Frustrated

[Pretty Nails]

Just gotta vent!

Lots of clothes and shoes! Finally got some decent, but cheap, jewelry. Legs and other nether areas all shaved.
Work, kids, work, classes (for work), sleep, kids, work, taxes, work, sleep, kids. My dad passed away last month so I have been squeezing my mom in between all of those to help her and support her as needed.

It seems that since I had come out to my wife a few years back I have had less time to dress. I have a lot more stuff - I just got a fabulous pair of pink sky high heels today in the mail :), but now it always hustle and bustle. Kid stuff, work stuff, gotta still be the man in my wifes life stuff and the joys of home ownership. Uugghhh!
I know that some of you will say that I need to set aside some girl time, but I never seem to have the time. I'll have to just bite the bullet and do it. I really want to go shopping enfemme - that would rock.
Also, I wish I could find another CD'er around here to talk to and shop/lunch with - so many as found online just want sex and I don't know where to find just a "normal" crossdresser like me.

OK! Now I feel a little better.

This was a really crappy day - everything I touched turned to Sh**.

Thank you ladies for letting me throw that out.

Victoria

[Shadeauxmarie]

Amen sister! Been there, done that, have the t-shirt. I feel for you. Hopefully you can carve some time out in the near future.

[Tracii G]

Oh yes life gets in the way sometimes but hang in there!!

[BlairP]

Victoria, if you lived in L.A. I would go shopping with you. I know how you feel about being frustrated. Big sigh...

[DianeDeBris]

Hi Victoria - let's look at the picture you present: you have a spouse and children you love, treasure and put first; you avoid the sleazy sexual propositions that are out there; you wish you could find more time and opportunity to dress, but you put that off in deference to your family obligations. You are a mature, responsible, sensible person who puts her duties and obligations to the ones she loves ahead of personal convenience and pleasure. Welcome to the world of responsbile adults! I totally get that it can be frustrating not to be able to do what you'd like, whenever you like; I hope you can take pride and satisfaction in your willingness to put the legitimate needs of your kids and your SO ahead of your personal wishes. Hugs - Diane

[Barbra P]

Why not start a thread entitled “Anyone else in the Reno area?” In the body you can say you too are in the Reno area and you would like to contact other members in the Reno area. You can also do a search on “Reno” but it might take some time and effort to weed through all of the hits, I believe “nvlady” lives in or near Reno.

[AllieSF]

Hi Victoria,

I know you have limited time, but have you tried the River City Gems in Sacramento? I think there may be a member there who lives near Reno. Even so, they have some wonderful get together's, are within an almost reasonable driving distance and if you get to know some of them, they may want to drive up to Reno to see you and lose some money at the casinos. Always worth a try. either way, I wish you the best and I think the best is yet to come.

[Ciara Brianne]

I would go shopping and/or do lunch...if I lived near you. I am seeking the same in my area. Sorry you had a bad day. Hang in there.

:hugs:

Ciara

[Cheryl T]

Sometimes it's that way. You hide for years and steal moments when you can and the decide to come out (my story). Now you can dress when ever you wish, but you don't seem to find the time. Just think though...you no longer steal that time from things you should have done before. The time is yours when you wish, or when you can find the time. At least you now have the freedom from the hiding and the guilt.
We may not have all the time we wish, but that too is part of life in all respects. Enjoy the times you can dress and don't stress over the times you can't because at least you have the freedom to do so when you can.

[Stevie]

Know the feeling for the most part. Find it difficult to make arraignments to dress. It's a spontaneous thing. When I'm dressing its I want to wear this or that. But I know I have to wear what I wear for a reason. It does bite not having the freedom to choose.

[Pretty Nails]

Thank you all. You ladies are the best. I feel much better this morning and today is going to go well, I just know it.
I'll check out the River City Gems - I get to Sac with some regularity. I like it there - no snow. My Daughter likes it too - big mall. Wife likes it - just to get out and do a road trip. Win Win for all.
I wish all of you a great day too. I'll be here if you need me as well.

[Lorileah]

Why not start a thread entitled “Anyone else in the Reno area?” In the body you can say you too are in the Reno area and you would like to contact other members in the Reno area.

Just remember that that thread does not go in the MtF section but the Meeting area :)

[Beverley Sims]

Victoria,
Always look on the bright side, things turn to s*** all the time.
It does get frustrating not having girl time but what goes round comes round.

[MsJanessa]

Hi Victoria - let's look at the picture you present: you have a spouse and children you love, treasure and put first; you avoid the sleazy sexual propositions that are out there; you wish you could find more time and opportunity to dress, but you put that off in deference to your family obligations. You are a mature, responsible, sensible person who puts her duties and obligations to the ones she loves ahead of personal convenience and pleasure. Welcome to the world of responsbile adults! I totally get that it can be frustrating not to be able to do what you'd like, whenever you like; I hope you can take pride and satisfaction in your willingness to put the legitimate needs of your kids and your SO ahead of your personal wishes. Hugs - Diane

It's called being a grownup---I would love to stay dressed all the time and have all kinds of Janessa adventures--like I used to---but I understand that obligations like work, family, etc get in the way of enjoyment. Cheer up though--eventually your life will calm down and you will have some femme time

[CassandraSmith]

Sorry about your dad.

Back to your problem... I don't have any easy answers but I'm good at commiserating ;-)


Cassy

[Sometimes Steffi]

Hi Victoria,

I know you have limited time, but have you tried the River City Gems in Sacramento? I think there may be a member there who lives near Reno. Even so, they have some wonderful get together's, are within an almost reasonable driving distance and if you get to know some of them, they may want to drive up to Reno to see you and lose some money at the casinos. Always worth a try. either way, I wish you the best and I think the best is yet to come.


Thank you all. You ladies are the best. I feel much better this morning and today is going to go well, I just know it.
I'll check out the River City Gems - I get to Sac with some regularity. I like it there - no snow. My Daughter likes it too - big mall. Wife likes it - just to get out and do a road trip. Win Win for all.
I wish all of you a great day too. I'll be here if you need me as well.

The first thing I thought of was River City Gems. Sacramento can't be that far away.

Another thought is Diva Las Vegas or some CD Conference like SCC. It depends on time and money.

I've gone to the Keystone Conference for the last 2 years and it's four days of all girl all the time with 400 other girls. Just can't beat it.

[Maria 60]

Welcome to my life.

[~Joanne~]

I wish I could find another CD'er around here to talk to and shop/lunch with - so many as found online just want sex and I don't know where to find just a "normal" crossdresser like me.

Well, your in the right place then because I am sure that a lot of us don't want sex ;) unless , of coarse, it's with our wives/SO's/GF's lol I am sure there ar some girls in your area but they just might be closeted but yearning for the same as you. Good luck!