Meaningful Data requires a simple question?

[Wildaboutheels]

This question is directed to any/all Forum participants. Regardless of what label you go by or would prefer to be. I put it here in this Forum as there is little doubt it has "some" bearing for some Forum participants.

How many folks got all of the sex you needed/wanted in any of the PASTTTTTTTTTTT Realtionships you have had?

I say PAST so no one gets themselves in any trouble concerning their PRESENT Relationship.

GGs are encouraged to jump in here with any input/words of wisdom.

LATE EDIT per Mods: MtF pertinence.... Is it possible IF one got all the sex they wanted, they "might possibly" CD somewhat less or less often?

[Beverley Sims]

I think I did and I think I am continuing to get all I need.
That is what keeps me young and youthful looking.
Better than going to a gym and wasting time and money by working out.
My doctor says peak exertion during sex is as good as running a mile and saves time and money too.
I believe my doctor.

[GaleWarning]

I have, in the past.

[Geena75]

Got more than ample in my first relationship. I think that's part of what broke us up -- we had nothing else in common. Great at the time, still hurts over 30 yrs later. Currently in 2nd relationship for past 26 yrs.

Note: desire to dress was less during that 1st relationship -- still there but dormant.

[~Joanne~]

I would say I don't get enough sex currently or in the past. You know, I was thinking about this earlier too. I was wondering how many dressers used this as a sexual form of stimuli because they weren't getting enough sex and if that ever played a part in their dressing from the beginning. I am well past that stage myself but in the beginning......it makes me wonder.

[Lynn Marie]

Me? I gave up sex in my youth for Lint. Yeah, it's true. Found a piece of lint in my belly button shaped like a woman's fallopian tubes. I took it as a sign to become celibate. I've been celibating ever since!

[Vickie_CDTV]

Not by a long shot... not even close to enough. It was a rare event due to her chronic health issues and being able to make time for us in general.

[Laura912]

And this helps with cross dressing how? Ain't NOYB.

[flatlander_48]

The answer would be No.

I never did firgure what the first wife's problem was with sex. It was like a orgasm scared her and she would just freeze up, physically (not thermally).

[Patty]

Yes, in the past.

[Julie Gaum]

Yes in 1955. Working in Montreal and rented a gal's apartment. She was Hungarian and worked as a scientist in the food industry
(but a lousy cook). As a bachelor my CDing was at full throttle and never slowed down eventhough never before or since had a partner who knew so many ways to pleasure a man. In fact I really believe the reason I broke it up was that she had penetrated the veneer I had built up in my first 30 years of life . You see I had locked up my emotions since childhood so was very vulnerable.
Recently found out she had married a man from Norway and moved to Toronto. Also interesting: Stalin sent her parents, who were big land owners, to a stalag in Siberia and she escaped to Canada. Life can be fascinating!
Julie
were

[Kelly DeWinter]

It was early in my life, on a Thursday, about 12:30 in the afternoon, for about 20 mins, the greatest sex ........ oh wait come to think about it was and upset stomach after a mexican lunch.


Actually, I think anytime you have loving relationship, the sex is good, as long as you keep the communication going, and pay attention to each others , needs wants and desires.

[sandra-leigh]

In a previous relationship, the same time every weekday morning (pretty much waking me up), the same position... it got frustrating and sometimes I wanted to just skip a day or two. No variety. I got to feel like my body was just being used. Now if it had been about once a day, but different times, different positions, more foreplay, more like passion than a chore... then it would have been different.

[Wildaboutheels]

So is it a rare thing maybe?

[docrobbysherry]

I've been in a number of relationships and even a marriage. Here's how it works:

First year: plenty of sex.
First few years: ok sex.
After 3 years: sex not so often.
After 7 years: you're lucky when u get it.
After 10 years: maybe on your birthday or St. Vals if u give her jewelry.
After 15 years: I have no clue how 2 people can stay together happily that long!

[~Joanne~]

After 15 years: I have no clue how 2 people can stay together happily that long!

It's all routine at this point. Happily? for her, not so much for him but I am sure there are good days and bad days but still sexless days all around.

[LilSissyStevie]

I've always had plenty of sex in my relationships but I can't say the same for my partners. I'm the one with low libido. Most times I'd rather think about sex than do anything about it. That's sort of how I approach work, too. But until they came up with those little pills I couldn't fake it. The quality is more important to me than the quantity. If I want quantity I could do it myself. But then that would be a lot like work. I'll think about it.

[Allison Chaynes]

There's no such thing as enough, IMHO.... but then maybe I have an overactive libido....

[suchacutie]

Previous relationship...that was over 40 years ago! I was not married then and was barely legal! You want me to remember that?

And how has this to do with being transgendered?

[Karren H]

I remember a couple times in High School on sleep overs with the girlfriend I got enough sex.... all night.... which was way more and varied than she wanted.... its been down hill since then....

[Lisa Gerrie]

I'm reminded of a movie (Annie Hall?) where a man's therapist asks "how often do you have sex" and he answers "Hardly ever. Maybe three times a week". Cut to the woman and her therapist, same question. "Constantly. Maybe three times a week."

