Beth-Lock
03-16-2013, 09:08 PM
I think we can easily forget that a woman showing the sort of friendliness typical of men in talking with a casual acquaintance, even if no more friendly than the sort of outgoing helpfulness characteristic of any nice guy, projects quite a different message when it comes from a woman instead. It seems to assume more intimacy. It can as a result, even be taken as a signal you are looking for a 'relationship' with the person, when no such thing is intended. Really, guys often are more outgoing or get a bit personal in remarks towards strangers, just because they want to be helpful and are used to being blunt in getting to the point, even with a complete stranger. Apparently GG's mind their own business a lot more reservedly than men.
Then there is the 'Good Samaritan,' something that at least a lot of church goers try and practice in life, but could easily be misinterpreted as 'trying to work an angle,' or being overly intimate in sharing or in some other way. In fact, church goers are in a church community which encourages them to care about others' lives and problems, more than happens normally in the outside world, e.g. in the workplace or in business/sales deals, which are dominated more often by the motivation to compete.
What experiences have you had with behaviour that means different things now you are publicly a woman, quite different from what it used to mean when you were presenting as a man?
Then there is the 'Good Samaritan,' something that at least a lot of church goers try and practice in life, but could easily be misinterpreted as 'trying to work an angle,' or being overly intimate in sharing or in some other way. In fact, church goers are in a church community which encourages them to care about others' lives and problems, more than happens normally in the outside world, e.g. in the workplace or in business/sales deals, which are dominated more often by the motivation to compete.
What experiences have you had with behaviour that means different things now you are publicly a woman, quite different from what it used to mean when you were presenting as a man?