What should I do when a GG laughs?

[jsunic_1978]

I was just womdering how some of you handle a GG laughing> Should i just flirt with them, give them a compliment or just smile? Im usually in jeans, leather jacket uggs or high heeled boots WHICH IS PERFECT FOR ME. I tried a new look but maybe i was just over dressed, animal print coat and pleeded skirt. The jeans, leather coat and boots really seem my best fit for my look.

[whowhatwhen]

I have no experience there yet, but I would assume that the correct thing to do is nothing.
It's probably not worth escalating.

[Jenniferathome]

Engaging someone politely always disarms them (drunk men, aside).

[Lorileah]

I would check my zipper or look to see if I am wearing some of my lunch. Otherwise, I would just smile and carry on

[Lisa Gerrie]

Laugh back, at how closed-minded and rude they are.

[Kate Simmons]

It costs absolutely nothing to smile Hon.:)

[Jenn A116]

Laugh with her. Say something like "I'm still working on it". Open the door for a conversation.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Being from Chicago, my first reaction would be to kick them in the head...
I would probably opt for Jenna's option as it's still slightly confrontational, but disarming humorously.

[Angela Campbell]

It would depend on what they are laughing about. If it is just the fact I am dressed this way I would just smile at them and then ignore them. If it was rude or cruel I would remove myself from the situation. (and probably cry later)

[LisaMcall]

Depends.....If you look better than she does laugh back and call her names. If she looks better than you ask for tips.

[Jodi Anne]

Sometimes they do, just do not let them win, the above advise to smile and try to be positive even if it hurts. Remember the happy face.

[NurseSamGG]

You could always use my favorite line when someone pisses me off just simply smile and say "Ahh sorry sweetie you must just be a special kind of stupid" :-)
Xoxo....Sam

[~Joanne~]

I don't know, it's never happened to me. Not because they probably wouldn't but I have made very little contact the three times I have been out. Just hold your head up and pay them no attention. Attention is what they are after anyways and depriving that attention seems the better way to go. That or laugh back because they look so manly and say "well, someone has to wear pretty things, your not " lol

Or what Sam said lol, I like that one also :D

[johanna.kitten]

I'd go with Jenna here, or just smile and go about my business. It would be bad if it were a group of GGs giggling or so. The few times it happened to me I just start a conversation with the person(s), it usually turns out well.

Most of the time I get the opposite reaction, they ask where I got the heels/skirt/dress from etc. Some of them are amazed at how well I navigate the rough sidewalk surfaces here in the UK in heels.

Hugs
/Giovanna

[susiegrl19]

Smile and Thank Her for the Compliment.

[kimdl93]

Are you talking about strangers on the street or in the store. In my experience that has never happened. But if it does happens, I would look her in the eye and smile. Nothing diffuses a situation like a smile.

[Tracii G]

Just smile and go on about your business they will see they have no effect and that ends the laughter.
In fact I got laughed at today did it stop me or make me feel bad? Nope.
Stopped to buy gas went in and paid, the cashier was nice enough at first I could tell she saw a guy with mascara and thought it was funny.
When I got in my car I noticed the girl behind me in line inside was laughing with the cashier as they were both looking at me.
I just smiled and gave them a wave.
As the girl exited the store she looked right at me and smiled a smile that was the "you are are such a freak smile". I smiled back letting her know she didn't bother me one bit.
Eye contact is key to showing you are not worried about what they think.
I was wearing jeans and a tee shirt and neither were overly girly so I was presenting in guy mode.

[STACY B]

Me too ,, I love to laugh ,, Tell ya what ?? Hell I wouldn't know what there laughing at first off ,,Cuz people have laughed at me all my life for one reason or another ,,, Good or Bad ! Hey if they are laughing there likely not to attack you ?

Now that's a Perk !!!

[Tracii G]

You tell em' GF.

[Vickie_CDTV]

If they are laughing at you in a malicious sense (I assume that is what you mean), ignore them. All kidding aside, DO NOT escalate it with them, it just isn't worth the potential trouble.

In fact, this weekend at the Keystone Conference I was out in public for dinner with some folks and a GG walked by and gave us a dirty look. A person with us yelled "you are just jealous" to her, and while I admit this was very funny I was also scared her boyfriend would come back and hit us or something.

[Tracii G]

Its best not to feed the fire so to speak.
If you retaliate you are just "showing yourself" and sinking to their level.
Best to show you are classier than they are.

[DonniDarkness]

Step 1: Evil smirk

Step 2: Let your heels hit slightly harder

Step 3: Refuse to acknowledge her existence from this moment on.....

