, you are too damn tall, but you are also too damn cute. What's a girl to do?

Barbara

[SarahMarie42]

You're still beautiful, Anne :]

I'm glad you've come to terms with your once loathed height.

[LeaP]

Chica Grande,

I'm glad you got over it ... no, that's not quite right ...

It's wonderful that things are looking up ... hmmm ...

You have no idea how much I look up to you! Congratulations on being you!

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Very good stuff Anne...
height...its a toughie for us...

there are tall ggs out there...i just saw what to wear for a wedding and the girl was 6'4....and so was her best friend...

we all have a long list of mountains to climb..heh...

i'm 2" shorter than you , but i had my height on my excuse list for almost 40 years...

you make a great point that despite all the craziness of it, you have to be good to yourself and its just so nice to hear that you are good with yourself...what a wonderful thing...

[Laurie Ann]

I think of my self as 5'14" so that makes you 5'16" no biggie.

[pose007]

I am also 5'16" and sadly it is one of several excuses I have used for myself, convincing myself that going full-time is impossible for me. Even had trouble with my height as a kid because the last thing I wanted to do was stand out. Started to have major back issues and someone re-taught me to stand straight, which has changed the way people perceive me. I certainly get more respect, but I just can't seem to convince myself that I can pull this off in NYC riding subways.... more excuses - I realize.

[Sara Jessica]

It's almost dismissive for any of us who are on the south side of six foot to say "just own it" to someone who is on the north side so I won't go there. Instead, I will tell you of two very dear friends of mine who I have commented on before, that both are on the north side of six foot but they carry themselves in such a way that height doesn't seem to be an issue. It's a combination of their frame (being thin with a feminine figure helps) along with their air of confidence which shows in the way they carry themselves. Getting there yourself is far from impossible and the fact you are clearly getting your head around the issue is a wonderful start.

You know what's sad about stuff like height and shoe size? If you take out a ruler and block off the 4 or 5 inches you'd need to get below six foot, it really doesn't look like such a great distance (even more dramatic with shoe sizes). But when you plop those inches on top of your head, you really start bumping into things like ceiling fans!!!

[kimdl93]

Hallelujah, hallelujah! You got it, babe!

For the record, I'm a mere 6'2", but still a bit outside the average. And I don't care. I wear heels if I want - and I usually want to.

Oh, and relating to Traci's comments about people getting taller, some countries are taller on average too. If you and I made a trip to the Netherlands or Norway en femme, we would be women of average height! Snakker De norsk?

[melissaK]

Sweetie, I want to share some research data with you. Using a Rubbermaid 3-Step Ultralight folding step stool I took air samples at floor level, at my native 5"7," at your height of 5'16", and at a staggering 8'5" while standing atop the step stool. Using a well calibrated open flame ionization detector I tested all samples from each altitude and test results confirm that the nitrogen to "self-acceptance" molecules per cubic liter remains constant at ALL altitudes.

Ergo, your conclusions that
my height should not hold any undue and detrimental influence over who I need to be, and who I have to be. seem quite sound, and I think it will be safe from collateral attack when you put your phD thesis out for peer review.

Bend down and let me give you big hugs sweetie.

[LeaP]

But my real point is that there are a lot of tall women and women in general are becoming even taller.

I have the dubious benefit of having the entrance to my office building open into a large urban mall. I see an incredible variety of people every day. Moreover, there are a lot of younger people because this is a major college town (Not one. Scores.). And Traci is absolutely correct. There are a lot of tall girls these days.



You know what's sad about stuff like height and shoe size? If you take out a ruler and block off the 4 or 5 inches you'd need to get below six foot, it really doesn't look like such a great distance (even more dramatic with shoe sizes). But when you plop those inches on top of your head, you really start bumping into things like ceiling fans!!!

The difference on a ruler has always struck me, too. The major difference between tall women and tall men is mass, which is why I agree with your feminine figure comment. There are always exceptions, but taller women tend to be lean. There is nothing unusual whatsoever, on the other hand, about a tall man carrying proportional mass. It is also common for a taller man to carry tremendous mass, whether muscle or fat.

I know you're very athletic, Anne. The Spiro has already started taking down some of your muscle mass. At least you will not have a weight-loss problem from fat to deal with. I wonder, though – do you feel any conflicts over reducing strength and muscle because you've been so focused on athletics through your life?

[Ineke Vashon]

Like the explorer said when 'discovering' a tribe full of ultra tall women: "Take me to your ladder, I'll see your leader later."

Ineke

[KellyJameson]

I think Body dysmorphic disorder is almost a given with gender dysphoria. I cannot imagine at least the threat of BDD not being involved with GD.

For me they were intertwined.

I actually feared BDD more than the GD because I flirted with anorexia until I went to a therapist and the search for physical perfection did and does occupy my thoughts.

God knows what will happen as I get older. I see alot of depression on the horizon if I do not get a grip on it.

It is a strange paradox where you change with HRT and surgery but must accept yourself or continue to suffer if you still do not accept other forms of perceived imperfections related to "beauty as female"

Physical beauty can easily become an obsession with GD if you do not separate beauty from being female.

They are not the same thing.

