Question for our most senior members (age 60 or over to reply)

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

First of all, I hope the moderators don't find this post to be offensive in any way. If so, I can understand if it's deleted.

I'm 60, and "things" don't work the way they used to. My doc gave me some testosterone cream but it only increased my anxiety levels and I stopped using it. My wife and I are no longer interested in sex. Life is much better for us without it. Being retired I've become the dressed housewife so she can come home from work without a care to keep up the house.

This has also made me more wanting to live my life as a woman. I'm very sure I won't make a full transition but I am also sure I can live the role as a woman. I've already experimented going out and confiding in friends who know and accept me for who I am. I love shopping for myself and treating myself to some wonderful styles of clothing and being a woman more full time. I feel more like a woman and doing the things a woman does like going to the salon or things like shopping. I love being with the women instead of my male friends. Does this make sense?

It seems like I'm really starting to take a greater interest in just being a woman.

I'm just wondering if I'm experiencing later life in the same way as other more mature CD's when "things" seem to fade and shrink away.

It wouldn't matter at this point if I had some "partial surgery" to remove "the boys" because it just wouldn't matter.

Over 60 replies welcomed!

Cheryl Ann

[Paula287]

Hi Cheryl
I'm 62 and retired (unfortunately single) and I can relate so much to what you've written. Although I'm very much still in the closet, when I dress I feel so much like this is what I should be. I would love very much to have breasts and and I've used some progesterone creams and even sent away for estrogen pills but I got nervous whe I realized that they may not be safe to take. I feel that I could live very nicely if I didn't have all that "junk" between my legs and my panties would fit better too,, lol ,,,
I'm not sure if its the male menopause,,, lack of testosterone ( my doc says my levels are 'normal') or just that I'm so comfortable being in touch with my feminine side but I really enjoy wearing a sundress, or a skirt and blouse. I enjoy wearing panties and keeping my body fairly smooth and clear of hair.. I too also feel better socializing with the women rather than the men.
I think you're very lucky to have a Lady who sympathizes with your feelings. So enjoy and everything you've written makes sens.

Paula

[Persephone]

Dear Cheryl,

I suspect that you are not that much different from the rest of us "seniors." I assume that you have had crossdressing desires and crossdressing activities during the course of your entire life and that you do not "suddenly" find yourself beginning to crossdress.

I suspect that as we age our desires to fulfill our gender expectations increase, our opportunities for expression increase (particularly once we retire), and, frankly, we no longer give a damn, so we have more ability to be ourselves.

It may, or may not, have anything to do with our actual "things." Mine no longer function precisely as they did when I was in my 20's but a recent check of my T levels showed that they were, sadly, normal for a male my age.

The bottom line: Enjoy yourself! If you and your spouse are comfortable, that's what mostly matters.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Hi Paula! Let's come out of the closet together, back to back ready to kick some in the butt! That's my attitude anyway! Ya know, who cares what anyone thinks as long as we have our securities? IE financial and other supports. I'm finding other bodily changes such as hair which which is not growing like it used to. Yippee! I've been shaving and most recently my arms which are looking far more feminine. This is a change I'm enjoying! My friend who had SRS and is a few years younger than me tells me that she has discovered far better orgasms having all that junk removed. I guess it doesn't get much better.

Persehone, I'm realizing that my gender expression is not about sex but instead about being WHO I am. That's far more important. I feel more like a woman today than I ever have. I like all there is about being a woman. Whatever is between my legs is a non-issue. But I'd love to be rid of it, forget it, and enjoy being who I am. At this point I don't care where my T levels are. If they are low, which I know they are, so be it and let me enjoy my actualization! Maybe my doc will prescribe estrogen? I hope!

I love being....
Cheryl Ann

(It just seems to get better!)

[cyndyw]

I'm 77 and still sexually involved with my wife once or twice a week. Most of my crossdressing is in my head. My wife knowns I'm turned on by thinking of crossdressing. At my age I would make an ugly women but in my head I feel and need to go out dressed as a attractive women. Fortunately I've had a few good times going out dressed as a women even once with my wife. I'm so lucky to have a wife who loves and needs me !!! Many of our friends are not as fortunate.

