Things others have done that make you feel femme?

[Violetgray]

Just curious, what are your favorite things that others have done that made you feel feminine? Here are some of mine:

1.) My friend Dennis, 6'3 290 lbs. once, when I was Violet picked me up and carried me to my destination like a damsel, all 5'6" and 155 lbs (at the time) of me!

2.) I was chatting with some girls, happen to mention some weight I had gained (not an affectation of girly things to talk about, I had gained weight) And one of them turned to me and said "Oh really? Did you recently have a baby?"

3.) Various. Male friends putting their hands on the small of my back, offering to walk me to my car, carrying things for me, etc.

What about you all? Can't wait to hear! :-)

[docrobbysherry]

You're very lucky to have experienced those things, Violet. U r such a pretty woman. Some of us will never know what that is like.

I've been out many times. A number of T's and even non-T's have paid me compliments. However, I can't pass. I know they're trying to be nice or simply being polite. Until last Halloween.

When I attended a vanilla dance dressed and masked! A few folks there actually either thot I was female or were unsure. The feelings I had were indescribable and completely unexpected!

It's one thing to go out confidently as a guy in a dress. It's quite another to actually be mistaken for and treated as a female!

I can't wait to see what others say on the topic. Nice thread, Violet!

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Hi Violet. Nothing as substantial as you have experienced, but my wife told me my legs looked so femme in hose and heels that she didn't want to see me wearing heels anymore. That was both good and bad; gratifying that she thought my legs looked feminine, but sad that it didn't seem like we would be sharing that. She's since eased up a bit, but I can tell it will take time to wrap her mind around it.

[Chickhe]

A few years ago at halloween in a bar I was litterally pushed in to the woman's washroom as I was intending to go to the men's and the girl who I never met before who was doing the pushing said, oh! Be careful, you amost went in the guy's! Later that night I was dancing with my wife on a raised platform and there were also some guys dancing up there and they were promptly removed by the bouncer since its for woman only. Fun stuff! ...doesn't happen often, but it is a magical experience.

[noeleena]

Hi,

As you know im a member of our SCA Renaissance group so we reinact the times of 1400 to 1700 & yes dressed in those times as well. & we have our King & Queen plus all the other officer's of rank.there were 230 people there,

So i was very surprised to have my name called out , ( noeleena ) i thought oh no, im on the mat one of our men said ...well.... dont just sit there, get going, oh heck,,,, going down the isle one more to my right said your done for now, i said iv been sussed,

so as you know we kneel before our King & Queen & as i was going to the officer in charge took my hand as i knelt before them.on the red cushon, i was given a citation for being so wellcomeing of others who are new & helping out so much around the camp. so iv been given the rank of Lady, remember its not given to men only women,& the oficer took my hand again as i was getting up to return back down the asle. That was totaly not expected,

These people are lovely & its so neat to be with & around them & more so for a week. we'v not long come back from.

Whats so neat is they have accepted my being different , so i count it an honor to be with them,

...noeleena...

[Angela Campbell]

The best for me so far was a man I do not know opening a door for me.

[SexyErica]

For me being that I had my first public outing just this past Saturday it was just a simple "Hello Ladies" as we walked into the club.

[Caroline-Grant]

When people get me confused with a real woman or hit on me it gives me a bolster. But if a guy persistantly hits on me after I tell him I'm straight it get's irritating fast.

[SherriePall]

Leaving a motel once after changing and getting dolled up, a couple of construction workers leaving at the same time, slowed down and one held the door for me. (a soft thank you followed.) Another time, I was driving and stopped at a stop sign when an older man waved me to go ahead first even though it wasn't my turn. As I gave him a polite femme wave of thanks, I noticed his wife glaring at him! She would have been laughing if she only knew.
I have never been carried away or had a hand on my back, but I'm thrilled I even had a door held for me.

[Rebecca Watson]

When I was younger I had long hair; I mean really long hair, down to my bottom. When I was in the (male) bathroom once, a man walked in and quickly walked out again. He came back in and explained that he saw my long hair and thought he'd walked into the ladies. I wasn't dressed en femme or anything, so I guess he just saw the hair and decided not to look for anything else. I suppose some people would take offence at this, but I thought it was great! This was probably 10 years ago now, but it's something I haven't forgotten.

Also, one of my friends (who is also a musician) wrote me a song. (Actually, this was amazing in itself.) It was a birthday song. In it, there was a recurring joke about me talking like a girl. My at-the-time girlfriend largely agreed that I do, in fact, talk like a girl.

- Becky

[Andy66]

Some of us gentlemen love treating you like ladies, too. I had the pleasure of buying a lovely CD lady a drink in a bar recently. :drink:

[Beverley Sims]

Being able to hold the floor with a group of GG's hanging off my every thread of conversation.
You do have to have something interesting to hold everyone's attention.

[NV Susan]

Things others have done that make me feel more feminine....

A gentleman opening a door for me.

A guy whistling at me as I walked down the sidewalk.

A really cute guy buying me a drink. Wish it had been Andy66 but it wasn't....