Works every time.

-Donni-

[Rebecca Watson]

I was just womdering how some of you handle a GG laughing> Should i just flirt with them, give them a compliment or just smile? Im usually in jeans, leather jacket uggs or high heeled boots WHICH IS PERFECT FOR ME. I tried a new look but maybe i was just over dressed, animal print coat and pleeded skirt. The jeans, leather coat and boots really seem my best fit for my look.

The first time I saw a crossdresser I laughed and started probably more than I should have. It was really just a way of handling an unfamiliar situation, not because I disapproved, but because I was curious. It's possible this lady has simply never seen a crossdresser before, and is using laughter in the same way: to disguise her unfamiliarity.

I'd do whatever comes naturally. Most likely, I'd just give a quick smile and move on with my life.

- Becky

[Jamie001]

You could laugh at the GG that is laughing at you and just have a good time!

[NathalieX66]

I have no idea of the context of her laughing, or what's she's laughing at. Is it you? Does she laugh to cover her fear? Or is she enjoying the moment?
You never mentioned if the conversation involved you.

So therefore, I can't rule out any judgement.

[Wildaboutheels]

Never had anything even close to that happen. Most teenagers aren't "quite" Human, so I don't count them and one can simply dismiss or steer them in "better" direction.

I guess I could GUESS as to why she might be laughing? But I don't like guessing. [IF only someone here could tell me how to mindread people but the name of that book is the closest guarded Forum secret of all]

If we were close enough for her to hear, I would simply nod and give her my best smile and tell her "thank you for noticing" and then leave any further effort at communication up to her.

UNLESS you can read minds, I think it best not to get all hot and bothered or confrontational.

[jsunic_1978]

i do laugh back. I like women anyhow. for the most part, people are sorry they judged in the first plase just because im polite. Pple just seem baffled. They see it but dont believe it so, what to do is laugh, right? I think I will say next time, sinse yu already figured out im a guy, the wig and make up comes off and these are just forms, WANNA MEET JEFF? LOL mostly, i jus smile and say, yea i just do what ever i feel like. have any of you went out on st paddys day? I DID i didnt do the bars tough

[Lorileah]

a GG walked by and gave us a dirty look. A person with us yelled "you are just jealous" to her,
:facepalm:


If you retaliate you are just "showing yourself" and sinking to their level.
Best to show you are classier than they are.

What Tracii said. Really do we have to act like 2 year olds in public??? And you all wonder why we get treated like we do

[jsunic_1978]

I dont want to just ignore evreyone. I want to meet people as well. I need to start going to the LGBT center here in cleveland. I want evreyone else, the few that dont judge to be accepting as well. More of just need to COME OUT. Ihe suburbs in my experience, is safestest and safer more than the inner city.

well, people that give dirty looks and are just arude no response at all NOT EVEN A LOOK BACK. I can tell if the laughter is in the sense like WOW! COOL, OR JUST BAFFLED. This person seems fun (that laughter) I just smile back and say hello as of right now.

[Eryn]

My approach is to act like a GG would. That laughing women has no way of knowing FOR SURE that someone is not a GG. There are plenty of big women with mannish features and none of them worry about being made. They "pass" easily because they have confidence in themselves and wouldn't think of having the fears that we do.

So, what would I do about the laughing woman? It's more about what I wouldn't do. I wouldn't engage her in an exchange of insults. That would out me right away and I won't stoop to her level. I wouldn't slink away though that might be my first impulse. I'd look at her, smile politely, and continue with whatever I had been doing. I have just as much right to be there wearing what I want as she does and she isn't going to spoil my day with her rude behavior.

[jsunic_1978]

i just go to K mart, coffee places and clothing stores as of now. I really want to go to like a holliday inn dance cluyb. Its not the typical bar sceen. I went to a few of those as jeff. Cant even bring your drinks on the dance floor and any signs of roudnesses u get thrown out. It may be safe to dress, just sit at the bar ONLY as Jen see i women will come up to me just out of courisoity and have drinks talk shoes THEN MAYBE DANCE LOL :)

If more people understood us, the generelaition, we wouldnt be labled. Im established in a few stores and motels. The people that really have no problem with me already know me. I want to start expanding. We all need to expand

There are a lot of us whom wernt lucky enough to have a steady girl friends/SO LGBT etc. I feel if we just be our true selves first, learn how to nagaviate trough the merk, well eventually gain the respect from evreyine with an open mind and just start making healthy friendships. WERE OUT! we dont have to hide behind the macho mask which was AN ACT we plaved to our selves. People will take the time to get to know the both sides and were just dressers. we just like to dress. I feel im sharing the fun part of being a girl with the GG and feel i relate better to them

[docrobbysherry]

Gosh, what an EASY ONE, Jsunic! If u can't pass and insist on going out in vanilla land dressed, GET USED TO IT!