[daarleane]

Hi, I m 76,married and retired. My T levels are normal but I have also had prostate cancer so sex is not an issue. I have always been very active and a DIY type. As I get older though it seems like nature is telling me that I need to put those things behind me and enjoy my feminine feelings. Even in my bowling group I am the only male on a otherwise all ladies team ,although I do enjoy talking and meeting with the other men who are in the group. I do not however have the opportunity to dress much due to grandchildren being present most of the time. I think I would love to dress most of the time and go out shopping, eating etc but responsibilities take priority. I don't want to become a full time woman but I fear that my effectiveness as a man has diminished and I would just be more comfortable as a women (if that makes sense).

[Lynn Marie]

I'm nearly 70 and quite happily unattached. I'm still sexualy adequate with the right person although I'm not actively seeking her at the moment. I'm quite content living alone, dressing when I like, going where I like, when I like, and in which ever mode I like. Life has never been so good.

[Dawn cd]

I find that the senior years push me more toward the feminine. People no longer expect me to be macho. Being retired, I don't have to present myself as male at the office. The kids are raised and have left the nest. I'm losing hair on my legs (yea!). And who really cares anymore what people think? True, I can no longer wear young missy fashions. I wear briefs instead of thongs, 1X blouses instead of size 14, flats instead of heels. This doesn't mean that I've pulled back. I am more femme now than I was at age 30.

[suchacutie]

Testosterone is just above average and at almost 63 I can't say that everything works exactly as it did when I was 20, but in some ways it all works better!

Then again, in my 20s I didn't know that Tina existed. I do now, and I do find myself thinking about Tina alot, but that could be only because Tina has been around for only 8 years.

Seems that I haven't experienced the situation in the op....hmmm, think I'll go find my wife!

[Tracii G]

60 here and not interested in sex much at all.For me sex just leads to a relationship with a woman, been there done that and it never turned out good for me.
I like living alone no one to answer to and go when and where I want.
If the "boys" were gone I'd be fine with that to be honest they are just in the way so to speak.

[GaleWarning]

I'm 62 and am consciously living on the straight and narrow path, which means that I do not muck about any more.
The tackle still works (I still wake up with a stiffie every now and then) and I will only stop admiring pretty girls the day AFTER I die.
But here's the thing ... sex really is less important now than it was, say, five years ago when my blood still ran wild.
I am content.
There is nothing to be gained by cutting off your goolies. Surgery always carries risk. I'd advise you to keep them.

[Leah Lynn]

I like living alone no one to answer to and go when and where I want.
If the "boys" were gone I'd be fine with that to be honest they are just in the way so to speak.

I'm 61 and totally agree. I'm not a candidate for the little blue pill due to heart problems, so sex is a nonissue. And I can't win the lotto, so I can't afford the surgery. Don't ask; my insurance won't touch it.

Leah

[mikiSJ]

I thought 60 was the new 30??? (I am 66, so I must be over the hill!)

Testosterone is not always the reason for low performance. Desire, vascular and neurological issues all start to hit around mid to late 50s. Also, getting rid of the bits while you are still married may create an entirely different dynamic in your life you need to think out before you do anything you can't reverse.

You sound like a good candidate for caring and knowledgeable counseling.

[Michelle 51]

I'm 62 and I think we reach a point where we can relax a bit after doing the guy thing all our lives.I've had to work and live as a guy all my life .I needed a job and a stable home for my children.Now it has changed.My children have grown up and living their own lives.I'm still married to the same woman after all these years but if that was to change I could live alone very easily.I would have never considered getting rid of the guy stuff.Now it don't matter.My panties would fit better.I was very macho for yrs Mustache,goatee and army style short hair. Now I've had laser treatment and grown my hair out in a uni-sex style.I spend all my time at home dressed as michelle.I don't need to wear that mask like when I was younger.I let my femme side out now and not as concerned what people think.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Im over 65 just a woman who's a little different , a member of many groups both women only & mixed for myself its not about clothes or the glamour side as most dresser's like , i live life to the full have many women around me so we do many different things & go to lots of places , though in two groups we dress in olden times & have a lot of fun, Im very involved with our groups ,

As to relastionships that has been with one person Jos for 39 years & of cause our family of 15, soon to be 17.

It will depend on a number of things for you how you see your self & how you wont to interact with people joining groups being a part of them & what interests you have, the other point is in community, how out going you are & what standing you have with in groups & the community at large ,

As to surgeys thats another matter, As well as H R T, the older one gets the less the effect though your body does need T or E to maintain the body,

...noeleena...

