too soon old...

[Lorileah]

"did you see the story about the 4 year old who knew they were in the wrong body?"

"Yes I did. She is very brave"

"When did you know?"

"I remember an incident when I was about 4"

"Why didn't you transition?"

"Because Kennedy was just elected and the whole world was Camelot. Besides it was rarely done to adults...they never would have believed the children. I was too young"

"So why don't you do it now?"

"I am too old to worry with it"

"So you totally skipped the right age?"

:thinking:

"Yes...yes I did."

In truth I didn't I just don't see the really good reason to go all the way right now. However things can change...:wall:

[PaulaQ]

In truth I didn't I just don't see the really good reason to go all the way right now. However things can change...:wall:

A young tree can bend in an ice storm, and snap back in the spring, while an older one may break under the stress. We all have our limits. Then again, you are never too old to push them. And you know what? There's a big ol pine tree that I've wanted to see gone because it blocks my view out my window. It survives every ice storm, bent about half way over. I keep hoping it'll break - but it never does. Surprises me every time.

Maybe you will also prove more flexible than you think. :)

Either way, there's no wrong answer, or so I'm told - just what's right for you.

[Andy66]

Awww... :hugs:

Im 46, and Im beginning to get a whole new perspective on what causes midlife crisis.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

typically people that dont transition early invest in a life outside of their nature or are not transsexual(lucky *******s)
...only each person knows for themselves..

for people that invest in a male life, its most often a matter of feeling desperate that prompts action..
pros and cons ends up being all about the cons and no longer caring about them

midlife is a tough time for everybody.. skipping the right time to do something is a very wise statement that applies to lots of things..
its extra cruel for people that have gone against their nature for their entire lives..what looked like a half full cup ends up being empty...right or wrong..its that empty cup that is usually the start button if transition is your path..

[wanagione]

I will be 55 next week, the past year has been difficult in many ways. Next year is not looking much better. Not going further is starting to wear on me, but I know that I still have some obligations and duties to my sons (17 and 19) and my wife of almost 25 yrs. I'm at the brink of telling family (my wife knows) that I am Transgendered, and my wife askes what purpose will that serve and she does not want the boys to know. It will let them know how I truly feel inside. I know I'm not ready to transition but I do want more time as the woman that I am.

[Marleena]

This makes me sad... I hope I'm around in 20 years to see more happy outcomes instead. Reality bites.

[Wonderwho]

In this life it is hard enough to be a good human. I know that it is way to late to become
a woman in the physical world.
So today i will be a woman at heart.
I will see what the next day brings, I might not want be anything.
Wonderwho

[docrobbysherry]

Is this simply a hypothetical conversation, Lorileah? Or, one you've had with yourself?


"did you see the story about the 4 year old who knew they were in the wrong body?"

"Yes I did. She is very brave"

"When did you know?"

"I remember an incident when I was about 4"

"Why didn't you transition?"

"Because Kennedy was just elected and the whole world was Camelot. Besides it was rarely done to adults...they never would have believed the children. I was too young"

"So why don't you do it now?"

"I am too old to worry with it"

"So you totally skipped the right age?"

:thinking:

"Yes...yes I did."

In truth I didn't I just don't see the really good reason to go all the way right now. However things can change...:wall:

[Chiana]

I recently saw several videos about a young TG girl named Jazz. And some of the comments she made were exactly how I felt at her age. Unlike Jazz, I have never really seriously considered transitioning. It just wasn't done or even discussed back in those days. I am so thankful that attitudes are changing and making it easier for younger people to be themselves. I am 68 now. And I dress privately a lot. But, I will always wonder how things might have been. Fortunately, I am happy in my own skin now and I have had a pretty good life. And I hope it continues for a long time to come.

[Beverley Sims]

I call these situations missed opportunities.
I had the choice years ago and said no.
I still wonder, "If'.

[I Am Paula]

When I was the 'right' age, transition was in it's infancy, and only an occasional news story about things happening in Denmark hinted that it was even possible. By the time the internet came along, and I realized there were viable choices, I was set in my ways, in my opinion too old, and had come to grips with what I was. Missed the boat? That boat was over the horizon. Too soon old alright.-Celeste

[Lorileah]

Is this simply a hypothetical conversation, Lorileah? Or, one you've had with yourself?

DRS, it actually happened last night. Wih a woman who doesn't really understand the "real" me but is working on it :)

[kellycan27]

For me I just have to weigh the pros and cons of transitioning. When the pros outweigh the cons is when it starts I guess. I am not there yet, but I will not say I never will be there. I don't have to be in a hurry.

Waiting for the " perfect storm"?