Personally, if they just laff or have that, "OMG! What the heck is THAT?", look on their face, it doesn't bother me anymore.

It's when they point and scream, "OMG! That's a guy!", that upsets me!

[jsunic_1978]

I hope my dressing dosent first scream out SHOE FETISH. I DO LOVE MY HEELS! there meant to be sexy and they can be used that way ( whole different topic) I believe that did trigger the dressing Im having fun :)

passable, questionable or cant pass at all WE NEED TO BE OUT not the bar sceen but just what I do, saburbain shopping plazas, coffee the simple stuff libraries. ITS SAFE we have the right! PEOPLE will get use to it and know were just human and harmless thell get to know us and want to understand. people have asked me questions i gladly invite them.

of course, when i go to the same places as jeff, im more flertatious with the women but as jen i let them steer the concersations and im just one of the girls :)

[Beverley Sims]

Someone else said reply by engaging them nicely with a smile, ask what what it is they find humorous and if it is sarcasm and nasty cut them down with one of those witticisms you have saved up for the occasion.

If it is pleasant and inquiring you can engage them in conversation, then tell an an interesting part of your life story.
I have been quite successful with that tactic over the years.

[Christinedreamer]

Several years ago I was honored to escort a dear friend of mine to the Miss Gay LA contest at the Los Angeles Hilton. I was in a tux and she looked incredible and quite real in a beautiful blue sequined gown. Her long red hair was all hers and gorgeous. We really stood out. There was only one negative reaction from one GG in the lobby as a group of us were heading upstairs to the ballroom. She made some disparaging comments about the entire contest and all of us. I simply said rather loudly (and my voice carries well) 'Y'all have to excuse her. She just stepped on her string and it pissed her off". She turned beet red and stormed off and everyone got a big chuckle including the vanilla folks all around.

[Rebecca Watson]

Really do we have to act like 2 year olds in public??? And you all wonder why we get treated like we do

I'm glad someone said this. These suggestions of flinging insults, and the idea that this somehow "wins", is childish. It could even cause or solidify that person's hatred, who might otherwise later reflect and think "oh, she wasn't so bad; I shouldn't have been so mean."

- Becky

[jsunic_1978]

WELL SAID BECKY I get most of those reactionas as well ( I shouldnt have judged) Im just polite. i had only one confortation with a guy last summer as i walking around. He really tried to understand. He keped asking questions he tried to get my goat, but I just played it cool. He couldnt get me stired up. So he just got more mad and stormed off as he was checking hit ATM ballance. I just said, HEY im sorry your having a bad day. Walking around aimlessly even in daylight isnt such a good idea. Im out only to associate with women, I reswpond to only positive laughter and the OMG!! am I really seeing it expression. I have a lot of good times just in shopping plazas. soon, women will not judge us as much as we just keep stepping out

I really get no reactions at all when im just a guy no make yo n wig just wearing womens clothes. Its like OK, just a guy that likes womens clothes, no big deal. for you first timers, just comming out. I would just start there. Just somple womens jeans, ugg boots and leather womens boots (flats)

[Jamie001]

I really get no reactions at all when im just a guy no make no wig just wearing womens clothes.

This is the point that I have been trying to make. If you just wear women's items and don't attempt to pass as a woman when you really don't pass, you will have a much easier time. It is the feminine male look and is the opposite of a Tomboy.

[NV Susan]

Laugh with her. Say something like "I'm still working on it". Open the door for a conversation.


Great advice with a sense of humor......:devil:

[Ressie]

Maybe I would cry. Probably depends on my current self esteem :). But I usually have the ability to laugh at myself which to me is important. And it's even more important when crossdressing in public. In many cases ignoring the laughter would be best. That would indicate high self esteem... acting as if you didn't even hear anyone laugh or assuming that someone was laughing about something else completely. But if someone is right in your face pointing and laughing right at you, that won't work. If that were the case I would probably say something very rude and juvenile.

To really find out maybe I should go out wearing something very outrageous that will make any normal person laugh.

[LilSissyStevie]

Some people pay good money to get treated like this and you're getting it for free.

You just can't satisfy some folks!:brolleyes:

[Nikki50/50]

Just laugh back.

[Annaliese2010]

Yes, I would flirt with her, charm her, win her over. Bring out the lezzie in her. Seduce her, take her to bed. You might become bff then.