My sex drive was often lower than my ex's, but it depended on the era of our relationship. If the OP is trying to suggest that crossdressers have unusually active libidos... not in my case. For some periods of my life I have been virtually asexual, but crossdressing never went away.

[Wildaboutheels]

Please SEE late edit in OP...

[shesadvl]

wildaboutheels, whats sex hahahaha :p

when people whether they are the GG's or Cd'ers or whom ever,.... make choices to either have sex or not ,... whether dressed or not is really the question.

its hard when you have a partner that cant keep up laffing.. :p is that why theres no sex anymore.... hahahaha :p

also re the late EDIT: has any of you been any the different and CD less with more sex???
Is CD'ing and sex a self gratification if you are a sole person,

the other is that i Know the person i was involved with does control their CD'ing,...

but didnt deminish the CD'ing,.... i believe even when in the past the sex they had
was as I learnt was part of there sexual encounters,....what they still crave for.

but I know there hasnt been any crossdressing in a while., & I believe that is because of the different living
situations they are in....

an interesting question. :battingeyelashes:

[NicoleScott]

The drive to crossdress was there before I realized it had any sexual effect on me, and long before any sexual encounters with a gg. As a matter of fact, long after any sexual encounters with a gg. haha

[Greenie]

So from a GG perspective (mind you this is just my personal experience):

My BF and I have different swings of having a lot of sex vs not having a lot. We were not having a lot in the beginning of when we addressed the CDing. After a lot of communication lately, I feel like we are closer and we have sex ALOT. like ALOT more than we used to. Subsequecially his dressing has decreased "A LITTLE." I don't think a healthy sex life deters from dressing, but I do think it makes for your SO to be more receptive to the dressing. If your SO doesn't feel like they are getting what they need because of dressing, they will then get upset and pull away from you, you will not get what you need in return and might turn to dressing more and turn it into a sexual thing if its not already. At least this is what happened to us. As a GG however, I don't plan on having more sex to decrease his dressing that would be vindictive but just a warning I feel like I have seen women try this in order to "distract" their SO from dressing.

[AllieSF]

Doc Sherry gave an interesting time line. Since in reality, and pushing all the male sex drive theories and stereotyping aside, sex during relationships, not all but let's say most serious ones, is only part of all those other things that make up a relationship. I will agree that for most men, it is a very needed element that sadly tends to decrease in frequency over the years of the relationship. But the question about the amount of sex, really isn't the question after reading the "Late Edit". So, in answer to that one, here is my experience.

I never crossdressed before late 2006 in the sense to dress up as a women because of all the many reasons that we offer as to the why for what we do. To clarify, in 1981 I fully dressed as a woman, a regular everyday woman in a house dress, very low chunky heels, water balloon breasts, modest makeup, etc. I passed the whole evening at a joint company costume party even using the lady's restroom escorted by my secretary! I never had any special feeling nor lingering or driving need to do that again. Yes, I had one of the best times in my life as I put on a costume and fully immersed myself into that one time event female role.

Moving up to 2005 and after having my prostate remove due to curable cancer (at least I hope that it is cured!), I was left impotent. So, I went from the aging man looking for and occasionally having a relationship which would include the sexual part and benefit of said relationship, to someone wanting a relationship and wondering how, and if ever, I would have that sexual part again. Yes, it plays mind games with you because at one moment you have it or are looking for it, then you have this momentous life changing (a small change to a significant part of my life) event and are still looking for and wanting that total relationship package knowing that I am bringing an impaired "part" to any future relationship. I dated after that and could mostly still partially satisfy my partner, but, almost more importantly could not satisfy myself.

Long story short, one thing lead to another and, VoilÃ*!, I am a Crossdresser. Is that how crossdressers are made? No, I probably have a few telltales throughout my life to maybe indicate that I always had the seeds for it and I just needed some fertilizer and right climate conditions (major life changing event) to make it blossom.

Taking all that recent personal history my answer to your question is that, YES, a change in my ability to have personally satisfying sex was my motivation, fertilizer, to go down this road. I truly believe if I did not have prostate cancer with its unwanted side effects I would have never blossomed into Allie, who I love so dearly.

My question, "If I could have sex today would I be willing to give up the crossdressing?" Interesting question that I am not sure how to answer. I like to have my cake and eat it too. Why do I want a cake that I cannot eat?

[kimdl93]

More than enough...very regular, as in multiple times weekly.

[suchacutie]

In response to the late edit, I find that life only avails itself for so much personal time. What that means for me is that the more time I have, the more I can engage in intimacy as well as find time for Tina. If I have to choose one over the other, and if my wife is of similar mind, intimacy wins all the time. After all, my wife is the most important being/thing/anything in my life! However, if time goes by and Tina hasn't "come to visit", my wife will start to ask if I'm ok! I take care of my wife as best I can, and she takes care of me the best she can.

Thus, there is no tension between Tina and intimacy in our relationship.