Going out for first time!

[Suzanne F]

Last Friday my wife and a mutual girlfriend went to dinner and a drag show in he city. It was my first night out as Suzanne. It was one of the best nights ever! I wore a beautiful white and black dress with sleeves and my new breast forms. I alternated flats with heels for different portions of the evening. It all felt so natural to be her! That first step out of the car was something I hope I always remember. The restaurant was very bright so there was no hiding her. We were in the Castro so we seemed like the only women in the entire place. Everyone was very nice and I even found the courage to go to the women's restroom to touch up my lipstick after dinner. The drag show was great and everyone was very nice. A group of gay men did say look at Mary Anne as we walked by a bar but that did not hurt one bit! I was free. However, the next day was a big let down. I was depressed when I returned to my male self. It felt like a big hole in my stomach all day. Is this common for us? How do you deal with that feeling the next day. When I was honest about the feeling of loss my wife went into fear that I wanted to be a woman all of the time. I don't want to be dressed all of the time but I did not want it to end the other night. Does his all sound familiar? Thanks so much for all of your courage! I knew if you could donor so could I on Friday night. It was such a wonderful experience!
Suzanne F

[~Joanne~]

Your first time out is always one you will never forget. All of the new feelings are such a rush. the first time you feel the breeze on your legs, the openness of your skirt, the click of your heels.....the list goes on and on. There is also a since of loss the next day because of the great time you had and you wanted to savor it as long as possible but who's to say there won't be more and bigger adventures in the future? Glad you had such a wonderful night out with your wife (which is a huge accomplishment within itself) and thanks for sharing your experience :D

[Beverley Sims]

Suzanne,
The morning after the night before can be such a let down.
I would warn, don't share too many of those down feelings with your wife, you do not want to scare her.
I also advocate progressing slowly and with an accepting wife try and let her take the lead on suggesting activities.
Again you do not want to overwhelm her.

[AllieSF]

Congratulations. It sounds like it was a complete success. Don't let feeling down the next day get you "down". There will be other opportunities as you build up your confidence and experience. it does get so much easier. So, what restaurant did you go to and where was the drag show.

[Lorileah]

That feeling is common (in fact in the BDSM world it is called "sub-drop"). When the endorphins stop and you fall into a state where you are feeling empty or low. Don't worry, it gets better

[Suzanne F]

We has dinner at Cafe Mystique on Castro. After strolling up the street we drove over to Aunt Charlie's for the show. That neighborhood was a little scary. However, the people at the bar were great !

[AllieSF]

I regularly stop for an espresso at the Café Mystique before starting a long evening out. I have never been to Aunt Charlie's just because of its location. Other places right in the Castro area include Eureka, a restaurant on 18th a half block from Castro Street, Catch for seafood up on Market and Castro, and for a very informal very delicious single slice of pizza, try Marcello's almost next to the to Diesel Clothes (to be an Apple store in the future).

[Suzanne F]

Thanks for responding Allie. Another girl suggested reaching out to you for suggestions on where to go in the city. Any suggestions for shopping and excursions will be appreciated. I live in Novato. So nice to talk with another girl in the area!
Suzanne

[AllieSF]

Suzanne, get you 10 posts and then we can PM. I have a friend up in Healdsburg and she goes to a support group near Novato or Santa Rosa.

[DeeArel]

The next day and however much time there is before the next outing can get you down. Reflect on the good time you had instead of not being able to do it right away again.

[Rachelakld]

Wife lets me go out girlie once a week, or whenever she is trying to study, but she always has a project for my man side to get involved with soon after (fix, paint or family outing etc). Now I can mentally switch modes without a second thought