any happily-closeted cds?

[ThatTabooFeeling]

Hi everyone. I'm new to the site and wondering if there are many out there like me who are completely closeted about their dressing and have no desire to go public?

Or are most people looking to make dressing part of their "normal" everyday life?

[Ericaxd]

I'd love it to be part of everyday life, but like you have no plans to come out of the closet--a very nice closet by the way.

[Alice Torn]

In almost 8 yrs i have been outside, about 12 or 15 times. I would like to try it, VERY CAREFULLY a few times a year.

[ThatTabooFeeling]

Haha, I don't have much of a closet at the moment... I'm waiting to find the right person/people to inspire me to rebuild my underwear collection I once had.


I'd love it to be part of everyday life, but like you have no plans to come out of the closet--a very nice closet by the way.

[Jenniferathome]

Hi everyone. I'm new to the site and wondering if there are many out there like me who are completely closeted about their dressing and have no desire to go public?

I think this likely describes the majority here. Most cross dressers are part time and closeted. Now, I will say that coming out to my wife has not altered my part time status, but it has enriched my life and our relationship. Go figure.

[Elle1946]

I am happy with my life, I can dress around the house with my wife home, but don't have the desire to go out dressed except undressing.

[ThatTabooFeeling]

I actually find it more exciting not to tell my wife... it's my little secret and telling her would somehow spoil it a little in my mind. Not sure why though! She knows I like that kind of stuff, but has shown little or no interest in it.

[NicoleScott]

There are lots of us. Other than my wife knowing (a lesson I learned the hard way), I'm deeply closeted.
There are folks who will try to pull you out of the closet using various tactics like guilt and shame, and it's mostly for their own benefit, not yours. But each of us knows our own situation best and have to make coming out/staying closeted decisions ourselves.
I agree with most others that you should tell your future wife before marriage (again, a lesson I learned the hard way).

[Stephanie47]

I am an in-home cross dresser. I have been outside on occasion during the evening when I feel I will not encounter humanity. I dress for stress relief. Going outside my home and backyard would be counterproductive. I enjoy getting all prettied up and working around the house and backyard.

[Julie Denier]

I am a completely private dresser as I have no desire to be chased by villagers with torches and pitchforks.

[suzy1]

Count me in. I have no need to go out dressed and I am as happy as a very happy person.:dance:

[Richelle423]

My home is not my castle but my closet.I do venture out wrearing womens jeans and sneakers. underdressed but
i can't at this point go out in make-up wig etc.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Closeted, but not limited to the closet, most of the time it's the bedroom, home office, bathroom, and dare I say, gasp the kitchen!

[Joanne.England]

I'm a closet person although I have gone out underdressed on several occasions. I don't get many opportunities as my SO does not know.

[andrea lace]

I recently told my wife and she is happy with the situation. In fact it has only strengthened our relationship we have ushered in a new era of love trust and honesty between us. I have not gone out of the house dressed en femme but have on several occasions gone out under dressed. Until now I have only dressed in what could be removed in a hurry but now my wife knows the sky's the limit. Just being able to be myself in front of her has its own rewards for me and for Breeze (lets get the femme on)

[ReluctantDebutant]

The closet is great it is the best of both worlds. Stay home and fullfill your fantasy then change and go out with friends without a care.

[Cary]

I have been a single closeted cder for years and love it. It's fetish/sexual for me. It started with pantyhose at 8 and morphed to fully dressing from the neck down(no wig or make up).

[Barbara Maria]

I'd like to go out but I'm not kidding myself. I'm just not passable. However,the closet does have its advantages. My wig and most of my clothes are too young for my age group. But I like them.They make me feel younger,and being in the closet,that's all that matters.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Partially closeted here. My wife has shown a considerable tolerance, understanding, and acceptance, and I'm impressed that she has done some of her own research. That does not change the fact that so far, she has set limits on acceptance, namely that I can shave my legs and wear hose, heels, and a silk robe (which she purchased for me) around her. She does not want to see me in a skirt, dress, and wouldn't dream of helping me look more feminine. She does allow me to underdress with hose when we go out, especially when she is wearing hose herself, because she understands that's an important erotic element for me (especially when we wear the exact same brand and shade...not sure why that trips my trigger but it does).

