Starting to follow my road.

[Kimberlyfaye]

I have a plan in mind now. I know things may not go according to this plan but I have to try. I just wanted to see what all your opinions are of my basic outline.
Firstly I want to tell my mother and a couple of other people.
Then I am going to see a doctor to see what they think and see if they can refer me to a gender specialist.
Next part if I can see a specialist will be looking into living full time and changing my name.
From that point if I do not have a job it will be time to apply for jobs as Kim. Because at the moment I still apply as a male.

I don't know exactly how this will work out but all I do know is I want to live my life as Kim. So this is where I start. Is this plan ok?

[Megan72]

Best of luck to you. You may want to try and find some support groups in your area, they would be a great source of information on the details that you still need to work out. Also, I am sure that many on this forum can give you a wealth of information and help.

Hugs....Megan

[Beverley Sims]

First, tell your closest people.
See how that goes.
See your doctor and you are likely to be asked why do you want to be a woman?
As questions go that is a doozy.
Then you may be referred to a psychologist of some sort.
Maybe a gender specialist.
I would be looking at keeping my job for a couple of years at least.
If you do not have a job now you are not going to obtain one as Kim while you are still mostly boy.
You are looking at living full time about three to four years down the track in my opinion.
First tell Mum and then see where your questions go then.
One step at a time.

[Ressie]

Sounds like you're TS for sure. Being TS in the UK is different than it is here in the US. From what I've heard, your government will pay for your SRS if you truly are TS. Someone from your country would have to confirm that, but your plan sounds good either way.

[xdressed]

Sounds like you're TS for sure. Being TS in the UK is different than it is here in the US. From what I've heard, your government will pay for your SRS if you truly are TS. Someone from your country would have to confirm that, but your plan sounds good either way.

Yup, we get it free on the NHS

[reb.femme]

Hi Kim,

Charing Cross will ultimately be your destination in the south. Luckily, you are young, so you will probably be about 50 by the time they get round to you. :heehee:

Seriously though, a leading member of Croydon Trans is currently on this path and if you would like to speak to her about it, I would happily put you in touch, as she is a happy helper and adviser. She can give you the real deal so to speak, "warts and all".

Rebecca

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kimberly, It sounds like a girl with a great plan , Keep us advised.

[Jodi Anne]

Happy to hear your plan, it sounds good to me but I have found obstacles creep up. Keep your mind on the goal (or girl in our case) and you can overcome them. Also support groups will help a lot.

[vikki2020]

I guess you have to have an idea on how, and where to go, for any journey, and yours sounds pretty good. Any steps forward have to be good!

[Kimberlyfaye]

A little update for you. I've booked an appointment to see a regular doctor next week. It's my starting point. Hopefully I can get directed to a specialist. Once I start doing this and if I am referred to a gender specialist I will be informing my parents. But I did read that now you have to live full time for 2 years before getting any treatment/surgery. Anyway that's a long way off yet.
I can't believe I'm actually starting to do it. My only worry and the main thing that is holding me back slightly is the desire to one day be a father. And if I'm female I wont be able to do that. Anyway I'll think of these things as I travel on this path. I might even write a book on it so others can find help if they come to this point too :)

[Maria S]

I would be looking at keeping my job for a couple of years at least.
If you do not have a job now you are not going to obtain one as Kim while you are still mostly boy.
You are looking at living full time about three to four years down the track in my opinion.

I agree with Beverley employment is going to be your major stumbling block. It's hard enough to find a job without putting into the equation that you are a boy dressed as a girl. I'm guessing that there is a high percentage of TS out of work.

Maria

[Jennifer in CO]

not to sound crude, there are sperm donation and other routes for "retention" of those lil critters. Talk to your Dr about those options when you see them

Jenn

[Ariamythe]

I can't believe I'm actually starting to do it. My only worry and the main thing that is holding me back slightly is the desire to one day be a father. And if I'm female I wont be able to do that.
Consider preserving some sperm before you begin transitioning. It might cost a little to keep it banked, but if you want to someday have genetic children it would be the way to go.

[xdressed]

But I did read that now you have to live full time for 2 years before getting any treatment/surgery. Anyway that's a long way off yet.

Are you sure? I was under the impression that it was one full year. Regardless sounds like you are well on your way to finding out who you are, good luck Kim ^_^

[Ariamythe]

Are you sure? I was under the impression that it was one full year. Regardless sounds like you are well on your way to finding out who you are, good luck Kim ^_^
Under the current WPATH standards, it's one year before surgery. The guidelines for hormones are much more lax; by the time someone does their year, they've probably already been on hormones for awhile.

[Kimberlyfaye]

Are you sure? I was under the impression that it was one full year. Regardless sounds like you are well on your way to finding out who you are, good luck Kim ^_^

I was aware it was one year but I read on the UK government about changing gender and it says 2 years. I couldn't believe it when I saw it. Talk about making it harder for us. This is it:
https://www.gov.uk/apply-gender-recognition-certificate/changing-your-gender
Although this might just mean after your one year.

And I could save sperm but I'm not sure I could bring myself to use it. Raising a child as female then having to explain where daddy is. I'm not sure I could do that to a child. I know it's a contradiction but I want to be a father and yet I want to be a woman too. Strange right?

[xdressed]

I was aware it was one year but I read on the UK government about changing gender and it says 2 years. I couldn't believe it when I saw it. Talk about making it harder for us. This is it:
https://www.gov.uk/apply-gender-recognition-certificate/changing-your-gender
Although this might just mean after your one year.

And I could save sperm but I'm not sure I could bring myself to use it. Raising a child as female then having to explain where daddy is. I'm not sure I could do that to a child. I know it's a contradiction but I want to be a father and yet I want to be a woman too. Strange right?

Hmm, I have heard talk before of some people feeling like the government and their gender therapist are trying to keep them in some kind of transition limbo, maybe this is the kind of thing they're talking about. I've spoken with loads of transsexuals via my deviantArt account though and they have all had positive experiences with it as have the few I've seen on TV.

[Ariamythe]

I was aware it was one year but I read on the UK government about changing gender and it says 2 years. I couldn't believe it when I saw it. Talk about making it harder for us.
Hmm. Here in the U.S., most every state gov't abides by WPATH standards. And once a transperson gets GRS, the legal gender reassignment requires only a certified letter from the doc saying the deed is done.