Second guessing your chosen name?

[Nicole Erin]

Before the legal change, it can be anything. I had like 3 different ones over time.
But then the legal change...
I don't hate my name, But i am starting to kinda wish I had thought of "Brenda" at some point. Not sure why but that is one woman name I adore.

I know I "could" legally change it again but as we know, that is a huge hassle.

[Rianna Humble]

It's a shame that it is such a hassle on your side of the pond - over here the biggest problem is letting everyone know who has your name on file.

Still, I'm not sure that I can imagine you as a Brenda.

If you do change it, I might have the divvil of a job remembering that you are not good Old Nic :hiding:

[Beth-Lock]

I got people confused and some a bit fed up, by changing my name three times, the last time by legal name change, In order to give me te maximum flexibility I gave myself two middle names, though I dropped one name that I could have added as a middle name in addition. If I had added it, the problem of not enough space in some computer systems to put all my names in, in full, would have been worse and happened more often. All in all, my only real regret is nobody can spell my new first name, often even after I tell them how, and warn them. Just the day before yesterday when I was getting two copies notarized, the notary public misspelled my first name on one copy, though not on the other. Luckily I caught it before I left, and had it corrected.


It's a shame that it is such a hassle on your side of the pond - over here the biggest problem is letting everyone know who has your name on file..
It is not a big hassle in Ontario, Canada, but takes a bit of time in filling out the forms and a hundred dollars or more. I have kept a count of how many places I had to change my name in their records, and it is 60 plus to-date and I am not finished.



Still, I'm not sure that I can imagine you as a Brenda.
A few thought the chosen diminutive I chose as my first name was not at all, 'me.' It is a name popular among the younger generation, and a bit brash. Well, I was not going to choose a name like Iris or Dorcas, typical of my generation, was I?

[Katelyn B]

I've never regretted Katelyn, though I would, if pressed, regret the choice of spelling, but only a little. It never occurred to me that wasn't the "usual" way it was spelt, and by the time someone pointed it out, they were looking at the signed deed poll.

[Xrys]

i am verry happy with my chosen name and many of my friends are getting used to it. i do understand issues with pronounciation or spelling. spelling it with an X instead of a K really throws people off. still have too much to do before full time and legal change. but each week i get closer.

[Leanne2]

Unusual names are fine as long as you don't mind correcting everyone about its spelling and pronunciation. I have had to do that my whole life with my last name and it does get old. Leanne

[melissaK]

Nicole,

A rose by any other name . . . . . . dontcha know.

I've rethought mine a time or two but have opted to keep it.

I adopted Melissa in about 1992. I chose it in part because my birth name starts with an M too, and because I liked Melissa Joan-Hart who was on a then popular teen show my daughter liked called "Clarissa Explains it All." And since I'm a big "know it all" too, it fit. Since there's a million Melissa's out there I needed a middle name. I chose the initial K as part of "know it all" (and have since expanded it to Karen). I have since thought Melissa is too long and have shortened it with a nickname "Lissa," but I am sticking with Melissa as the full name.

And now you know the lame joke behind my email name LissaKitall@.

[Andrea J]

Of course your legal name does not have to be the same as the one you are called by, think of nick names. So changing it legally doesn't mean you can't still experiment with different names. Though your friends might get tired of the constant changes!

[LeaP]

Of course your legal name does not have to be the same as the one you are called by, think of nick names. ...

Good point ... Supergirl!


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I don't hate my name, But i am starting to kinda wish I had thought of "Brenda" at some point.

I like "Brenda" and even thought about it myself one point. (Hopefully that didn't ruin it for you – LOL!) I can easily see you as Brenda. And for some reason it seems to have a similar ring as Erin.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Find a name that you are comfortable with.Its a hassle changing it always.

[Nicole Erin]

It's a shame that it is such a hassle on your side of the pond - over here the biggest problem is letting everyone know who has your name on file.
Still, I'm not sure that I can imagine you as a Brenda. If you do change it, I might have the divvil of a job remembering that you are not good Old Nic :hiding:

Changing a name is not really difficult but just as you said - changing with all the other legal paperwork and letting the bill collectors know of the change along with friends family etc...
The legal part is pretty easy. Just all the other crap.

I am not like dead serious considering a legal change. I know even if i did that, sooner or later I would probably think of some other name I like.

[sandra-leigh]

I just always spell out my family name every time, or else people "correct" it to a similar name with one extra letter (but which does not match the pronunciation.)

[silverfurret]

I'm going from first and middle names of Christian Michael to Xyla (pronouced zy-la) Kathleen. My mom proposed the idea of Kathleen as it's a family tradition for girls in her family but thinks xyla sounds like a "trans" name. Thoughts?

[Rianna Humble]

Xyla is extremely uncommon as a person's name - which might explain your mother's remarks. However, it is also a brand name for a sugar substitute.

My own first name seems to confuse people who often ask me where the "h" goes, but even that can be useful. When I want a client to remember my name, I tell them to think of the singer but that there are a few differences:


She's younger than me
She's prettier than me
She can sing
She can't spell the name :heehee:

[silverfurret]

Xyla is extremely uncommon as a person's name - which might explain your mother's remarks. However, it is also a brand name for a sugar substitute.

I can respect that it's unusual, I just have an attachment to it as it was the name I wanted to call a daughter so it feels right to use it for myself now