Beyond that I am closeted and anything more is done in private. I'm both lucky and unlucky that I spend 2-3 nights away from the family for work. Unlucky because I am away, lucky because I can dress to my heart's content. So I have acquired more heels, and some skirts, tops and dresses. She is aware that I have purchased additional items, but she does not want to see them, so that part is DADT and will remain closeted.

I'll take what I can get. It's only been 2 months. I'm hoping that if I show some restraint her curiosity will get the better of her, and she'll invite me to wear everything with her. We'll see. Until then, it's closet for me!

[michellecd9999]

I guess everyone's closet is different. My wife, family and friends do not know I CD. However, I have been out in public a few times dressed as Michelle. I just keep a big wall between my two personalities. No one in my male life knows about Michelle and no one who knows Michelle knows anything about my male side. I will always keep it that way to protect the innocent!

[NathalieX66]

I'm sure there are many of you out there that have this secret sacred place of yours that will never leave the bedroom, or your front door.......or that suitcase in your attic full of your womens' fineries.
You all rule in my book.....do what's right for you. :thumbsup:

The confines of my own house is not enough for me. ....that's just me. I can only speak for my self, and no one else.

As Ringo, of the Beatles, always says.....Peace & Love.

[Diversity]

I am finding a change coming from within, where I would like to try being dressed 'en femme' in public. On two occasions I did this in 'male mode' by wearing' clothing which was questionably feminine. The only exception was the pair of women's sandals, I wore with my women's jeans, panties, and scoop-necked tee shirt. No bra was worn as I did not want it to show. No makeup. No wig. Nails were all male (feet and hands) - no color.
I know this is boring, but for me, this was a big step taken. I went to two shopping malls, and also had a manicure and pedicure dressed in this manner.
In time, I'll get braver....
Di

[Ceri Anne]

First things first, Welcome! I am closeted at home, work and among my non cd friends. I travel all the time for my job, and am usually dressed in the evenings in my hotel, and go out often. I love going out dressing, eiher shopping, the local karaoke bar or to dinner. It takes a ton of courage the first few times, but is so much fun. I've never had a bad experience, and found most people are curious and friendly. You will find girls of all types here, closeted, Cd only, straight, gay, transexual and everything else. Just be who you are and come one in, the waters great!

[nvlady]

My closet is very comfortable. I live alone and rarely dress, but I seem to visit this site on a daily basis. I have no desire to go outside or to show this side of me to anyone. I had a girlfriend who encouraged me, but dressing up was still a rare occurance.

[Emogene]

For me, dressing was suddenly, just there! It had apparently lurked quietly below the surface then . . . .

Emotions ranged from excited to mortified as I came to realize my status as a CD. It wasn't planned, it suddenly just was! As a macho type guy, there was a certain amount of "are you nuts" in my thinking.

As I dressed at home, my SO and I came quickly to realize that my need to dress was a very positive thing in that it allowed me to relax, to get in touch with my emotions, to communicate far more effectively and more in depth than ever before. No guilt.

While I am not out to everyone, my wife, oldest son and one old and very trusted friend are aware of my dressing.

That said, I've been out once fully dressed to a casino in Las Vegas. Great fun! While I can't imagine CD full time, going out is fun and I suspect distinctly different than the simple need to dress. I recommend it, very liberating!

A delightful adventure we are all embarked upon; great joy to you all where ever your dressing may lead!

[Michelle (Oz)]

There are folks who will try to pull you out of the closet using various tactics like guilt and shame, and it's mostly for their own benefit, not yours.

My closet sufficed until my weight came down lots to be comfortable going out dressed again - interacting with an accommodating or even accepting society is a rewarding experience.