[Claire Cook]

I'll be 70 this year. There's no doubt that I'm dressing more, and enjoying it a whole lot more. I don't have to worry about looking like this sexy young thing. I read somewhere that as both sexes age, the physical differences between them become less obvious, which is fine by me. I'm no longer offended when an SA asks me "Ma'am, would you like the senior discount?"

That said, our sex (we've been married for 40+ years) is actually getting better. The equipment wasn't working like it used to, so I went on Cialis about 7 years ago. At first it was a great help, but after several years it had little effect. The stuff isn't cheap, and Medicare didn't pay for it. So the sex suffered. Then last year I discovered Pos-T-Vac -- which works for me, and was fully covered by Medicare :). (Who says Uncle Sam doesn't want seniors to have sex?)

So now we have the best of both worlds!

[Kate Simmons]

Many of us , especially as we get older, find comfort in fulfilling the role of a woman. It's not all about dressing up and looking pretty. It is about listening to the needs of others, caring and sharing and giving of ourselves for the most part. That is what a true woman does. If we do these things, we will be very much loved and appreciated.:battingeyelashes::)

[Claire Cook]

Kate, yes, thanks for posting this. When I said above that I'm enjoying it more, this is very much a part of that.

[sami1952]

i'm 60 and fully understand where you are coming from. Hitting the retirement age has given me the urge to live as a woman full time, to old to transition so i just dress.just enjoy what ever time we have.

[Claire Cook]

Actually, the more I think about this, the more I'm wondering: are there any of us who dress LESS than we did before 60?

[Laura912]

Do not dress less and probably a little more frequently. No desire at age 71 to go further that am currently. Just have the time to do things with spouse, things I want to do, and don't have to attend any more meetings!!

[Sandra1746]

Thanks for starting it Cheryl Ann. I too am one of the "seniors"; I'll be 67 next month. I came "out" to my wife almost 2 years ago and after a bit of a rough patch all is pretty smooth now and she accepts my dressing quite well.

I am doing what might be called a non-surgical transition. I am on Estradiol patches for GID and for high-T reasons. I had testicular cysts that seemed related to a high T level last year and was able to get the Estradiol prescription that addressed both problems. Sexual relations have been minimal for years so the 'chemical castration' effects of estradiol aren't an issue. Reducing the excess T really had a calming effect on my mood.

What I really enjoy is the freedom to dress around home and the ability to go out in a "plain Fem" mode of dress as well. It is a chance to express myself that I wasn't able to do for decades. Age and retirement are a positive development here.

Best wishes,
Sandra1746

[Tina B.]

Just turned 69 this year, have been retired for 7 years now, and find I have a lot more time to play with all the clothes I've been buying for years, I always felt a little guilty, on all I spent on clothes, that seldom got worn, no more, no days I can really wear things out form using them so much. I would hate to have to return to the work force, and give it all up. Sec drive may be down, but gender drive is running on high! No desire to live my life as a women, but do like spending my days that way!

[Barbra P]

I’ll be seventy in August and I can relate with a lot of what is being written here. I take a couple of medications for BPH including Finasteride, that had some lovely side effects in the beginning; sadly the side effects have mostly disappeared. I also have rather high T-levels which I’m told may be the cause of my BPH, or at least a contributing factor, and also increases the risk of developing prostate cancer. Last year, after consulting with a Doctor, my Therapist recommended estrogen as she thought it would both reduce my anxiety as well as address my prostate problems. She wanted to schedule an appointment with an Endocrinologist but my Wife said no, something that still bothers me. I have to admit that any increase in my breasts, or other feminizing effects, would be frosting on the cake.

A Bi-Lateral Orchiectomy is one treatment for prostate cancer and if the cancer hasn’t spread usually stops it in its tracks. It is also a procedure used to prevent prostate cancer from occurring, although Orchiectomy surgery is not used much in the States. I’d opt for it but it is not an option through my medical provider (HRT however is). The operation is rather simple and the only major side effects are the loss of major testosterone production and sterility (not a concern at my age – I don’t want any more children).

My Wife isn’t particularly supportive and she doesn’t like me to go out enfemme, but she does tolerate my dressing about one day a week. The exceptions to going out enfemme are those occasions when I go to see my Therapist enfemme – something I haven’t done for some months. When I do dress it is usually rather casual, flats or sandals rather than heels as heels seem to put a lot of pressure on my knees (one of which has already been replaced); I miss heels and I like the look of heels and jeans. The other day it was warm enough that I chose to wear a skort rather than jeans (d@mn do I need some sun on my legs), topped with a new drape-necked print blouse. My wig is getting a little long in the tooth and I need to start thinking about acquiring a new one; maybe one with some gray in it, just to address age appropriateness.

[CynthiaD]

Like many people my around my age (64) I find that I care less and less about what other people think of me. That has made dressing a lot easier. If the guy next door thinks I'm gay, so what? I know who I am. I have a lifetime of accomplishments and experiences behind me. I don't need to prove anything to anyone, and if I want to wear a dress, I'm darn well going to.

[Valerie]

What a wonderful thread! I'm also in my mid-sixties and much happier--I see myself as a woman so I would consider blue pills a curse that would reverse a condition I am grateful for. My wife and I still enjoy sex, even more, I believe, than when we were a male/female couple. Thanks to all who have responded to this thread. It is really good to know we share this experience, and that so much of it is surprisingly good.
Valerie

[Barbara Ella]

What a wonderful thread filled with some great discussions. I am 66, and find myself in nearly every post here. My difference is that I am a late comer to feminine awareness, only 18 months, and wife has known only 16 months. I am just finding myself, and the wife is still in the initial stages of unacceptance, but I am hopeful that with time my womanly desires will be bearable. Just not sure there are that many years left....lol

Due to medications, the wife has not had a libido for a dozen years or so, and my bodily changes are not of interest to her so the estrogen and now finestaride effects (yes, even at this age, breast development, skin changes, body odor etc.) go unnoticed. I enjoy the lack of hair growth, and the fineness I now have, and the decreased size of the boys does make it easier to ignore and work with them. Have to live with no hair on top though.

If wife would accept, i would dress casual femme all the time grandson was not over. I think about it all the time, and would have no problem. Too late for surgery. Don't know what the future has, but I will embrace it in as much of a womanly way as is possible.

Barbara

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

I guess I really started something here! Are these the latent feelings that we've denined for a lot of years? In our earlier years maybe we felt the need to prove masculinity and hide our feminity? I don't know who could answer those questions.

Now, about 24 hours later after I posted the original question, and hearing your answers, I'm starting to get a better handle on this.

Let me give you a little more background: Back around 2001 I was "un-officially" using Climara patches as DIY HRT. My wife noted that I was very calm and less agressive, and less angered. Then I stopped. Then depression set in. Today I take anti-anxiety meds, BP and cholesterol reducing meds and still feel like crap. If I could go back to taking estrogen, not only would my mind feel more at ease but I really believe the depression would go away. It's something for me to explore again with my doc.

My wife and I have basically given up our sex lives because quite frankly, we're not interested anymore while we maintain a nice relationship and plan to into our golden years. We're more interested in the simple things we enjoy. Maybe it's just us and the way we are.

I've lost interest in my hobbies and things like yard work. And I don't feel sorry. I'm lucky to have a yard helper take care of that stuff. I really don't miss the guy hobbies and such and instead love just being the woman around here doing dishes, vacuuming, and doing laundry, going to the salon, and food shopping. If I were to begin HRT again, this time under supervison, I think I'd be even happier.

Unless I really had to, having "the boys" removed is a non-issue. Yes, it would be nice, but they don't get in the way anymore and tucking is almost automatic without even trying.

Do I miss having sex as a man? Yes and no. On the yes side I miss that relief. On the no side I enjoy one long sense of a wonderful feminine feeling. My wife and I are very intimate even with all of our clothes on. Maybe I'm transexual after all? I don't know. But that long wonderful sense of change in my life now has me feeling so much better to enjoy all things feminine. I'm much more closer to my women friends to relate better with them. Some have admitted they don't think of me as a guy anymore. If this is a transition as I get older, it has been one wonderful experience!

It's the best way I can say I'm learning and loving to be a woman every day now!!! Maybe this is the way I'm learning that I've denied loving and being my true self all along. I don't know. Each day is new.

