A brighter future for us maybe

[Annie M]

I walked past an Elks club on Saturday and some old guys were shuffling out looking angry with the world. I bet they were only a few years older than I am. Big bellies baseball caps gray mustaches. That's their reality i guess ugh. You have to do what works for you and it's getting easier to live your own way. Think what 10 years will bring, its very exciting. You know it's coming with all the right wing flack that's out there. Contrary to what is preached not everyone will be gay or put on a dress but those that feel that's how they have to live will be freer to do so. There will always be angry old men that maybe secretly wanted to dress but didn't not me... I'm getting bolder all the time and it seems few people even notice now days. My elephant in the corner is always humiliation but the fear is fading. Of course we are cautious but often overly fearful of nothing. There are more and more willing to be out there, the closet doors are rattling.

[Beverley Sims]

As society changes and accepts a different norm so life may be easier for us also.

[Lisa Gerrie]

Hmm. We will almost certainly have a female US president someday soon, and an openly gay one at some point after that. Probably not for a while, though. IMO it will be quite a long time before we see a GM sworn in wearing a dress and heels.

It's a funny thought that somebody like me might gain acceptance in today's society by telling people that I'm gay. With my stubble and voice it would certainly be easier for me to pass as a bisexual man in a pretty skirt and hose than as an actual female.

[Marleena]

Cool post Annie.:) I'm at the angry old men plateau but I found a great solution. A little makeup and a wig and I can knock about ten years off the angry old man look.:D I did take other steps to avoid the syndrome to ensure I'd never be one of them but that's for another section.

[JamieTG]

As someone who is about to turn 60 I can say that when you get older, the harder it is to accept change. Also when you get older it natural to reflect on the past and dream of the "good old days". I don't get angry about societal changes I don't agree with, just try to take it in stride.

[Wildaboutheels]

"I walked past an Elks club on Saturday and some old guys were shuffling out looking angry with the world. I bet they were only a few years older than I am. Big bellies baseball caps gray mustaches."

W O W! Talk about stereotyping. ^^^ Making judgements of people based SIMPLY ON APPEARANCE?

And you KNOW none of them are CDers... because... YOU are one of the Forum Mindreaders?

The future is NOW. Wear anything you want out into the RW and simply TREAT PEOPLE WITH COURTESY AND RESPECT and you are likely to never have a problem. As so many of us here can attest to. Over and over and over.

It's not magic, it's not a pill, it's not a system and it's not Rocket Science.

It's just plain common sense.

Isn't it?

Or, maybe some of the Forum members base their interactions with others out in the RW, on what the other person LOOKS like, and not on any actual interaction? Sounds like a recipe for a "troubled life" IMO.

[Jaymees22]

Yes I was an angry old man and didn't even know it until I dressed as a happy younger woman. So personally I'm having a brighter future and the future is now! Hugs Jaymee

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

As someone who is about to turn 60 I can say that when you get older, the harder it is to accept change. Also when you get older it natural to reflect on the past and dream of the "good old days". I don't get angry about societal changes I don't agree with, just try to take it in stride.

I'll be turning 60 in May and I've been angry all of my life in one insidious form or another hiding my "secret" and trying to make the best of it. At 13 or 14 I watched the Mike Douglas show featuring TS pioneer Christine Jorgenson wishing and hoping. Think I stood a chance telling my parents? We even went to the drive-in to see the movie. Hmm, maybe Mom knew something about me? Fast forward----Each decade in my life I seem to feel the crisis. If I were in my teens again today I'd really explore my gender issues and probably do something about it. However, many of us build social constructs about ourselves including work, family, friends, and other facets. Thus, at this point I can only make the best of it. Thankfully I was able to retire early and today at least live as a woman most of the time each and every day. I envy the younger generation who are finding greater acceptance.

Cheryl Ann

[Annie M]

Chill out… you assume I was disrespectful of them, I wasn't I've been around them I know they are angry about just about every thing that doesn't make them bad nor did I say it did. Only that the dichotomy between life styles at some levels is visually evident.

Stereotyping happens, we all do it period. It's how you act on it.

I saw what I associated with my experiences, did I call them out? No I just smiled acknowledged they were in front of me and kept going no unkind not nasty. So who is stereotyping?

[kimdl93]

Society is definitely changing, and some folks aren't happy about it. I personally don't care. I'm sure the fellows you mentioned would have all sorts of rude things to say about me. But I guess that fair. I don't much care for the Larry the Cable guy look that seems to be so popular among certain middle aged males.