Each of us has our own drivers and constraints whether personally imposed or negotiated and our solution to satisfying the need to dress is the outcome. Frankly though Nicole, I don't give a [proverbial] whether others stay in the closet or venture out. Absolutely no benefit to me. I do however offer encouragement based on personal experience to those who would like to try.

[docrobbysherry]

Closet, YES! Out dressed amongst Muggles, NO!

I love going out dressed! To TG friendly clubs, to CD conventions, and occasionally to meet other dressers.

But, going to Macys, the supermarket, or shoe store dressed? Pointless, stressful, and completely unnecessary!

However, if I could pass or I was TS, I mite answer differently!

[AmyGaleRT]

I've been pretty heavily closeted up til now, but I've been just starting to crack the door open a little bit! I'm gradually going to push that door a little wider, but I'm still only going to be part-time. And I'm probably barely passable at best...

- Amy

[Devi]

Another happily closeted CD here. It's simple, straightforward, and doesn't present any issues or angst in dealing with the world at large. Lets me focus my energies into transforming and feeling happy. Works fine for me.

[Beverley Sims]

I have always had a closet, but over the years it has expanded to a ridiculous extent.

[Lacey New]

I am another one who is comfortable in my closet. No one knows except my friends here on line an perhaps a few anonymous sales associates who might have privately guessed. I rarely get an opportunity to fully dress - only when wife is gone for extended time but I secretly underdress occasionally. Shopping for lingerie while underdressed is a favorite sport.

The separation keeps the home and professional life neatly in one bucket and my alter life neatly in another.

[SallyS]

Went out en-femme 20 years ago, but now strictly a 'stay-at-home' kindda girl:)

No big deal to me, to be stuck in doors all the time. But I'm sure once my kids have all grown and left the nest I might venture outside once more?

Just realised....I don't go out much as a MAN either!!!!

[AllyCDTV]

I absolutely love having my deep, dark secret and secret identity. It greatly adds to the excitement I feel when dressing. I've gone out only a handful of times and have felt way too stressed to enjoy it.

[PaulaDallas]

Since I live alone, my home is my closet. I never have an urge to appear dressed in public. But I underdress with panties and bra 24/7.

[Janie {3]

Wish going out dressed could be a part of my every day life. But, there are situations that prevent that.

[Launa]

I could never pass and I hate being locked up in the closet.

Its a bad combination....

[Jamie001]

I could never pass and I hate being locked up in the closet.

Its a bad combination....

Then maybe you should come out, or just wear feminine items in your male presentation like I do. I am the opposite of a Tomboy.

[flatlander_48]

I am a completely private dresser as I have no desire to be chased by villagers with torches and pitchforks.

... to say nothing of the garlic and stakes!

Anyway, one thing that all of us have to think about is that you can't unring a bell. Knowing intimate details about someone's life has great potential to change relationships. Sometimes, as we've seen on the forum, it is a positive change. However, sometimes it is a very negative change and it's often hard to predict which way a given situation will go. In the best of circumstances, coming out is a difficult process; often rewarding but difficult.

So, in 10 years I have been out fully dressed once. The circumstances were right and I did it. I was with my current wife, but it was before we were married. She crossdressed also and we had a great time. However, we were someplace where it was quite unlikely that we would see someone that we knew. Usually at least once during a weekend I go out fully underdressed for grocery shopping, the mall or Home Depot. And so far, that's enough. I don't have much desire to go out fully dressed again. But, maybe one of these days...

[Jenniferathome]

I actually find it more exciting not to tell my wife... it's my little secret and telling her would somehow spoil it a little in my mind. Not sure why though! She knows I like that kind of stuff, but has shown little or no interest in it.

I disagree. SHARING this side of you is far, far better than hiding it.

[Miranda09]

I'm really perfectly happy just dressing around the house. If I ever do want to get out, there are always conferences to attend, such as Be-All here in Chicago, tho this year's was canceled!!

[Launa]

Then maybe you should come out, or just wear feminine items in your male presentation like I do. I am the opposite of a Tomboy.


I will clarify....I do go out when I can but its not as often as I would like too. Last 2 weekends I went out to some bars at night.
Got whistled at once and I'm sure I was laughed at more than you could count too. My avatar pic was taken at a crappy bar...

I would wear some chicks' clothing if I could from time to time but right now I can't pull it off.

[nhlighthouse]

My thoughts are echoed along with you...right now it is more than satisfing to go out underdressed and maybe wearing a Daisy Funetes Blouse along with a cami. tight snake skin leggings under my male pants with knee highs make me feel GREAT! outside especially when a cool/cold breeze blows and COOLZS everything off..you know what I mean Ladies!

I am finding a change coming from within, where I would like to try being dressed 'en femme' in public. On two occasions I did this in 'male mode' by wearing' clothing which was questionably feminine. The only exception was the pair of women's sandals, I wore with my women's jeans, panties, and scoop-necked tee shirt. No bra was worn as I did not want it to show. No makeup. No wig. Nails were all male (feet and hands) - no color.
I know this is boring, but for me, this was a big step taken. I went to two shopping malls, and also had a manicure and pedicure dressed in this manner.
In time, I'll get braver....
Di

[Sara Jessica]

The closet has a rather fluid definition.

Those who know me in TG land know that I get out & about quite often. Yet by definition I am still in the closet because I'm not "out" to all who know me in my regular day-to-day life (my Elephant notwithstanding).

The question might be phrased differently as to whether a person has a need or desire to be out & about or if they are simply content in staying behind closed doors.


There are folks who will try to pull you out of the closet using various tactics like guilt and shame, and it's mostly for their own benefit, not yours. But each of us knows our own situation best and have to make coming out/staying closeted decisions ourselves.

I'm not seeing anyone trying to shame or guilt others into coming out. You are right, it is a decision that is very personal and the only person who has to deal with the fallout is the person who is making their choice. But in all fairness, I think I recall what you are talking about but I think that situation had more to do with denial than anything else.

It doesn't change my world in the least bit if someone on the other side of the country decides to venture out. My own activism for our community is to interact with people on a personal level to show that TG's are like any other person. Those who choose to go out might do the same. My only hope is that they consider those who follow in their wake when making decisions as to appearance and behavior. We are somewhat rare in the Muggle's world and like it or not, we leave definite impressions on others.

[Vicky Peters]

I am in the closet, but the size of the closet has expanded to the whole house. I have no desire to venture outside the house, except for underdressing during the winter. My wife knows and is understanding.

[Frédérique]

I'm new to the site and wondering if there are many out there like me who are completely closeted about their dressing and have no desire to go public?

I would classify myself as “closeted,” although I do go out. I see it purely as a challenge, trying to make the mundane into the magical. Most of the time I have no desire to go out in public, but if the situation presents itself I enthusiastically take the plunge…

[IngeInCO]

I am happy. My closet is big and full

[Ressie]

Yes the closet and around the house (inside) has been good for me. But I did go out dressed once last year to a very safe atmosphere and had a good time. That's something that was on my bucket list, and I will do it again sometime. But I don't see myself stepping out regularly.

[Crissy Kay]

The closet is great it is the best of both worlds. Stay home and fullfill your fantasy then change and go out with friends without a care.

That is pretty much what I feel too. I just have no interest in going out enfemm. I am happy to be my guy self, most of the time.

[cathie pantyhose]

personally too afraid to go out publicly. The only time I've ever been out of the house dressed fem was from the waist down while driving or in my own back yard. I'll sit and read or work on the laptop while sitting on the patio on the warmer months when the kids are not at home.

