Wisdom from my fiancee

[AmyGaleRT]

I'm currently drying off from my bath after an evening of having gotten to be Amy once again, spending much of the evening on this site and Facebook, or listening to my "girly" music, and occasionally dancing. I went in and gave my fiancee a number of kisses, thanking her for continuing to be accepting and supportive. After all, I see stories here all the time about CDs whose spouses are cold or actively hostile towards their dressing, and I know I lucked out big time.

My fiancee made a comment to that: "It takes a strong and accepting woman to be able to deal with a husband who's a crossdresser. If she can't, she's not strong enough, or not willing enough." Which is true enough; some (most?) women are simply not equipped to deal with "their man" as a woman. They can learn, but the resistance might very well destroy the relationship first.

So, to those of you whose SOs are as accepting and supportive as my fiancee: be sure to tell them how much you appreciate them and their attitude, on a regular basis. And for those whose SOs are just the opposite, please believe that it's not your fault; you can't help being what you are, and your situation is all too common. (And for those who are still alone, take heart; women with the strength and acceptance of my fiancee are not impossible to find. Tough, yes, but not impossible.)

- Amy

[Beverley Sims]

Amy,
I find that having an accepting spouse is half the battle of being CD.
I do feel for those that have not solved this problem.
At least we can go off into our own little worlds freely and live life to the full without deceit.

[andrea lace]

I did not expect my wife to be accepting when I first told her. I wouldn't know what to do if I never had her support I guess those of us who do have accepting SOs are truly fortunate. I have read some stories on this forum of CDers that have a difficult relationship or even no relationship due to cross dressing. We are the lucky ones and I let my wife know on a regular basis. Letting our SOs know that they are not taken for granted is a must.

[stacycoral]

Amy, yes it is nice to be able to have a support SO, and not come off the wall, just because you like to be a woman too, i agree there are women out there that can overlook just girls and just see the love of another person.Very nice write up girl, i hope you get many coments on it. hugs.

[Miriam-J]

I agree, Amy. I'm careful to acknowledge my wife's support frequently and in many ways. But I also like your quote from your fiancee and intend to share it with her when she gets home. Thank you.

Miriam

[stephNE]

I agree! For 34 years, she has done so much for me that I want to make her life as good and I can. And in the end, her happiness = my happiness!

[Julie Denier]

You are very lucky indeed, Amy ;)

[UNDERDRESSER]

I am fortunate in having a similar level of support from my GF. I had hoped so when I told her, ( we were only friends at the time ) but I was worried that it might stop the relationship at friendship. As it turned out, the trust i showed in her helped, I think. Yes, she is a strong person, more so than me in many ways, and very special. I let her know I appreciate all she is frequently.

[~Joanne~]

I agree Amy, I truly have been blessed with my SO. She has been nothing but wonderful about all of this and I never take that for granted. Your wife I think hit it right on the head. Insecure women certainly would have a problem with a CD SO.

[EllenJo]

I am blessed also, and I make sure that my wife knows how I feel about her. I love her dearly and she is a strong woman to support me when I am wearing a skirt.

[RADER]

I am very lucky as to have a Wife that is Totally OK with my dressing.
All she asks is to not embarrass her. So I stay in the closet, But I do
under dress as much as I can. I love this girl a whole bunch.
Rader

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Amy, Allthough it's a Da - Dt my wife knows that I dress and as long as she doesn't have to see it that's great
I still show her how much I love her every day.

[AmyGaleRT]

FYI, I did ask my fiancee if I could quote her words here. She said, "Sure!"

What she said might seem a little blunt to some, but she's a very straightforward and outspoken person by nature. She's not afraid to express her opinions. Which makes her favorable opinion of Amy all the more valuable. :)

- Amy

[Mikkigurll]

I am blessed with a wife that is totally accepting. We were married just a little over a year, and she went on the "Geraldo" show with me. And that was almost 20 years ago. And, whenever she buys panties or bras for herself, she always includes purchasing some for me as well.

[mandytg]

Amy, You are very fortunate to have such a wonderful fiancee,I have a supporting SO and realise how luck I am. I showed by SO your fiancees comments,and told how much I appreciated her support.
We have been married for 48 years this April, and our love for each other grows stronger each year, acceptance of my dressing seeems to strengthen our bond.

Mandy