~Joanne~
03-21-2013, 01:00 PM
I have been thinking a bit about a lot of aspects to my dressing lately. I am out to my SO, she is accepting and supporting, I know how far I want to go with this and work on trying to be as passable as possible so that "going out" isn't as threatening or scary to me as it currently is. I don't want to keep waiting for halloween as a back up excuse as to why I am dressed.
But this thread isn't about being able to pass as a woman out in the public but passing as in "passing away". I have never given it much thought before as I don't dwell on death but try to live my life to the most before the eventual time does comes. It will come too soon as it is.
We have so much disease in the world and other ailments that you never know if your entering a bad health stage or not as the threat is invisible most of the time. You never know when you may have a heart attack, stroke, or any other type of thing that could possibly have you dead by the end of the day.
This isn't meant to be a downer thread though but While talking to my SO last, we have a talk night once a week where we lay everything out to get it in the open if we are having an issue with anything in our relationship (which is a positive thing that came about when I came out to her about my dressing) so that we may work on fixing it.
She asked me what my plans were for my day off and I told her I was "having company" which she knows it means Joanne is coming out and not to bring any one home with her unannounced in case I haven't gone back to drab yet. She had no problem with it as usual but then I took the conversation about CDing into a serious direction because I always have this fear of passing away while dressed.
I know it seems a bit strange but it's always there. My family has a history of weak hearts and though mine is in good shape according to my doctor, it's still a thought that lingers there so I asked her "If you were to come home tomorrow, with me being fully dressed, dead, and her being the only one that knows this side of me, would you undress me before calling anyone?" Her answer was no, she wouldn't be able to touch me being dead.
I know alot of girls here would say "who cares at that point, your dead" but I care and I am sure there are a few others here that might care as well. If I were more out to family and friends, I surely wouldn't but that's not the case as I am sure a lot of us are in the same boat.
So here comes the questions.....
GG's, would you be able to take your SO from femme to drab in this senerio? why or why not? would it be important to you , at this point, to keep this from the family and such?
CD's that are out to their SO only: would you want your SO to try and remove your female side or would it not matter at that point? why or why not?
For everyone else: Have you ever had these thoughts when dressing? would it matter to you that you came out in death rather than in life?
I know this is deep, it really is a downer now that I am thinking about it and sorry but I would really like opinions on the matter. we talk about every aspect of dressing from styles to lying about this to the pear pressure of coming out and such, but never about this. At least that I could find.
Have a great week everyone
But this thread isn't about being able to pass as a woman out in the public but passing as in "passing away". I have never given it much thought before as I don't dwell on death but try to live my life to the most before the eventual time does comes. It will come too soon as it is.
We have so much disease in the world and other ailments that you never know if your entering a bad health stage or not as the threat is invisible most of the time. You never know when you may have a heart attack, stroke, or any other type of thing that could possibly have you dead by the end of the day.
This isn't meant to be a downer thread though but While talking to my SO last, we have a talk night once a week where we lay everything out to get it in the open if we are having an issue with anything in our relationship (which is a positive thing that came about when I came out to her about my dressing) so that we may work on fixing it.
She asked me what my plans were for my day off and I told her I was "having company" which she knows it means Joanne is coming out and not to bring any one home with her unannounced in case I haven't gone back to drab yet. She had no problem with it as usual but then I took the conversation about CDing into a serious direction because I always have this fear of passing away while dressed.
I know it seems a bit strange but it's always there. My family has a history of weak hearts and though mine is in good shape according to my doctor, it's still a thought that lingers there so I asked her "If you were to come home tomorrow, with me being fully dressed, dead, and her being the only one that knows this side of me, would you undress me before calling anyone?" Her answer was no, she wouldn't be able to touch me being dead.
I know alot of girls here would say "who cares at that point, your dead" but I care and I am sure there are a few others here that might care as well. If I were more out to family and friends, I surely wouldn't but that's not the case as I am sure a lot of us are in the same boat.
So here comes the questions.....
GG's, would you be able to take your SO from femme to drab in this senerio? why or why not? would it be important to you , at this point, to keep this from the family and such?
CD's that are out to their SO only: would you want your SO to try and remove your female side or would it not matter at that point? why or why not?
For everyone else: Have you ever had these thoughts when dressing? would it matter to you that you came out in death rather than in life?
I know this is deep, it really is a downer now that I am thinking about it and sorry but I would really like opinions on the matter. we talk about every aspect of dressing from styles to lying about this to the pear pressure of coming out and such, but never about this. At least that I could find.
Have a great week everyone