[Hannah_Brooks]

I'm closeted... and prefer it to stay that way. Only like-minded strangers get to see Hannah come alive. :)

[sometimes_miss]

I am a completely private dresser as I have no desire to be chased by villagers with torches and pitchforks.
^ and there we go. I can't admit to 'happily'. I'm really not a happy person, but I'm not usually sad, either. Sort of both, whenever the appropriate emotion is expressed.

[Sharon B.]

Stay mostly inside but have ventured out in the backyard and have gone for drives dressed as a woman. I would like to find someone who be accepting of what I enjoy doing. Then maybe she could push me farther than I have gone so far.
There are times when I could just say the heck with what anybody thinks and just go about my errands as a woman but that time hasn't come.

[Kate's at home]

Because of my size, I stay at home. I do get out sometimes at night for quick trips when I don't have to get out of the car and my wife runs in for any quick errands.

There are days though when I wish I was a perfect size 6, be able to pass easily with hair and make up, and get out and enjoy...

Kate

[Meg East]

I have this walking closet which includes my wife and myself. The closest I come to going out is going to the garage to dump the trash.

I love our private, safe world.

[Julie Denier]

^ and there we go. I can't admit to 'happily'. I'm really not a happy person, but I'm not usually sad, either. Sort of both, whenever the appropriate emotion is expressed.

I was simply making a tongue-in-cheek reference to my size and other physical attributes that would make it difficult to pass or even blend. That said, I truly have no desire to go out dressed at this time and happily keep my dressing private.

[Allison Chaynes]

Outside of one time, doing a Womanless Beauty Review, I stay home. I will occasionally go into my backyard if I know my next door neighbor won't be outside.

[Petra_Briar]

The closet gets a little small from time to time, but I know that I am not ready for the big broad world....

[SHINY-J]

I am mostly happy just dressing at home. I do occasionally venture out into public, but only when it's late at night and nobody is around. Always feel compelled to take risks when dressing.

[DressForSuccess]

I am also a private dresser who has no intentions yet to go out. I am happy to dress at home, but I always want more time.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi TTF, To each his own you are your own master---------------unless you are married.

[amy96]

Me too. But its a slow process and I think I am getting better at dressing....the wigs are harder than the makeup sometimes!

[traci_k]

Although I'm generally a happy person, this is one area Im not happy about. I told my wife before we got married that I had been a CD but had gotten rid of everything. But as time went on, those old feelings returned and I now accept my self as a CD and I know I have a definite femine side, but I don't know if its enough to justify transitioning and the losses that entails so my heart really goes out to the girls that have the courage to make that change.
Hugs!

[Lacyfem]

I generally think most of us would go out more if we thought we were truely passable. I do go out and drive around sometimes all dressed up but not much further than that as being 6'6" in heels tends to make me stand out to start with so I'm happy to dress in the closet because that is what it is!

[Abbyru1]

I could not pass as female at a blind person convension in the dark so Abby stays in the closet. My wife knows but does not
encourage so I stay where I am. I'm not sure my state would tolerate big guys going about dressed as females. Not real proud of
the fact that two young guys beat up a gay young man and left him to die in fence not so long ago in this state. Yeah I know being gay
and crossdressing are usually considered two different things,but yah never know. . . . .

[NathalieX66]

A toast to all of you who have this secret side of you! You are definitely complex. Such is the human mind.

Me, I had to come out and express this side of me. There really is no other choice.

It maybe late in life, but I'm glad I'm out & about.

[AmandaBlack]

Totally closeted here...and happy with that. No desire to go out dressed en femme, besides, dressing in lingerie is my thing and that may not work outside!

I only dress when the house is mine alone for a day or two...I love those moments when I can relax and dress fully, put on make up, wigs etc. On occasions when I have a few hours alone I'll slip into panties and thigh highs and enjoy the feeling.

I enjoy having my own taboo secret,though, in a perfect world my wife would be into it and it'd be something we could share. I realize that will never be the case and I'm plenty fine with that other than the fact that if I didn't have to keep it a secret...I'd have a crazy high heel shoe and boot collection!