So I told my parents!! EEK!

[Georgie]

So yesterday my mum came round to babysit the child for a few hours while the wife was heading out, I was in bed as working night shift.

I got up after a few hours and I was so down and depressed cos of well the whole gender thing.

So when I got into work my mum started texting me...

Mum: were you ok today? you didn't seem too good, is everything ok?

Me: Not really, I'm not in a good place really

Mum: Why? you want to talk about it?

Me: If I did you would disown me and never speak to me again and I don't want that as your to important to me and *insert childs name*

Mum: What ever it is you can tell us we care about you very much and *childs name*

Me: I'm not happy, I have never been truely happy and I'm sick of it. I'm 30 this year and my whole life has been a lie.

Mum: Do you want to move back in with us for a while until you get sorted out? Do you think that YOU SHOULD OF BEEN BORN A GIRL? as we don't care as long as your happy

Me: WTF? How did you know? yes I think I should of been born a girl, always have done, look back at my childhood and you can find so many clues about it, like the dolls and the lipstick etc. It's getting worse as I get older. Sorry

Mum: That's ok I sort of knew and dad says what you sorry for things like this happen to people all the time.

Me: cos I want to be normal, i have tried so hard to be a boy but I cant do it anymore. I dress up all the time and only then I am happy. On the waiting list to go to the gender clinic . Please dont hate me I love you both very much x

Mum: We love you too and we will never hate you. We dont care what sex you are as long as your happy. I always wanted a girl lol

Me: You don't know how long I wanted to tell you both

Mum: Well now you have and hope it makes it easier for you and be what you want to be if it makes you happy. Have you a name?

Me: You should know you named me lol :P. It's Georgia. I love my name (it's george) So I picked the girls version of it. You can still call me George as quite a few girls are called george like in the famous five etc.

Mum: Cool that's easy to remember then, you better go to some work now and you will feel better getting it out in the open. I'm going to bed now will pop round tomorrow night to chat x

So that's that, until they came round today...

We all had a big talk about it, they are both confused esp my dad who can't get my head around it as he is from a different time when men were men etc. But they love me and will support me in what ever I want to do but it will take them time to come to terms with it. Not ready to see me in a dress just yet lol. Worried about mine and my daughters safety etc.

All normal stuff really

So I am really pleased with the outcome, just feel bad and selfish as I have added the extra stress onto their lives.

But thats the hardest bit over with now :cheer:

UPDATE...

Messaged both brothers on facebook!

Youngest brother who lives in Canada now...

Hi George,
Sorry for not replying as soon as I got the message. Just got some deliveries to finish preparing for tomorrow.

I don't hate you, infact it's brave of you to admit it to yourself and the people you know.

You are and always will be family no matter if you're male or female. You have to do what is right for you I'm always going to support you in what you decide that you must do.

If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here.

Take care
Love
Geoff

Think thats the nicest thing he has ever said to me as we are always fighting lol *cries tears of joy*

[Amy A]

Hi Georgia,

Firstly, congrats on a massive step forward, and I'm so glad your parents were understanding.

I'm in exactly the same place; I told my parents at the weekend. They were upset (mainly because of the thought of me being unhappy for all these years) and both will need time to fully come to terms with it all, but they were very supportive and want to do anything they can to help.

I know exactly how you feel about causing upset, but you've had to carry this burden by yourself for far too long, and it isn't fair on you to carry on like that.

All the best,

Amy :)

[Georgie]

YAYS *high fives Amy*

It's a great feeling isn't it! Feels like so much weight has been lifted off your shoulders!

Just messaged my brothers hope they take it as well :/

[Jorja]

Good job you two, Georgia and Amy! It does take the weight off of your shoulders. Just go slow with the parents. Don't get upset if they can't seem to get the pronouns correct for a while. Remember, you have had all of your life to figure this out, they have just learned of it. As long as you are taking the steps to move forward, you will.

[Georgie]

Yea I know, it's going to be hard for them and I understand. It could of gone a million times worse :)

[Angela Campbell]

I have to do this soon with my Mother. I am so scared it will break her heart. She will likely not understand and try to convince me it is just a phase and I should just stop with it. Or she might read the bible to me. She definitely will not just accept it. She will probably think I am just being weird and will for sure tell me not to act on it.

I am hoping to see my cousin this weekend. She is about 10 years younger than me and is a Doctor. I am hoping she will understand if she does some research on it and can help me to educate my Mom. Maybe Mom would take it more seriously with information coming from a doctor that we all know and love.

