safe place

[slamddoger]

for crossdresser to go to when you are dress

[BethCD]

Hi, There are support groups that hold monthly meetings. There are also TG events for girls like us.....Fantasia Fair, TG weekend in Saugatuck, MI and many others. Google them and hopefully you can find something close to you.
Beth

[Tracii G]

Wherever you want but not at 3:00am down town.
Best to go out in the daytime to a mall or a thrift store/consignment shop.

[monalisa]

Start out with a drive in the country and maybe stop to mail a letter, get a soda, or whatever till you feel more comfortable and sure of yourself. Then the world is yours to explore.

[SarahBJackson]

Some gay bars are safe places, but call first just in case.

[stacycoral]

Start out with a drive in the country and maybe stop to mail a letter, get a soda, or whatever till you feel more comfortable and sure of yourself. Then the world is yours to explore.

Add to this great coment of maybe go to a movie, go to a park, or a lake, JUST BE CAREFUL.

[Stacy L]

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[Rachelakld]

public areas, start with small coffee shop and work up to shopping malls.
Personnally I don't like "gay" areas and apart from evening movie or dinner, I don't go out between 11pm to 6am

[Beverley Sims]

The best way is to get lost in the crowd at a mall downtown during the day.
Not by yourself late at night.
That is very risky.

[AmandaCDFL]

I went out for a drive then stopped at a store to get something to drink, great experience!!! Got out and have fun.

[Robinkay]

My Closet .......

[JamieQ]

After a few times like a drive or pumping gasoline to help get a bit more comfortable in being out in public, I would say a busy mall like mid day. Take your time and leisurely stroll along and do not appear rushed. Most people are so busy they pay no attention to others.

[VirtuaGrl]

More specifically, where in the Denver Metro Area is CD-friendly these days? Now that BJ's Carousel has closed, where's the next best TG hangout? It has been a long time since I last ventured out in public and would like to check out a few places before trying to convince my wife to do a girls night out as I know that safety is of her utmost concern.

[Sarasometimes]

If you don't mind calling ahead (just to be sure) and letting them know, almost any salon for a blowout, mani pedi... Salons (not everyone) are generally very CD friendly and it is such a femme environment. I (blend/not pass)have had some great conversations with other clients as well as the staff. Salons are my fave place to go.

[BillieAnneJean]

It is best to avoid the malls when the school kids are out in force. That is around 3-6pm weekdays and most of the weekend. I find that weekdays before 2 and after 6 work well. Panera bread works out well because the croud tends to kyaks, Subarus, Birkenstock, and Prius. Anyone flaming me will prove that they have no sense of humor or no ability to observe their surroundings. Or they are rabid about kyaks, Subarus, Birkenstock, and Prius.

[GeminaRenee]

What do you mean by safe?

If you mean you don't want to get beaten up, I would imagine most places are safe, provided you follow common sense rules about avoiding high crime areas, or being out alone in the middle of the night. Most people aren't going to whack you with a shovel outside of a Schlotsky's just because you're wearing a skirt.

If you mean you don't want to get your feelings hurt, then that depends on how sensitive your feelings are. I would probably avoid any place where teenagers are likely to be out in force (malls during off-school hours, etc) - they like to make fun of anything that moves. Other than that, I don't know what to tell you. I've been to parks, stores, gas stations, drive-throughs, etc, and never gotten anything more than some weird staring and big 'you're-a-dude' smiles. No big deal.

Just be confident in who you are and what you're doing. Most people won't care, some will notice the anomaly, and a few will stare oafishly or make the odd remark. So what? Sticks and stones, right? Just avoid places & times where you wouldn't want to be alone anyways, and you'll be fine. There are a few member here who seem to go out dressed at their leisure, but because they have thick enough skin and strong confidence - they own the moment, regardless.

So, I guess it's all up to you!

[I Am Paula]

CD friendly places: N. America. S America, Europe... actually, just about anyplace. Maybe stay out of areas controlled by:The Clan, or Fundamentalists of any religion.

[Michelle (Oz)]

The only limit to where you can go dressed is your level of confidence. It helps to acknowledge to yourself that you are likely to be picked as a man in a skirt. Once you can accept and mentally deal with this your confidence will sky rocket. If you can't then its the closet and 2am walks.

Building up confidence is therefore perhaps more about where not to go and KaliBrooke has some good thoughts there. Even then, interactions are character building and the building blocks of confidence (or thick skin). Just give those folk who poke fun a knowing look of a shared secret. It disarms them.

I am constantly amazed at the level of acceptance of people. As an example, sitting 'pretty' at a busy casino blackjack table the other night speaking with a male voice. The interactions are enjoyable and, by being different, engaging.