[Kathryn Martin]

When I was 18 I was 6'6". Most german supermodels are over six feet tall. Now (after shrinking with age) I am 6'2" and 6''6 in heels which I wear almost daily. Almost every day guys tell me they like really tall women and not ever to not wear heels just because it makes me taller. Get over it. Talth (is that a words?) is not a barrier. My brother in law is 7' tall. I love to dance with him.

[stacycoral]

Good for you girl, as being the same height as you, i understand, i still wear 3" heels all the time, there are teachers at our high school GG that are 6' tall, and yes woman are getting taller, so feel proud, like one of the ladies said, men want taller women these days, hugs girl.

[Xrys]

you only got an inch over me. i came to grips with my hight rather quickly (still have a whole host of other body issues though). glad you got a new perspective on the situation. keep being you and dont forget to stop on ocasion to enjoy the view.

[Emily_Safford]

6-2" here...i feel your pain sister! :) especially since shoe manufacturers all seem to think anyone wishing to wear cute shoes needs to have a platform on the sole -_-

Emi ~.^

[EnglishRose]

I'm 6'6 and it's never been a problem. :) Only in my own mind pre-transition.

[Tamara Croft]

Anne, why do you think women like to wear heels.... to be TALL!!! :doh: nothing like putting on a pair of 6 inch heels to make me almost 6 foot ;)

[PaulaAnn]

I'm 6'3" and usually wear 2" heels ,but I will wear 1" heels if walking a lot.Being tall doesn't bother me as much as it used to...I was so self conscious at first ,but adapted....now I just go.There's sod all I can do about my height anyhow......besides,tall babes rock !!!
PaulaAnn

[Nicole Erin]

Anne, why do you think women like to wear heels.... to be TALL!!! :doh: nothing like putting on a pair of 6 inch heels to make me almost 6 foot ;)
Alright folks, the best advice to living/being as a woman is sought from GG's. And here is one saying women enjoy being tall. Dare anyone argue?

There is this theory in the TG community that wearing heels is some "Tranny thing". Hmm, sure, tell that to all the GG's who wear heels. Genetic women like them, why shouldn't TG? Plenty of women wish they were taller and heels give them that chance.

I don't know though what it feels like to wish I was taller or shorter. I am 5'9" which to me is perfect. Heck think of this - 5'9" is often the minimum for female models. When I see a woman who is 5'9" and I can stare directly into her eyes or she is even taller than me, oh my gyod, I just want to kneel before her and say, "Goddess, may I worship you?" Shut up, yes i love'em tall

[Tamara Croft]

Some pics of some of my shoes and boots... I have lots more lol :devil:

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[Pamela Kay]

I'm glad you have accepted your height for what it is Anne. It is you.

I have friends that stress over the fact that their hands and feet are too big, their shoulders are too wide, they have too much muscle and their arms are too big, etc., etc., etc. You have accepted what many of us must at some point, we are who we are. This is what we have to work with and we have to do the best we can with what we've got. Many will never totally come to accept this or themselves and that is the sad part.

Even if we had been born natural women, we would still have features that we wouldn't consider perfect. The plastic surgeons of the world aren't just getting rich off of trans people you know.

Glad you've grown and overcome yourself.

[Anne2345]

Some pics of some of my shoes and boots... I have lots more lol :devil:


WOW!!! Those are serious!!! :daydreaming:

I think I would be in danger of walking into ceiling fans if I wore heels that high!! :eek:

But your point is well taken!! And I love your style!!! :battingeyelashes:

[Tamara Croft]

I love my shoes, didn't used to have any, it's only in the last couple of years I've grown to love them :D I have a lot more, I'll take some pics of them tomorrow :) But high heels are definitely a tallness thing for women, I think it could even be a power thing lol ;)

[Jessica86]

Could be worse. You could be 6'06" and scraped up all the time from riding a motorcycle all day. All of what you said sounds like a conversation I had to have with myself. I am who I am. I don't present to pass, and just present who I am. So far, so good, so, in Texas terms, don't fix what ain't broken!

[Eryn]

Anne, I'm a couple of inches below you but I have walked the same path.

My perception is that all women over 5'10 are perceived as tall by average folk and once north of 6' increasing height has diminishing effect.

Now, those of us in the tall club see things from a different perspective. We can judge the height of each other and when meeting someone of similar height we tend to glance downward to see if that height comes naturally or is footwear-enhanced. We glance back upward, eyes meet, and we smile and move on.

Yesterday evening Persephone and I, along with our spouses, shared the evening together. Since most of the evening was to be in private I indulged myself with some modest 2-1/2 inch heels. We did go out to dinner and as chance would have it we spent a half-hour waiting for a table in the patio of a restaurant. With no seats available I ended up towering over the other ladies in our group and was pretty much stuck in that situation for the entire wait. I noticed that I drew a few glances but no sharp looks. I mentioned this to Persephone and she said that the reason was because I "own" my height, by which she meant that I didn't try to hide it.

Now, I'm not TS, but I do enjoy being out in the mainstream as often as I can. My height has concerned me but it has been much less of an issue than I thought it would be. It's just a part of me.

Oh, and don't talk to me about ceiling fans. On the odd occasion where I wear my 5" heels they become downright hazardous! :eek: