Is it weird?

[seabirch]

Hi

I'm new here. I came out as bisexual (if not in fact gay) as the age of 42 after 2 failed marriages. I have played around with men a bit since but not really into the casual scene. I have realised that my type is actually a feminine acting man and I like the idea of crossdressing and have tried it a bit myself. I suppose I am attracted to male 'parts' but feminine personalities. From what I know of the gay community that seems a little weird as most gay men like macho. Doesn't really help that i live in a small town where most of the men I'm likely to meet are married .

J

[Beverley Sims]

Hi J, I do not think it is weird, as it does take many different outlooks to make up the menagerie that is cross dressing and gay.
Go forth and join the forum and introduce yourself in the introductions section.
Hey! pick a name for your self before you do.

[Sabrina133]

Hi Hon. No it isn't weird. I am a feminine bi male who spends significant time en femme. When i date men, i am always dressed. I have found that many closeted gay males who identifiy themselves as straight like dressed feminine men as it reinforces their self image of themselves as "straight". From the way you describe yourself, you have no issues with the fact that you are gay but prefer feminine men who dress. Thank goodness for guys like you :-)

I agree with Beverly -- join the forum, take a trip to a large city and explore the wild side.

[StarrOfDelite]

Seabirch, Sabrina has spoken a good deal of truth in her post. You're not weird, in fact your description of yourself sounds very similar to the descriptions I've heard from several Admirers whom I've known. I second Sabrina's comment to the effect, "Thank goodness for guys like you :-)" Regarding your attraction towards crossdressing yourself, I will warn you that there is also a lot of truth in this ancient joke. Question "What's the difference between an Admirer and a Crossdresser?" Punchline/Answer "About two or three years."

[Diane Maple]

First off... I have learned to really dislike the word "weird"

Things aren't weird, they are different and or new IMO.
Weird as a term really separates people into groups what people feel are the same when in fact, there is a wide spectrum of people within every group.
So, are you "weird"? NO!!!!!!!
You just don't fit nicely into the groups you have see thus far in your life. :-)
Be happy, you are unique to your area.

Regarding your name... there is a lot of in-direct pressure to "pic a name". I felt it when I joined this forum.
Just be yourself, your name on here is no big deal really. "seabirch" is a fine user name. Much better than ... I'll make one up .. betty2345 I mean, was I was talking with betty321 .. oop... wrong again.... I hope you get the point.
If there are users by those names... sorry, I wasn't really talking about you.

So, hi seabirch :-) Welcome.

Oh, and if you get annoyed by some of the comments people make, just read a different thread... i.e. move on.
There are all types here.

[AngelaKelly<3]

Everyone has their own individual preferences. If everybody liked the same things, then life would be very boring :( don't you think? :)

I know that exploring new feelings can be a bit scary (god knows, 99% of the people on here have first hand experience of that lol) but I wouldn't worry too much about being "weird".

Enjoy life and look forward to where this new road will take you :thumbsup:

[Jodi Anne]

No you are not weird, IMHO, and welcome to the forum.

[Krystalina]

Hi

I'm new here. I came out as bisexual (if not in fact gay) as the age of 42 after 2 failed marriages. I have played around with men a bit since but not really into the casual scene. I have realised that my type is actually a feminine acting man and I like the idea of crossdressing and have tried it a bit myself. I suppose I am attracted to male 'parts' but feminine personalities. From what I know of the gay community that seems a little weird as most gay men like macho. Doesn't really help that i live in a small town where most of the men I'm likely to meet are married .

J

You are an individual...not "weird".

I would argue that 99 percent of the world's problems come from conformity.