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[Greenie]

So I have a question for everyone.

Lemme tell you the situation. So my BF up until a couple weeks ago only had panties and he kept them in a box in the closet in the guest bedroom. (I have a dresser in there too.)

I told him that I thought that he should just keep them in his underwear drawer with his regular underwear. I also told him that if we are trying to normalize this in our lives we shouldn't differentiate between his man 'underwear" and his woman's "panties." Everything in this house is from here on out is now referred to as underwear (mine and his). That's what it is right? He seemed to really like this idea, gave me a huge hug and thanked me. He would get really shy and start mumbling and put his head down referring to panties, like he was embarrassed. Now we call them lacy underwear. :) It makes us both a lot more comfortable. We don't differentiate between his two types, and more importantly how his are "different" than mine.

Well now we have gotten him a dress, some jeans, a tank top and a cute blouse. I went into the guest bedroom yesterday and they were all in there. I asked him why they were in the guest bedroom?. It was because he said he didn't know where to put them. He feels uncomfortable putting them in out closet because they might integrate with mine. But really he said he didn't know what was appropriate. I said I didn't care and to hell with appropriate. I put his jeans in with his regular jeans and the rest with their like components.

Sooooo.... how do you divvy the closet? CD's do you integrate women's clothes with men's or keep them separate?

GG's have any of you dealt with this? Do you prefer their female clothes "somewhere else."

[NicoleScott]

I have a child who doesn't know I crossdress, so I keep my things separate and secure.
Greenie, you are a gem, not only for your acceptance, but for your attempt to make him more comfortable and less embarrassed about his CDing.

[Kalista Jameson]

Hi Greenie,

I keep all my girly stuff separate just because of how I organize things in my mind and have a better chance of finding something I'm looking for without losing track of where I may have put it. I do keep my pantyhose with boy socks and my panties with my men's underwear, which is almost non-existent now, just because those are easier to keep track of.

Cheers,

Kalista

[dsmth]

I keep them in the same closet but maybe different shelves. Partially mixed up but in such a way that there is some order to the chaos.

[Lisa Gerrie]

Greenie, you really need to be more cooperative and understanding with your SO. Stop up putting so many barriers!

Lots of people have problems with the word "panties". Katy Couric made kind of a big deal about it once on the Today Show years ago.

[Greenie]

Hi Greenie,

I keep all my girly stuff separate just because of how I organize things in my mind and have a better chance of finding something I'm looking for without losing track of where I may have put it. I do keep my pantyhose with boy socks and my panties with my men's underwear, which is almost non-existent now, just because those are easier to keep track of.

Cheers,

Kalista

That makes sense. I will tell him this. He is just really unorganized in general. So his side of the closet is like a tornado threw up in there. He is looking to me to have an opinion so that he can be "told" where to put them. But I am looking to him to tell me what he wants!! Lol. Its so frustrating. Not really. I think he is just really really embarrassed, unsure, and just plain disorganized. :)

[wilt575]

We have onle one dresser and one closet therefor one wardrobe, not mine or yours, plain and simple ours. One advantage of being same size or close.

[DawnD]

My So and I share the same closet. He makes an attempt to seperate his male and female stuff in there, but it never works. All his tops end up mixed together. It's like me seperating my males jeans from my female jeans, they're all jeans.

My daughter knows and supports my husband dressing. So no need to secure anything for us. The only problem we have is that he has two sets of clothes and we run out of room!

And for some reason, the word panties has always made me want to giggle. Even when we talk about mine! Been that way forever.

[Alexis.j]

I keep Lexi's stuff in the same closet, but in a separate area, my androgynous clothes are mixed. It just simplifies finding items.

[Petra_Briar]

My wife gave me a drawer in her dresser, and I keep my dresses hung up in her closet...I too have children who do not know and the last thing I want is for them to find out.
Works well for my wife and I.

[RADER]

Hi Greenie;
Most CDers are embarrassed about being "Found Out" on their dressing.
A man's ego is a very fragile thing, and can be broken easily.
Like suggested before, but all the underwear in the same drawer.
Since I did all the laundry, all the underwear was washed at the same time.
It was easy to separate mine from my wife's because she only wore cotton
type panties, and I wear nylon type. Bra's where easy also, because of the size.
Just go slow with your SO, she will loosen up after a while. She is afraid of you
rejecting her, and crushing his ego.
Rader

[Annette Todd]

I say do what ever works for you! It doesn't matter what others do.

Cheers

Annette

[Cheryl H]

Greenie,

I went through much of the same thing when I came out to my GF (now wife of 20 years). I had a box I kept in the back corner of a closet that I rarely ever used. As I bought more stuff I realized I could not keep it in the box, so I just put it in that closet and didn't talk about it much. Then my wife began to borrow some of it (Grrrrrrr) Eventually I started to borrow some of her stuff to. Now we have completely integrated our stuff. All the dresses, skirts, pants, tops, etc just go together. We keep our underwear separate of course, but I have girly panties, mixed with my BVD's, bras mixed with T-shirts, etc.

Now your BF may not be ready for this. He sounds like he's still dealing with a bit of guilt and some confidence issues. Maybe hes afraid you will see him as less of a man. So this is where you have to support him and allow him to grow and become the person he was meant to be and this takes time. He is really lucky to have someone like you in his life. So support him and be there for him, just don't push him to do something hes not ready for yet. In time it will all come around. Besides the great thing about a girl in a relationship with a crossdresser is she automatically doubles her wardrobe. LOL

[boink]

I keep all my clothes men's and women's in the same dresser and closet space. It's sorted to some degree, but it's pretty integrated as things go. No need to hide it from anyone here.

[stephNE]

Hi Greenie,
I'm in a little different situation. I have been married for 33 years, and she has known about my crossdressing the entire time. But we still have two children who live our house who don't know. So, In my closet are only male clothes. In her closet, we have a section at one end with "Stephanie's" things. BTW, my closet is about 3' long, her closet is about 10', and Stephanie's things only take up about 1 foot of that. All my lingerie and other things are locked up in a box.

[Jenniferathome]

kae, my wife and I now have a fully integrated closet. This is a recent development but it really makes things easy. She can wear anything of mine as I am larger and I can wear a few things of hers. When I first came out, it was a bid deal to even put my things in the closet and panties in my drawer. that was really a milestone day. Now, it's just my stuff and is int eh closet where it belongs

[Barbara B]

The only thing I keep separate are a couple of pairs of emergency boy pants so I know where to find them. Everything else is mixed up even my shoes.

[Tiffanyselkoe]

I keep my guy stuff separate right now but may have to rethink this as my "pretty" dresser is overflowing and my wife wants some of her closet space back!

[mollycd99]

All my girl clothes are in my closet, on "my side" either hanging, folded on shelves or in drawers. I separate them for simplicity - the underwear drawer is about evenly split between panties & briefs. The bras & such are in a box on the top shelf because I don't have drawer space for them, as are my breast forms. I was worried whether the kids or someone else would notice, but really, who pays attention to which clothes are where? I figure anyone who does notice all the girl clothes mixed in my stuff will make the reasonable assumption that my wife's stuff is invading my side.

Though the cleaners were here recently and neatly lined up all the ladies shoes. I can't imagine that they didn't notice the heels were split between size six and size twelve! Fortunately, I'm not too worried about their opinions.

[Ellanore G.G.]

It used to be all locked away, like I felt he would turn into a full blown c/d if not lol.
Well that was years ago, and most of it was fetish so the kids finding it would have been hard to explain.
I did think about leaving a note to our children in case something happened to both of us saying
" hey this stuff is your dads " he still laughs about that.
These days he has built himself a small walk in wardrobe, as he is much larger than me.
And with kids around, esp nosy teenagers wanting to wear my stuff, he feels it better to have it in a locked wardrobe.
Its in out bedroom, and he has all him shoes hanging on the back wall.
Maybe when the kids are older he will move it , but I dont think so.
He likes that he can fit in there, and has been known to sneak in there, dress and jump out saying, hello im out of my closet..lol
So for us, its about the children
Btw, they assume, its for things like my wedding dress, and my dresses that are not worn for everyday use.

[jaye_cd]

I keep the stuff I wear regularly in the closet in my den downstairs, both my everyday wear and all my girly stuff. My wife's wardrobe has pretty much consumed the entire walk-in in the master bedroom upstairs so it gives her more room and we're both happy.

[susan54]

I live on my own most of the time and have lots of dedicated Susan space for clothes, but the clothes multiply, so more and more gets put in with my male clothes. I have twice recently grabbed a white shirt for work, only to find it is Wallis or Gelco. As I am so used to blouses I am not sure I would notice just because the buttons are on a different side. One day I might just be that little bit too sleepy to notice - but I work with a lot of women - and they will.

[Tracii G]

I have double closets in the master bedroom one is womens clothes one is mens clothes.
In the dresser one side is mens one is womens just seems easier to keep track of that way.
One of the spare bedrooms is all womens clothes and shoes.