Cheryl Ann

[Julie Gaum]

Agree with Miki that health problems can wipe out desire. Right now I'm sitting here typing while dressed in drab, a packed duffle at the door ready to depart at a moment's panic to the VA's ER. After 57 years mostly underdressing I found myself living alone. That was six months ago. So I went out and bought about two thousand bucks worth of pant, skirt and dress sets to fill two closets, and enough cosmetics to fill the drawers in one bathroom. I already had five dresser drawers of lingerie. Then suddenly maladies that were once mild or never were reared their ugly heads: vascular, neurological, gastric, and arthyritis from feet to neck to name a few. Yes, got all sorts of pain meds so when no pain I'm a zombie! Not going to let all those CD purchases go to waste --- will pull out of it and get back on the ride. Will be 88 next month but that's only a number --- the journey isn't over --- yet.
Julie

[bobbimo]

Hi Cheryl,
My license says I'm 64, but actually I'm on my 25th - 39th birthday.
I'm in a great position as well, my wife knows and accepts, and I work from home so most of my day I am dressed as I feel like.
If I need to do the dirty jobs then jeans and sweats work, but if not then a dress or skirt is the uniform of the day.
Since I don't have to wear boy clothes to work each day its much nicer to pick a dress from the closet.. much more comfortable and its just a great life.!
I only get to dream about going into town, or shopping as Bobbi. but I enjoy all that I get.
Bobbi

[Jaymees22]

Hi, I'm 68 and really enjoy dressing every chance I get. I think when you retire you have a lot of extra time on your hands and if you ever had an inkling of dressing as a woman now seems the time to do it. As far as sex goes my equipment still works, but my wife doesn't have much interest. So fantasy DIY sex is usually what happens and more so since I've been dressing. So I'm sticking with "my boys" and hoping my wife gets her issues resolved. Hugs Jaymee

[Norah_joy]

So good to know there are so many girls who grew up in the 50s and 60s. I'm 73 years old and yes, back then, I really thought I was alone. Rather than merely repeat what so many of you have said on this thread, let me add that an added benefit to expressing my natural feminine persona, is that I feel so young when I am Norah!

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Norah and all, doesn't it really make us feel crappy that we grew up in an era when no one really understood how we felt and even ostracised us? Imagine if we could start all over! I've decided to start new! I hope evreyone at our ages will too!

Cheryl Ann

[Megan70]

I really don't like sex anymore( I'm 66) and frankly detest it. I'd rather self pleasure ( the M word) in the middle of the night of while dressed in my sleep, in nightie and lingerie. I wish intercourse was not the big wow that its made up to be. My parts do not work much and the flag is always down and not up flying ( enjoying the metaphors) some of it is the result of anti-depressants I've taken for years. Believe me you're not alone here old timer, many more would like to answer but don't have the caloons to do so.

[Cheryl T]

Well, I guess I must join the group.
As for being "not interested in sex"...well I certainly can't say that. How does that phrase go ... "The mind is willing but the body isn't"...lol.

As for dressing more... a big YES from me. I would love to go full time (no surgery for me) when I retire in a few years, but I think that's a selfish desire as it would not be fair to my wonderful wife. I would be dressing more, but not full time. I don't feel it has anything to do with sex, or age or anything but time....having the time to myself to be able to be myself.

[rita63]

Well said Cynthia I feel the same, maybe it comes from being 64. I am separated and still working, any future sexual relationship has more to do with meeting the right person than anything else and its not a priority. I didn't expect to fall in love when I met my ex and it lasted over 30 years. Having grandkids would be great.
My current thinking is to explore my femme side more fully and at retirement consider hormones and living more full time. For now I have my support group and am going out more as a girl socially with that group and having a ball.
In some ways I am just starting a new life and becoming more comfortable with myself and learning about who I am. Just keep growing and learning and living.

hugs rita

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

I really don't like sex anymore( I'm 66) and frankly detest it. I'd rather self pleasure ( the M word) in the middle of the night of while dressed in my sleep, in nightie and lingerie. I wish intercourse was not the big wow that its made up to be. My parts do not work much and the flag is always down and not up flying ( enjoying the metaphors) some of it is the result of anti-depressants I've taken for years. Believe me you're not alone here old timer, many more would like to answer but don't have the caloons to do so.