[Andy66]

A really cute guy buying me a drink. Wish it had been Andy66 but it wasn't....
Awwww, Susan... Sorry we never had that opportunity. Also sorry Im not really cute. :P

[Tracii G]

Andy you can buy me a drink anytime LOL.
Several years ago I had a policeman open the door for me at a Meijer store.The automatic door had no power so he opened it saying here ma'am the door is pretty heavy let me get it for you.
Had two guys compliment my butt and hair in that same store the comment was "damn she has a perfect ass and hair" the other guys said she is really cute too did you see her face?
That was about the best compliment I ever got but I was afraid to say anything.

[Lorileah]

Pulling out my chair, buying me drinks, complimenting my outfit. Being TOLD I cannot walk to the car alone anymore when I leave.

Having that special someone stare in my eyes...even when I don't have mascara smudged

[Jamie001]

Andy you can buy me a drink anytime LOL.
Several years ago I had a policeman open the door for me at a Meijer store.The automatic door had no power so he opened it saying here ma'am the door is pretty heavy let me get it for you.
Had two guys compliment my butt and hair in that same store the comment was "damn she has a perfect ass and hair" the other guys said she is really cute too did you see her face?
That was about the best compliment I ever got but I was afraid to say anything.

You deserve all of these compliments because you are really a beautiful girl.

[Tracii G]

TY Jamie.
It is nice when people do the little things like that.
Last night I stopped at a place to pick up dinner and I waited for the lady behind me to catch up and I held the door for her.
She stepped thru thanking me,she stepped back to let me in line first but I said no you go ahead I'm in no rush.
She thanked me again and said you are so sweet to do that.
I told her ladies first is my motto.

[kimdl93]

Well, yesterday a clerk at Penney's called me ma'am. I don't know if she was being polite or took me at face value, but I'll take it either way. And the day before, I stopped "en femme" to visit with my "male mode" hair dresser. She didn't recognize me. That felt really good.

[FaithGrace]

I've had a few experiences that made me feel great, feminine, and beautiful:

Had a flat tire once and was going to change it in my skirt and heels. Had a van stop with two guys in it and they said "let us get that for you ma'am". If they noticed that I was trans they didn't say anything (maybe scared to at that point) but they were really polite and I sure did appreciate the help!

I've been dating a gg (who has only ever seen me as a gg) and, if she is driving, she will always open the car door for me (I do the same for her if I'm driving).

When we first danced, she asked if she could do me the honor of leading. Very flattering and made me feel so feminine I was giddy! :daydreaming:

I've been approached by men in bars and have been bought several drinks. I explain to them that I am straight (or I tell them I'm a lesbian) before they buy the drink so they know that they aren't going to get anywhere. Some thank me and walk away, some buy the drink anyway. A couple of guys have gotten upset that I'm living as a girl and I have the audacity to not like men! They were both quickly escorted from the bar. :)

[Cindia]

A guy in a club once bought me a rose from one of the girls that goes around selling them. I generally think those are hokey and pressure guys into to buying them so they don't look cheap. I also knew he was just trying to get under my skirt, but it I really did like it and it made me feel like a girl.

[Jamie001]

Almost all of my friends are women and they invite me on shopping trips and other excursions because I'm like one of the girls. They also always talk to me about hair, nails, and shoes. It is wonderful that they are so accepting.

[Debra Russell]

One time a couple years ago I was going to the fair -stopped in a neighbor hood market and the lady at the florest counter saw me , came over to where I was standing and said how nice I looked - later on that day I got the same compliment from a lady in a booth at the fair - I had her take my picture---It was a very warm feeling that I will never forget.........................Debra

[I Am Paula]

I get invited to all the 'ladies nights' at restaurants in town. I'm always treated the same as the rest of the guests. I was invited to a lingerie party once (like a tupperware party). The girls got a bit drunk, and they really got into the spirit. I was a little embarrassed.
Just being included as 'one of the girls' on outings, or spa days is such a thrill.-Celeste

[Andy66]

Pulling out my chair
Ill never do THAT again. I tried it once. After the lady got up off the floor, she slapped me and took her chair back. :devil:

[BOBBI G.]

I will never look as the woman I see in my mind, but I dress and try to look my best every day. Yesterday I had an appointment with my stylist, she knows my inner feelings, and I asked her if she shaped eyebrows. She said sure and asked me how I would like it done, pluck or wax. I just wanted them cleaned up and shaped a little bit. Plucking takes longer and wax is a little more painful. Chose plucking. During the continuing conversation, she asked me if I was wearing makeup and I said just a little. She left me sitting there, and when she came back she had a small container and a short fluffy brush. She asked me if she could apply this on me and then proceeded to put Bare Essentials on my face, This was the same jar she owns and she and I were sharing a real moment. I now have a new product to buy, and a much closer relationship with this quickly becoming good friend.
Best experience I have had since I became honest with myself.

Bobbi

[Emily Barton]

I have a friend who's always super-busy, but when she can we'll try and have a long catch-up online. Several of these conversations have ended with her saying "night bella!" which makes me feel really femme/happy. Can't think of any other examples right now though...