[Allison Chaynes]

We have a small walk in closet that I redid a couple summers ago. The wife has the right side, I have the middle, and the left side is all for our dresses and longer items. If anyone walked in they wouldn't really notice unless they looked at sizes. In the bedroom, we have four dressers, two are hers and two are mine. Both of mine are full of girl clothes except for part of the top drawer where my socks and one pair of boxers are. We also have some under the bed rubbermaid containers for out of season clothes. My girl shoes are on a shelf in the closet in a container out of view.

[2B Natasha]

Hi Greenie

Lets see. We have converted a spare bedroom into a walk in closet. In that closet we keep all her clothes. All my man clothes. Our shoes and linens. Now. In the little closet in the bedroom. I keep all my dresses and skirts and the like.

But that is not to say its no integrated. All my jeans and T's are co-mingled. All our jewelry is co-mingled. I keep all my panties and such co-mingled.

So it's divided in a way. Bit not out of shame or hiding. It's out of lack of space and practicality. My wife and I are not the same size leaving alone the fact that I have a different sense of style.

[Angela Campbell]

Ok you are going to think I am the most anal person in the world but here goes....

I have one drawer for t shirts that are solid, another for t shirts that have print on them or pictures. I have a drawer for jeans that is split with one side for girls and one for boys jeans. I have two drawers for socks, one is split with dark blue and black, other side with argyles, next sock drawer is white socks on one side and ankle socks on the other. I have a drawer for pantyhose and shaping garments like my corsets and squeem and padded panties. I have an underwear drawer with all my panties...no boy underwear sorry. I have a drawer for shorts and another for leggings and one for bras. That takes two dressers. Hanging up I have a section for my work clothes - shirts and pants, I have a section for mens dress shirts and suits, another for dresses, another for tops and another for pants suits and skirts. One section for slacks and a place to hang belts and ties. I have two jewelry cases in the closet too. One side of floor is for mens shoes and the other for girls shoes.

I live alone and have a big closet.

[kimdl93]

I have one closet with male on one side and female on the other, although the women's wear is gradually crowding out the guy stuff. I'd say you're right to integrate his wardrobe.

[suchacutie]

We have a walkin closet. Tina's shoes are on my side (and breastforms and lingerie). The hanging clothes are on her side. Not sure why it's arranged like that, but that's the way it happened!

[Miriam-J]

It helps to have a large closet, Greenie. Half is for my wife and half is mine. Of mine, about one third is dedicated to my femme wardrobe - but it seems to be growing.

Miriam

[ShelbyDawn]

Hi Greenie,

Do you have an older sister or an aunt you could introduce me too? LOL

[Bree Wagner]

We've got three racks in our closet. One has my guy stuff and both of our dresses, one's for my girl clothes and one's for her clothes. Between my two wardrobes I probably have 60% of the hanging space in the closet which probably isn't fair, but when you're living for two...

My underwear? Just as you suggested to your BF, all mixed together in the dresser.

-Bree

[AmyGaleRT]

On "my side" of the closet, I have my male shirts and so forth, and my dresses. My tops, skirts, and sweaters are folded up on the shelf, which is also where I keep my jewelry box and my forms. Our bed is a "captain's bed" with four drawers and a cabinet on either side. My side has two drawers for male underwear and socks (though the latter also holds my hosiery), one drawer for panties, and one for other lingerie. The cabinet part holds my nightgowns. In my nightstand, the drawer holds regular socks, and the cabinet has most of my ladies' shoes. However, some of it has spilled over to the second bedroom I use for a somewhat cluttered home office; a number of my additional dresses hang in that closet, and some of my shoes are in there, too.

My fiancee has a couple of inexpensive chests on her side that hold many of her clothes; I'd get more of those, but we need to reorganize my side of the bedroom first. It would help if my ex-wife had someplace else to keep her cedar chest...

- Amy

[I Am Paula]

My girl stuff was starting to get out of control, so I threw out the guy stuff. I have a guy suit for funerals, one guy shirt and tie, and, somewhere, some clunky ugly guy shoes. I like to have some story, like losing a bet, ready in case someone finds the guy shoes.

[Beverley Sims]

Mine get mixed up and all blend in nicely in the one wardrobe

[ossian]

Humm...... It is all mixed up. Panties mixed with dude undies. Some of the other stuff is spread around the house. I've been in acquisition mode lately and will have to figure out where to store a few things until my wife and I sort out what she is comfortable with. After all, she did marry this odd gender moving target. The location question is a good one and I will report back in a year's time on the eventual location of items. :-)