Potential trouble ahead.

[Rachael_TX]

I ran into my older brothers ex wife while shopping at Marshall's today on my lunch break. I was half dressed. I had on a pink ruffle tank and a black lace coverup. Black mens trousers and black heels. I had just come out of the dressing rooms and was headed to check out. We saw each other. It looked like she was about to say something but I quickly turned and went the other direction. Hung the items up that i was going to purchase and left the store. Before tjis I think the last time I saw her was at my nephews wedding. Hopefully she just "thought" it was me and doesn't call the house and leave a message that my wife or kids would pick up.
Keep taking risks and one day it will bite you.

[Diversity]

Sorry to hear this Rachael. Hope she decides that 'mum's the word'.... Good luck!
Di

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Wow, that would be disconcerting indeed. Its possible she didnt recognize you, but if she did and says something... be ready ;)

[kimdl93]

Chances are fairly good, based on her reaction, that she recognized you, but the question is whether or not she'll care one way or the other. Honestly, I think it would have been less of a risk if you had simply kept on about your business or summoned the courage to acknowledge her.

I do have a question. While I'm certainly OK with individuals dressing any way they choose, within the standards of decency, wouldn't dressing fully en femme attract less attention than the half n half presentation? It may have allowed you to pass unnoticed by your former sister in law.

The other point I'd make is that if you're out there "taking risks" then most assuredly, you'll have an unpleasant surprise. If, in contrast, you're out and open about yourself, then there may be some people who respond adversely, but they cannot hurt you.

[PaulaQ]

@Rachael
1. One key to being sneaky is to not shop or dress anywhere remotely close to where anyone you know could plausibly run into you. Avoiding this can be really hard.
2. Have you considered the possiblity that some portion of you, inside, may want to get caught, so you take risks? The subconcious mind - it is a devious thing at times.

Just stuff to think about. Hopefully since it's his ex-wife, she won't gossip in your circle anymore. Good luck.

[STACY B]

@Rachael
1. One key to being sneaky is to not shop or dress anywhere remotely close to where anyone you know could plausibly run into you. Avoiding this can be really hard.
2. Have you considered the possiblity that some portion of you, inside, may want to get caught, so you take risks? The subconcious mind - it is a devious thing at times.

Just stuff to think about. Hopefully since it's his ex-wife, she won't gossip in your circle anymore. Good luck.



Yea I thought the same thing once upon a time !! Not a chance ,, Way to many people know me in or out of town ,,I would have had to go so far out that after getting there I would never have any money left to buy clothes or whatever !! So I just go as close to home as I can an just Bite the Bullet . Only live once I guess !! Good luck !

[Rachelakld]

Wow, I'ld bet she recognised you.
My wife and kids would not be overly surprised if one day such a phone call was made, I try to encourage the response to such a call to be "and ?" since it's not a crime to dress up.

[Sara Jessica]

I do have a question. While I'm certainly OK with individuals dressing any way they choose, within the standards of decency, wouldn't dressing fully en femme attract less attention than the half n half presentation? It may have allowed you to pass unnoticed by your former sister in law.

Yep, my thought exactly. You go out & about half-baked and you are asking to be recognized (as I presume you had no wig & makeup).

The picture of your tale in my mind's eye is that you had a break from work for some reason and you decided to throw on the feminine top and heels to do a little shopping, perhaps fairly close to home and/or work. I'm not surprised that you got burned.

[Rachael_TX]

Yea pretty much the scene. The store was about 40 miles from home and about 10 miles from work. I'm not sure where she lives nowadays.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Close by I would assume. I think subconsciously you wanted to be outed or you wouldn't have gone out "half baked" or so close to where your livelihood is. I could be wrong, I don't know you, but it sounds like a sub conscience action.

[Beverley Sims]

When we live on the edge we have to be prepared to take the high dive.
Hopefully you confused her.
I imagine I see people all the time.
It is probably better that way because if I investigated further I probably was correct in my assumption.
Think of all the skeletons I would have let out of the cupboard let alone all the worms that were in the can.

[I Am Paula]

Each friend, acquaintance, family member, etc. that I run into is one less to tell later. I do however always make a joke out of it. It creates that pause, while things sink in e.g.- they say 'My god! You're wearing womens clothes'. Possible answers:
Damn, not again!
Everything else was in the wash.
I never would have joined witness protection if I'd known about this part.
I've always dreamed of spending time abroad.
Someone didn't read the memo.

I go where I want. I've made my choices, and will live with any adverse reactions. If someone is offended, I probably didn't need them in my life anyway.-Celeste

[Lorileah]

Or you could quit sneaking and lying and maybe tell your SO about your proclivity instead of waiting for her to hear it from someone else. Even a DADT relationship would be better than sneaking

[Eryn]

This experience is why I keep a "No Fly Zone" for Eryn and always go out fully dressed and made up. If a friend or co-worker were to see me that far from home they likely wouldn't recognize me because my femme appearance is so different from my male appearance and they wouldn't be expecting familiar faces that far from home.

OTOH, my wife is quite recognizable to our friends so our agreed procedure is that if she sees someone she knows she will engage them while I head the other way as if I don't know her. This has only happened once, at an outlet mall 50 miles from home, and it was a non-event. She saw a co-worker entering the store so we had plenty of time to split up.

[Deborah Kaye]

I thought I had that problem just Tuesday afternoon. I was waiting for assistance at Goodwill, turned to my left a bit and thought I saw someone I used to work with and still saw out and around once in a while. I turned around for just a moment, then back again in her direction. Turned out to be someone else entirely. The face looked sort of familiar but the hair, while long turned out to be blonde rather than silver gray like the woman I knew. I was casually but fully dressed as any woman out on errands but I doubt I would have fooled the woman I initially thought I saw. I must admit I do "see" people all the time but only 2 or 3 times in 3 years did they actually turn out to be someone I knew. And that was in my wig-only stage, which would still have caused me serious problems. I suppose being en fem does activate some sort of CD antenna regarding being read by people we know.

[linda allen]

I ran into my older brothers ex wife while shopping at Marshall's today on my lunch break. I was half dressed. I had on a pink ruffle tank and a black lace coverup. Black mens trousers and black heels. I had just come out of the dressing rooms and was headed to check out. We saw each other. It looked like she was about to say something but I quickly turned and went the other direction. Hung the items up that i was going to purchase and left the store. Before tjis I think the last time I saw her was at my nephews wedding. Hopefully she just "thought" it was me and doesn't call the house and leave a message that my wife or kids would pick up.
Keep taking risks and one day it will bite you.
I agree with Kim that running around in public with a mixture of male and female clothes (especially heels) is going to get you noticed by a lot more people than if you went for the whole female package (including wig, forms, etc.)

Now if you are hiding your dressing from your wife and kids but running around in public half dressed or even fully dressed, it's bound to get back to your wife and kids. Suppose you had run into your wife and kids? Are you ready for that?

You need to do some serious thinking about which way you plan to go with this. It's going to end poorly on your current path.

[Stevie]

I was at a subway ordering food when the cashier told me that he knew me from my last job. I didn't even remember this person especially the job he was referring to was several years back. But he did recognize me. Even though I was in drab. Point is there is always potential for someone noticing you when you least expect it.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Rachael, I once had a close call like that I was in K-MART with some tops and skirts over my arm
and I saw my mouthy sister inlaw in the next isle I dropped the clothes and made a hasty exit before she saw me.