That sounds a lot like me. My wife has hit menopause and mostly feels as we do. Intercourse isn't everything. It was nice, but somehow I feel better letting me become my feminine self. She is also finding better things to feel good about that seem to last a lot longer, if you know what I mean.

Cheryl Ann

[kristinacd55]

awww...i have to wait another year and 10 months to reply :(

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

awww...i have to wait another year and 10 months to reply :(

Take your time getting there! LOL!

Cheryl Ann

[carolinewalker_2000]

Well the REALLY great thing I take from this thread is to see just how many of us "oldies" are still here and dressing! I'm 67 and, yes, one's sex drive does diminish with age. This doesn't necessarily stop one having a loving, tender relationship with your partner.

Thanks for starting this thread Cheryl Ann.........and to everyone else who has contributed such thought provoking comments.

[Karren H]

Senior my ass! lol. I'm 61.... and still play ice hockey and are active doing all kinds of things.... not retiring because I love what I'm doing (Facebook friends may think otherwise... lol) and don't plan to slow down any time soon to "just be a woman" ..... Life is almost over so I'll just be a woman? come on? live life to the fullest.... go out and do something meaningful.... help other people.... don't just fade away in your kitchen in a skirt..... Just be a woman.... that sounds so demeaning to women for one thing... "My winky no longer works so I'll just become a woman? lol.

[Carlene]

Thank you all for contributing to this thread. It is almost overwhelming to know there are so many of us and that the reasons we find ourselves here don't differ all that greatly.

Hoping each of you has a wonderful day.........Carlene..:daydreaming:

[insearchofme]

I came late to this discussion have a little to add. I'm 64, wife doesn't know the full extent of my CDing (no I'm not going to tell her). As far as sexual desire goes it's as strong as ever and everything works fine. I do dress when my wife is out to work, advantage of being semi retired, and I love getting girly. My health is good and I exercise 5-6 days a week.

The only reason i'm posting is to say that we're all different and have to live our realities and becoming "more mature" is just part of it. I agree with Karren, live life to the fullest. When I finally go I want to be all beaten and used up, with the fenders banging and engine wheezing cause I've lived as hard as I could!

[Prissy Linda]

Senior my ass! lol. I'm 61.... and still play ice hockey and are active doing all kinds of things.... not retiring because I love what I'm doing (Facebook friends may think otherwise... lol) and don't plan to slow down any time soon to "just be a woman" ..... Life is almost over so I'll just be a woman? come on? live life to the fullest.... go out and do something meaningful.... help other people.... don't just fade away in your kitchen in a skirt..... Just be a woman.... that sounds so demeaning to women for one thing... "My winky no longer works so I'll just become a woman? lol.

I agree with Karren. I am 62 but I don't let a number dictate to me what I can and can't do. I still raise and train horses and still compete in Rodeo occasionally but not in the senior division, I go up against much younger cowboys and hold my own. As far as the sex is concerned I like to quote Toby Keith's song, I ain't as good as I once was but I'm as good once as I ever was(maybe). I've been dressing and wanting to be like a girl since I was 5 yrs old so getting older has nothing to do with me being able to express my feminine side now that I'm umm older.

[Stephanie47]

Karen, I love it! I'm six years into my very planned retirement. I am a mature 'woman' or man, which sounds better than saying I'm old. I love to doll up a la June Cleaver and take care of the home while my wife works. I love cooking and baking (in male mode too). I do the domestic chores such as laundry, ironing, vacuuming because I should be doing it. I have a community service activity that takes me out of the house two days a week. I go to a support group (unrelated to any sexual identity issues) one day a week. I enjoy being a husband, father and grandfather.

Even if that thing dangling between my legs ceases to function I would not want to become a woman. And, before someone jumps into my shit, if I was not born a man, I would not have objected to have been born a woman.



Senior my ass! lol. I'm 61.... and still play ice hockey and are active doing all kinds of things.... not retiring because I love what I'm doing (Facebook friends may think otherwise... lol) and don't plan to slow down any time soon to "just be a woman" ..... Life is almost over so I'll just be a woman? come on? live life to the fullest.... go out and do something meaningful.... help other people.... don't just fade away in your kitchen in a skirt..... Just be a woman.... that sounds so demeaning to women for one thing... "My winky no longer works so I'll just become a woman? lol.

