Diagnosed years ago and made the wrong decision

[Denise_Lafame]

I was diagnosed close to 17 years ago that I indeed suffered from GID. No surprise to me, I'd known that fact for years but the official diagnoses just confirmed it. I was going for counseling at the time because I had suffered a major crash. My Dr. managed to get me back on a somewhat even keel after 7 months but early on in that 7 months had clearly identified the GID and went on to do the testing to confirm his feelings on the matter.

Toward the end of the intensive treatment, he asked me if I wanted to start HRT. After much thought, I said no thanks, I've managed to live life up till now this way, and I have a wife to think of etc.

After I'd returned to work, I was informed withing a month that my services were no longer required after 30 years of exceptional performance. No reason given.

Life took a big turn for the worse about then for me. However, now that my feelings of self worth were destroyed, I moved on and quite unwittingly turned into an alcoholic for 3 years until I smartened up, dried out and go on with life. After that bout, I asked my Dr. about hormones again and got told that "You turned them down the first time so you made your decision".

So there you have it. Wrong decision and I live with it now. Of course the antidepressants I'm on are forever.

Denise

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Its your life.

if its really important to you all you need to do is find a qualified gender therapist... if you go to them with this story and a certainty of mind (assuming thats true), they will pretty quickly write you a letter and then you get a doctor to prescribe them...

many people that try to suck it up for many years find out when an important life change happens(a death, a job loss, kids out of the nest) that they feel trapped and empty because "fighting it" turns out to be not worth anything...some unpredicted outside event ends up highlighting your gender problem in a new and scary way..

if you get that feeling, its important to try to not look back for your own sake and realistically think about your options... you clearly have the option of finding a therapist, there is nothing stopping you outside of yourself...go do it!! you will happy you did..

[DaniG]

Agree with Kaitlyn. You cannot judge what to do now by your past decisions, only by what's going to be best for you in the long run. Do what you need to do to find your happiness.

[EnglishRose]

A lifetime lasts... well you know. A doctor can be ditched though.

[Ann Louise]

What a cruel "doctor!" I'm with EnglishRose, dump that smart@$$.

[Beverley Sims]

Maybe an opportunity lost then, but give careful consideration as to why you said no the first time.
The doctor may have seemed harsh, but cautious.
See a therapist, get more opinions and if it is good then do it.

[Katelyn B]

That's terrible, but you can just go to another Dr. Despite how they may see themselves, they aren't gods and in no way do you owe them any fealty.

[Marleena]

Denise I have a couple of thoughts. If the GID is getting bad again do like the others say and go elsewhere to get them. He doesn't run your life, you do.

Antidepressants aren't a sentence for life, you may need them now because of the GID and life circumstances. It sounds like you want to change that. Do what you have to.

[melissaK]

What country are you in?
What was your reason for asking Dr for HRT?
What did you think they (hormones) would do for you?
Do you agree with Dr?
Do you have other medical issues that make HRT unwise?
Are you in a AA program?
What do you feel you want to do with your life gender wise?
Why?
Are you thinking of RLE?
Have you thought of RLE as part of a transition plan?

[Barbara Ella]

Denise, take to heart the sentiments expresses here. The past is done, and it does no good to rehash old decisions. The important thing is your life going forward. Forget what you did, start planning your tomorrow today. Start anew with new people to help you take control and progress yourself.

Barbara

[Sandra1746]

Assume you had declined a prescription for Statins for borderline high cholesterol or BP meds for borderline hypertension...
Would your doctor tell you that you had made your decision already and just live with it? I think not, that is if he wanted to keep his license to practice!

You are well within your rights to press for HRT unless there is a real medical condition that prevents your using them. If your doctor is unwilling to discuss this with you, find a different doctor. Your health, both mental and physical, is in your hands.

Good luck,
Sandra1746

[Lynnmorgan451]

That doctor is not being cool at all. I definitely agree that you should seek another opinion. that was way harsh and unnecessary, unless of course he has another reason ...