I've made a mistake

[Jennifer W]

As some of you may know, all my stuff got thrown out. My wife didn't like my clothing choices and everything went. I've been wearing drab clothes since. Well I was going through my drawer this morning and found an old pair of panties. I slipped out of my male undies while my wife was in the shower and planned to change once I got home from work (I get home before her) Well, it turned out she wasn't in the shower but was sick. She came out and called out of work and went back to bed!

My problem... I'm wearing panties. I feel terrific except for worrying how I'm going to get them off when I get home. My whole work day has been so much better feeling. If I could just get her to agree that panties are okay again I'd be happy.

[Lisa Gerrie]

Sorry, but I don't understand the problem. Does she inspect your underwear when you walk in the door?

[Cheryl H]

Jennifer,

Well I can think of 3 things.

1) Stop on the way home and buy some Fruit of the Looms and then change in a restroom somewhere before you get home.

2) Wait till you get home, and grab a pair and change in your bathroom.

3) Who cares, your an adult wear what you want. I don't think you wearing panties will cause your wife to suddenly turn gay.

Just my 2 Cents.

Cheryl

[DonnaT]

It shouldn't be too much of a problem, slipping into the bathroom, for example, and changing.

Call to check on her, see how she is feeling, find out if she needs anything before you get home. Act like nothings different.

If necessary, head out at lunch and buy some mens undies, change at work.

[I Am Paula]

It's your underwear. Do you choose her clothes?

[Annaliese]

Talk to her, if you tossed out all of her clothes because you did not like her choices in clothes would that be right. You have the right to be comfortable. My wife has these gray pants I just hate, She know this but wears them anyway, because they feel good to her. Good luck

[Stephanie47]

Since she stayed home ill you should have called in a family sick leave day, stayed home, donned a pretty short white nurse's uniform with cap, and attended to her. A pair of white four inch heels would have gone nicely with the outfit. Maybe she would be more appreciative of your choice of clothing.

But, realistically, wouldn't you take them off in the bathroom?

[Jennifer W]

I guess I should have been more specific. There is no place between work and home to buy any underwear and change. When I get home I get out of my work clothes in our bedroom and then hit the bathroom wearing my robe. Problem: she's home sick in the bedroom. She's the one who ditched all my stuff. She may just see what I'm wearing.

I realize I'm an adult and what I wear is my choice, but not if I want to remain married. I don't have a set lunch and can't leave.

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Maybe you could just take your robe and regular underwear into the bathroom and take your drab clothes off in there? Put your panties into your pants pocket and slip them back into a drawer later? Just some ideas......

Cheryl Ann

[whowhatwhen]

Freeball it, just toss your underwear out the window on your way home.
It's warm enough that she may believe this.

[Emogene]

Sorry, not strictly on topic but I thought a successful, meaningful, long term relationship involved mutual love, mutual understanding, mutual acceptance, mutual give and take and, of course, mutual respect for one another in all things to include thoughts, beliefs, property, et al. Unrighteous dominion by one person over the other is not sustainable in the long term unless there is a sub/dom relationship (but even that has to be consensual on some level).

I recognize that I do not know all of your history or situation, but I think you two need to talk! Find a counselor, spiritual leader or a third party that you both trust to mediate.

Years ago, my SO and I went to a program offered by the Catholic Church, the helpful technique they used was writing. I could write what I feel, not what I think! I could discuss my feelings without attacking and the same went for my SO. The basic assumption being that all people have a right to their feelings. We each had a spiral notebook, so our comments, were returned to us and not retained by the other. The writing took place in a quiet place away from the other person as did the subsequent read and response! Helped to have clear thinking without the "you" word offending one another.

[Beverley Sims]

Go to the toilet first.
Does she supervise you there.?

[JenniferR771]

I feel for you. My situation is about the same--wife is a bit domineering and has thrown out some of my girly stuff from time to time.
You will think of something. New underwear is an easy fix. And the store probably has a fitting room or bathroom. Pay and change.

[Aly Cat]

Here is what i have done in the past when trying to hide things in plain sight. She will most likely be in bed when you get home so when you take off your pants, take the panties off at the same time tucked out of view. Kick them both off at the same time next to the bed. When you reach down to pick them up, grab the panties and toss them under the bed then grab your pants and stand up. Then you can retrieve them later and do what you want with them.
This is what she will see...you take off your pants, bend down to retrieve them and pick them up and put them away. What you do with the panties will be out of view of her. Its called sleight of hand. Kind of like a magic trick! Ive done this with both panties and stayups and she was none the wiser. So i can assure you it works.

[Jennifer W]

I'll try it! Wish me luck! I'm heading home!