[Wildaboutheels]

As already mentioned, [and the SCIENTIFIC FACTS back up in countless never ending studies], regular EXERCISE [especially of the aerobic variety] is the closest thing there is to the fountain of youth for Humans plus it does not require taking any of the uncountable "miracle pills", supplements, additives or anything else that manufacturers want to call them, that are designed to separate people from their money.

"Well/better working equipment" is just one of the MANY benefits. The catch is that it requires sweating which so many people over thirtyish seem to find apparently repulsive.

The dividends are huge for such a small investment in time.

And it's NEVER too late to start regardless of one's weight.

[Annaliese]

You have time to be, you now, for me it was always there, I just keep it hid. I won't be 60 til Monday but I fall into this group.

[Debra Russell]

As already mentioned, [and the SCIENTIFIC FACTS back up in countless never ending studies], regular EXERCISE [especially of the aerobic variety] is the closest thing there is to the fountain of youth for Humans plus it does not require taking any of the uncountable "miracle pills", supplements, additives or anything else that manufacturers want to call them, that are designed to separate people from their money.

"Well/better working equipment" is just one of the MANY benefits. The catch is that it requires sweating which so many people over thirtyish seem to find apparently repulsive.

The dividends are huge for such a small investment in time.

And it's NEVER too late to start regardless of one's weight.

I'am 67 and "ditto" that ---- it's true........................................Debra

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

For whatever reasons that are as individual to us as well, individuals, all of us have different reasons for the way things have progressed in our lives as we've grown older. I'm still living life to the fullest and enjoying it all, and even more than I thought possible. In the past I was highly driven to succeed in my career and create financial security for my wife and myself. Today I can enjoy that. Each morning I can realize that I don't have to go off to work in any weather. The stress of that is gone, and I don't have to "perform" for anyone. My wife still works.

Making the best of things, I am far more relaxed and this might the reason I'm allowing my female persona come out being who I am instead of wishing to find "dress up" time to fulfill the need to express my feelings of being a woman whenever I could before. While in the work force I couldn't do things like getting my brows waxed or letting my nails grow. I couldn't spend time en femme around my yard outside. Now I can. I can also spend summer afternoons in my one-piece bathing suit or a sundress by the pool. I can chat with my girl friends throughout the day and visit my salon while most of the type-A personalities are doing what I did for many years.

I don't know for sure why, but I've lost interest in the macho "expected" behaviors such as yard upkeep and guy hobbies and activities. Maybe I did these things because I felt they were socially expected of me? Instead, since my wife works all day, I owe it to her to do all of the housework, and it just seems to fit and feels right. I have someone who helps with the yard work now because I can afford it. I guess all that type-A behavior of mine in the work force paid off. Today I don't have the stress that could kill me.

As far as sexual performance, both my wife and I don't care. I haven't become a woman because of that. I've always bordered on being TS, and today I can experience what feels right. I have the opportunity now to live as a woman, and it feels REALLY good and right! My wife and I still enjoy the intimacy of cuddling and kissing and it seems better without the expectation of either of us pleasing the other. The act of sex can almost feel demanding to please someone, and it did for me.

A good friend of mine went through the entire process and cleaned out her 401K to have BA and SRS. She and her wife are still married. We talk often. She is still working doing lawn maintenance. One of the things she told me is that she doesn't miss sex as a male, but their sex life today is awesome. She gave me heck for not exploring further saying that when she had her surgery, she met someone 70 years old who was also doing the same.

Everyone is different. So are our experiences and life situations and desires. I'm happy to have the friends who know and happy to just be me!

Cheryl Ann

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Cheryl Ann, I'm 70 Married 49.5yrs sex is still great although no where as often as it use to be I dress in the morning and in the evenings
retired over four years now and loving both my very male side and my feminine side too.

[Valerie]

Senior my ass! lol. I'm 61.... and still play ice hockey and are active doing all kinds of things.... not retiring because I love what I'm doing (Facebook friends may think otherwise... lol) and don't plan to slow down any time soon to "just be a woman" ..... Life is almost over so I'll just be a woman? come on? live life to the fullest.... .

Oh, my goodness... I am afraid of disagreeing with my very admired Karren who can send me to the penalty box! But why "just"? I am a woman in my mind, and that is the most I can and want to be. The most is not just: it's the greatest I can be!!!
Valerie