I think we may be in line for a shot on Jerry Springer

[Christinedreamer]

Just kidding but yesterday was quite a shock for my GF. She knew I was a crossdresser long before we met in person because the mutual friend who introduced us by telephone shared my alter ego with her. She LOVES it and prefers me to be casual en femme all the time around the house. That is, no makeup or wig just me in a peignoir that sometimes matches hers. |

Her adult daughter came out to her as being gay when she was about 12 years old and she is now 40. Her mom dressed her in very girly outfits until she would not wear them anymore. Her mom was disheartened but very accepting. Last night, out of the clear blue sky, she announced she was to go the Chaz Bono route and have her rather large boobs removed and start the process to transition. My GF is still in shock as I am.

Last night she was just examining her situation. Her BF is a big guy and crossdresser, her daughter wants to transition, her brother who is recently deceased was mentally disabled due to physical abuse, she lost her job of 20 years due to a very rare medical condition that developed overnight, I just lost my dad to a stroke, and I am awaiting major back and knee surgeries.

I explained to her early on that my crossdressing was a great de-stresser.
What do I suggest to HER? It is never boring here, for sure.

[Lorileah]

I hope the bad things get better for you. The good things get even better. The transitioning thing should be a happy thing.

[Beverley Sims]

My sentiments are the same as Lorileah, Even though you may have been shocked I hope you do give the girl support.
I agree with some things, especially how tasteful the Jerry Springer show is.
He was actually pleasant and condescending to a couple of transsexuals recently on his show.

[Jaymees22]

Hopefully it can only get better. At least you're keeping your sense of humor about it. There is an article in this weeks New Yorker about a teenager who is transitioning FTM. His parent's seem supportive but I think it would be better to make that decision as an adult. Well good luck it sounds like you'll need it. Jaymee

[5150 Girl]

I know what you mean... My SO has a gay son, lesbian daughter, and more health issues thatn you can shake a stick at. I think God puts healthy people with sickly ones fora reason though..

Last night, out of the clear blue sky, she announced she was to go the Chaz Bono route and have her rather large boobs removed and start the process to transition.
Can I have them when she's done with them?

[Christinedreamer]

She has a set of full Ds but she also has a more barrel chest like Chaz. She asked me to help her flatten them with binding to see how long she could go with that pressure. Hers are solid so there won't be much flattening out as far as I can see. Her mom is still in shock but OK with it. I am as well. It would be rather hypocritical of me to say to her "You have to accept me running around in nighties all the time but I won't accept your transitioning".

I helped a young lesbian woman bind her boobs for a show where she played Sonny of Sonny and Cher. She was a small frame and her boobs were so cute and perky. It hurt my psyche to help her hide them but she insisted. After about 30 minutes, she was more than ready to be 'released'.

It really is funny how women hate wearing bras and ditch them ASAP and we want to put them on and feel the weight and constriction of boobs and a bra.

I told my 'step' daughter that I would help her research all the pertinent info including this site for transmen discussions. I am well versed in most aspects of transsexual surgery as I have done many clinical presentations on the subject of the last 40 years of my career. Explaining phalloplasty to her mother will definitely be a challenge.

[Julie Gaum]

Christine: You have more than your share of problems but these too will pass. One comment though: If you can possibly avoid it find an
alternative to back surgery. Every time I hear of a friend or relative (my older brother) having back surgery the results were only more pain. I've lived with a steadily worsening back/neck since a plane crash in WWII but unless you would become a complete invalid without it --- forget it.
Julie

[Christinedreamer]

The surgery I am having is a new type of spinal fusion where a plastic spacer is inserted in the disc space and access through the abdomen instead of the titanium rods in the back. This is MUCH stronger, faster healing and less restriction in post surgical action. I am tired of living on pain meds and the associated side effects. Also the current back situation makes walking in heels over 2 inches very difficult. I am trying to lose weight as well and having less back pain will be a BIG help.

At this stage of my life I have decided to do whatever I can to be able to present MUCH more passable and enjoy some 'out' time through the year instead of just Halloween.

[Ceri Anne]

I have a CD friend who was on Springer about 12 years ago. That said, I'm sure the daughter coming out wanting to transition is a shock, but above all others, you should be understanding and proud of her courage. Sounds like all in all your well balanced, inspite of the large number of recent tragic events. I hope things smooth out for you, and celebrate the transition like a son coming home.