[Angela Campbell]

maybe she put the panties in there to test you....ever think about that? If it is to the point where she is inspecting your underwear and throwing out your personal posessions then the problem is a lot bigger than a pair of panties.

[melanie206]

I sure hope we get to hear how it went.

[Being Paige]

yes I agree with Ellen!! 100%

[Nyla F]

I've done it all.
- changed in the bathroom or walk in closet out of view
- brought men's undies to change into in the before I get home (not easy if trying to do this discretely in a public restroom or in the car)
- pulled my pants and underwear down at the same time while standing next to the bed so they fall out of sight, then toss panties under bed
- same pull them down trick but wrap them up in the pants then while carrying clothes to hamper and back to wife grab panties, toss pant in hamper, secretly toss panties in hiding place
- keep spare men's underwear in other part of house like basement, make some excuse to go there (or have excuse ready if asked), quickly change
- wear a pair of panties under boxer shorts, that way you change out of your work pants without removing the boxers and panties.
- just find something else to keep busy until she clears out of the bedroom

So the trick is to be prepared ( like a magician)
- don't get in the habit of doing things in the same order every time, this way she won't get suspicious if you walk straight into the bathroom first before changing clothes, or if you hang out in your work clothes a little longer.
- have a backup plan like extra under stashed somewhere
- have a spot near where you change clothes where you can hide your panties after you change out of them. If you change in your walk in closet try sticking them in your suit pocket, hang them under a shirt, drop them in your robe pocket, or in a boot, stuff them in a sock.
- remember to go back and move the items to a secure location when she isn't looking. One of my favorites was behind/under the dresser drawer. She would have to remove the drawer to find them, what is the chance of that?

Wow, I'm glad I don't have to do that any more! My wife did throw out some of my panties once and I confronted her and pointed out how wrong it would be for me to do the same to her ( I don't know how I got up the nerve to do that!). It worked, and led to to an arrangement where I just kept them out of her sight and now to the point where I can openly wear panties ( I just have to hide my other women's clothes).

[Leah Lynn]

Wearing panties one day may seem inconsequential, but you may have woken the dragon. The desire to dress may come flooding in; the pink fog. If so, you are going to have to deal with the issue. Eventually it will bite you, you will find it uncontrollable. Most of us have been there. It may soon be time for a serious talk.
Good luck.

Leah

[qaws123uk]

I hope all was OK but as someone said, just go commando

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jenn, It sounds like you have a lot more problems than a pair of panties.

[linda allen]

I guess I should have been more specific. There is no place between work and home to buy any underwear and change. .............

You could go out of your way to buy underwear. You can change in any gas station restroom or you can change in your car (stopped of course).


Freeball it, just toss your underwear out the window on your way home.
It's warm enough that she may believe this.

Your wife might have a hard time believing that story, but how about this: You got sick at work and had diarrhea and soiled your underpants. You had to take them off and throw them away and work the rest of the day without them.

[Aly Cat]

Seeing as how its a new day, i just want to know what the results were and what he did since its already happened.

[Karren H]

I think there's an app for that? lol

[Tracii G]

We HAVE to know what happened!!

[Tara D. Rose]

yes what happened. Don't keep us in suspense, please.

[RachelRICD]

Maybe she killed him and we'll never know.

[Jennifer W]

I'm not dead! LOL! I got home and she was sound asleep! YAY!!! I got into the bathroom and changed. Then I threw them in the trash. Then whatever it was she had, I came down with. Took a sick day yesterday which is abnormal for me. Anyhow all is well now. I'm still a little sick, but I'm at work and alive.

[DonnaT]

Maybe you shouldn't have thrown your shield in the trash, then you might not have got sick ;)

Feel better!

[Jennifer W]

Wearing panties one day may seem inconsequential, but you may have woken the dragon. The desire to dress may come flooding in; the pink fog. If so, you are going to have to deal with the issue. Eventually it will bite you, you will find it uncontrollable. Most of us have been there. It may soon be time for a serious talk.
Good luck.

Leah

Oh yes! I'm losing my mind today! I'd give anything to put on a dress and heels! But I don't want to lose her over this. We've done the counciling thing too. I've tried. Believe me, she never loses.

[me]

oooh, quite a sticky situation.

[Jill Devine]

Oh yes! I'm losing my mind today! I'd give anything to put on a dress and heels! But I don't want to lose her over this. We've done the counciling thing too. I've tried. Believe me, she never loses.
Don't want to be negative but things can't end well for you at this rate. You are going to be forced to sneak, hide and lie... and then get caught out. It's an unhealthy relationship when one person "never loses."