I wish It could go as easy as it did for you. You are very fortunate.

[kimdl93]

That's great Georgie. Now sigh a breath of relief and get on with your life with the knowledge that your whole family loves and supports you.

[Chari]

It is so wonderful to hear your family is accepting and understanding of that burden you have carried alone for so long a time. Please promise to continue the communication with your family and this forum. Consider asking your mom for help and advice in some of your feminine issues. Although you have taken a giant step in your feminine adventure, try to go slow and enjoy all those special moments in your new life. Thanx for sharing.

[punkypunk]

Hooray! That's awesome!
Super happy for u :-)
Xo

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Good luck to you!!

I'm very happy for you

its not selfish to lean on parents for support and love

[Barbara Ella]

Good for you Georgia, and for you Amy. So glad your mom is with you. Just give old Dad some time. Don't know how old he is, but I am 66, and it takes me much longer to process things. I'm still trying to figure myself out...lol

And don't worry about extra burdens. Parents and children and a mom's worry just go together no matter what the situation.

Barbara

[olivia.tanner]

congrats, I wish I had the ability and courage to do what you did, I know my parents would never understand and would disown me, even though they are die hard pentacostal people. i feel as if they would not be able to comprehend how I feel. anyhow congrats again!!! :)

[Jennifer Marie P.]

T6hats great Georgia and glad your parents are very understanding.

[MysticLady]

Hi Georgie

Im so happy for you regarding the outcome of telling your parents. Isn't it wonderful to get that of your shoulders. Now, who knows, you can become mommy's little girl. I dream of being my mothers little girl but thats all I believe it'll ever be, just a dream. Im okay with that since my little sister is mommys' little girl and don't not want to take that from her. I think the bond between a mother and a daughter is much stronger than a bond between a son and mother or a son and father. For some reason, as a son I feel I must prove my worth to them constantly. I know my parents would love me also if I were to tell them I was a Tgirl but I would also feel that I would be placing a burden on them by making them wonder and worry about me so I'll leave it as is for now and just keep on dreaming. Im so happy for you Georgie.

[Cathy Jooste]

You know Georgia, I was crying when I read your post. I'm so happy for you :) and sad cause the last part what your brother said. It's sooooo beautiful.

[melissaK]

Sooo happy for you Sweetie!

Your story of acceptance, and Willow's story of acceptance, in the same day.

We should all be partying around here!!

[Katyana]

Ok tears have subsided enough I can see now. So feel you right now. My mom and I had almost that exact same conversation a year ago. And while my father was never in the picture, my male figure to bear was my grandfather who had passed away in 1994. I recently told my mom that sometimes I just get this overwhelming feeling of being ashamed, and I think its when I think about grandpa, and I wonder if he looks down and hates me. She told me he knew, as I was showing signs from the age of 3 according to my mom, I had been in counseling etc, most of the immediate family was aware. She said he knew and while he didn't understand it, that he guessed he had to take the whole package into account. He was very "old school" so this was both a shock and a weight lifted like no other. I cried for two days, woke up on the third and felt a sense of freedom I can only hope to experience again.

Best wishes
Kat

[Momarie]

You lost me at "the child".

[Nigella]

Another positive step on your journey :hugs:

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Hi Georgia! WOW! I feel so good for you and almost cried! I'm twice your age and wish I could be 18 again to enjoy so much support that is available in the world and among family. I wish you nothing but the best and a smooth life ahead. Spread your wings and fly !!!!!!!!!

Cheryl Ann

[drag n fly]

What a wonderful family you have, Georgia...Really wonderful..Get moving...smooches Jackie

[Rachel Mari]

That is so wonderful to hear of such loving and accepting words to you from you mother and brother.

I'm so happy for you!

[Georgie]

You lost me at "the child".


well I'm not giving her name out on the internet lol

Thanks everyone else for the wonderful words :). Means so much to me :)

[Xrys]

im so glad to hear your parents were so much more accepting than mine was. now use that momentum from this victory and keep moving foreward.

ellen, i dredded telling my mom for so many years. her finding out was my biggest fear in my life. i ended up telling the head pastor at our church (whom i have been close friends with) before i told her. but i finally did, and even though she refused to accept me as a daughter and read me the bible (and still does) she never disowned me. i am not giving up hope that eventualy she'll come around. im glad you are working on a plan, and im hoping for the best for you.

cheers & beers all around,

Xrys